LibraLove
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Virgo broke up with my after 3 years
He didn't say much else, so the rest of the discussion I had to incite since I felt I was at least owed more than two sentences as an explanation for the disintegration of a 3 year relationship. I asked if he didn't love me or find me attractive anymore and he said "no, no, no it has nothing to do with that." So I tried to run through other explanations, none of which aligned with why he was breaking up with me. He said he can't make promises to me for things I want like moving in and marriage, which is completely putting words in my mouth. I clarified this for him RIGHT THERE, I never asked for a promise of marriage. He somehow interpreted one conversation we had 3 months ago about if he COULD SEE himself moving in together with me SOMETIME IN THE DISTANT FUTURE. He then said that he really hoped we were older because he knows it would work then and that we owe it to ourselves to try to be together in the future. This really offended me and I told him that it was inappropriate of him to suggest that, as the one breaking up with me, as though I'm supposed to wait for him while he figures out his life. He had unconditional love and support from me and I feel like he shrugged it off. Why couldn't he have figured out his life with me still in it? Anyhow, I didn't fight him. I never once told him he's making a mistake, that he ought to think this over etc. I simply said I still love and respect him, that I respect his decision, and if he ever needs to talk, I'm there. He cried during it and I didn't, mostly because I was in shock. He added we shouldn't remain in contact for some time, and again, I respected his decision.
I've been doing just fine since then, which was about a month and a bit ago. I was always independent in my relationship so I had a beautiful, loving network of friends and family to still fall back on. Meanwhile, he didn't tell ANYONE but his best friend that we broke up so not only did I have to update all of my friends, but his as well. Which is so peculiar. Why wouldn't he tell anyone?? You broke up with me! Why is the onus on me to inform everybody? He also only used to speak with me and his best friend during the last months of our relationship, and now he only has his best friend, who is also going through a difficult time and they are terrible influences on one another, in my opinion.
ANYHOW, one of my really good friends is in his band and he pulled her aside a couple of weeks ago basically begging her for updates on me. Asking
I've been doing just fine since then, which was about a month and a bit ago. I was always independent in my relationship so I had a beautiful, loving network of friends and family to still fall back on. Meanwhile, he didn't tell ANYONE but his best friend that we broke up so not only did I have to update all of my friends, but his as well. Which is so peculiar. Why wouldn't he tell anyone?? You broke up with me! Why is the onus on me to inform everybody? He also only used to speak with me and his best friend during the last months of our relationship, and now he only has his best friend, who is also going through a difficult time and they are terrible influences on one another, in my opinion.
ANYHOW, one of my really good friends is in his band and he pulled her aside a couple of weeks ago basically begging her for updates on me. Asking
I didn't run out and tell everyone. I HAD to tell people because he wouldn't.
Our mutual group of friends would ask how we were and I would repeatedly have to inform them that we broke up.
Since we had been together for a long time and people didn't expect us to break-up, they would react by usually saying something along the lines of "whaaat?? what happened?"
To our close mutual friends, not acquaintances, I would say what he told me (being depressed etc.,) since I had virtually no other answers myself.
And I don't think loving him is mutually exclusive to waiting for him. I would have waited for him, and had supported him but he chose to break-up with me. He is no longer entitled to me following a break-up, so asking that I wait for him (i.e., stay away from other guys and remain devoted to him while he figures out his 'demons') seems incredibly selfish to me. So you want to be single and explore being single and have distance, but you want me to remain devoted and faithful towards you regardless? As a girlfriend, that is a reasonable thing to ask--"give me space while I work some things out, but also give me support when I need it." As an ex, it's an unreasonable demand to cater to.
Our mutual group of friends would ask how we were and I would repeatedly have to inform them that we broke up.
Since we had been together for a long time and people didn't expect us to break-up, they would react by usually saying something along the lines of "whaaat?? what happened?"
To our close mutual friends, not acquaintances, I would say what he told me (being depressed etc.,) since I had virtually no other answers myself.
And I don't think loving him is mutually exclusive to waiting for him. I would have waited for him, and had supported him but he chose to break-up with me. He is no longer entitled to me following a break-up, so asking that I wait for him (i.e., stay away from other guys and remain devoted to him while he figures out his 'demons') seems incredibly selfish to me. So you want to be single and explore being single and have distance, but you want me to remain devoted and faithful towards you regardless? As a girlfriend, that is a reasonable thing to ask--"give me space while I work some things out, but also give me support when I need it." As an ex, it's an unreasonable demand to cater to.
Excuse me! It is LibraLove's fault for telling....??
How about the Virgo guy taking responsibility for his action?
I don't understand why she should keep secret anyway.
Tell that V guy to grow up if he is bothered. You are not going to wait around when he thinks he can just do whatever he pleases when he breakes up and keeps you on the side?
How about the Virgo guy taking responsibility for his action?
I don't understand why she should keep secret anyway.
Tell that V guy to grow up if he is bothered. You are not going to wait around when he thinks he can just do whatever he pleases when he breakes up and keeps you on the side?
WHY should it be secret?
Agree with FUM. How many of your friends do you know have kept their breakup a secret from you?
How many times have you kept your own break-up a secret from your own friends?
I don't personally understand it, but somebody else on this board might.
How many times have you kept your own break-up a secret from your own friends?
I don't personally understand it, but somebody else on this board might.
I just realized so much of my initial post was cut off!! UGH.
ADDITIONAL INFO****
He's been begging my friend for updates on me. Asking how I am, what I've been up to, what I think, what I've been telling people etc. Also, texting my friend in an attempt to talk to me through her to see how I feel. She showed me the texts and his final one was "it's been so nice talking to her (i.e., me) even if it's been second-hand through you" which induced a giant eye-roll from me. It seems so cowardly. Keep in mind that in a month, he had made no other attempts to contact me. If you want to speak with me, speak with ME. Don't speak through my friends.
Also, I received a letter from him in the mail last week telling me that he thinks about me every day and that he 'tortures' himself by constantly looking at my facebook. And that if I "can find it in my heart," he would greatly appreciate talking to me--that my opinion is the one that matters most to him. He apologized for how he treated me (e.g., being impatient and snappy) and that his decision "was not made without a heavy heart." The letter was only a page and what I gathered from it was he feels really bad about breaking up, has no intention of getting back together (believe me, neither do I), but would like me to make him feel better/reassure him about breaking up with him. Additionally, my friend in his band, after being cornered by him for updates about me, said it seemed like he had conjured up in his mind that I was going to break-up with him, so we was taking a preemptive strike by breaking up with me first. Which...what?!
Anyhow, his birthday was last week and I sent him a very casual and brief birthday text: "happy birthday! hope you've been well" to which he replied with a wall of text. Saying how grateful and appreciative he was for my birthday wish and asking if I had received his letter. I told him that I had, but I needed time to get back to him and that we should go for tea soon to talk. Again, he was really elated at the prospect of meeting up, so I wanted to cement that this was not a "hey let's be friends again!" meeting and texted him saying "and don't worry, none of our talk will concern getting back together--that isn't my intention."
ADDITIONAL INFO****
He's been begging my friend for updates on me. Asking how I am, what I've been up to, what I think, what I've been telling people etc. Also, texting my friend in an attempt to talk to me through her to see how I feel. She showed me the texts and his final one was "it's been so nice talking to her (i.e., me) even if it's been second-hand through you" which induced a giant eye-roll from me. It seems so cowardly. Keep in mind that in a month, he had made no other attempts to contact me. If you want to speak with me, speak with ME. Don't speak through my friends.
Also, I received a letter from him in the mail last week telling me that he thinks about me every day and that he 'tortures' himself by constantly looking at my facebook. And that if I "can find it in my heart," he would greatly appreciate talking to me--that my opinion is the one that matters most to him. He apologized for how he treated me (e.g., being impatient and snappy) and that his decision "was not made without a heavy heart." The letter was only a page and what I gathered from it was he feels really bad about breaking up, has no intention of getting back together (believe me, neither do I), but would like me to make him feel better/reassure him about breaking up with him. Additionally, my friend in his band, after being cornered by him for updates about me, said it seemed like he had conjured up in his mind that I was going to break-up with him, so we was taking a preemptive strike by breaking up with me first. Which...what?!
Anyhow, his birthday was last week and I sent him a very casual and brief birthday text: "happy birthday! hope you've been well" to which he replied with a wall of text. Saying how grateful and appreciative he was for my birthday wish and asking if I had received his letter. I told him that I had, but I needed time to get back to him and that we should go for tea soon to talk. Again, he was really elated at the prospect of meeting up, so I wanted to cement that this was not a "hey let's be friends again!" meeting and texted him saying "and don't worry, none of our talk will concern getting back together--that isn't my intention."
I'm just so confused. I know he really wants me to still remain a part of his life and this individual was my best friend, and I was his, but I wouldn't keep around a friend who acted so selfishly. We built a three-year long relationship together, and he didn't consult me once when he made his decision to end it on his own. Idk, mostly posting here to vent but would also appreciate any insight.
Also curious to see what he's going to say tomorrow. Hmm.
Also curious to see what he's going to say tomorrow. Hmm.
Posted by Ixion120Posted by LibraLove
I'm just so confused. I know he really wants me to still remain a part of his life and this individual was my best friend, and I was his, but I wouldn't keep around a friend who acted so selfishly. We built a three-year long relationship together, and he didn't consult me once when he made his decision to end it on his own. Idk, mostly posting here to vent but would also appreciate any insight.
Also curious to see what he's going to say tomorrow. Hmm.
I have a question...so what if he does want to talk to you about getting back together?click to expand
Definitely will not get back together with him.
I know my worth as an individual and as a girlfriend. And by no means am I saying my worth is more or less than his--simply that he treated me as disposable and invaluable, which I know I'm not.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
OK by reading through and through, Honey your better off. This guy sounds like an insecure little weanie. Boohoo, he didn't get into grad school, and didn't find a job. I don't have a job and I don't let it get me down. I don't even have a freakin' GED and don't let it get me down. If it were me, I'd cling to you even more instead of pushing you a way. Pushing you a way to me sounds like that he has a lot of insecurities. Your a very beautiful woman by the way, and he doesn't deserve you. You do what you got to do and tell your friends, but if he's being a jerk and not asking you direct then kick his weanie ass to the curb....your a strong woman, be a strong woman and say forget it!! You can go on with out him and be okay. I have faith in you!
Awe, thanks for your kind words!
He is being a weenie, isn't he?
I know I'm fine, I'm so lucky to have incredible people around me.
But he does seem to be coming from a place of insecurity awash in pity and the latter is a big turn-off.
Posted by CluelessCancer
Wow...be easy on the fellow..i know he probably hurt you when he dumped you..but no need to get revenge...chill out..
unless of course you see yourself with someone else completely and you're willing to throw away a good three years down the toilet.
you are only 23 years old, kudos on keeping a relationship that long at your age.
When did I talk about revenge? Haha I am definitely not a vengeful person!
Especially towards someone that I love and care for.
I want the best for him, but I also want the best for myself.
He broke up with me in my final year of school, while I'm undertaking a stressful honour's research project and going through some difficult times with my family. He wasn't the only person in a vulnerable position.
So, it was a good relationship with a bad ending. And the ending revealed a great deal about him as a person. I didn't throw three years down the toilet, he did. *shrug*
I dont understand why you think he is being selfish? And since when does someone have to consult someone else when they want to break up? They just do it...sometimes you know its gonna happen and sometimes its out of the blue.
Hes going thru a hard time...He doesnt think hes worthy of you, so he ended the relationship before you would (due to him being such a disappointment...all in his head of course but still thats the way he feels). When "us" virgos are in a bad place and we feel like we arent doing the people around us any good...we push them away...sometimes for a short time, sometimes for good...depends on how long we stay in that bad state of mind. Yeah it may not be fair...but at least he told you why....and to me thats far from being selfish. IMO you are one of the lucky ones...most guys just disappear and you go thru life never knowing wtf happened.
Hes going thru a hard time...He doesnt think hes worthy of you, so he ended the relationship before you would (due to him being such a disappointment...all in his head of course but still thats the way he feels). When "us" virgos are in a bad place and we feel like we arent doing the people around us any good...we push them away...sometimes for a short time, sometimes for good...depends on how long we stay in that bad state of mind. Yeah it may not be fair...but at least he told you why....and to me thats far from being selfish. IMO you are one of the lucky ones...most guys just disappear and you go thru life never knowing wtf happened.
Posted by LibraLove
I always tried to counter his anger and snappiness with kindness which made him feel guilty and worse.
A person only has to read your history in here to find out that making him feel guilty is how you've treated him all along ..... that is, if you didn't close those threads so nobody could find the truth out about you.
Posted by LibraLove
He had unconditional love and support from me ....
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Well that's a crock of shit ....
Here's some snippets from previous threads she has made in here ...
What she says in here is a deception in that she is the one who is stringing him along and not the other way around. She is extremely long-winded, so you'd have to go read the entire saga .... but, she stated to him that she will NOT have sex with him. He replied that he really likes her and all, but, he'll have to do something because he can't go that long of a time without it.
So, in here when she's doubting his commitment to her ... it's without sex ... for FIVE MONTHS.
Posted by LibraLove
Despite the fact that we've been seeing one another for 5 months, things seem very, VERY casual and still in the preliminary (almost high school) stages of a relationship. Every time we pass a relationship milestone and become closer (a closeness that, strangely, HE initiates) he withdraws for days at a time afterwards.
I told him I'd like things to get more serious, and he told me he isn't ready for that commitment ,despite the fact that earlier, he had told me he's 'committed' to me. I don't want to be strung along and wait for him to POTENTIALLY be ready for something more serious, if down the line, it isn't going to mean squat.
What she says in here is a deception in that she is the one who is stringing him along and not the other way around. She is extremely long-winded, so you'd have to go read the entire saga .... but, she stated to him that she will NOT have sex with him. He replied that he really likes her and all, but, he'll have to do something because he can't go that long of a time without it.
So, in here when she's doubting his commitment to her ... it's without sex ... for FIVE MONTHS.
The above and this below were in October 2010 ... nearly 3 years ago.
So, she is counseled to talk to him and she does .... look at what happens !!!!
Posted by LibraLove
Alright, I spoke to him! The talk went really, REALLY well.
I approached him, led us to a nice secluded nook outside, and eased into things.
I asked him how his weekend went, knowing he'd ask about mine. When he did, I used it as an opportunity to tell him that I spent the weekend thinking about certain things I wanted to talk to him about now.
I basically told him that I'm at a place where I want ..... (here are your thoughts and how you feel)
He'd told me he's really glad I brought this up since it's so difficult for him to speak about these things, and that he knows he doesn't always show how much he likes me, but he would really like to be my boyfriend. I told him I appreciate that, but he should go home, think about it as much as he can, and then reach a decision.
So, she sits him down in a designed setting of her choice to lay her heavy feelings on him to tell him how she feels and thinks of the relationship .... then when he is glad for this because he didn't know how to approach the topic .... she shuts him down, doesn't let him speak and sends him home.
"... he should go home, think about it as much as he can, and then reach a decision."
It's here in her history, she hasn't closed any threads down ... oh it gets much worse .. check the next thing out ....
Here she makes a thread to talk about how he isn't making her feel like his top priority, he isn't putting forth the effort she needs to feel special .... and look what she says ...
Posted by LibraLove
We've been together for 10 months now and I feel like we're in a relationship slump. Neither of us have yet to exchange "I love you"s, which is kind of a relief, because I don't love him yet.
She doesn't fucking love him after 10 months ... now of course, people are allowed to love whomever they chose to. The point isn't about her choice of loving a person ...
The issue is that she's expecting him to treat her like he loves her ... when she love him.
* doesn't
.... when she doesn't love him.
.... when she doesn't love him.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Your a very beautiful woman by the way, and he doesn't deserve you.
Aren't you fucking shallow !!!
What a person deserves has nothing to do with what they look like.
There's just tons of her shit in here and how she fucks with his head ....
Posted by LibraLove
Two nights ago, it was my boyfriend's birthday. I took the trip over to his house (which takes two hours), hauling a heavy bag of gifts with a card I spent ages making for him, and helped him set up and barbecue everything before his friends arrived for his party.
After a night of drinking, he repays me by calling me last night to tell me that after I left the club we went to, he was so drunk and that even though it's no excuse, he ended up kissing another girl.
Now this is coming from a dark/bitter part of me, but the girl he kissed is quite unattractive and callous, because on several occasions, I'd been introduced to her as his girlfriend. If she had done it without any knowledge that my boyfriend was in a relationship, I think it would be slightly more forgivable; but she did it knowingly and with intent.
Here we see that she's upset with the kiss because of how the other girl looks !!
are you fucking kidding?
Secondly .... by saying this, "he repays me by" is insinuating that you helping him on his birthday party came with a contingency of repayment. You cannot say you did it with unconditional intentions if you then turn around and use your gift to him as a weapon of guilt, by implying that his (drunk) actions are inducive of a debt he is responsible for to you.
"Secondly .... by saying this, "he repays me by" is insinuating that you helping him on his birthday party came with a contingency of repayment. You cannot say you did it with unconditional intentions if you then turn around and use your gift to him as a weapon of guilt, by implying that his (drunk) actions are inducive of a debt he is responsible for to you."
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Posted by LibraLove
He called me last night crying and begging me to forgive him and not break-up, but I'm having a difficult time. The one thing I've made a point of to reiterate from the beginning of this relationship is how unforgivable I find cheating.
All he could do last night was cry and say he "fucked up" and that he loves me, but I don't know if I can compromise myself for someone who I feel has disrespected both me and our relationship.
First of all, at this point you should know him well enough to know if he's too fucking drunk to maintain himself. Not saying it's your fault that he got that drunk ... saying you should know how he behaves this drunk.
Kissing is not cheating ... however painful .... then ... the very next post you say this ....
Posted by LibraLove
University starts tomorrow and I'm in classes with 3 of his friends, and granted how close-knit they all are, I know word has already gotten around. I don't want my first day to be peppered with awkward exchanges and sympathetic questions because people feel sorry for me or want to know what happened. And I certainly don't want to be known as the idiot who stayed with her cheating boyfriend.
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That means you fucking told all of his friends .... this drunk episode was the night before, and now, the next day ... you made sure to tell all of the people that your was a cheater, when in fact, he didn't cheat at all .... he got drunk and made an ass out of himself. But, he didn't cheat.
He called you crying, upset for being a fool, and apologizing ..... and YOU ran your fucking mouth, in telling people (HIS FRIENDS) what he did in a drunken stupor, and not only told them, you lied to them, in making them think he's a cheater ... when he's not (based off of a kiss).
I meant "consult" as in bring up these issues to give me some form of indication that he was having doubts or feeling unworthy.
And his "I don't deserve you" is essentially as insincere as "it's not you, it's me" in my eyes.
I just came here to vent--I don't know why some people on the Virgo boards are always so combative and defensive. I'm not even going to attempt to reason with someone of the absurdly warped interpretations of what I said in this thread.
But it certainly reaffirms for me that most of you are NOT my type.
Bye, lovers/haters.
And his "I don't deserve you" is essentially as insincere as "it's not you, it's me" in my eyes.
I just came here to vent--I don't know why some people on the Virgo boards are always so combative and defensive. I'm not even going to attempt to reason with someone of the absurdly warped interpretations of what I said in this thread.
But it certainly reaffirms for me that most of you are NOT my type.
Bye, lovers/haters.
You wanted insight...people gave it to you.
instead of being ignorant...you could say thanks!
but good luck with that princess mentality 🙂
instead of being ignorant...you could say thanks!
but good luck with that princess mentality 🙂
She's so full of shit .... she's been fucking with him since day one.
She is so long-winded, there is no way I could post it all ... but, at the beginning of the relationship, after like 2 months or so .... she tells him that she's a virgin and will only have sex with a guy she trusts.
He then begins to bend over backwards trying to earn her trust ... she still doesn't fuck him.
That's using sex as a weapon ....
She's a fucking cunt ... there's no doubt about that.
Then when she tells him she won't fuck him because she has to trust him first (which is after 2 months) .... then she pressures him for a commitment, then when he tells her that he can't do it, that something else will have to happen because he can't go that long being affectionate and close to her in a intimate relationship without having sex ..... her reaction to that is to then accuse him of not being faithful to her, and that if he truly wanted her then he should be able to wait without any relief.
::: shakes head :::
She obviously thinks she's a princess
Posted by CluelessCancer
In whose world is Kissing not considered cheating?
That's ridiculous.
In the world I came from. Where I've been to. And where I am now.
If you know each other, you kiss each other. After hello and goodbye.
Posted by P-Angel
She's so full of shit .... she's been fucking with him since day one.
She is so long-winded, there is no way I could post it all ... but, at the beginning of the relationship, after like 2 months or so .... she tells him that she's a virgin and will only have sex with a guy she trusts.
He then begins to bend over backwards trying to earn her trust ... she still doesn't fuck him.
That's using sex as a weapon ....
She's a fucking cunt ... there's no doubt about that.
Then when she tells him she won't fuck him because she has to trust him first (which is after 2 months) .... then she pressures him for a commitment, then when he tells her that he can't do it, that something else will have to happen because he can't go that long being affectionate and close to her in a intimate relationship without having sex ..... her reaction to that is to then accuse him of not being faithful to her, and that if he truly wanted her then he should be able to wait without any relief.
::: shakes head :::
She obviously thinks she's a princess
OP, I think you should read this.
Then ....
... we find out that he never even kissed another girl.
So, it appears that the moment she caught wind of "gossip" ... she turned on him, and attempted to smear his character by telling his friends, and other University students.
Posted by LibraLove
... he tried to deduce what happened the night of his birthday because he, himself, didn't remember so when someone else told him he had kissed another girl, he assumed it to be true.
To make certain, though, he contacted this person to further investigate the matter. When he did, this individual said that THEY never personally saw my bf kiss anybody but were told by someone else that it happened.
As a final attempt to clear up the matter, my bf even contacted the 'touchy-feely' girl and asked what happened. According to her, she and my bf never kissed.
... we find out that he never even kissed another girl.
So, it appears that the moment she caught wind of "gossip" ... she turned on him, and attempted to smear his character by telling his friends, and other University students.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by UndinePosted by CluelessCancer
In whose world is Kissing not considered cheating?
That's ridiculous.
In the world I came from. Where I've been to. And where I am now.
If you know each other, you kiss each other. After hello and goodbye.
that's a different culture, but how do you keep the herpes epidemic down doing that? gross.
in my culture, my world, my mind, if my man kisses another girl, that's cheating, i would hope he would think the same if i did it as well.
kissing is an intimate act.click to expand
So you never had cold sores...? Herpes simplex is not the end of the world. Everyone has it in Europe.
e OP, it's clear to me that you weren't a partner to him .... rather he was a tool you used to get attention from, because ....
Posted by LibraLove
... he wasn't able to get into grad school and couldn't find work either, both of which contributed to him falling into a gradual depression. He always felt very ashamed of this ....
He was extremely sensitive to me bringing this up and seemed offended any time I attempted to help him find work
.... certainly after 3 years of being exclusive with someone, you would already know HOW he expresses his emotions ... afterall, a Virgo to express is few and far between, so it's not like you couldn't recognize an emotional sentiment ... yet ...
Posted by LibraLove
The night he broke up with me, I had no idea he was going to do it. There was no indication before-hand. I had even gone to a local show of his band's the night before. He started out by saying he feels like a leech in the relationship and that he doesn't deserve me right now. That he's in a really weird place in his life and too depressed.
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You had no clue?
He said, "That he's in a really weird place in his life and too depressed." ..
and after 3 years, you didn't know that ^^^^^^^^^^^^
It's all here, right there between the lines, where deceptions reside
Posted by LibraLove
I tried to tell him repeatedly how this is a transitional period in our lives and so many of our friends are experiencing the same hardships of finding a career rather than a job. That nobody but himself thinks less of him, and since we're all going through this, there's a shared realm of understanding among all of us. Despite this, he continued to put an insurmountable degree of pressure on himself with unrealistic goals which made him slip further into his depression when he was unable to reach them. This in turn made him become distant and also snappy towards me. However, because I understood what a vulnerable period this was for him, I always tried to counter his anger and snappiness with kindness which made him feel guilty and worse. Even though I knew this was a weak moment in his life, I saw it as just that...a moment. One that I would stand by him and that would eventually pass. We still spent a great deal of time together and he continued to tell me he loves me, though more sparingly.
Again from the OP ^^^^^^ ................
You make yourself sound so understanding, this special and loving partner who only wants the best for him, that will stand by him unconditionally ... it's all for show though because ... I know full well that for the fact that he dismissed you, means you weren't any of those things.
If you were all that ... you wouldn't have been dismissed from a Virgo.
A Virgo does NOT make rash decisions and certainly not ones that involve their heart (which they believe they are supposed to keep locked up) ... there's no fucking way he would break up with a supportive, understanding and caring woman ... just like that *snap ..... if she was indeed all those things you said in the quote above.
You're so full of shit
Posted by P-Angel
.... she tells him that she's a virgin and will only have sex with a guy she trusts.
That's wrong ^^^
I just went back and re-read it, and that's not what she said, she said ..... she's a virgin and will only trust having sex unless in a commitment.
Posted by LibraLove
Anyhow, I didn't fight him. I never once told him he's making a mistake, that he ought to think this over etc. I simply said I still love and respect him, that I respect his decision, and if he ever needs to talk, I'm there.
He cried during it and I didn't, mostly because I was in shock. He added we shouldn't remain in contact for some time, and again, I respected his decision.
I've been doing just fine since then, which was about a month and a bit ago.
Meanwhile, he didn't tell ANYONE but his best friend that we broke up so not only did I have to update all of my friends, but his as well.
wtf?
just another day in the park ..... nothing to it, just non-chalantly say 'okey dokey' right?
Meanwhile, you rush to your social network cause you've got new gossip !!
Goddam all of you in here who has stated that this guy is less .... if you all care to read her saga, you will find out that he is very sentimental towards her, and talks about how sad he is ... while she only talks about herself.
Posted by RomancingA
she only takes pictures of herself in a certain light and frame/direction.
I came out of hibernation just to say this......
Hahahahah
Some of you are so sad and delusional.
You only have pics of snippets of yourself from weird, pseudo-artsy (but in reality lame) angles. It's the fastest way to let the internet know you're ugly.
And I'm not aboriginal, I'm Middle Eastern, you uncultured swine.
Also, I met with him yesterday and it was a very good meeting.
He said he fucked up and really regrets his decision. That he wouldn't have made the decision if he were in a more stable position. I told him I can be there for him 100% as a friend, but can't be there for him ever again as a gf because I can't trust that the next time he goes through a difficult time he won't make another rash decision that hurts me.
We talked for five hours and it was really therapeutic since he hasn't spoken to anybody else. He needed to purge a lot of repressed feelings.
After he texted me and said he was so happy and appreciative we met and it's the best he's felt in a long time. That made me happy! 🙂
He said he fucked up and really regrets his decision. That he wouldn't have made the decision if he were in a more stable position. I told him I can be there for him 100% as a friend, but can't be there for him ever again as a gf because I can't trust that the next time he goes through a difficult time he won't make another rash decision that hurts me.
We talked for five hours and it was really therapeutic since he hasn't spoken to anybody else. He needed to purge a lot of repressed feelings.
After he texted me and said he was so happy and appreciative we met and it's the best he's felt in a long time. That made me happy! 🙂
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by LibraLovePosted by RomancingA
she only takes pictures of herself in a certain light and frame/direction.
I came out of hibernation just to say this......
Hahahahah
Some of you are so sad and delusional.
You only have pics of snippets of yourself from weird, pseudo-artsy (but in reality lame) angles. It's the fastest way to let the internet know you're ugly.
And I'm not aboriginal, I'm Middle Eastern, you uncultured swine.
Where from? Curious.click to expand
Thanks for your earlier post.
And I'm of Iranian descent. 🙂
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by LibraLove
Also, I met with him yesterday and it was a very good meeting.
He said he fucked up and really regrets his decision. That he wouldn't have made the decision if he were in a more stable position. I told him I can be there for him 100% as a friend, but can't be there for him ever again as a gf because I can't trust that the next time he goes through a difficult time he won't make another rash decision that hurts me.
We talked for five hours and it was really therapeutic since he hasn't spoken to anybody else. He needed to purge a lot of repressed feelings.
After he texted me and said he was so happy and appreciative we met and it's the best he's felt in a long time. That made me happy! 🙂
That's sweet. You're able to let him go that easily, how can you say you loved him? Or do you just love yourself more?
where's that smart kid XION when you need him. What does this all mean NEO?
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Of course I love him!
Subjectively, I want to get back together with him.
Objectively, however, I know it isn't the right decision for me.
If I get back into a relationship with somebody I don't trust, I'm coming into with insecurity. In particular, insecurities that he'll break up with me again or make a sudden decision that really hurts me again. That insecurity and lack of trust can swell into resentment and that's a really hostile environment and wobbly foundation to try to rebuild a relationship upon.
Thanks, virg_goki 🙂
So glad I have P-Angel on ignore.
This person must possess a pretty serious mental illness.
They feel compelled to attack a 23 year-old and scour my posts for faults so they can help make their own clearly destitute existence seem a sliver better.
*shrug*
So glad I have P-Angel on ignore.
This person must possess a pretty serious mental illness.
They feel compelled to attack a 23 year-old and scour my posts for faults so they can help make their own clearly destitute existence seem a sliver better.
*shrug*
Posted by RomancingA
Just seen who's graced their presence on the thread.....and I retract.
Ughhh no thanks!!
As for the OP...you are much like all other self involved women that come to air laundry about their virgos, claim heartbreak and insist upon being a victim....you were not seeking advice. Between what you perceive as insults there is advice but you choose to feel threatened rather than learning from ones perceived enemy. Its so small minded it hurts to imagine how you pay your bills.....
I guess it doesn't matter what I've said....I don't have a cock and therefore I'm a bitch that is only set on triffling with you?? Correct?
Also stating someone is ugly because they choose not to pull all their best shots from instagram to gain attention, is very shallow.
I don't get what your posting about. Its ok over and he has no wishes to get back together with you, he's seeking a sign of forgiveness. Even without giving it he has and will cont to move on. Its a closed opprotunity....FIN!
Are you illiterate in addition to being stupid as well, RomancingA?
I already wrote that he feels he fucked up and regrets his decision (i.e., would like to get back together).
However, I feel the best decision for both of us is to steer clear of that.
What advice did you exactly offer other than passively-aggressively coming at me? Sorry, but when someone tries to offer "advice" at me offensively I'll respond defensively. I don't know how you expect to act like a total bitch and anticipate I grovel and thank you for your post. Hahahah do people on these boards not see how absolutely ludicrous some of the things they post are!? Don't try to playoff being a bitch as being "honest" either. There's a difference between being honest and being a straight-up wench. You came attacking my looks before I ever said anything about yours when there was NO relevant input regarding them. More of a reflection on how shallow YOU are than me.
And what the hell do you know about how I pay my bills? So presumptive. And if you ask me, thinking somebody is beneath you is about as self-involved and narrow-minded as it gets.
Posted by VirgoFlirtPosted by LibraLove
The night he broke up with me, I had no idea he was going to do it. There was no indication before-hand. I had even gone to a local show of his band's the night before. He started out by saying he feels like a leech in the relationship and that he doesn't deserve me right now. That he's in a really weird place in his life and too depressed.
# Usually it never is any indicators of a breakup - teen years to about 25 years of age from a virgo. Often times the female is left looking dumb founded as hell and wondering what did I do to cause it. The answer to that is usually not a thing. Yea sounds stupid but, you'll never get a true answer out of mr virgo, because he wants to leave you longing for more, so he can have you later on because females fall for this shit all the time. Because you never got your 'why' answer, the female always go back to mr virgo just to see if she will get her answer.
#
I felt I was at least owed more than two sentences as an explanation for the disintegration of a 3 year relationship. I asked if he didn't love me or find me attractive anymore and he said "no, no, no it has nothing to do with that." So I tried to run through other explanations, none of which aligned with why he was breaking up with me.
# Like I said above, you will not get an explanation and if you do it will be made up crap just to hush you. It's done so it eats at your soul, always has you thinking about it.
so not only did I have to update all of my friends, but his as well. Which is so peculiar. Why wouldn't he tell anyone?? You broke up with me! Why is the onus on me to inform everybody?
# Simple: To make you look like the fool and make it your 'fault'.
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Thank you for your insight.
I already anticipated I wouldn't get the answers I was looking for, but meeting with him still helped a lot. At least I got to cement to him that we won't be getting back together now or in the future because of his decision and he shouldn't hope for that. But we can certainly remain a part of each others' lives.
RomancingA, stop posting in this thread. You have nothing helpful to add and are just spewing negativity.
You're ignorant and don't even have the capacity to read my posts properly so the "advice" you do add is warped and misleading.
I'm allowed to post here to vent. Writing and having others read what you write is a form of therapy, and if you're too close-minded to realize that a forum is a realm for discussion and sharing, then YOU'RE in the wrong place not me.
Anyhow, you're going on ignore because there is nothing more I need to hear from such a nothing person. 🙂
You're ignorant and don't even have the capacity to read my posts properly so the "advice" you do add is warped and misleading.
I'm allowed to post here to vent. Writing and having others read what you write is a form of therapy, and if you're too close-minded to realize that a forum is a realm for discussion and sharing, then YOU'RE in the wrong place not me.
Anyhow, you're going on ignore because there is nothing more I need to hear from such a nothing person. 🙂
Posted by RomancingA
So now you're going to tell people where they can post lol?? Why? Because I made all of your points invalid?
For the record I was very helpfull....it just wasn't what you wanted to hear lol.
I am also allowed to post here :-) to vent....to share.....to write....to read....to conduct theories on stories shared lol.
Somehow I'm a "nothing" persom because I don't feed you your baby food responses? I really don't care what someone like you thinks....how could I care? Its the internet my dear tard....grow up! Don't post your crap if you cant handle a response that requires you to think.
+ infinity!
CluelessCancer-I know. Very annoying! There's no point engaging with such sad, ignorant, needlessly malicious people.
KingVirgo- I wish anyone who has to post alongside these low-life, salty bitches the best.
😉
KingVirgo- I wish anyone who has to post alongside these low-life, salty bitches the best.
😉
Wow this is so hard to follow, I just want to know why it matters who she told or y this is even being analyzed! Lets get to the point he broke up with her, she made it known thy were no longer together y the Virgo sat at home not knowing if he made the right decision, n over thinking it to death!
Don't get me wrong tho, I love a thinker! Virgos r complex n intriguing to me! But also a super pain in my ass! Just say anything virgos, n say it to the one who deserves it!
Mr Defense: I always wonder why people think Libras and Virgos are good matches for each other.
It's not a good match at all --> Libra Woman & Virgo Man. But, I have seen Libra Man & Virgo Woman work well.
Yeah, Libra Women are way too much DRAMA for the average Virgo Man. Been there, done that, and bailed out.
Sorry Ladies, but we don't fart rainbows & unicorns.
Posted by ShakenNotStirred
Sorry Ladies, but we don't fart rainbows & unicorns.
LOL - That's ^^ funny 🙂
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