Virgo friendship with cancer.

What would you virgos find difficult and easy when dealing with cancers. What do you love and what do you not love as much about them? I'm writing a novel(no, I don't have publishing deals or anything - just writing.) and I am searching for new angles in the dynamics of the friendship between one male character that I imagine being essentially a virgo and one that I imagine being essentially a male cancer.

Don't worry, they are the good guys, but they still have flaws. I would really appreciate any input!

Posted by HappyCapper
What would you virgos find difficult and easy when dealing with cancers. What do you love and what do you not love as much about them? I'm writing a novel(no, I don't have publishing deals or anything - just writing.) and I am searching for new angles in the dynamics of the friendship between one male character that I imagine being essentially a virgo and one that I imagine being essentially a male cancer.

Don't worry, they are the good guys, but they still have flaws. I would really appreciate any input!

The Good: They care alot/very attentive, the best nurtures, very loving, great friendship, and will always have ur back no matter what.

The Bad: They care TOO much, too emotional/moody at times, the "martyr" attitude, they smother too much (personally don't care for the "attached at the hip" trait...I'm very big on space and freedom, but some other people may not mind this latter trait as much).

I love them though.....the good and the bad...LOL!

Eehh

They are too sensitive its hard to talk about serious matters when all they will do is get mad/offended/hurt.
they can change their mind from one day to another. If you dont agree they will think your too negative..

They can take any small insignificant thing and make a whole conversation out of it. they can be great conversationalist when they feel like it.
they are like climbing mt.everest when it comes to getting real close and comfortable I like the challenge.

Good: they show up, nurturing, they can be very good friends, very loyal, loving nature, great sense of humor, charming.

Bad: overbearing, emotional games, sensitive, defensive, can't be talked out of their funk, overly concerned, can have control issues.

Sort of learning about them now,

Thank you all for your responses - this is really helping!

And also:

Cancer - being a cardinal sign - are usually seen as the initiator. Would this be true in the cancer- virgo dynamics too?

And

Who, would you say, are more curious about things(in general) of the two?

I realise that I may have been a bit unclear. When I wrote initiator, I meant it in a general sense.

Thank you all for your assistance! It's been really helpful! 🙂

Many of my Cancer friends are far more emotional and moody than I am, and this causes some conflicts. If I see that one of them is sad, I offer to talk with them and, if they want my company, I give it wholeheartedly. Criticizing doesn't help, so I curb my critical tendencies to be a more effective communicator. Rather than tell my Cancer friends how to handle a situation, I encourage them to come up with solutions on their own, see what suits them best, and often ask, "What would make this situation better?" They tend to be creative, and solving their own problems gives them a better sense of security, which they need to feel comfortable.

However, if my Cancer friends want to be left alone, I know well enough to respect their space. Cancers can be rather defensive if they are approached when they need their private time because they don't like to be vulnerable. I have butted into a few problems that my closest Cancer friend has tried dealing with and, understandably, it absolutely infuriated her. She understood that I only wanted to help, though, and appreciated that my methods were effective; forgiveness came fast.

In a nutshell:

Cancers are inclined to think with their hearts while Virgos have an inclination of thinking with their head. When creating a solution, a balance must be created between emotions and rational logic. Sometimes, Virgos will trespass into territory where they do not belong simply because they want to assist their friend, no matter the cost, and Cancers do not usually welcome this interference.

P.S. I'm also writing a novel and incorporating astrology into the creation of my characters and their relationships; I like your approach!

Again, really greatful for all your answers; they help a lot!


@spiritedcuriosities
Thanks, and good luck with your novel! 🙂

Heyy, I couldnt agree more with everyone on virgo traits ! lol too accurate !

@WEEDS - Are you a virgo yourself ? like everything u said is so rleatable, Its so true about my guy!

@Lovelyisis - LOL spot on !

@HappyCapper - Well ok so i ll tell you from my own experience, like my guys bestie is a cancerian girl, They are usually on good terms, happy in each others company, like to tease each other a lot, casual nitpickin, jokes and stuff but sometimes there's a super clash of egos, They are both super sensitive to words and reactions, He doesnt know when he can hurt her without him knowing and she takes his words as a bullet gettin through her skull. she s quick to react and wont initiate until he's being super sorry, he would have no clue as to what has pushed her away until i tell him that its his flat out sarcasm. But he ll never make an appology infact he ll realize a few hrs later and eventually call her and start pickin on her and crack jokes untill shes back to normal.

But if there's serious conflict goin on then my virgo guy would never initiate! he ll keep on thinkin or he ll stop thinkin, one of the two things happen in his case and if fortunately its effecting him then he ll gradually accept his fault and initiate a conversation. While on the other hand she is too stubborn that she can wait forever or too sensitive to move on ! I've made them patch up occasionally, its like the two needs someone to convince them that after all they are frends!

relatable *

they have alot of patience for us.
bur cancers are too emotional for virgo, but somehow it works out...