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Ok hey people , I'm a virgo aug 29th female ... My bf of over a year is also a virgo sept 19th. Lately our relationship has been really rocky. Long story short I shared my virginity with him like over eight months ago. When we first met the first 8 months was great it felt like love at first site. He put in effort and was there for me. Now I could barely get a text back or call. When were together things are ok. We see each other like 4 times within two weeks now. I talked to him and asked him what went wrong. He told me that the relationship and sex is boring which I agree. He also stated that he stopped putting in effort because he feels like I played him because he gave me head but out of our relationship I never gave him any. I just don't feel comfortable knowing that the only way for me to get him to get his act together is giving him head ... What are you thoughts ?
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Sounds like he's having ridiculous expectations of you. Giving and receiving is an individual thing. If you're not interested in giving then he needs to accept it or slowly work things out with you instead of sulking. Oral sex should ideally not be the foundation to a r/s. There're so much more to look at in a r/s.

How old are both of you if you can share.

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Posted by virgowithasoul
Sounds like he's having ridiculous expectations of you. Giving and receiving is an individual thing. If you're not interested in giving then he needs to accept it or slowly work things out with you instead of sulking. Oral sex should ideally not be the foundation to a r/s. There're so much more to look at in a r/s.

How old are both of you if you can share.

I'm 20 he's 27
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He also stated that he stopped putting in effort because he feels like I played him

I just don't feel comfortable knowing that the only way for me to get him to get his act together is giving him head



By your own testimony, he's correct.

He said you're playing him

Your implication in the second sentence is saying that the only reason you would have to give him head is for purposes of getting him to get his act together



so, the conclusion is ... you wouldn't want to give him head because you would want him to feel loved and appreciated and sexually satisfied. You imply that the only reason for a blow job is to try and maneuver him into doing your biding.

He's absolutely right in tossing you into the gravel .... you're not sincere, you're manipulative
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Not sure how old you're though. Maybe your not sexually mature. Guys bond differently, so for them sex important. Maybe you should practice with him, watch videos, and just get in the mood. My virgo appreciates that I do this for him though. Most guys don't and his the only guy that actually gives head back without me even asking. So I wouldn't let that go unless your not into him than its best move on.
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Not sure how old you're though. Maybe your not sexually mature. Guys bond differently, so for them sex important. Maybe you should practice with him, watch videos, and just get in the mood. My virgo appreciates that I do this for him though. Most guys don't and his the only guy that actually gives head back without me even asking. So I wouldn't let that go unless your not into him than its best move on.

Thank you Š
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I dont think anyone should pressure anyone into doing something they don't want to do, especially when the two people are suppose to be in a loving and respecting relationship BUT what makes you think you're the only one that likes to receive head (you clearly appreciate receiving), why wouldn't he enjoy the same?

Relationships are full of compromise.

We broke up before because of it once
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Ok hey people , I'm a virgo aug 29th female ... My bf of over a year is also a virgo sept 19th. Lately our relationship has been really rocky. Long story short I shared my virginity with him like over eight months ago. When we first met the first 8 months was great it felt like love at first site. He put in effort and was there for me. Now I could barely get a text back or call. When were together things are ok. We see each other like 4 times within two weeks now. I talked to him and asked him what went wrong. He told me that the relationship and sex is boring which I agree. He also stated that he stopped putting in effort because he feels like I played him because he gave me head but out of our relationship I never gave him any. I just don't feel comfortable knowing that the only way for me to get him to get his act together is giving him head ... What are you thoughts ?
So if I'm reading this correctly. What he is actually saying is that he would like to explore sexuality with you, but he is getting an ice out from you because you feel neglected?

It's both of your faults. As the more experienced of the pair he should be willing to help you develop your sexuality until it reaches a point where both of you are happy. Otherwise, he shouldn't have bothered to tap the cherry. However, you need to step up, do even know if you like what he wants? Have you tried it?

A relationship is based on Emotions, Proximity, and Sex. Are you caring enough for each others emotional happiness? Are you seeing each other regularly to affirm your affection for one another and lastly, are you engaging each other in the bedroom and giving each other endorphin heavy orgasms and bonding?

And you only see each other twice a week? So....averaging what, sex twice a month? I don't even know how you stay celibate that long....
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He told me that the relationship and sex is boring which I agree.


So, since you agree that the relationship is boring .... why haven't you taken charge of yourself and your life?

So, instead of owning yourself, to grow, learn and morph into a better stage of your life ... you're just sitting there putting all of your energy into blaming him for you not having the courage and mental fortitude to fix yourself, and your situation?

You sound very dependent upon him and emotionally insecure ... do you actually want to help yourself?


Or, is this just a thread for us to go "woe" at you, because look at how much you are willing to endure without being appreciated?


Virgo much?
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I'm not going to pity you, and I'm not going to hold your hand while you suffer in being the fool you make of yourself ... because that is what it is.

If you know this is wrong, and you're not happy, and you don't do a damn thing to help yourself .. then you're a fool. A fool you're making of yourself. I'm not making you a fool, he's not making you a fool .. you do it to yourself when you whine about how other people aren't constructing a life for you that is acceptable.


Bad people don't get good attention from me.
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I'm not going to pity you, and I'm not going to hold your hand while you suffer in being the fool you make of yourself ... because that is what it is.

If you know this is wrong, and you're not happy, and you don't do a damn thing to help yourself .. then you're a fool. A fool you're making of yourself. I'm not making you a fool, he's not making you a fool .. you do it to yourself when you whine about how other people aren't constructing a life for you that is acceptable.


Bad people don't get good attention from me.

What do you mean?
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I'm not going to pity you, and I'm not going to hold your hand while you suffer in being the fool you make of yourself ... because that is what it is.

If you know this is wrong, and you're not happy, and you don't do a damn thing to help yourself .. then you're a fool. A fool you're making of yourself. I'm not making you a fool, he's not making you a fool .. you do it to yourself when you whine about how other people aren't constructing a life for you that is acceptable.


Bad people don't get good attention from me.

What do you mean?
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I'm a fool for staying and wanting it to work you mean?
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Posted by Virgosmalls
Posted by virgowithasoul
Sounds like he's having ridiculous expectations of you. Giving and receiving is an individual thing. If you're not interested in giving then he needs to accept it or slowly work things out with you instead of sulking. Oral sex should ideally not be the foundation to a r/s. There're so much more to look at in a r/s.

How old are both of you if you can share.

I'm 20 he's 27
Run
Run for the hills
You don't need him
He's just a sulking old man
You're young
Find someone who'll treat you better
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Ryoko, you have treetrunking noodles in your head instead of gray matter. Seriously.
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Why so scared of sucking dick op?

It's very easy really. And enthusiasm counts for more than technique.

Here's a great read to help you get started. http://cuntinglinguist.com/2005/08/good-girls-guide-to-giving-great-head_15.html
Black women don't suck dick!
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um, yes we do. & Happily so, for my man. If you want to categorize it, say we do it the best, not that we don't at all lolol
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Why so scared of sucking dick op?

It's very easy really. And enthusiasm counts for more than technique.

Here's a great read to help you get started. http://cuntinglinguist.com/2005/08/good-girls-guide-to-giving-great-head_15.html
Black women don't suck dick!

um, yes we do. & Happily so, for my man. If you want to categorize it, say we do it the best, not that we don't at all lolol
Come on it's on birthdays or Christmas

Ain't nobody throwing down on the regular

But you millinials are weird so who knows
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Birthdays or Christmas?! Just those days?

lmaoooo omg, noooo. I couldn't do that. Not because he'd be bugging me, but bc I love to do it. Especially if it's for my man. I'll do it every day, no problem.

Maybe you should do it more often.. try it out.
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Posted by virgowithasoul
Sounds like he's having ridiculous expectations of you. Giving and receiving is an individual thing. If you're not interested in giving then he needs to accept it or slowly work things ou with you instead of sulking.



I wonder if this thread would get some of the same responses if he felt their sex life was boring because he was into the anal rape of furries or something a little more off-market. Oral sex, like any other sex act, should never regarded as a 'must do' or another person's right to your body simply because of it's generic nature. If you're not feeling it, you're feeling it, and should he or any other potential partner choose to end the relationship because of that then let them go peacefully. They are entitled to find what makes them happy just as you are entitled to enjoy your sexuality without pressure or fear.

Whatever the future holds for you two, your good times together will still be good times to be looked back on fondly.
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
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FFS, The responses here.

OP- It's perfectly normal, and okay to have boundarys during sex.

To imply that having boundarys means your trying to control someone is retarded. It just means you have personal limits.

So what- your not into giving head- Just because he gives it, doesn't mean you have to reciprocate it.

I mean really? Who came up with that rule for sex.

The amount of retardation in this thread is nuts.

If this was like "Oh this dude wants to piss on my face" I'm sure the responses would be hella different- and hella germans are into that stuff-

My point- Just because it's normal, and accepted in your relationships- doesn't mean that everyone is going to be into that kind of thing.

Don't do *anything*, that your not comfortable with.
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Somehow this confirms my theory that two virgos cancel each other out. Seen it first hand!
I knew 2 virgos who were married for over 10 years. She ended up killing herself overdosing on drugs because she was so miserable in her marriage. Both August virgos
Looooooooool I'm sorry but this made me laugh and so happy with glee
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It was a violent marriage. She went to the hospital once because he beat her so badly and he went to jail. He posted bail and I think they always tried to work it out but just didn't work out. She left 3 kids behind 😢
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
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This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you?
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.



This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
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This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you He only gave me head once , than he asked me if I could return the favor during sex but I told him I'm not ready. 6 months later I started noticing the change in him. He told me he hasn't had head in over a year and he doesn't know how much longer he could take this relationship anymore. I'm always calling and texting him first now. He doesn't respond to my text but he anwsers the phone
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you?
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Is this a reasonable excuse for him to want a breakup
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I think when a man truly loves you he doesn't really care about what you can or cannot do sexually especially when he knows you are still inexperienced in the Sex department.He should have been patient with you,he's just complaining and sulking for no reason .I don't see why he should get upset over a head when he knows he disvirgined you .Don't do it if you don't feel like it
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@Virgosmalls

Your girlfriend not giving you head is not a reason to break up. Lets look at it from an alternative point of view. So, we'll take my Scorpie for example. He keeps his dick area trimmed down so it doesn't look like a pyramid in a rain-forest. I've had guys that think manscaping is for weirdos. He doesn't just lay or sit there like a starfish, he intentionally adds value to the experience by making it pleasant for me.

It doesn't appear from your perspective that he's interested in teaching or in making the experience pleasant. He's being kind of a dick. But don't let this guy turn you off playing with a guy's pole.

It's very rewarding to watch a man curl up and twitch, knowing you are the reason. But that's the Aqua Ego in me talking.
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He could be uncircumcised with lit on his dick.. and he doesn't pull the skin back to clean it..
If he wants becky to make the relationship better for him then that would mean because it's forced on your behalf you would be unhappy.. sooooo. You choose

What would you do
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He's a Virgo when you give him head he will say it's not good enough.. and split.
I would choose happiness over any and everything. You are 20.. so much life ahead of you... I think he is selfish in wanting you to make so many decisions when this is all new to you..
I would tell him to stop asking about it and explain to him why in the most loving way possible..
Word of advice.... oral sex is not going to change the dynamic of the relationship. The way he sees you and you see him are two different ways (from what you posted) which in my opinion just wouldn't work

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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you?
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The answer to that is obvious ..... she stays because she is enjoying playing this with him.

She could take the high road ... but, why do that when you are getting responses from him in which satisfy your desire to dramatize?
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you?


The answer to that is obvious ..... she stays because she is enjoying playing this with him.

She could take the high road ... but, why do that when you are getting responses from him in which satisfy your desire to dramatize?
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Very wise woman
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Don't give him head. Do you want your relationship to be good only because you give him head? It's called a sex based relationship. Dump him. Like, now.

He could be holding off until you give him head, then he's "satisfied" and leaves. I've known guys who would refuse to dump a girl until he got what he wanted. Their logic is they've waited so and so months to get something, and they don't want their invested time wasted.

This what I was feeling too , but he goes if I wanted to leave I wouldve did that over a year ago
Wow what a dick response. Wtf? By the way.......boys lie. His response kinda proved he's a liar. Please don't give him head. If it's your first time you're going to suck anyway. Save it for your husband
This makes no sense, he's already bedded the virgin, head is going to make no difference. Honestly, from your responses OP, it seems like you are just hanging on out of habit, instead of being invested. So if the guy isn't stepping up to the plate, think to yourself..."why keep him"? Why not find another fish that will be more instructive and supportive of you?


The answer to that is obvious ..... she stays because she is enjoying playing this with him.

She could take the high road ... but, why do that when you are getting responses from him in which satisfy your desire to dramatize?

Very wise woman
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I'm going to give him oral tonight
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This isn't about words say, lmao at people commenting on words he said to her, as if that is the problem


Him making relationship status comments being connected to sex is irrelevant and means nothing in comparison to these two people who have just spent the last 8 months together having no clue that they aren't connected.

the relationship isn't what it is BECAUSE he said words

but, the words ARE a representation of how little he is even present

and she says herself that she knows the relationship is stale


So, for people to have such a rage over him saying this to her, seems so shallow to me ... like that is as far as it is being thought through. Those words he said were just a reaction. Just as she is just reacting.


What is paramount here, and the only thing that really needs to be acknowledged is that these two people are NOT connected.

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I just can't even begin to imagine how people live with such small minds.

They can be living a lie to themselves, not being emotionally vested, and just playing the part as if they were and never complain or go to a site to get support for realizing that you are unhappy, and need to repair yourself.

Instead, after 8 months of living in this delusion ... you snap out about blow jobs, as if this is the catalyst.

Like, how ignorant is a person really .. that this is as far as the rabbit hole goes?
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