Virgo disapeared after sex :( (Page 2)

Posted by VirgoVixxxen



Did you ever try and initiate conversation with her? Get to know her better? If so, how did she respond?

yeah i initiated, i'm extroverted. i'm friends with her and her husband still

i initiated by way of similar interests, see what she becomes activated to in order to categorise her as water element. it was convenient that her birthday was coming up at the time so deduced her as cancer. over the months i noticed she had a real concern about her pear body shape. i dont think she even realises now that i really specialise in body shape design after all these years haha. but i feel i should have offered to help her feel good about her body to gain her trust and let her be more comfortable. talking about personality without addressing her body shape insecurity wasnt as efficient as if i did address it before talking about personality. even though personality is so much more important

last night i met up with some friends that me and this dooshbad have in common. somehow the topic of hooking up came into the conversation and i said i hadnt since the last time with the doosh ...they couldnt believe i had hooked up with him and told me that he is a womanizer is always going after anything that has a p*&% $ and has never had a relationship. these are people he grew up with so they know him the best prob. i felt ashamed and still feel regret that i fell into one of his traps like all the other women..no wonder why he was so awful at sex ...he might have been a virgin since he dates a million women then finds a fault in them and continues to seek perfection. next time i will wait till i know somebody better.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen



Did you ever try and initiate conversation with her? Get to know her better? If so, how did she respond?

yeah i initiated, i'm extroverted. i'm friends with her and her husband still

i initiated by way of similar interests, see what she becomes activated to in order to categorise her as water element. it was convenient that her birthday was coming up at the time so deduced her as cancer. over the months i noticed she had a real concern about her pear body shape. i dont think she even realises now that i really specialise in body shape design after all these years haha. but i feel i should have offered to help her feel good about her body to gain her trust and let her be more comfortable. talking about personality without addressing her body shape insecurity wasnt as efficient as if i did address it before talking about personality. even though personality is so much more important

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So she's married now.

Well, you had your opportunity to offer help. Why you didn't I don't know?

My apologies but I had to LOL just a little @ "pear shape".

I have this strange feeling he will turn up when you least expect it. When he does let us know. Im dying to know! And he better make it up to you bigtime!

Posted by cupcake123456
last night i met up with some friends that me and this dooshbad have in common. somehow the topic of hooking up came into the conversation and i said i hadnt since the last time with the doosh ...they couldnt believe i had hooked up with him and told me that he is a womanizer is always going after anything that has a p*&% $ and has never had a relationship. these are people he grew up with so they know him the best prob. i felt ashamed and still feel regret that i fell into one of his traps like all the other women..no wonder why he was so awful at sex ...he might have been a virgin since he dates a million women then finds a fault in them and continues to seek perfection. next time i will wait till i know somebody better.

you should expose the prick. go tell him off, it will make you feel better

Posted by VirgoVixxxen


So she's married now.

Well, you had your opportunity to offer help. Why you didn't I don't know?

My apologies but I had to LOL just a little @ "pear shape".

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yeah she's married, but its not a big loss. i think she would be too nervous to accept help because then i would really see her pear shaped body. some women do have big hips and thighs but small bust. its not at all bad when you're up close, but you girls pride yourself in looks. cancers are sensitive

lol...well i will keep you guys posted on whether i ever see him again but if i do see him i dont think ill be telling him off lol...prob just ignore him keep it short ya know but im nto expecting to ever see him again in my life

Wow, the blame can't be on him. Yes, Virgo's are very picky and being the fact that you slept with him the first night could have given him the impression that you would sleep with someone else just as quickly. I'm not judging you or anything like that but regardless if a man is a womanizer, immature or whatever they will always test you to see what kind of woman you are. So he really didn't do anything wrong to you at all.

yeah i understand that but i just wish he was mature about it and told me instead of saying that he was busy and that we would see eachother as virgos are suppose to be so honest i think if that turned him off he should have told me so is all..save me the suffering. we are mature adults

should i send him a message asking how his last concert went? i just really want to talk to him

Posted by cupcake123456
should i send him a message asking how his last concert went? i just really want to talk to him

It doesn't sound like a good idea. If it has been a few months since you've heard from him, then it's a wrap. I'm not trying to sound harsh because I can see you really like the guy, but he wasn't that interested in you. A man of any sign is not going to distance himself from someone he's interested in. There's other fish in the sea, so take your pick when the right time comes. 🙂

we do distance ourselves from women we are interested in sometimes. there is this woman that is sinfully hot, would like to get to know her better because her personality seems nice too. but i feel she would be more suited for a friend. problem is this friend is the bf of another friend who is friends with this sinful-body woman haha. i want to dip my finger in the cake but i'm kind of questioning if i should or not haha

@ cupcake, I don't know why you would even want him after his sex was wack. Seriously? If a guys sex is wack I wouldn't want shit to do with him (the virgo that I am). I was in your situation once. Slept with someone really early on, but he didn't do that to me. He kept in contact with me often. Even when I didn't see him he kept in contact with me and when I wanted to see him, he didn't blow me off ever. I remember when we didn't see each other for a month in a half, we still found our way to each other some how. I don't know about your situation though. DO NOT CALL HIM EVER. If you are calling him 90% of the time, girl give up the ghost...you don't ever contact a man more than he contacts you. EVER. If a man really wants you, he will come for you. It doesn't matter what his sign is, he's a man first and if he's interested he'll come around...if not fuck him up the ass with a broken bottle and K.I.M. (keep it moving)There are too many men out there girl...please.

i know but i really liked him and when u really like someone sex doesnt matter...
i know i am pathetic and i need to get over it but i just went the first month thinking he would call me since he said he would and i spent all that time looking forward to seeing him again then after awhile realized maybe its not going to happen and i cant seem to get over it...some days i feel normal but other days i cant stop thinking about what i might have done wrong and i continually beat myself up about it and wonder if i hadnt slept with him maybe we could have been together right now cuz i know he really liked me...its getting bad i think i need to see a therapist...i dont know how someone could do this to me. i dont ever get like this over a guy and its getting so bad im having sleeping problems. its just hard when i think that there will never be another chance to see or talk to him when we had such a good time together and i know that he felt the same because told me..i feel tortured . and i did meet another guy last weekend. he is nice and attractive but im not interested in him because i cant stop thinking about this asshole

Yeah I understand exactly what you mean. I'm feeling the same way about the guy that I mentioned. He were doing great (so I thought) and then BOOM! We both just stopped contacting each other. Yeah I miss him like hell & it's challenging for me that I don't see him anymore but do you think I'm going to chase his ass down & ask him why? HELL 2 DA NO!!!! I'm too good for that dumb shit. If he don't call oh fucken well...GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I know it's hard but you have to do it. A therapist? Come on girl damn...it's NOT that serious AT ALL. You're kinda scaring me a litte there...you don't plan on harming yourself...over a fucken man? Be realistic, you will meet someone else, just like you said someone nice and attractive? Hell you should at least go out with him to see if you guys will hit it off, I sure as hell would. Yeah I still think about that guy but I date other people. You should go out with him. BTW, how long were you seeing him? Were you available to him all the time? and call him all the time?

we were talking for 2 weeks and then went out on this date and then talked for one week after the sex. i never called him. i sent him 2 messages on facebook asking to hang out. the first time we made plans but then he called me the day before and asked me to go to a movie and i did. the second time i asked him and he never responded...which was a month after the first time we hung out. we had been talking through messages on facebook just conversating but i only asked him to hang out 2 times because i dont like talking over facebook i would rather hang out with a person

i also thought i should ask him to hang out after the second time we hung out since he fucked up my bathroom and came so soon i thought maybe he was embarrassed so i waited 2 weeks and asked him and he said he was really busy but that we would see eachother and then never called or messaged. then i asked him a month later if he wanted to do something and he didnt answer. i guess that was too much contact.

Just leave him the hell alone. Move on. I know its hard but you have to. Just like I said before, IF A MAN WANTS YOU...HE'S COMING FOR YOU AND NOTHING IN THIS WORLD WILL KEEP HIM FROM YOU...Trust me. Glue that in your head and make it adhere...If a guy is not doing that, you have to forget him.

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It's not about "too much contact".. it's about.. he's clearly no longer interested, for whatever reason. Maybe he's embarrassed, maybe he was just after sex, maybe he met another girl he likes better and SHE'S the one he's pursuing... cuz clearly, he's not pursuing you. Think hard.. has there ever been a guy you liked at first, but just didn't click with? Then he kept calling, trying to see you.. maybe only every couple weeks, but still.. so you were nice to him, but kinda vague.. never really made solid plans to see him or followed through on saying you'd hang out again? You weren't MAD at him for calling. You just.. weren't that interested in seeing him. Even if he wasn't a bad guy or anything. Maybe there was a guy you liked better, maybe you were just busy with school or work. Whatever it was, you just didn't FEEL like spending any more time with him. You're "that guy" now.

Try to not take it so personal that you let it wreck you. I know, I know.. Nature and biology screws women.. seriously.. certain hormones are released (like oxytocin) and literally EMOTIONALLY BOND a woman.. happens during sex with a man (and even during breastfeeding a baby)... but it doesn't work the same for him, there are no hormones that BOND HIM! That's why it's probably better for MOST women to wait until she's truly comfortable and committed with a man to have sex... hey, I'm all for gettin' jiggy wit it, and I don't judge a woman on her sex life... but unless she JUST wants sex without attachment and can HANDLE it (most women can't.. it's those damn hormones!).. she might find herself sleeping with a man "too soon" (for her own emotions and the way she deals with sex and relationships) and getting bonded to him, but he vanishes and leaves her distraught and confused.

This is what happened to you.. you BONDED to him, and now that you've had sex (and bonded) with him, you want to make it a relationship. Problem is.. he's not down for that, clearly. And there is NOTHING you can do to change that (just like Nice Guy couldn't change YOUR mind by trying harder!) Take the memories, and go on with your life. There are more guys out there, even a guy you'll like way better who will WANT to be with you!

*looks up.. MAN, I ♥ dreamer23✨

Posted by dreamer23

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Just leave him the hell alone. Move on. I know its hard but you have to. Just like I said before, IF A MAN WANTS YOU...HE'S COMING FOR YOU AND NOTHING IN THIS WORLD WILL KEEP HIM FROM YOU...Trust me. Glue that in your head and make it adhere...If a guy is not doing that, you have to forget him.

^^True, so true. And its not like you haven't tried reaching out to him. As women, sometimes we want to write a story to make ourselves feel better. Hes busy, he is running from his feelings..blah blah..when 99% of the time its as simple as he is not checkin for you.

Sure it would be nice if he was mature enough to be honest, and maybe he's embarrassed that he SUCKED in bed..but at the end of the day, for whatever reason, he is not interested. Don't play yourself. His rejection of you has nothing to do with your worth. Don't let your mind go there, beating yourself up, wondering why he doesn't think your good enough to be his gf or whatever. Acknowledge that he hurt your feelings and that you're disappointed - and move on.

Not saying you did this, but next time you sleep with someone be sure you're doing it because YOU want to, for the pleasure of it, and not because you hope it will lead to something. Thats when you betray yourself. Because if it goes awry, then you are bitter, hurt, and regretful. But if you make a conscious decision to do it because you simply WANT to and it doesnt work out, sure you may be disappointed, but you wont feel used and its easier to let it go. If that makes sense to you.

Dont give him another thought. Besides, who wants to be with someone who would treat them that way - and who's wack in the sack! NEXT!!

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You are right too. I felt that way too but hell I would be damned if I'm going to sweat somebody who's not thinking about me. He can go staight to hell cause I aint checking for you either bro!!!! I do think he is embarrassed because he's wack because I know a guy who did that same shit. He was in love with this woman and the minute they TRIED to have sex...TRIED, he was all weird afterwards and they didn't speak at all after that so you're right, that can be a factor. Also you have to understand that virgos are mutuable signs and if you act a certain way...so do we.

Soul twins.. girl, we better check and make sure we weren't separated at birth and adopted out! 😉

Posted by dreamer23
You are right too. I felt that way too but hell I would be damned if I'm going to sweat somebody who's not thinking about me. He can go staight to hell cause I aint checking for you either bro!!!! I do think he is embarrassed because he's wack because I know a guy who did that same butter. He was in love with this woman and the minute they TRIED to have sex...TRIED, he was all weird afterwards and they didn't speak at all after that so you're right, that can be a factor. Also you have to understand that virgos are mutuable signs and if you act a certain way...so do we.

You seem like a strong woman, with attitude 🙂 For most, these lessons are learned over time, with age and experience. She seems young. She'll catch on. 🙂

Thanks!!! :-) Yeah...aint nothing like bumping your head more than once to get the damn picture!!! Oh yeah, she'll get it.

Were do you guys get the smileys from! I try to get them on my computer but they only come out like this :-)I want a smiley face!!! :{

*where

🙂 Thanks!!!!!

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Also you have to understand that virgos are mutuable signs and if you act a certain way...so do we.

Posted by cupcake123456
What does this mean:
Also you have to understand that virgos are mutuable signs and if you act a certain way...so do we.

Liable or subject to change or alteration. Given to changing; constantly changing; fickle or inconstant.

well i still havent heard from him. ive been doing ok but yesterday i decided to delete him from my facebook so i can forget about him totally. i hope if one day he tries to contact me he wont think im immature but i guess at this rate he wont ever be contacting me