my virgo love

I am an aries with virgo rising and virgo moon. I have fallen in love with a virgo man. we have been taking it slow. everything has been so perfect. he has been so sweet and tender and funny and we hit it off sooo good. I was talking to my bff, supposed bff, about our love relationships and sex with our partners. girl talk. Well she turns around and told someone a complete lie about what was said. the fact that she even talked to anyone about what we spoke of, but let alone to twist and fabricate, hurts. well, this got back to my man. he wouldn't respond to any text or anything. then finally he msg me and said that my friend is going around telling people what I said(which wasn't even what I said anyway). he said he was disappointed that he thought we were better than that. that he cant get with a girl like that. (me). said he has enough bs in his life and basically doesn't need anymore of bs, by people talking around about personal things in his life. I am sooooo hurt, of course my aries is all over the board msg. him, trying call him. Does he not understand that this shit hurts me, that I totally got stabbed in the back by my friend.. she used me as a tool for her malious gossip!! I don't know what to do, I am totally head over heels for him, and I know that he feels the same. do I just leave him alone, will he come around? I told him to think about it, that he will know in his heart and mind if he thinks I would ever talk shit about him, I love him.. I am so lost and sad and confused. help,, please give me some insight in to his mind and what I need to do to get him back. could he possibly forget me over the course of a day??

Wow.. i never thought of it from that perspective.. he has kids and the mother is mean and is always holding his kids over his head. Not let him see them, threatening.. etc.. who knows what she will do if she finds out that hes been seeing someone. I dont know why he doesnt take her to court. But, he really wants to avoid that. We live in a town of like 800 people.. everyone in everyones buisness. But it dont matter to him if certian people know. Like his faamily knows. My family knows. But i guess ive been so hurt feeling from her betraying me and feeling like im losing him i never thought to apolgize. I will. I feel so badly. But really can he just shuthis feelings down like that. I know he feels its in the beat interest of his kids. Thats part of why im lovinghim.. hes such a good dad. Man.

Our families knew that we were together. I wasnt telling no moma nuttin. I told my best friend.. things that girls talk about thier bf. Well thanks for the encouragment

Posted by raerae2one8
Wow.. i never thought of it from that perspective.. he has kids and the mother is mean and is always holding his kids over his head. Not let him see them, threatening.. etc.. who knows what she will do if she finds out that hes been seeing someone. I dont know why he doesnt take her to court. But, he really wants to avoid that. We live in a town of like 800 people.. everyone in everyones buisness. But it dont matter to him if certian people know. Like his faamily knows. My family knows. But i guess ive been so hurt feeling from her betraying me and feeling like im losing him i never thought to apolgize. I will. I feel so badly. But really can he just shuthis feelings down like that. I know he feels its in the beat interest of his kids. Thats part of why im lovinghim.. hes such a good dad. Man.

Yes, he can. Virgos are compartmentalize-rs - everything in their life fits into compartments. That's the magic behind their ability to let things go so easily, it's because when things are organized and separate, losing one will not greatly affect the rest. It seems cold but it's how they protect themselves from being affected by certain things in life. As long as things and feelings are compartmentalized, they cannot be tangled among each other. You have revealed bits and pieces of information he may have felt should be neatly boxed up, you have made a mess and therefore, he had to cut you loose because he feels you're affecting the neatness of his life as a whole. Whether what you said is true or not, the fact of the matter is someone knew a bit of something he may have wanted kept private, thus you encroached on his security and it's safer for him to detach from you than risk forgiving you then have you make a mess of things.

Sadly, especially during he early dating stages with a Virgo, ANYTHING can turn them off (they are always watching for those bad habits): bad hair, poor hygiene, foul language, rudeness, so on and so forth. Unfortunately, you just happened to come across a huge HUGE deal breaker for Virgos - gossip. They are very private people and they are also people pleasers. Anything that is negatively said about them (whether big or small, true or not) will be taken very seriously and offensively. Things like that are absolutely unforgivable. If you had been in a long-term relationship with him, he'll overlook it because he would've already dev

developed that trust in you, but because things are new between you two, he doesn't know who you truly are as a person and will very unlikely take the chance with you again for the sake of his security, it's not worth it for him.

I am unable to explain how sad I am. I wasn't loloking for a love. I know he has felt the same feelings with me. I underatand that he needs privacy. I'm hurting people.! When I apologized he said.. its ok.. lesson learned.. and we cool. I asked if we were back on then and he said he didn't know about that and he can't have that going on in his life. I just left it at plz give it a few days and think abou it. That I don't want it over and don't want to lose him. He hasn't replied. This morning on fb he was posting about how much fun he had. Like he's tring rub it in myface or hurt me.we were always on fb together. He knows id see that. Wtf? How could it be that easy for him and why would he want to go outta his way like that. Soooo friggen hurt. Idk.. guess I just give him a few days.. I know that if he gives him self time to think, he will know that we good for each other. I know that he was in to everything about me . I just gotta have faith if its suppose to be.. it will.

I doubt your honesty here .... having a best friend, means you are aware of her, and what she does.

There's no doubt in my mind that you knew before you told her anything ... that she runs her mouth.

And being a Virgo, he has thought of that also.


It's doubtful he would ever trust you .... clearly you spoke about his personal business to another.



over and out

It's likely that he recognizes that you have bad judgment, considering you would call her a best friend.


if you didn't know who she was, how she acts, while claiming her as a best friend ..... then that is seen as having bad judgment.


Your best bet is move along before you get hurt

Posted by P-Angel
I doubt your honesty here .... having a best friend, means you are aware of her, and what she does.

There's no doubt in my mind that you knew before you told her anything ... that she runs her mouth.

And being a Virgo, he has thought of that also.


It's doubtful he would ever trust you .... clearly you spoke about his personal business to another.



over and out

In agreement here.

I think he is picses moon. But he still hasnt talked to me.. jus miserable. But im thankful for all the advice. Mybad on talking to my fren, i will never trust her with anything ever again. Done! I honestly think that his feelings were just as strong as mine. And i do understand that i hurt him, and i would never want to hurt him😢 he has been the most sincere and tender guy ive ever met and i see know how impotant that trust was to him. So yes. Ill give him a few days and then go see him face to face. I realky dont think he could just turn off his feeling like a switch. Besides.. i dont think he could get over it that easily. And yes, when it all came out i reacted in my typical emotional way.. i dont think things threw . I react.. think later.. im sure thst was a turn off too.

Posted by raerae2one8

I realky dont think he could just turn off his feeling like a switch. Besides.. i dont think he could get over it that easily.

If you plan on being the girlfriend of a Virgo, the first thing you will need to accomplishment is understanding that how you feel, isn't him, nor will he allow you to assume it is.

A Virgo is perfectly capable of turning feelings off like a switch ....

You aren't over yourself ... and so believe whatever it is in you ... is so for others.

I see what ur saying, about owning my feelings.. he hasnt uurt me, i did it to myself. I stupidly trusted someone i knew i should not of. But i wasnt thinking.. i was just so damn happy i wanted to share and tell the world. But i told thewrongperson. My friend is like a sister to me, i've also raised her son for the past year hecause of her being in jail and treatment. I thought that she would have changed. Specially when i never said ajything bad about him.. ever.. it was all good. So for her to twist it around and seemingly go out of her way to wreck things was like getting hit out of nowhere. So, i've learned an impprtant lesson. So maybe it is that i cant stand that he wouldnt even talk to me.. he has a little,but still.. i cant stand it.. maybe i am full of myself.. but still my feelinfs were genuine for him and i guess i just have to have patience.. hard for this aries.

I understand what you are saying .... I'm trying to explain to you how the Virgo will not forgive a person for not using sound judgment.

for example, you said .... " But i told the wrong person. My friend is like a sister to me .."


From your side, you can see a mistake you made in telling her ... from his side, he sees it as you befriended a person to the point of considering her a sister, who couldn't be trusted.


This isn't about a mistake you made in telling her ... it's about you calling a person your best friend, while forgoing the fact that she cannot be trusted enough to hold the position of bff


this is about your integrity ... not your mistake.

Your best bet is to steer away from Virgos ..... they are too principal-minded for Rams.

Well i see ur points. My character.. hummm. Well. He said we got to close. And he wasnt wanting the stress of a relationship becuaee what his kids mom will do.. n ur all right.. y go turough all that for someone like me, with no
Integrity. Thanks all.

Well i see ur points. My character.. hummm. Well. He said we got to close. And he wasnt wanting the stress of a relationship becuaee what his kids mom will do.. n ur all right.. y go turough all that for someone like me, with no
Integrity. Thanks all.

Well i see ur points. My character.. hummm. Well. He said we got to close. And he wasnt wanting the stress of a relationship becuaee what his kids mom will do.. n ur all right.. y go turough all that for someone like me, with no
Integrity. Thanks all.

I know i gotta take care of my own needs.. maybe i was just looking for valadation..idk.. stupid anyway. Everything happens for a reason and true.. all i can do is learn from my own mistakes.. thanx tho

So fast forward a couple days.. hes beginning to talk to me. Admittedly so, misses me. Says i'll see him soon. Icm feeling back to normal, it wad such an emotional few days. I think that the whole thing wit exnfriend talking outta her ass was, hurtful to him, because, i allowed someone to intrude on or relationship.i did that, but i think it was also a smoke screen, that, we have gotten too close, more than he wants, at this point in his life. He is so practical..lol i got virgo moon and rising.. i difently have thay side of me. But aries rules my heart

@OP I'd say for me, the problem wouldn't so much be that you told a friend who couldn't be trusted. My issue would be that you told anyone at all. Whether the person is trustworthy or not, I DO NOT like my private life shared with others...especially my relationship, as that's as private as it gets for me. This is why I'm on DXP, so I can discuss my relationship in a anonymous fashion. Back to my point: It would further irritate me if you continued to harp on the untrustworthiness (not a real word) of your friend as the primary issue and failed to see that your "friend" is not the problem...you are. And I mean this as only my opinion not a judgment, but this is how I would look at it.

Your friend would never have had the opportunity to "betray" you if you never opened your mouth in the 1st place. I would recommend if he does come back don't go looking for a different friend to share your personal business with. Hoping that this friend will honor the friend code but realize that personal business need be kept PERSONAL...especially if you're gonna date a Virgo. Write it down or create an imaginary friend...create a post on DXP and shout your love from the rooftops but keep it out of the ears of people who can relay the info back to him.

...and the best way to get me back is to give me enough space to miss you. If I like you enough, I'll miss you enough to make me want to give it another go. But you'll be in for some deep scrutiny, testing, minor disappearing while I assess and my full strength guard...Things will go much slower and unfortunately you might not make it back to where you were...All you can really do it try... Good luck!

Ty.. thats what i mean.. i allowed her to intrude.. i openned that door. But ty

He came over last night. I was cool...lol. we really didnt talk about what had happened.. execpt him making a joke about me being mad at him i told him i wasn't mad, that it was infuriorating(sp). Well he had a laugh..lol. do we had some very passionate kissing. Said hes gonna coming over in a few days. 😉

Ty.. but i tell ya my lips r sealed.. unless im on here..lol