please help with virgo guy

ok heres my problem i have been in a sexual relationship for 3 yrs with a virgo man now quite frankly it seems to have been booty calls but the last yr he has been more open and comfy but i have told him how much i love him and he had his heart broke many yrs ago and says he will never love again,when we are together its not just a bang and leave we spend the night together every time, i know he has to care somewhat right? i mean 3 yrs is a long time and i have been the only girl in 2 yrs until recently he said he was with another girl the other day but he was dissapointed when he was with the other one because and i quote even tho we are only sexual we are a perfect fit.. but when i tried to tell him it bothered me he said he didnt want to hear it ( not in a bad way) and we are not together every night it used to be every 3 months but past yr it has been alot more often but when i ask him out to do something he always has an excuse to not actually hang outand i dont mean in public i just mean anything , when he is over we talk for hours before we even have sex and the sex part is 100% totally awesome but then he will ignore me for days after. my question is will there ever be anything other than sex and will he ever be secure enough for a realtionship with me? am i just a booty call after 3 yrs? oh yea he is younger than me but i am 38 and he is almost 28 please help me anyone but preferrably a virgo guy mite be able to shed some light my bday is oct 28 1970 and his is aug 31 1983