virgals and friends with benefits?

any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

Never. FWB is not my thing. Too risky for the heart.

Posted by ellessque
I don't think you will ever find a virgo woman who is down with fwb. it's not in their nature.

hmm, wonder how I got so lucky...and cursed at the same time! lol!

Posted by happycapri
any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

With one now.

Taurus guy, and I love that he's levelheaded enough not to want more, because it would be unwise...

I do love him though--known him for 7 years now, and we go back and forth in between relationships. He knows the deal though, once I find "the one", I belong to them and them alone.

No matter HOW good the nookie is.

Posted by ellessque
I don't think you will ever find a virgo woman who is down with fwb. it's not in their nature.

If there's an understanding between us, and reasons for us to be apart--it's definitely possible.
It would not be wise for he and I to get together, although in another lifetime, we'd be married.
There's just too many "what ifs" between us, it's better we just have fun.

I won't lie, there are times where we have to pull ourselves back from seeing each other more than we do (times when he'll want to come over days in a row, or times when I'll be dying to see him almost every day) but we let a few days pass and the feeling is gone, and we go on about our lives.

I would never do this with anyone else. I never have. He's special, there's a connection there that (as I said before) would have us married if the circumstances were right.

Posted by ellessque
"I do love him though"

I have to ask, is that really FWB then?

logically speaking.

We can't do anything about it, so yeah--technically, it is.

That's the only way I could do this, if there were feelings there.

Having some random beau with a hard-on would never do for me. I need a serious connection that will NOT monopolize my life/time, and he gives me just that.

Posted by ellessque
thanks for being honest CLCNY30.

Meh--no shame in my game, lmfao.

Like I said, I've never done it before, and am not interested in doing it again. He's just special, and I feel safe and comfortable with him/vice-versa.

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Posted by happycapri

Posted by ellessque
I don't think you will ever find a virgo woman who is down with fwb. it's not in their nature.

hmm, wonder how I got so lucky...and cursed at the same time! lol!

because you are a cap and you think all of your partners are friends with benefits, unsuspecting to them of course.

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Uh no, only because she has said it through words and actions. That is actually not the cap's MO. We take intimacy pretty seriously, like a commitment to the other....but somehow her sexuality has a kryptonite affect on me and makes me not think about the consequences of letting myself get hurt! She has even said, 'i dont want you to get hurt' when we started sleeping together again in between her relationships. I think I just have the same affect on her sexually, but she knows I am not the guy but still needs to fulfill those human desires with someone who is willing and available lol!

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Posted by ellessque
I don't think you will ever find a virgo woman who is down with fwb. it's not in their nature.

Hmm, wonder how I got so lucky...and cursed at the same time! lol!

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You must be a very attractive guy in her eyes, happycappri, or have a very special connection with her...but there is something not fitting within her logic/plans/evaluations, thus her struggle about it all.

Posted by happycapri
any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

I've always have had guy friends, but NEVER with benefits, friendship only, kinda like others here. I dont do that for many reasons...one of the main ones is the potential for unnecessary drama...and because I don't like to misslead people.

Dating is a better option for me if I really like someone.

Any casual situations are not with the benefits others would think, lol,not at all, at least not for me, and if they are clearly casual ones...then they are short-lived or re-lived ONLY when I am single and IF I feel extremely attracted to or extremely connected to that person in ways I can't understand yet or haven't been able to resolve...these things are done within boundaries I can live by though...otherwise it ends for good.

ADL

You know what it is? There's someone I can't get out of my heart/mind, and I'm just not ready to look for anything serious yet, so Mr. Bull provides me with a safe in-between in the meantime.

Posted by happycapri
any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

I think this automatically applies to majority of the women who come in here asking for advice about virgos who keep distancing themselves mentally and physically...

I think Virgoking and 25thdecan can help you out.

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Posted by happycapri
any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

I think this automatically applies to majority of the women who come in here asking for advice about virgos who keep distancing themselves mentally and physically...

I think Virgoking and 25thdecan can help you out.

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Hmmm...

Sorry, i read this wrong...

Nah, virgo chicks aren\'t down for friends with sex. Its either you have sex with them or you are friends...

Posted by ellessque

Posted by sorti-fantastic poney
Sorry, i read this wrong...

Nah, virgo chicks aren\'t down for friends with sex. Its either you have sex with them or you are friends...

exactly.

with him being a cap it is MORE LIKELY he is being the elusive one and hasn't come forth to commit.

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you got something against caps for some reason! actually, I would love to come forth to commit and have, but she isn't down with that right now. She says I am one of the most dear people in her life, but doesn't want any sort of committing based on where she is in her life right now.

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Posted by happycapri
any virgals out there, have you ever had any "friends with benefits" that you may utilize between guys you seriously date in your quest for that great love?

With one now.

Taurus guy, and I love that he's levelheaded enough not to want more, because it would be unwise...

I do love him though--known him for 7 years now, and we go back and forth in between relationships. He knows the deal though, once I find "the one", I belong to them and them alone.

No matter HOW good the nookie is.

I so respect your honesty. You da bomb.

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Like I said, no shame in my game. Random sex? No. A trusted fwb? For sure.

He's proven he cares about me--we went years without sex while we were in serious relationships, and he was there to talk to (we never met up when we were dating others, only phone/internet hi and byes) about work, school, etc. He talked me down from a LOT of emotional ledges, lol. He's a great man, and a freakin' FANTASTIC lover.

He definitely is all I need to get by until I find The One.

Posted by ellessque
maybe he is the one.

I would love it if he was
But there's just too many complications between us, we could never be together forever
But yeah, I'd marry him if I could. He makes me happy 🙂

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Posted by happycapri

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Posted by sorti-fantastic poney
Sorry, i read this wrong...
Nah, virgo chicks aren\'t down for friends with sex. Its either you have sex with them or you are friends...

exactly.
with him being a cap it is MORE LIKELY he is being the elusive one and hasn't come forth to commit.

you got something against caps for some reason! actually, I would love to come forth to commit and have, but she isn't down with that right now. She says I am one of the most dear people in her life, but doesn't want any sort of committing based on where she is in her life right now.

Don't waste your time on her Cappy. You're putty in her hands and you can't see it because you ain't an Air sign. Move on and find someone who deserves you.

pffffft.

you know he's not telling the whole story, right?

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damn u ellesque! 😛
bless you gemtaur! 🙂

Actually, virgos fall for cappy\'s very quickly...

I mean...We never fall for anyone. THERE YA GO 😉

I Dated a couple of Virgo women they are done with the friend with benefits don't be fool by the reserve Manner they have to get there's to. And personally I think they like friends with benefits better just my opinion. Out of all the women in the zodiac its Easier to get them down with fwb than other women.

Posted by virgoking
Out of all the women in the zodiac its Easier to get them down with fwb than other women.

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Yes it's true its been confirm to many times

Really now...well, well, well.

Cappies don't play games. They never strike me as 'game players'. They are direct and no-nonsense just like the other two earth signs of Taurus and Virgo. If it's a young & inexperienced Cappie, he may be a bit shy about showing how he feels because Caps can often struggle with low-self esteem and tend to be extremely hard on themselves. Also, if 'explosive passion' is what you are looking for, then forget it. Generally, Cap man is not the embodiment of passion (try a water sign for that). Although, you could still take his entire birth chart into consideration if he's not your 'typical'. I find Cap men to be the most dashing and debonair of the zodiac.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Cappies don't play games. They never strike me as 'game players'. They are direct and no-nonsense just like the other two earth signs of Taurus and Virgo. If it's a young & inexperienced Cappie, he may be a bit shy about showing how he feels because Caps can often struggle with low-self esteem and tend to be extremely hard on themselves. Also, if 'explosive passion' is what you are looking for, then forget it. Generally, Cap man is not the embodiment of passion (try a water sign for that). Although, you could still take his entire birth chart into consideration if he's not your 'typical'. I find Cap men to be the most dashing and debonair of the zodiac.

The EXPLOSION happens bw the sheets. They are passionate. Just like Virgo actually. Unhinging a Cappy is almost as fun as unhinging a Virgo. Almost.

Don't let those flowcharts and pen protectors fool you VV

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I will take your word for it, Gem. Don't get me wrong however, I know they have passion, but it seems different from the passion of the water sign men. Like it's more cerebral. Ya know? LMAO @ "unhinging" because I often feel as a Virgo woman, guys try to do that to me all of the time just for the fun of it. Like those water men...wtf is up with that?

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Cappies don't play games. They never strike me as 'game players'. They are direct and no-nonsense just like the other two earth signs of Taurus and Virgo. If it's a young & inexperienced Cappie, he may be a bit shy about showing how he feels because Caps can often struggle with low-self esteem and tend to be extremely hard on themselves. Also, if 'explosive passion' is what you are looking for, then forget it. Generally, Cap man is not the embodiment of passion (try a water sign for that). Although, you could still take his entire birth chart into consideration if he's not your 'typical'. I find Cap men to be the most dashing and debonair of the zodiac.

cap sun/pisces moon/mars in taurs, mars in taurus, mars in taurus, mars in taurus = explosive passion

aqua in venus = elusive and non commital

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Right. Hence the reason I said his entire birth chart should be considered. I think sometimes we forget that. If you hear 'Virgo' automatically you think of a person with all of the typical Virgo traits but what if he full of air?

Posted by ellessque
hey virgal could be totally down with the fwb if you look at her chart. no doubt. but typically you don't see that.

I just KNOW he's not giving up all the info.

How do I know? Can't tell you.

Honest truth? I'm sure my scorp rising makes it easier for me than other virgals, LOL! I haz a kinky.

Posted by ellessque
hey virgal could be totally down with the fwb if you look at her chart. no doubt. but typically you don't see that.

I just KNOW he's not giving up all the info.

How do I know? Can't tell you.

stop flirting with me! 😛 Yeah I am not giving up everything...she has a reputation as a man-eater and I still let myself fall and got eaten..twice..so there!

you just know I have a soft spot for scorpios too 🙂

Posted by ellessque
VV, what is that?

Sorry. That is the marguerita I had yesterday still wearing off of me.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Cappies don't play games. They never strike me as 'game players'. They are direct and no-nonsense just like the other two earth signs of Taurus and Virgo. If it's a young & inexperienced Cappie, he may be a bit shy about showing how he feels because Caps can often struggle with low-self esteem and tend to be extremely hard on themselves. Also, if 'explosive passion' is what you are looking for, then forget it. Generally, Cap man is not the embodiment of passion (try a water sign for that). Although, you could still take his entire birth chart into consideration if he's not your 'typical'. I find Cap men to be the most dashing and debonair of the zodiac.

The EXPLOSION happens bw the sheets. They are passionate. Just like Virgo actually. Unhinging a Cappy is almost as fun as unhinging a Virgo. Almost.

Don't let those flowcharts and pen protectors fool you VV

I will take your word for it, Gem. Don't get me wrong however, I know they have passion, but it seems different from the passion of the water sign men. Like it's more cerebral. Ya know? LMAO @ "unhinging" because I often feel as a Virgo woman, guys try to do that to me all of the time just for the fun of it. Like those water men...wtf is up with that?

No way. Not for the fun of it. There's nothing like Virgo passion because it's so condition-specific. Makes it all the more special. It's addictive for anyone especially Water guys.

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Here we are. Sorry again.

Linda Goodman is that you? LOL. No sarcasm here. Makes complete sense. My frustration with trying to figure out these blasted water men just keeps mount'n and I don't like it. I think I'm gonna try an air sign...Gems, aquas...here I come.

Posted by ellessque
you wish, sucker. i'm done with you twits. 😛

(at least for today, tomorrow may be a different story all together)

anyways....ask her if she wants to be your friends with benefits and let us know how that works out for you. 🙂

Meanie, meanie scorp we have here I see. I'm out too twit so, see ya around another time.

Posted by ellessque
vv, I was talking to OP Cap. He's a cap. he KNOWS i'm just playing.

My bad. I told you it was the damn Marguerita. Has my eyes crossing and shit. I'm outta here. My bed is calling.

Posted by ellessque
nope. not your rising.

where is your moon, venus and mars at CLCNY30?

regardless, I think you love the guy but something his holding you back.

Moon Taurus
Venus Virgo
Mars Cancer

There's just a long story between us, and it's not a good idea for EITHER of us. We're better off as fwb, and good friends when we can no longer share that part of ourselves.