my virgo guy is ignoring me ;

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by tauruslove88 on Tuesday, October 25, 2011 and has 38 replies.

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@tauruslove88
14 Years

he is soo mad at me he wont even talk to me...everytime i call or text...all he texts is (LEAVE ME ALONE)...for me it was like love on first date...he made me feel like i a diomaond....its weird cause its only been two weeks since i knew him..he is mad becuz he say that i didnt realize i had a good guy....i feel bad because i opened up but not enough i didnt want to get hurt..and i think he was ready for sex but i wasnt....will he come back—? he hasnt really said he didnt like me anymore...just texts saying (leaVE ME ALONE)....DOES HE STILL LIKE ME?? OR WANT ME BACK?

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

He sounds like a complete jerk, I'd be thankful if I were you that he's gone, 2 weeks and he's already acting like a Narcissistic asshole (discarding you and projecting fault onto you and NO I am not implying he's a Narc but he is revealing Narc behavior) were it's all your fault b/c you didn't open up quickly enough for him, if he's real then he'd allow you enough time to KNOW him first, keep it moving, don't ever chase a man to give him sex and give him your heart. You are supposed to be a bit guarded until he's proven to you and opened up to you enough that you feel he's worth the risk but you dodged a bullet b/c if any man abandons/discards you this quickly then that what was originally going to happen (in your case much sooner rather than later)

If your falling in love on the first day then either your desperate and lonely or you just encountered a sociopath/narcissist, there is no way you can fall in love with a man unless you know him and have spent a good amount of time with him. You are lucky if he stay gone because the end would be THIS RIGHT NOW what you are experiencing and it hurts like hell to know you invested in a man only for him to discard you like garbage, stop initiating communication with him and let him go.

WAKE UP! You are under his spell

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

7 year age gap is not a whole lot but it's enough years that he's on a whole notha level mentally and emotionally and it's easier for him to manipulate someone so young, he already mindfucking you and it's only been ONE date, be happy he's gone.

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@tauruslove88
14 Years

he stays in miami and i spent the weekend with him..the way he treated me no man has ever in my life..the last night which was a saturday is when he was upset with me...i been forgave him..y cant he just talk to me?

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

lol cause he's controlling and you didn't do or say anything that unbelievably bad that he has to use the silent treatment power move as a weapon against you, you didn't give him sex boo hoo hoo, let his ass pout, stop giving him so much power over you, he'll talk when he's ready to talk.

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

"the way he treated me no man has ever in my life." And he treated you that way for a reason, the pay off would be sex but SEE HOW HE'S TREATING YOU NOW, that's the way he was inevitably going to treat you after sex anyway and then you'd really feel used, be thankful that you weren't foolish enough to trade your body for a couple of great days.

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@tauruslove88
14 Years

yea i see what u are talking about..he wanted sex real bad but i didnt give in...i think he really was pissed off about that...but tried to blame something else..BUT..i feel like i owed him sex...Y??... then men i dated in the past treated me like shit WAY worser then him..and i had sex with them....he treated me right..y not have sex with him??..thats how i feel...everyone cant be perfect..we all have faults..so thats y im willing to give it another shot if he allows it

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@tiki33
19 Years10,000+ Posts

give him another shot to reject you AFTER sex lol, doesn't make sense to me but hey it's your life, your body, do what you need to do, you're young so yeah you are going to have to learn this your way. Rejection sucks no matter how nice or mean a man is, the inevitable end is you feeling like discarded shit and abandoned be it if he's nice or not, you don't owe anyone sex but maybe you feel you do owe him sex b/c you gave sex to prior assholes so why not give it to him too, wow okay lol. He'll be back to cash in on that sex so stop worrying, he'll get sex and discard you like all the other assholes, why hurry up to experience that again?

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@VirgoVixxxen
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Owed him sex? WTH? Are you kidn'n me? Just because he treated you better than your past boyfriends?

tauruslove, you don't owe this guy a DAMN thing. Are you even ready to have sex with him? If not, and you do it solely based on the fact that you feel like you "owe it to him" then you seriously need your head checked. How old are you?

If he's so pissed off with you because you didn't give in, then what does that tell you about his character? Do you really want an asshole like that? For whatever reason(s) you chose not to have sex with him, he should respect it. Period.

He's not the last guy that will treat you better than your exes. As a matter of fact, there are hundreds more that will treat you even better than he can, and won't go cold on you and act like a complete ass when you refuse to afford him the wonderful opportunity to partake of the most sacred part of your being...your temple!

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

run!!! he's not 'your' virgo guy. he's a loser. and instead of being grateful that he's out of your life, here you are...pining for him. think about it.

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by VirgoVixxxen

If he's so pissed off with you because you didn't give in, then what does that tell you about his character? Do you really want an asshole like that? For whatever reason(s) you chose not to have sex with him, he should respect it. Period.

seriously

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@paranormalbadgirl
15 Years

taurauslove, that feeling will go away, trust me. And in the future you will be glad you didn't contact him. It will all make sense to you later.

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by tauruslove88
But y do I miss him soo much?

because you're not matching the idea you have of him in your head with reality?
because you're feeling rejected and your pride is hurt?
because it feels like 'unfinished business' as it ended on his terms?

that's natural. be good to yourself and shake it off. you don't need him. he showed you his true colours and intentions and please believe you're better off without him.

another good thing! the next guy you date, you'll know what no-no's to look out for. this is just a learning curve. don't take it to heart 🙂

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@emeralddream
14 Years

To be blunt.

1 He either needs time or
2 He has some girl on the side.

Sorry this is what I noticed with many Virgo men..well men in general. no signs necessary.

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@VirgoVixxxen
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Errr...you miss him because you like him, have feelings for him, care about him...blah, blah, blah, and by your admission, it was like "love at first sight", and he made you feel like a "diamond".

The most important thing here is to not allow your emotions to cloud your better (logical) judgement.

He's a douche.

Why do you want a guy who's giving you the cold shoulder only after you've decided not to give up the kitty?

My, my, where did all of that good treatment go? He's not making you feel like much of a "diamond" now, is he?

I could see if his asswholeness was somehow justified, but tell me...what in the devil did you do so wrong to deserve this?

Ask yourself: Does he really deserve your body when all he can tell you via text is "leave me alone!"?

You're not too young to use your brain. Do not sleep with this guy. He's bad news.

You'd be better off cutting your losses now, and finding someone who gives you the respect you deserve.

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@tauruslove88
14 Years

It all do make sense....but I heard most virgo guys are known to come back after they are done being mad...what should I do if he comes back —

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@VirgoVixxxen
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Kick his sorry ass to da curb!!! Like nimbue said, he's already shown you his true colors but hey, if you want him that badly, if he comes back, by all means. It's your life and you are free to make whatever choices you wish.

Good luck, and hopefully it won't be a hard lesson learned.

Night!

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@tauruslove88
14 Years

He contact me today on facebook!!!...im shock becuz its been a month.. now he wants to hangout....im soo confused at this point

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@awesomevirgyal
15 Years

Just saw your thread..been there done that...you dont owe him anything..but what i can tell you a virgo man does not like rejection...when he tells you LEAVE ME ALONE...he needs space..or he has someone else as someone on your thread points it out...He treated you so nicely also doesn't necessarily means he wanted a commited relationship with you... and if he cant wait till your ready then dump him already... I will just advise you one thing stay on you guard...NOTE: YOU DONT OWE ANY MAN ANYTHING...ITS YOUR BODY NOT THERE... you need to slow down...

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@VIRGIE
15 YearsVirgo

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Owed him sex? WTH? Are you kidn'n me? Just because he treated you better than your past boyfriends?

tauruslove, you don't owe this guy a DAMN thing. Are you even ready to have sex with him? If not, and you do it solely based on the fact that you feel like you "owe it to him" then you seriously need your head checked. How old are you?

If he's so pissed off with you because you didn't give in, then what does that tell you about his character? Do you really want an asshole like that? For whatever reason(s) you chose not to have sex with him, he should respect it. Period.

He's not the last guy that will treat you better than your exes. As a matter of fact, there are hundreds more that will treat you even better than he can, and won't go cold on you and act like a complete ass when you refuse to afford him the wonderful opportunity to partake of the most sacred part of your being...your temple!

Can I get an AMEN!!!!

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@VirgoVixxxen
16 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by VIRGIE

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Owed him sex? WTH? Are you kidn'n me? Just because he treated you better than your past boyfriends?

tauruslove, you don't owe this guy a DAMN thing. Are you even ready to have sex with him? If not, and you do it solely based on the fact that you feel like you "owe it to him" then you seriously need your head checked. How old are you?

If he's so pissed off with you because you didn't give in, then what does that tell you about his character? Do you really want an asshole like that? For whatever reason(s) you chose not to have sex with him, he should respect it. Period.

He's not the last guy that will treat you better than your exes. As a matter of fact, there are hundreds more that will treat you even better than he can, and won't go cold on you and act like a complete ass when you refuse to afford him the wonderful opportunity to partake of the most sacred part of your being...your temple!

Can I get an AMEN!!!!

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Yes! Hello there, Virgie! How have you been?!

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@VIRGIE
15 YearsVirgo

Hi Vix and Real!!! I've been ok. Stressed at work. LOL I try to get back in here as much as possible. Glad to see you beautiful people!!!!

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@emeralddream
14 Years

Posted by tauruslove88
He contact me today on facebook!!!...im shock becuz its been a month.. now he wants to hangout....im soo confused at this point

Sorry to say this but he is back because he wants to get you into bed shag you and guess what is next. He will run back where he came from until the next time he needs to get some. It is not a reflection of you he is just a bad person. Stay away from him as many people here have pointed out.

He is a LOOSER let him get LOST for all Eternity. And do not listen to sweet talks of any sort.

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@LadyLionness
14 Years

i was with a virgo for 9 long years, and it is what they do when their feelings are hurt. I say leave him alone and he will come home wagging his tail behind him. He doesnt want to be bothered. He will call when he gets over it. sure thing!