Please help with advice

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BornAAries
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I need some advice with my Virgo. We have been together for 2 1/2 years and they have been some of the best years of my life however, he has recently told me that he is unhappy because we cannot spend more time together. Backing up a few years, I have three teenage kids from a previous relationship where their father past away. I am truly a single parent with a lot of responsibility. Due to my responsibilities, I am only able to spend one day a week with my Virgo and it is hard on both of us but I thought we both had the mindset that we will be patient and strong because the kids will be all grown in 4 years. I thought we had the same mindset until recently he told me he was unhappy and needed space to figure out what to do with our relationship. It has been a week and we have talk very little. Yesterday, he told me that it was unfair to me to be waiting on him and I should move on until he figures this out. He goes on and on how much he loves me and if I wasn't so amazing this would be a lot easier. He also said doing what he needs to do in order to see me more he fears might make him more unhappy. I struggled with his decision all night and woke up this to go for a run and clear my head. In my run I got clarity and sent him a text that I was ready to move on. I told him that there were things at his place that I needed and to put in his mailbox so I can pick them up. When I got there he had all my things in a bag in his mailbox along with a golf ball that he wrote he loves me. I am so confused, why did he put the goofball in the bag? If he really loves me like he says, why would he let me go? Please someone help. I am hurting just waiting for him but I know myself well enough that when I let go and get over him there will be no turning back. Once my heart has been broken and I become numb from it, I will never see him the same. I don't know if I should let him go or hang on because he might be back.
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BornAAries
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10 Years

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Thank you for your input and I wish it were that simple. I work 50 hours a week, three kids that must eat every night, homework and highschool sports so there is no extra time. He doesn't feel comfortable being a part of the kids lives since they have gone through such a traumatic experience with losing their father so him spending time that way is not an option. I guess it is hopeless, thank you for helping me see that.
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I know it hurts...but seeing someone once a week is insane, he is not happy in the relationship due to the lack of quality time

It's a valid reason to be unhappy, he wants to be in a real relationship and one day a week is not enough

The relationship no longer works for him....and he's stated that...two people have to be on the same page and he has communicated his reason for being unhappy

I totally see his pov, it sucks because he should've realized that earlier before feelings developed but...best thing to do is move on...