My VIRGO EX GIRLFRIEND..

I am an ex military, did things that can fill books, and still active working on the intelligence field...I like to say about myself that insulting a woman or attacking her is one impossible thing about myself..

I am kinda good looking and have a lot of charisma inside me, a born commander that being calm in times of great stress is one of my best qualities...

We met few months ago, and started from one night stand,I honestly wasn't looking to meet females that time because of i wasn't in the mode, but then for 7 months we texted each other daily , we met and spent days in bed making love ...she told me many times that my reactions to her anger heals her, she is a very busy woman with 2 kids, she told me that no one ever treated her so good the way i do, and that being patient with her the way i am makes her feel good about herself..well..we broke up 2 times before, and i learned that she was in love with her boss at work..i am a very confident guy so my reaction to that was "past is past, and i wont judge you,so if you say its over then its over"..i really never ever went into being jealous about it, because i kinda trusted her, and thought its stupid to annoy her about it

our texts were very sexual and we were like two kids around each other, i loved her reactions to my compliments and the way she felt good about herself every time we faced an issue and i managed to diffuse it.

she became more loving, her texts were ",my darling, my boy, my love, i cant stop thinking of you" , she also started talking about living together and make a family..she already had 2 kids from her ex husband and ex boyfriend and i told her that ill do my best so the kids would feel i am their dad..she cried when i said that ill cook for the kids...

i used to send her flowers and she loved it, she would text me her smile , and i was glad i made her happy



I decided to surprise her and to propose to her to marry me , and that she will have 2-3 years to accept it and experience living with a guy that would protect her , love her, respect her , and just be hers...

oh boy..few days after our last meeting she started getting cold and started telling me that she is annoyed with everyone , two kids and loads of work drove her crazy, and i backed off a bit and told her its OK by me if she needs space, but it got worse and worse over the next 2 weeks...

3 weeks after we last met and one week before meeting her again, to surprise her and ask her to consider marrying me , she texted me telling me that she doesn't love me, and that its a torture for her..i froze reading it..i thought to myself that she is having a nerves breakdown..yet over the phone i refused to get upset and insult her...i kept calm and did not use any harsh words

well....i went to her town and stayed 8 days, we met first time for coffee and i had tears in my eyes ..then we met again for lunch the last day if my stay, and i was cool and not emotional, she had a very upset look in her eyes ...

She was late 2 minutes and i was trying to write a text to her telling her about my location, i decided to wait and not send it, and she saw i was trying to send her a text..So she asked me to stop stalking her...ME? STALKER? ALL I WANTED WAS TO TELL HER WHERE I WAS..i kept cool and did not respond.

I sent her flowers wishing her a good day during my stay, she asked never send her flowers again.

She blocked me on whastsaap because i used to joke with her and told her she goes online late at night reading our texts and cry, she confirmed it, but she blocked me .....and asked me not to text her ever again or she will block my number totally...make no mistakes ..i never do such a thing

Well..I am just trying to understand , she broke my heart , and i am now preparing my departure for Africa for a mission and a job in a dangerous place, i did not tell her about the dangers , cause it would sound like blackmailing her emotions....

i am walking around like a dead man, and already lost weight , i never told her about it and did not initiate any contact ..folks i am in love with her despite her weaknesses ,

I am a happy Gemini and she is a virgo...can anyone her tell me what the hell is going on?

Probably easier said than done (though I've kind of been there before..) but If I were you I would just walk away. This woman clearly does not know what she wants, is in a shitty place in her life and headspace now (probably too shitty to be in a functional relationship anyway) and there is no way you're going to change her mind if she doesn't want to herself, which in the end shouldn't even matter at this point, if you think of your our own well-being that is.

You got yourself in a toxic situation with this woman, and with all that is coming up for you I'm sure it's in your best interest to just take good care of yourself and trust and hope you're leaving the situation in the hands of destiny and to whatever the future might bring, but for now, for now I would just walk away and try to take care of myself.