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Virgo Interested or Not?
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Posted by CrosstownTrafficHe just said he forgot I was at a trade show and asked what my nickname was again (he made one up for me relating to my job). I responded and everything but that was about the extent of the conversation before we said goodnight.
What did he say in the text?
Posted by CrosstownTrafficNo he's older, he's 36.Posted by ashley1734if hes the same age as you, i would not write him off yet.Posted by CrosstownTrafficHe just said he forgot I was at a trade show and asked what my nickname was again (he made one up for me relating to my job). I responded and everything but that was about the extent of the conversation before we said goodnight.
What did he say in the text?
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Posted by capriaquagirlNo. I'm more wondering if I should bother leaving the door open here of if it sounds like he's not all that interested in general.
I think Virgo men like feeling useful. They show their interest or love by doing things for you. Have you ever asked him for help with anything?
We haven't been in any kind of position where I would need to ask him for help, he hardly talks to me during the week as it is.
Posted by CrosstownTrafficThat could very well be. But all of our dates have been full of intellectual conversation and he knows I am not out dating a whole lot right now, it's just...the only thing I did sort of wonder about is that we aren't very affectionate with each other, which is quite strange for me, but then again I know a lot of Virgos and none of them seem to be very affectionate (the women included).
since he is 6 years older than you, he may not take you that serious.
the best advice i can give you is dont start a fire that you cant put out.
so maybe ask him gently why he does not seem to talk much during the week; is things ok for him, work, etc..find out what he likes...
Normally one of the ways I show my interest is by finding excuses to touch the other person, and although this Virgo man and I have kissed and everything, I have never really felt the door open to be affectionate at other times during our date (sitting close, holding hands, touching his leg, etc).
Posted by KoniuchaHe's pretty much all Virgo.Posted by ashley1734What is his Venus?Posted by CrosstownTrafficThat could very well be. But all of our dates have been full of intellectual conversation and he knows I am not out dating a whole lot right now, it's just...the only thing I did sort of wonder about is that we aren't very affectionate with each other, which is quite strange for me, but then again I know a lot of Virgos and none of them seem to be very affectionate (the women included).
since he is 6 years older than you, he may not take you that serious.
the best advice i can give you is dont start a fire that you cant put out.
so maybe ask him gently why he does not seem to talk much during the week; is things ok for him, work, etc..find out what he likes...
Normally one of the ways I show my interest is by finding excuses to touch the other person, and although this Virgo man and I have kissed and everything, I have never really felt the door open to be affectionate at other times during our date (sitting close, holding hands, touching his leg, etc).click to expand
Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Ascendant all in Virgo
Moon: Gemini
Mars: Cancer
Posted by KoniuchaWhat about communication and other attention?Posted by ashley1734I have Virgo Venus. We aren't super affectionate. I do like cuddling, but I'm pretty watery tooPosted by KoniuchaHe's pretty much all Virgo.Posted by ashley1734What is his Venus?Posted by CrosstownTrafficThat could very well be. But all of our dates have been full of intellectual conversation and he knows I am not out dating a whole lot right now, it's just...the only thing I did sort of wonder about is that we aren't very affectionate with each other, which is quite strange for me, but then again I know a lot of Virgos and none of them seem to be very affectionate (the women included).
since he is 6 years older than you, he may not take you that serious.
the best advice i can give you is dont start a fire that you cant put out.
so maybe ask him gently why he does not seem to talk much during the week; is things ok for him, work, etc..find out what he likes...
Normally one of the ways I show my interest is by finding excuses to touch the other person, and although this Virgo man and I have kissed and everything, I have never really felt the door open to be affectionate at other times during our date (sitting close, holding hands, touching his leg, etc).
Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Ascendant all in Virgo
Moon: Gemini
Mars: Cancerclick to expand
Posted by ashley1734hm i must only know the super duper affectionate virgos/virgo dominants. 😕Posted by CrosstownTrafficThat could very well be. But all of our dates have been full of intellectual conversation and he knows I am not out dating a whole lot right now, it's just...the only thing I did sort of wonder about is that we aren't very affectionate with each other, which is quite strange for me, but then again I know a lot of Virgos and none of them seem to be very affectionate (the women included).
since he is 6 years older than you, he may not take you that serious.
the best advice i can give you is dont start a fire that you cant put out.
so maybe ask him gently why he does not seem to talk much during the week; is things ok for him, work, etc..find out what he likes...
Normally one of the ways I show my interest is by finding excuses to touch the other person, and although this Virgo man and I have kissed and everything, I have never really felt the door open to be affectionate at other times during our date (sitting close, holding hands, touching his leg, etc).click to expand
virgo brother in law PDA and supppperrrr affectionate. Infact we had dinner with them last night and tonight, and both nights, they were doing some PDA again and cuddling lots on the couch.
and i remember double virgo father in law soooooooooooooooo super duper affectionate with gemmy step mom. no kidding. Always sitting close together like twins stuck together. but he doesn't do PDA, but they are definitely affectionate.
father in law is dominant Scorpio, so no PDA for him.
brother in law has Leo personal planets....sooooo kissy kissy. that's it. or the libra too in combination with leo.
ETA so yup it hasn't toned down.... once a PDA, Always a PDA.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !
Also i am a virgo and i don't like affection that much, it makes me feel uncomfortable, especially in public. We need time for affection to show up
Posted by CrosstownTrafficHis Venus/Sun/Mercury are in the 12th house.
what house?
Posted by VirgoSquirrelThis is very helpful. I hardly reach out to him first, but when I do it's for that reason exactly...something reminded me of him, but really I just wanted a reason to say hello. He has always responded enthusiastically, but after this last date I left it for him to reach out and he did the one time, but no talk of making plans or anything.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !
Posted by KoniuchaThat's what I was thinking. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, like me...and if I'm not really talking/reaching out/sharing my day/asking about theirs, I'm probably not interested. But then again, it is probably a little different for men.Posted by ashley1734communication is big to me. If we aren't communicating much, than there is nothing there reallyPosted by KoniuchaWhat about communication and other attention?Posted by ashley1734I have Virgo Venus. We aren't super affectionate. I do like cuddling, but I'm pretty watery tooPosted by KoniuchaHe's pretty much all Virgo.Posted by ashley1734What is his Venus?Posted by CrosstownTrafficThat could very well be. But all of our dates have been full of intellectual conversation and he knows I am not out dating a whole lot right now, it's just...the only thing I did sort of wonder about is that we aren't very affectionate with each other, which is quite strange for me, but then again I know a lot of Virgos and none of them seem to be very affectionate (the women included).
since he is 6 years older than you, he may not take you that serious.
the best advice i can give you is dont start a fire that you cant put out.
so maybe ask him gently why he does not seem to talk much during the week; is things ok for him, work, etc..find out what he likes...
Normally one of the ways I show my interest is by finding excuses to touch the other person, and although this Virgo man and I have kissed and everything, I have never really felt the door open to be affectionate at other times during our date (sitting close, holding hands, touching his leg, etc).
Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Ascendant all in Virgo
Moon: Gemini
Mars: Cancerclick to expand
Posted by CrosstownTrafficJupiter: 11th HousePosted by ashley1734what house is jupiter in and plutoPosted by CrosstownTrafficHis Venus/Sun/Mercury are in the 12th house.
what house?click to expand
Pluto: 1st House
Posted by KoniuchaYeah I'm with you...logic.
I've done the same thing with the guy I have a thing for. He is Mars and Venus in Virgo.
I've even told him, I just wanted to talk to you. But he's not reaching out to me, so that tells me to move on, as hard as that is to do.
Posted by CrosstownTrafficHe's talkative when we are together and we don't seem to have any problems getting the conversation going, it's more just like...ok well what do we only speak once a week when we are in person hanging out? That doesn't seem all that fun for me.Posted by ashley1734hes a very passive guy. hes not going to be much at any pda or talking all that much.Posted by CrosstownTrafficJupiter: 11th HousePosted by ashley1734what house is jupiter in and plutoPosted by CrosstownTrafficHis Venus/Sun/Mercury are in the 12th house.
what house?
Pluto: 1st House
you need something in the 6th house to boil the water in the 12th of that mercury stelliumclick to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerieA couple months only. I'm not really dating around too much, just getting to know him and was wondering about his way of going about things if he were interested (is starting to not seem like it).
Hmm. I'd think it that Mars in Cancer. One step forward and two steps back. How long has this been a thing?
If you're dating around, I don't see a huge rush. I mean, no need to be pushy. I do think when it comes to Virgos, you get back what you put out tho. Be all those things you're used to the next time you're together and see how he reacts. If he likes it and is responsive, great. If he balks and pulls away, he's not a great fit for you anyway.
I will shoot him a text and just feel him out since I haven't initiated much.
Posted by ashley1734Honestly to me he s just being a virgo, from what you are saying i think he really is interested, you seem to be doing great. I guess if you disappear for a while he s going to come back but it might take time, we don't like showing too much enthusiasm, because we get scared to scare the other one. Especially if he s into astrology and knows you re a gemini so you can run away if he shows too much. I would say that virgo girls will not easily make the first step as we are insecure, may be it s the same for boys.Posted by VirgoSquirrelThis is very helpful. I hardly reach out to him first, but when I do it's for that reason exactly...something reminded me of him, but really I just wanted a reason to say hello. He has always responded enthusiastically, but after this last date I left it for him to reach out and he did the one time, but no talk of making plans or anything.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !click to expand
Posted by VirgoSquirrelbut men and women are very very different.Posted by ashley1734Honestly to me he s just being a virgo, from what you are saying i think he really is interested, you seem to be doing great. I guess if you disappear for a while he s going to come back but it might take time, we don't like showing too much enthusiasm, because we get scared to scare the other one. Especially if he s into astrology and knows you re a gemini so you can run away if he shows too much. I would say that virgo girls will not easily make the first step as we are insecure, may be it s the same for boys.Posted by VirgoSquirrelThis is very helpful. I hardly reach out to him first, but when I do it's for that reason exactly...something reminded me of him, but really I just wanted a reason to say hello. He has always responded enthusiastically, but after this last date I left it for him to reach out and he did the one time, but no talk of making plans or anything.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !click to expand
one is motivated by estrogen, the other testosterone. and in astrology, it's his venus/moon that he is gonna be falling for. his mars and sun to some extent....and his mars is the chaser.
so his approach is cancerian.
Posted by lisabethur8Oh great....the Cancerian approach is VERY one step forward, two steps backwards in my previous experience haha. They need to know their feelings are safe and that the other person is reciprocating 100% before they open up. Do you agree?Posted by VirgoSquirrelbut men and women are very very different.Posted by ashley1734Honestly to me he s just being a virgo, from what you are saying i think he really is interested, you seem to be doing great. I guess if you disappear for a while he s going to come back but it might take time, we don't like showing too much enthusiasm, because we get scared to scare the other one. Especially if he s into astrology and knows you re a gemini so you can run away if he shows too much. I would say that virgo girls will not easily make the first step as we are insecure, may be it s the same for boys.Posted by VirgoSquirrelThis is very helpful. I hardly reach out to him first, but when I do it's for that reason exactly...something reminded me of him, but really I just wanted a reason to say hello. He has always responded enthusiastically, but after this last date I left it for him to reach out and he did the one time, but no talk of making plans or anything.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !
one is motivated by estrogen, the other testosterone. and in astrology, it's his venus/moon that he is gonna be falling for. his mars and sun to some extent....and his mars is the chaser.
so his approach is cancerian.click to expand
Posted by ashley1734Posted by lisabethur8Oh great....the Cancerian approach is VERY one step forward, two steps backwards in my previous experience haha. They need to know their feelings are safe and that the other person is reciprocating 100% before they open up. Do you agree?Posted by VirgoSquirrelbut men and women are very very different.Posted by ashley1734Honestly to me he s just being a virgo, from what you are saying i think he really is interested, you seem to be doing great. I guess if you disappear for a while he s going to come back but it might take time, we don't like showing too much enthusiasm, because we get scared to scare the other one. Especially if he s into astrology and knows you re a gemini so you can run away if he shows too much. I would say that virgo girls will not easily make the first step as we are insecure, may be it s the same for boys.Posted by VirgoSquirrelThis is very helpful. I hardly reach out to him first, but when I do it's for that reason exactly...something reminded me of him, but really I just wanted a reason to say hello. He has always responded enthusiastically, but after this last date I left it for him to reach out and he did the one time, but no talk of making plans or anything.
I m a virgo girl and all i can say Is that we can be super awkward when it comes to dating. We might seem cold and distant while being completely obsessed inside. We like having interest shown by the other from time to time but only deep conversation, no small talk. So i guess text him about that you think about him or saw something that reminded you of him, his réaction will say everything. Don't text him a lot or insist on seeing him often, we don't like being rushed, if too much attention Is given we get scared. We really need time to process all information to make sure we are doing the right thing. Brain Is working 24/7, we don't like being confused, it can make us run away.
I suggest you don't remain silent too long, as we think all the time, he might think you are not interested and become a bit defensive. I hope that helps, good luck !
one is motivated by estrogen, the other testosterone. and in astrology, it's his venus/moon that he is gonna be falling for. his mars and sun to some extent....and his mars is the chaser.
so his approach is cancerian.click to expand
😆 heehee i guess so. my sister is with one. so i have NO Idea. but she likes it.
but if it's your previous experience....well you k
so i have NO Idea. but she likes it.
but if it's your previous experience....well you know what's UP! 😄
but if it's your previous experience....well you know what's UP! 😄
IME Virgo guys are just like any other guys so if they act like they don't care they probably don't care. If they're interested they will be texting and calling and making dates. I'd move on.
Posted by xtinaThank you! Normally I wouldn't even have to come on here to ask, but it was confusing that we seemed to get along so well in person and he kept asking me out, but between dates...silence.
IME Virgo guys are just like any other guys so if they act like they don't care they probably don't care. If they're interested they will be texting and calling and making dates. I'd move on.
I tend to be with you on that though, if a man wants you, you'll know.
Posted by cheekyfaerieYou just nailed my number one problem in dating. It usually goes like this (don't worry I'm obviously aware of it and trying to work on it):Posted by ashley1734I agree with what you said about a man making his interest known, but it sounds like you've been holding back too, which equates to mixed signals. You don't want to waste time on a lost cause, but you don't wanna miss out on something good due to a miscommunication either.Posted by cheekyfaerieA couple months only. I'm not really dating around too much, just getting to know him and was wondering about his way of going about things if he were interested (is starting to not seem like it).
Hmm. I'd think it that Mars in Cancer. One step forward and two steps back. How long has this been a thing?
If you're dating around, I don't see a huge rush. I mean, no need to be pushy. I do think when it comes to Virgos, you get back what you put out tho. Be all those things you're used to the next time you're together and see how he reacts. If he likes it and is responsive, great. If he balks and pulls away, he's not a great fit for you anyway.
I will shoot him a text and just feel him out since I haven't initiated much.click to expand
I meet guy I like, he seems to like me back, everything is exciting
I worry I'm either coming on too strong (Venus in Aries) or that I'm reading him wrong and he might not be all that interested so I pull back a little and let him initiate
The guy will usually sense that my behavior is inconsistent from my natural self in the beginning (flirty and exciting) so they assume I'm not all that interested and they pull back
I then assume that the guy really wasn't all that interested since they aren't contacting me
Rinse, Repeat
I should just stay single probably, I'm a pain in the ass. 😄
Posted by ashley1734I am 100% with you. I have no problem with taking the lead (I have Mars in Aries) but don't want to scare a virgo off so I'm all over the place with my interest as you described. Maybe I should just go for it and if he's not interested I will at least know rather than wasting a bunch of time..........Posted by cheekyfaerieYou just nailed my number one problem in dating. It usually goes like this (don't worry I'm obviously aware of it and trying to work on it):Posted by ashley1734I agree with what you said about a man making his interest known, but it sounds like you've been holding back too, which equates to mixed signals. You don't want to waste time on a lost cause, but you don't wanna miss out on something good due to a miscommunication either.Posted by cheekyfaerieA couple months only. I'm not really dating around too much, just getting to know him and was wondering about his way of going about things if he were interested (is starting to not seem like it).
Hmm. I'd think it that Mars in Cancer. One step forward and two steps back. How long has this been a thing?
If you're dating around, I don't see a huge rush. I mean, no need to be pushy. I do think when it comes to Virgos, you get back what you put out tho. Be all those things you're used to the next time you're together and see how he reacts. If he likes it and is responsive, great. If he balks and pulls away, he's not a great fit for you anyway.
I will shoot him a text and just feel him out since I haven't initiated much.
I meet guy I like, he seems to like me back, everything is exciting
I worry I'm either coming on too strong (Venus in Aries) or that I'm reading him wrong and he might not be all that interested so I pull back a little and let him initiate
The guy will usually sense that my behavior is inconsistent from my natural self in the beginning (flirty and exciting) so they assume I'm not all that interested and they pull back
I then assume that the guy really wasn't all that interested since they aren't contacting me
Rinse, Repeat
I should just stay single probably, I'm a pain in the ass. 😄click to expand
Posted by xtina^^^ this
IME Virgo guys are just like any other guys so if they act like they don't care they probably don't care. If they're interested they will be texting and calling and making dates. I'd move on.
I don't see anywhere on this thread where it states what you (OP) are looking for and also what he is looking for?
And this has been going on for months?
If you are not clear in your mind with what it is you want in life right now then that's what you'll attract - unclear stuff/people/situations.
If you are 'dating' then that means you're looking for someone to ideally have a relationship with yet you say you're not really dating anyone. How do you expect to seriously find someone if you're not really dating? Which says to me you're not really serious about finding someone. Which in turn means you're just bumbling about seeing how it goes with this Virgo guy and in reality it's not really going anywhere because neither of you are taking it anywhere.
Are you sleeping together?
Meeting once a week over a month or two is fine but if he's not locking you down and/or if you're not telling him what you want then what do you expect to happen? Dude ain't no mind reader!
He's in touch with you. He's asking you out. He's interested or just filling in time. Take the initiative for yourself. I'm not sure if you actually like him as much as you think you do or if he's actually a good match for you.
And this has been going on for months?
If you are not clear in your mind with what it is you want in life right now then that's what you'll attract - unclear stuff/people/situations.
If you are 'dating' then that means you're looking for someone to ideally have a relationship with yet you say you're not really dating anyone. How do you expect to seriously find someone if you're not really dating? Which says to me you're not really serious about finding someone. Which in turn means you're just bumbling about seeing how it goes with this Virgo guy and in reality it's not really going anywhere because neither of you are taking it anywhere.
Are you sleeping together?
Meeting once a week over a month or two is fine but if he's not locking you down and/or if you're not telling him what you want then what do you expect to happen? Dude ain't no mind reader!
He's in touch with you. He's asking you out. He's interested or just filling in time. Take the initiative for yourself. I'm not sure if you actually like him as much as you think you do or if he's actually a good match for you.
Posted by ashley1734IME they're also very sweet. So they will be nice and cool to hang out with, I don't think I've ever met a mean Virgo (unless you scorn them). But if they're not following up with texts or calls they're probably not thinking about you. Sorry if that was harsh.Posted by xtinaThank you! Normally I wouldn't even have to come on here to ask, but it was confusing that we seemed to get along so well in person and he kept asking me out, but between dates...silence.
IME Virgo guys are just like any other guys so if they act like they don't care they probably don't care. If they're interested they will be texting and calling and making dates. I'd move on.
I tend to be with you on that though, if a man wants you, you'll know.click to expand
Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
smh I think like a guy
Sounds like you are the one he is weary of and waiting to see if you are just in to the one week wonder date only.
You say you have been going on a date every week and began two months ago. GREAT! He's contacting you to go on a date, and you made it clear you aren't, so we know he's the one orchestrating these dates. The dates go really good according to you but in between you say there's "silence.".... WHY? Because of your assumptions.
Pick up the phone and call him a day or two after the date. SHOW THE GUY YOU ARE INTERESTED.
That doesn't mean text repeatedly in between....PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK.
If he has a hectic work schedule, respect that but the least you can do is let him know you are interested in him beyond just a once a week date.
If you don't come across needy with expectations, he may just put more effort into this if....HE KNOWS YOU ARE INTERESTED.
You say you have been going on a date every week and began two months ago. GREAT! He's contacting you to go on a date, and you made it clear you aren't, so we know he's the one orchestrating these dates. The dates go really good according to you but in between you say there's "silence.".... WHY? Because of your assumptions.
Pick up the phone and call him a day or two after the date. SHOW THE GUY YOU ARE INTERESTED.
That doesn't mean text repeatedly in between....PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK.
If he has a hectic work schedule, respect that but the least you can do is let him know you are interested in him beyond just a once a week date.
If you don't come across needy with expectations, he may just put more effort into this if....HE KNOWS YOU ARE INTERESTED.
Posted by starwarsHhmmm... Possibly but I wouldn't jump the gun on him liking me, personally.Posted by xtinabut he initate dates and make plans! i feel like virgos just suck at texting and in being constant communicator. most the ones i know including me are like this. we see no need to talk if we gonna meet soon. she said hes really great when they meet up so i wouldnt be as worried or think that hes not into her.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
smh I think like a guyclick to expand
Posted by starwarsMy virgo blows my phone up on the daily. I get at least 2 phone calls a day, and many many texts. He likes me to know every single thing he is doing, lol. The only time he didn't was that time he ran, lol. But as soon as he came back, my phone was blown up again. Could be his venus in Leo though 🙂Posted by xtinabut he initate dates and make plans! i feel like virgos just suck at texting and in being constant communicator. most the ones i know including me are like this. we see no need to talk if we gonna meet soon. she said hes really great when they meet up so i wouldnt be as worried or think that hes not into her.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
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Posted by AgentP911Oh, yeah I would definitely like to meet someone to date long-term/seriously. Neither of us have stated to each other what we are looking for though, but I don't get the sense he is dating around too much (busy guy).
I don't see anywhere on this thread where it states what you (OP) are looking for and also what he is looking for?
And this has been going on for months?
If you are not clear in your mind with what it is you want in life right now then that's what you'll attract - unclear stuff/people/situations.
If you are 'dating' then that means you're looking for someone to ideally have a relationship with yet you say you're not really dating anyone. How do you expect to seriously find someone if you're not really dating? Which says to me you're not really serious about finding someone. Which in turn means you're just bumbling about seeing how it goes with this Virgo guy and in reality it's not really going anywhere because neither of you are taking it anywhere.
Are you sleeping together?
Meeting once a week over a month or two is fine but if he's not locking you down and/or if you're not telling him what you want then what do you expect to happen? Dude ain't no mind reader!
He's in touch with you. He's asking you out. He's interested or just filling in time. Take the initiative for yourself. I'm not sure if you actually like him as much as you think you do or if he's actually a good match for you.
Not months, but about a month and a half? I meant to say I am not dating OTHERS. I am trying to just focus on one person at a time if I'm interested.
No we aren't sleeping together.
These are all good questions you are asking me in regards to do I really like him, etc. I finally just came out and asked him what his interest was and he said he thought I was busy and HE hadn't heard from ME. He asked me to hangout tomorrow so I agreed. I'll just see what our energy like tomorrow with a more discerning eye.
Posted by xtinaThat's not harsh, it's honest and that's how I feel too, but I sometimes seem to find myself confusing men and they think I am busy or uninterested.Posted by ashley1734IME they're also very sweet. So they will be nice and cool to hang out with, I don't think I've ever met a mean Virgo (unless you scorn them). But if they're not following up with texts or calls they're probably not thinking about you. Sorry if that was harsh.Posted by xtinaThank you! Normally I wouldn't even have to come on here to ask, but it was confusing that we seemed to get along so well in person and he kept asking me out, but between dates...silence.
IME Virgo guys are just like any other guys so if they act like they don't care they probably don't care. If they're interested they will be texting and calling and making dates. I'd move on.
I tend to be with you on that though, if a man wants you, you'll know.click to expand
I did text him over the weekend and he said he has been busy and just assumed that I was busy since he hadn't heard from me (kinda lazy). I don't know, I'm starting to think it's probably not a match...he seems too passive for me.
Posted by xtinaExactly.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
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Posted by LetltBYou're right. I'm bad at that. Good advice thank you!
Sounds like you are the one he is weary of and waiting to see if you are just in to the one week wonder date only.
You say you have been going on a date every week and began two months ago. GREAT! He's contacting you to go on a date, and you made it clear you aren't, so we know he's the one orchestrating these dates. The dates go really good according to you but in between you say there's "silence.".... WHY? Because of your assumptions.
Pick up the phone and call him a day or two after the date. SHOW THE GUY YOU ARE INTERESTED.
That doesn't mean text repeatedly in between....PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK.
If he has a hectic work schedule, respect that but the least you can do is let him know you are interested in him beyond just a once a week date.
If you don't come across needy with expectations, he may just put more effort into this if....HE KNOWS YOU ARE INTERESTED.
Posted by SensitiveBluesHis Moon is in Gemini and my Moon is in Virgo..ironically.Posted by Cancerchick775no way i don't blow up phones...and im venus in leoPosted by starwarsMy virgo blows my phone up on the daily. I get at least 2 phone calls a day, and many many texts. He likes me to know every single thing he is doing, lol. The only time he didn't was that time he ran, lol. But as soon as he came back, my phone was blown up again. Could be his venus in Leo though 🙂Posted by xtinabut he initate dates and make plans! i feel like virgos just suck at texting and in being constant communicator. most the ones i know including me are like this. we see no need to talk if we gonna meet soon. she said hes really great when they meet up so i wouldnt be as worried or think that hes not into her.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
smh I think like a guy
in fact im not very loving at all ...i have to admit
not an initiator
so what's his moon sign and your moon sign?
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Posted by SensitiveBluesOh...sorry!!Posted by ashley1734i was asking the Cancer chick.Posted by SensitiveBluesHis Moon is in Gemini and my Moon is in Virgo..ironically.Posted by Cancerchick775no way i don't blow up phones...and im venus in leoPosted by starwarsMy virgo blows my phone up on the daily. I get at least 2 phone calls a day, and many many texts. He likes me to know every single thing he is doing, lol. The only time he didn't was that time he ran, lol. But as soon as he came back, my phone was blown up again. Could be his venus in Leo though 🙂Posted by xtinabut he initate dates and make plans! i feel like virgos just suck at texting and in being constant communicator. most the ones i know including me are like this. we see no need to talk if we gonna meet soon. she said hes really great when they meet up so i wouldnt be as worried or think that hes not into her.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
smh I think like a guy
in fact im not very loving at all ...i have to admit
not an initiator
so what's his moon sign and your moon sign?
i am obsessed to finding out why me and my x can't work
anyways you should listen to LetitBE
she gave good adviceclick to expand
We all get obsessive like that wanting answers🙂
Posted by xtina
Yeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I think that's fucked up.
Guys experience rejection just as deeply as women do. They also require communication from women informing them that they are desired, that they are being considered as interesting by the woman they like.
In this horrendous double standard, the woman is taking a position in where she excuses herself from accountability in showing the man she likes him ... while it is a requirement of the men to bestow this upon the woman.
in other words .. you're saying that you are deserving of something that you don't think you need to give.
Posted by P-AngelI think that is a very valid point too.
Posted by xtina
Yeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I think that's fucked up.
Guys experience rejection just as deeply as women do. They also require communication from women informing them that they are desired, that they are being considered as interesting by the woman they like.
In this horrendous double standard, the woman is taking a position in where she excuses herself from accountability in showing the man she likes him ... while it is a requirement of the men to bestow this upon the woman.
in other words .. you're saying that you are deserving of something that you don't think you need to give.
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Dating in this day is completely messed up.
Posted by ashley1734
...he seems too passive for me.
Because you think you are suppose to be catered to. Like the typical female.
Virgo men don't work that way ... they are ONLY going to serve you. If you are going to expect him to provide to you without a cue from you ... then you're a joke, laughs on you.
Even in/with the expression of love, the Virgo will serve you.
When you are told that you have to lead, it is meant in literal terms. Not you going, "yeah, yeah ok, but " .. there's no (but) you want a man who will initiate his passion and interests .. if you want that kind of man, then you won't find him here.
A Virgo is going to go change your oil for you, or make sure to remember your favorite food and movie genre ... but, he's not going to call you up to chat.
He has to be told by you what you want/need him to say or do, if you have these expectations of him ... because he won't realize it, otherwise.
To be the partner of a Virgo means that you have to be able to tell him what to do. If you don't .. then what you'll end up with is a whiny critical fool.
Posted by P-AngelEhhh don't put words/thoughts in my mouth please 🙂Posted by ashley1734
...he seems too passive for me.
Because you think you are suppose to be catered to. Like the typical female.
Virgo men don't work that way ... they are ONLY going to serve you. If you are going to expect him to provide to you without a cue from you ... then you're a joke, laughs on you.
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Posted by capriaquagirl+1
I think Virgo men like feeling useful. They show their interest or love by doing things for you. Have you ever asked him for help with anything?
That's true of most men, irregardless of sign.
Posted by ashley1734
and he said he thought I was busy and HE hadn't heard from ME.
I love men who are discerning in looking for reciprocation. This is the normal way, yet it's rare.
This doesn't spell passive to me.
Posted by starwars100 % agreePosted by xtinabut he initate dates and make plans! i feel like virgos just suck at texting and in being constant communicator. most the ones i know including me are like this. we see no need to talk if we gonna meet soon. she said hes really great when they meet up so i wouldnt be as worried or think that hes not into her.Posted by starwarsYeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I have mars in cancer too. I'm that way. I don't chat in between dates (probably because i will see them soon or ive just seen them 60 days ago lol) I only text to make plans. especially if we've just gotten to know each other. once we are official and in a relationship i do call randomly or text more often.
I don't talk nor touch if i don't feel like it, I only do it when i genuinely feel like i want to and that will probably happen when im face to face with the person.
smh I think like a guyclick to expand
Posted by ashley1734Posted by P-AngelEhhh don't put words/thoughts in my mouth please 🙂Posted by ashley1734
...he seems too passive for me.
Because you think you are suppose to be catered to. Like the typical female.
Virgo men don't work that way ... they are ONLY going to serve you. If you are going to expect him to provide to you without a cue from you ... then you're a joke, laughs on you.
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But, that is what it is.
You are sitting there expecting him to come to you. You are expecting him to cater to you to make you feel like he is interested in you. A poster even said, and you confirmed that it's ok for women to not contact after a date, but, the guy is supposed to.
This very thread is you stating that you expect him to come to you, if he's interested. That's not putting words in your mouth ... that summarizing what you are saying.
Because you are a female, you are expecting him to satisfy your feelings of wanting to be wanted by him.
But, you go ahead and keep playing attention games and see how far this gets you with a Virgo.
I hung out with the Virgo again last night and it felt a lot more intimate and I felt a lot more comfortable with him because he would casually mention "future" things like "Oh I'll take you there" or "we should check it out"...things like that. So I felt more at ease just from that, without expectations of any of that coming to fruition, but just the fact that I could actually feel AND hear his interest.
We also makes intense eye contact that does not break.
Fast forward to the end of dinner, he tells me he feels like he should tell me something...so we get back to his house and we are sitting on the couch and he says "I'm pretty sure I'm being transferred to Florida for a year at the end of April" and I mean I have only been hanging with this guy for a couple months so I can't say anything besides "oh" and then ask him questions about it. He kept saying "but I get to come back once a month" and "it's only a year" so I'm not sure if he was wanting us to continue to see each other, but that seems ridiculous to me. Maybe if we had been hanging out for like 6 months minimum I would consider that being an option, but as it is, this is just the universe being like "Oh you finally realize you like this guy? Too bad!"
Alls fair in love and war or something.
We also makes intense eye contact that does not break.
Fast forward to the end of dinner, he tells me he feels like he should tell me something...so we get back to his house and we are sitting on the couch and he says "I'm pretty sure I'm being transferred to Florida for a year at the end of April" and I mean I have only been hanging with this guy for a couple months so I can't say anything besides "oh" and then ask him questions about it. He kept saying "but I get to come back once a month" and "it's only a year" so I'm not sure if he was wanting us to continue to see each other, but that seems ridiculous to me. Maybe if we had been hanging out for like 6 months minimum I would consider that being an option, but as it is, this is just the universe being like "Oh you finally realize you like this guy? Too bad!"
Alls fair in love and war or something.
Posted by P-AngelYou're taking it out of context.
Posted by xtina
Yeah but you don't need to initiate like a guy. If a woman doesn't initiate it's normal. But if a guy doesn't that's signs that he just might not be into her.
I think that's fucked up.
Guys experience rejection just as deeply as women do. They also require communication from women informing them that they are desired, that they are being considered as interesting by the woman they like.
In this horrendous double standard, the woman is taking a position in where she excuses herself from accountability in showing the man she likes him ... while it is a requirement of the men to bestow this upon the woman.
in other words .. you're saying that you are deserving of something that you don't think you need to give.
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Just because I don't initiate it doesn't mean I don't show him or tell him I like him. In fact I have no problems being direct and letting a guy know I'm interested or like him and I have 🙂
I always take the other persons feelings into consideration so if I don't like him I'll let him know in a nice way. I would never string a person along. I'm usually very straightforward and direct with my communication and intent in a relationship.
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