Virgo guys, help! :(

Virgo boyfriend says he loves me and doesn't want me out of his life but needs space...?


so there, I agreed to him. I gave him space...we dont see each other. But he calls me and texts me everyday...and wants me to call and text him too so we know our whereabouts. He said he loves me and he doesn't want our relationship to end. He said maybe this is just a phase..he doesn't know either..all he knows is he loves me and doesnt wanna leave me. But im confused...im thinking if i text or call him, he might get used to this thing...like a floating status..I told him that and he said NO it won't. He said he just like it this way for the mean time...but he is also scared..because he thinks that if he continue this, he might lose me. So now im confused. I love him and i want to try my best to make this work. But i dont know what to do now. Should i text and call him like he wants to? because he calls and text me his whereabouts all the time...like nothing's wrong...but we don't see each other. so what do i do now? VIRGO GUYS PLEASE HELP ME. will we be okay?

*we've been together for 2 years

help guys...

How old are you two? DO you live together? Are you both going places in life? (educated, holding down a good job or one on the horizon?) What the hell happened prior to him taking a break? Gonna need some more to chew on.

Nothing like having your cake and eat it too, huh? He can have you on a short leash, and do what he wants. Typical virgo behavior..

He's telling her exactly where he is and what he's doing quote unquote all the time. To me this is covering his @ss from suspected cheating while he makes his mental amends. Just because he's taking some time to decide what he wants in life he's a typical Virgo? Well I heard all Cancers have small p3nises or gaping vajayjays.

As it always is. All of these start out, "What's his problem?" And end up, "Ah I see what I was doing to cause this"

Okay, here's what happened. Last two weeks ago, we were very okay. he even had plans of going out of town this coming Valentine's day. We get to see each other on weekends. he always picks me up every friday night after my shift and then go to his place to spend the whole weekend there and then Monday morning i will go back to work. My place is far from his...like 2hrs. We were very okay that weekend..we did the usual stuff that we do, watch movies, dine out, everything's fine. He has a carwash business and a buy and sell business by the way. His coldness started after that weekend. MONDAY---I know he was busy that day but most of the time he really is but still manages to call and text me. well he did called and texted me but not as much as he usually does and when I called him, I felt he's uninterested to talk to me. But i let it passed. TUESDAY--samething happened. So i got mad at him and asked him what's his problem but he said none..just busy. WEDNESDAY--I still felt something's bothering him but everytime i ask him, he says none. So i got mad again..and went back to sleep. When i woke up, I saw his msg on my fon saying "you dont have to worry about anything, im just stressed lately because of the car that i bought blah blah...I love you, goodnight" So i replied "That's just what i wanted to hear..i love you" THURSDAY---we were kinda okay...i asked him about pickung me up on Friday because that's what he usually does. He said he can't because he has something to do..then i said it's okay, Ill just wait for you at your house. But he said, ill just pick you up on saturday. I got really mad. I was a bit paranoid. I told him, "for the whole week we were fighting and im looking forward to friday because ill get to see you then and now you dont want to meet with me? what do you want?? are you tired of this? blah blah" I cried on the phone and told him that if he will not pick me up on friday, then he doesn't need to pick me up on saturday. he calmed me down and said his appointment on friday is not sure yet so we'll just have to wait til friday. FRIDAY---everything's okay until that afternoon. i received a text from him "do you trust me?" i replied "i do trust you" then he asked "do you love me?" i said "of course i do" the he replied "you know i love you. The reason why ive been acting like this lately is because im confused. were not getting any younger. i love you and you know that. i just get confused sometimes" CONT--------

so i called him up and asked "youre confused with what?" the he said "i dont know why im feeling this. i know i love you and everybody knows it. weve been together for 2 years and i dont wanna waste that. It's just that i always think in advance. Though i know that i lopve you, the things is, what will happen in the future. we have diff thinking and background. I grew almost alone half of my life. my mom is working abroad. and she really has plans...and is already asking me what are my plans. I havent accomplished much. im confused. and us? we are okay...but i we only get to see on weekends..its like always scheduled. im confused..that's why i asked you if you trust me." then i told him "you know i trust you. so what are your plans?" he said "i really dont know, just remember that i love you and i trust you, i trust you and i love you...give me this weekend." i didnt reply so he called and i asked "so, we are not going to see each other this saturday? he told me "if you didnt like what ive said, i can pick you up on saturday" then i said "it cant be like that...you said youre confused, and i dont want to force you to do something you dont want to do. you have questions to answer, you have to find the answers on your own. you dont have to ask me because im not the one who's confused"

so there.............and then i agreed to give him time that weekend. we didnt see each other. but we call and text each other. Just this afternoon i texted him "i love you and i hope you know that" he replied "i really dont know what to do. all i know is, i want it this way for the mean time. you know my whereabouts and who am with anyway. Im just doing this for myself...though i know the risk of losing you..but i need this for me. i dont wanna hurt you in anyway so please try to understand. let's meet up on saturday...we'll talk and have lunch"

THERE YOU GO GUYS....WE'LL MEET UP TOM. WHAT SHOUILD I TELL HIM? WHAT SHOULD I ASK HIM? IM SCARED TO LOSE HIM. SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT I WILL WAIT TIL HE FIX WHAT HE'S TRYING TO FIX? LATELY, HE'S STRESSED OUT BECAUSE HE'S GOING TO SHUTDOWN HIS CARWASH AND DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT. SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT IM WILLING TO WAIT? AND STILL CALL AND TEXT HIM EVERYDAY? BECAUSE HE DOES THAT. HELP GUYS...IM SO CONFUSED....

IM 23 AND HE'S 27 BY THE WAY. IM THINKING HE MAY HAVE EXPERIENCING QUARTERLIFE CRISIS...WHAT DO YOU THINK GUYS? PLEASE HELP ME.... 😢(

The best thing to do is speak from your heart. Discuss what's on your mind. The decision to wait is up to you. Ask yourself if you two can really get through this and most importantly is this/ it'll be worth it.

Gonna have to agree with Elle. Personally, after 2 years of being with you, if he's still doubting 'us' then you guys are wasting the one thing in this world that is priceless: Time.
You should be a shoulder/ crutch he can rely on, someone to share his pain with and all that other gooey shit. Not someone he's goin to keep in limbo.

but i think im not ready to let go yet...like im willing to wait for him..im just scared that we'll fall apart. He always say he loves me before he hangs up on the fone...thats everyday...so guys, do you really think i shouldnt call him and give him space big time?? ive read in some posts that virgos dont fight for love..even if they love you, if they feel that youre not interested anymore, they wont bother..so you have to do it for them? also ive read that you have to reciprocate? im effing confusedddd. i want to save this relationship. 😢

Thank you so much for the comments. really appreciated it!

You wrote that he said, "We think differently and come from different backgrounds". That part sticks with me. That line indicates to me he's weighing your relationship and may even have another lined up like Elle suggested. I can tell you where you're NOT on the same plain with him and that's in your arguements over the phone. Breaking down and crying in a very needy fashion is like kryptonite to a logical-thinking emotionless virgo. You two are literally speaking two different languages. I bet he's cool when you're heated. Have you ever seen him blow his lid or does he adopt a more reserved approach to your talks when things get stirred up? If you want to appeal to this guy I would check your emotions just a little more.

On another note LDR's (Long distance relationships) rarely work. I like the fact that he is open about always texting you his whereabouts but then he totally obliterated this by not telling you what the hell he's doing tonight? Sounds slim shady to me. I do think he's eyeballing someone very local and very accessible. If and only if you believe he's truly worthy of your love and the continued heartache and if you believe there can be a beautiful potential outcome then I would offer him this. Judging from what you've said in your posts you have been emotional and weak, malleable and able to be manipulated. Take a strong stance with him once. I would offer him this last opportunity to make things work and leave the ball in his court but don't look back if he doesn't reciprocate. Seriously, give him this space but remind him what he means to you and close the door. If he's a fighter he will come back. If he wasn't, then a short sweet door close will be easiest on the both of you; little to no effort required on both parts.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
He's telling her exactly where he is and what he's doing quote unquote all the time. To me this is covering his @ss from suspected cheating while he makes his mental amends. Just because he's taking some time to decide what he wants in life he's a typical Virgo? Well I heard all Cancers have small p3nises or gaping vajayjays.

Wow, didn't know you had it in you.

lol VV I can throw around stereotypes too.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
lol VV I can throw around stereotypes too.

I see! Hey, a guy with 'edge' is alright by me. LOL.

Wasn't it like day one on here for me and I told someone (maybe you VV), "Can't you read?" and it was well-received?

I disagree with most of what has been said by the responsers ... pulling back is wrong at this time, as I see it. Sorry Elle, but, I totally disagree with this. And whomever said such nonesense as he wants to keep you on the side for fucking is talking out of their ass, since he's telling her he wants space, and NOT see her at the moment.


Iambianxy, I have been married to a Virgo for 28 years, and what you are describing is something I've dealt with numerous times, from day one. It's hard to explain this and it may take a few posts ... so just bare with me here.

Virgos reflect their love ... I've said it at least a hundred times in here, and here I say it again. To be a Service Sign, this means that they are going to bind themselves to the one they love by being fully aware of how to please you. They aren't necessarily going to think stuff up in regards to developing the terms of the relationship because that would make them feel like they are being selfish. I know .. we don't see it that way, we would actually like if they would be creative and spontaneous ... but, they cannot do that .. they must provide to you what you need in love.

For this reason, they follow you .. they reflect back to you what they determine is necessary for you be happy in the relationship.

Ok, so now let's look at some things here ...

1. he tells you that he's confused because it's been 2 years, and it's not going anywhere .. he says that everything is scheduled, planned, and he's spent a lot of his life with the people he cares about absent, and his mother asks him what his plans are and as he tells you this ...

2. you ask him what his plans are .... ***really?

Why would you ask him that? Is this a business meeting?

This man is trying to tell you that the relationship feels like a stalemate to him, after 2 years of trying to not only make you feel loved, he tells you all the time, he communicates his whereabouts with you all the time ... and the only thing you can think to say to him is to ask him is what his plans are?

He explains to you that he needs the weekend to get his head straight ..

"he said "i really dont know, just remember that i love you and i trust you, i trust you and i love you...give me this weekend."


Which of course the above quote is just a smidgeon of all you said he said .. but, it all boils down to the same thing .. he's head is fucked up and he needs space to, and you make him feel guilty in not seeing you ...

"i didnt reply so he called and i asked "so, we are not going to see each other this saturday? he told me "if you didnt like what ive said, i can pick you up on saturday"


So, you would force him into coming to get you ^^^^^^ .. just to turn around and say this ...


"then i said "it cant be like that...you said youre confused, and i dont want to force you to do something you dont want to do."


When in reality, by you not being accepting of his need to be inside of his head, you indeed forced him into saying that, because of him being a Virgo and being helpless to help himself when it involves him doing what pleases you.

Posted by iambianxy

.. then i said "it cant be like that...you said youre confused, and i dont want to force you to do something you dont want to do. you have questions to answer, you have to find the answers on your own. you dont have to ask me because im not the one who's confused"

My Virgo has just phoned me, his truck is broke down, so I cannot continue with this at the moment .. however, I will leave you (for now) with some things to chew on.

the above quote is a travesty, an abolute testiment to why this man's head is so fucked up.

When he reaches out to the woman he loves, and has done so for 2 years, your reaction to him is .... oh well, your problem, you're the one confused me, cya

In caps at the end you say ... "SHOULD I TELL HIM THAT I WILL WAIT TIL HE FIX WHAT HE'S TRYING TO FIX?" ..... as if you aren't apart of what needs fixing. You've completely seperated any feelings you have as being apart of what the problem is.

The problem, my dear .. is your aloofness to his heart, and it's quite evident as we see that your reaction to his feelings of failing your heart .. as his problem.

Pulling back to take care of yourself .. as responsers have voiced .. is what you've been doing all along that has created his confusion in the first place.

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
Wasn't it like day one on here for me and I told someone (maybe you VV), "Can't you read?" and it was well-received?

Yes, I remember now, and it was me. LOL.

It doesn't matter what shit she is keeping to herself ... she clearly describes a man who keeps her in the loop of all his comings and goings, tells her regularly how he feels about her ... and then after two years he becomes disillusioned because after all this time ... it is still an planned encounter. When he voices that he is becoming confused with the progression/development of the relation ... she pulls away to tell him that he's the one confused and needs to fix something ... get back to me when you've got that figured out.


What is he suppose to reflect other than ... I love you, I'm confused?

this chic has two people on her favorites list that she hasn't even talked to, since this is her initial post .... which means, this is an old person with a new screen name.


Which means, I'm not interested in tryng to help a waste of time .... out

there's too much to read... *skipping some posts*

@iambianxy: you said he's confused... on WHAT exactly? you need to get him speak out on this.. in a calmly manner

you guys did stuff in the weekend before things started to turn bad... do you feel anything unusual from the usual stuff you do?

these keywords caught my attention...
"were not getting any younger" - old
"weve been together for 2 years and i dont wanna waste that" - waste
"It's just that i always think in advance" - future
"we have diff thinking and background" - difference
"just remember that i love you and i trust you" - memorize love?
"i dont wanna hurt you in anyway so please try to understand" - you guess


imo, he realized something (smth not working), my 'guess' is his feelings for you or in this relationship... and waiting for a savior... or solution... or his problem to just go away...

talk it out in a calmly manner... i repeat, calmly manner on how you feel now... be emotionally prepared and keep your options open...

i'm interested in his moon, venus and mars...

hades

Posted by hades
there's too much to read... *skipping some posts*

@iambianxy: you said he's confused... on WHAT exactly? you need to get him speak out on this.. in a calmly manner

you guys did stuff in the weekend before things started to turn bad... do you feel anything unusual from the usual stuff you do?

these keywords caught my attention...
"were not getting any younger" - old
"weve been together for 2 years and i dont wanna waste that" - waste
"It's just that i always think in advance" - future
"we have diff thinking and background" - difference
"just remember that i love you and i trust you" - memorize love?
"i dont wanna hurt you in anyway so please try to understand" - you guess


imo, he realized something (smth not working), my 'guess' is his feelings for you or in this relationship... and waiting for a savior... or solution... or his problem to just go away...

talk it out in a calmly manner... i repeat, calmly manner on how you feel now... be emotionally prepared and keep your options open...

i'm interested in his moon, venus and mars...

hades

Yeah, it sounds like he wants some kind of commitment to planning a future, on the same page, etc. or to let it go and make a future without the gal because he senses the relationship isn't going where he wants it to.

Posted by sandyclaws

Yeah, it sounds like he wants some kind of commitment to planning a future, on the same page, etc. or to let it go and make a future without the gal because he senses the relationship isn't going where he wants it to.

yes, that's why his mind is so fucking confused right now... in other words, he's trying to say... "i love you but i see my future without you by my side..."

hades

Posted by P-Angel
this chic has two people on her favorites list that she hasn't even talked to, since this is her initial post .... which means, this is an old person with a new screen name.


Which means, I'm not interested in tryng to help a waste of time .... out

@PA: who do you think she could be? i do suspect someone... someone that's missing recently

hades

Posted by ellessque
maybe she's just been lurking for a bit and decided to post?

the people she has favorites are "regulars" that someone could just fancy their opinions. I know those three stuck out to me immediately when I graced the virgo board.

when i was new and lurking about my cap, I immediately started watching 3-4 males caps and the way they carried themselves and gave advice.

elle, maybe you're right.. but i know someone went missing already in the board...*got erased*.. so forget about it and let her to have her privacy.. 😉

hades

Hi guys! I'm so sorry I wasn't able to log in for like 2 mos. 😢 thank you so much for all of your posts. you are all appreciated! I wanna share w/ you what happened after my last post:

to make this post short, well I found out (coz im helluva spy) that he's been texting and meeting up with this girl (who btw, lives near his home). So what I did was, I broke up with him and didn't even say anything bad to him. All i said was "Now you can have all the time and space you want." I just dissapeared. I didn't answer all his texts and calls for days. And then one day, he texted me "I'm at the lobby. just please come down and talk to me" and so I did. I met up with him at the lobby..then we talked inside his car..(well actually, he did most of the talking). He said he was sorry for eveything and that he will do everything for us to be okay again blah, blah. Then I looked him in the eye and said "im sorry but I think it's better off this way, blah blah" he was taken aback and then hold my hands really tight an said "pls dont do this to me" tears were rolling down my face...then he wiped it and said "please give me another chance. I'll do everything for us and you don't have to do anything...i don't wanna lose you, blah blah.." In the end, I just said "I'll try but I won't promise" then he kissed me on my forehead and said "thank you..."


Now, we're still together. I forgave him and trying of course to forget everything. Things are going well up to date. lol and i must say, he's a better man now (i guess?) Thanks so much guys! I learned that in order to survive w/ a virgo man, you must also show him that you are strong and ableto survive w/o him and that we cannot tolerate stupid acts as well. 😉 THANKS GUYS!!!

Hi guys! I'm so sorry I wasn't able to log in for like 2 mos. thank you so much for all of your posts. you are all appreciated! I wanna share w/ you what happened after my last post:

to make this post short, well I found out (coz im helluva spy) that he's been texting and meeting up with this girl (who btw, lives near his home). like, WTF right? I over analyzed the situation. I thought he may be just having quarter-life crisis or something. but hell no, he just wanted to flirt w/ another girl. So what I did was, I broke up with him and didn't even say anything bad to him. All i said was "Now you can have all the time and space you want." I just dissapeared. I didn't answer all his texts and calls for days. And then one day, he texted me "I'm at the lobby. just please come down and talk to me" and so I did. I met up with him at the lobby..then we talked inside his car..(well actually, he did most of the talking). He said he was sorry for eveything and that he will do everything for us to be okay again blah, blah. Then I looked him in the eye and said "im sorry but I think it's better off this way, blah blah" he was taken aback and then hold my hands really tight an said "pls dont do this to me" tears were rolling down my face...then he wiped it and said "please give me another chance. I'll do everything for us and you don't have to do anything...i don't wanna lose you, blah blah.." In the end, I just said "I'll try but I won't promise" then he kissed me on my forehead and said "thank you..."


Now, we're still together. I forgave him and trying of course to forget everything. Things are going well up to date. lol and i must say, he's a better man now (i guess?) Thanks so much guys! I learned that in order to survive w/ a virgo man, you must also show him that you are strong and ableto survive w/o him and that we cannot tolerate stupid acts as well. THANKS GUYS!!!

Let him be. Love yourself. If he ever comes back at least he sees you're better than what he thinks you are. The only thing to get over the virgo drama is to enjoy the things you can't enjoy when he is around because when he comes back its gonna be all about him again and YOU will be set aside. If he comes back GOOD . . If not its not your loss its his. watch this video clip would open your mind about things with him >>

Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
typical Virgo? Well I heard all Cancers have small p3nises or gaping vajayjays.

LMAO!!!!!