Paranoid

Ok, so things are improving slightly with Virguy after 8 months of not having seen him. we saw got back in touch and he is responding to my texts, helped me out with a few things, been a real sweetie and we spent the night together the other night. Which, I shouldn't have done, I know! but it's been so long...
anyway, coz things are going well I am doubting it all. We had the most amazing sex, I felt really connected, like I have never done before - with anyone... but when we do have this amazingly connected sex I start to doubt myself and him and worry that it's nothing to do with our compatability or emotions but him just being a player and being damn good at sex, and I'm just interpreting it as a 'connection' coz I like him so much.
But then again, early on in our 'relationship' the sex wasn't all that, so maybe this is a sign that he is more relaxed and opening up a bit more...he deffo put a lot of effort in ... am I making sense here?

in a nutshell, I am thinking is he an experienced player or are we have we got some spiritual/emotional connection?

I just don't wanna be caught out by my naivity.

*silence*


ummmmm.....Hi?

Do you ever concentrate on the meaning of Pisces emblem..?


TWO FISHES IN OPPOSITE DIRECTIONS..

Which means while you say YES you mean also NO.. and wise a versa, always in confusions, now you tell me?.How can you trust your conclusions when you are confused..??

Err.. sorry I meant (Vice versa)

I just don't wanna be caught out by my naivity.

First step is to stop deluding yourself and no more WHAT IF, then start with what you've got and appreciate it, then stay on course and enjoy the ride.

Trust in that everything is relevant and are subject to change especially in emotional/feelings department.

And for the love of GOD...!

Stop having intimate relationship with VIRGOS? you guys are unreal while Virgos are dealing with the realities.

What the hell are you guys wants from us..?? to find yourself in reality again..??


Lol?. Well? then shut up and stop ?arguing? ?

rust in that everything is relevant and are subject to change especially in emotional/feelings department.

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Ya- you know, ONLY virgos have EXCLUSIVE rights to change in that dept!
When some else shows that, s/he is labeled by virgos of being 'irreliable', inconsistent and instable!

These virgos and their muliple policies changing per their needs of being (stupidly)
"REALISTIC"!!!

Ohh..

Lol

This is what you think young lady.. what you think is subject to change too?


Ps..

You still owe me a kiss.

😛

"We had the most amazing sex, I felt really connected, like I have never done before - with anyone"

"But then again, early on in our 'relationship' the sex wasn't all that"


I can relate to where you're coming from, piscesdreamer, and where you got frightened by this and started to worry.

"I'm just interpreting it as a 'connection' coz I like him so much."


Been there .. done that, still married to him, in fact. When in reality, once the glasses came off .. I realized I should have listened to myself from the very beginning because the sex sucked, big time. This is something we do a lot because when we really want to love someone, we fool ourselves into believing that they view us and love us the way we want them to .. it's fantasy.

So, I see where you're coming from and you should be concerned .. we should always be concerned with ourselves when it comes to this type of situation .. if we don't pay attention to this side of us .. we'll fall head first and get ourselves in trouble.

Listen .. stop thinking about the sexual connection and using this as a basis of whether the two of you are good for each other or not, for if you do, you will find yourself with this dilemna again. Instead, think about this, "he is responding to my texts, helped me out with a few things, been a real sweetie".

I know exactly what you're going through and how it freaks you out .. been there. Just try and focus on things outside the bedroom, and things where you connect on other levels.

Stop over analyzying it. Virgos' is one of the two naturally sensual and tantric signs in the area of lovemaking. So....it's just him not the amount of girls he has played. You need to work on your confidence in your feelings for him because this insecurity is only going to trouble things.

I have had this problem before, where my performance in bed had my partner questioning my truthfulness in the amount of partners I have had. Let me tell you that sucks pretty hard, when someone has it set in your mind that you are a player and a womanizer because they did your right 😉 Some people are just naturally good at tunning into their partners body, and becomming a tool of pleasure....not all guys want to stick it in and move it around until they get off and hope it was good for you.

phew, all this talk of animal attraction is making me horny. I think it is very important for the success of an LTR, cos when other things about your partner start to piss you off then at least you have that phwoar factor that help you overlook it. I personally don't see the point in having a partner where the sex ain't all that. Even if they are there for you emotionally and intellectually. Make them a friend! I get all the emotional and intellectual support I need from my large group of friends and good sex from this guy (at the mo). He's also kind and helpful but slow to open up... I don't mind. I think it is unrealistic to expect to get every need met by one person. I rarely really fancy anyone, so to experience this lust combined with gentle affection from this fit, smart, sensual guy is something to savour. i like the fact that the sex was n't all that and has improved (obviously), it means that he cares about pleasing me and it can only keep getting better. If I ever see him again!
one thing he said to me in the throws of passion was: 'you're a bad influence on me' - what does that mean? I'm a good influence! bit worrying. I sense that means he will try to resist me for some reason.
I just think there's nothing better then non-verbal - all out there - communication through sex/love-making, such a release from the day to day general bullsh*t of verbal communication.
I'm not much of a talker anyway.

what a discussion!bravo

I agree scopiogoat, but that initial attraction such couples felt... did that not feel like animal attraction/physical desire?
say I ended up with this guy for the long haul. maybe that initial attraction would fade... or is it differentiated by the non-verbal slant to it? I mean, when I realised I was hot for him and pulled him, was when I saw him dancing (we had met before though), it was completely non-verbal, I was so drawn to him I literally went up to him, pulled him to me and kissed him, no small talk! I have never done anything that forward before, and I am quite shy. I just felt something take over me, like I wasn't in control of my body when I moved across the dancefloor to grab him. An overwhelming animal magnetism towards him, like I had to hold him and man it felt amazing and we spent two days in bed together. it's like his skin electrifies me, it feels amazing..... you set me off now. he's hot, 'kay?

looking into the eyes?

so he's into me? he certainly seems to be. i just worry he's gonna do another 180 and run for the hills. he can't handle it. i am damn sexy 😉

Scopiogoat .. you finally got to swim with a turtle?

That's great 🙂

Wow, what a deal .. only 350 bucks?

Oh, I'm on the east coast .. but, I'm sure they still have some bargain rates.

Thanks for the link, SG .. we're always looking for something new to do and this would be fun. He's never been to Hawaii and if it's that cheap, we might venture out there this year.