Virgo men and breaking up

I was with a Virgo man for almost 6 years. He was very consistent. One the most consistent men I have ever dated. We were comfortable, no major issues at all. He went from buying me 18 roses on 1/19/13. We went to look at a house to buy on 1/20/13 his idea. On 1/21/13, he put his house on the market so we could buy the house we saw on 1/20/13, again, his idea. I told him if he was serious, he had to get pre-approved, at this point I was shocked because he was ready to take our relationship to the next level. This is what he told his Aunt. He got pre-approved on 1/23/13. By Friday, 1/25/13, we were getting an offer on his house. On Saturday 1/26/13, I wake up to a text message from him stating. Sorry I don't want to sell, now isnt't the best time for me explain later. Then from there the relationship went down hill. We broke up 2/10/13. I moved out of his house on 2/18/13. Now he tells me he met someone, that she is not as pretty as me but, he has a good feeling about her. Not that he will marry her but, that it is possible. WTF—??

I def have no words on this one...Im sorry, that totally sucks!

WOW I am very sorry you must be so confused right now... The only thing that comes to mind is that after 6 years he felt that it was expected to move forward, he did go through all the motions of taking the relationship to the next level and then when things became real, he started to over analyze everything and got scared... Maybe after 6 years he is thinking if after all this time I cannot take the next step I never will, I should end this.....

The whole I met someone else she is not as pretty but I have a good feeling butter, is just messed up and cruel and I really don't have an answer for you there... :/

To add icing to the cake. After he told me about new girl, I told him I no longer wanted any further contact with him. That I realize that I had left some things at his home. I asked him to let me know when I could come bye and pick up. That he did not need to be there, that he could leave somewhere. That was on 3/7/13. He finally emailed me on 3/17/13, 10 days later, asking if I were in the neighborhood, I said NO. I then told him via email, that he could drop my stuff at a girlfriends house, directly around the corner from his ex wife's house, when he drops his son off. I said I believe I left, Open House signs, leather head rests to my third row, pj's and floor matts. His response was, of the open house signs, do you need them now, they are kind of heavy and ohh did you block my number. I replied, you can drop stuff off one day and open house signs another, and that yes I did block your number. He said, All you had to do is say don't call. I text you it didn't go through fine now I know. What part of the first email did he not understand?

Thanks, and he has yet to return my stuff to my girlfriends house, what gives?? and Open House signs are not heavy, by the way.

I am a scorpio female. I have been going to therapy, gym, morning prayer once a week and Church, but church I go everyweek anyways.

You should be proud of your strenght, you are doing good, I think this reaction would be the only one that would make him come back, and if he ever does he should come back with a ring and a proposal, after 6 years there is nowhere else to go...

Thx guys, I am probably still in shock... He was the best as far as boyfriends go, I had no complaints, None. This was the only crazy thing he has done in 6 years honestly. I layed down the law when we first met. I told him any man I was going to be with needs be saved and in Church. He went to Church, got baptized and converted to my religion and is apart of a ministry at the Church. So, I pray for him, that is all I can do. I do not know if Virgo men come back?? I just started reading up on them?

I am sorry prplhayesr But affter reading all the above I have my doubts. Virgo's just don't do what you described and if they did it is not because they are Virgo's.

Also if you are truly "Saved" what are you doing with astrology? I think this is a little taboo for born agains. To again I state that this feels like a pity party for you at our expense.

6 years and not a clue or hint of trouble from a Virgo hmmm. That is definately not us.

But Good luck with the pity cause in your case there must something going on. I will not venture a guess but you should really consider doing your homework better on the signs. A Virgo without complaints for 6 years is not normal.

Hi Miami Virgo,
I wish I had more info to give but,I do not.. No pitty party here just stating the facts. Yes, I go to Church and me looking for advice does not make me a bad person. As for complaints, were we comfortable and did things become routine, yes, but, nothing that could not be worked out. Again, I have never read up on his sign but, did Today I did and found it to be interesting and fitting to him.

Are you also an earth sign? You sound a bit like a capricorn.

Anyway, sad to hear what happened. Cant say what was going thru his head, but on a positive its good you didnt get settled into a home, possibly married etc etc and he pulled this.

It sounds like a setup almost to get your hopes up high and drop a bomb. Id LOVE an argumentless relationship, but usually things are brewing underneath. I just realized this when my Virgo sis and I subtly exploded on eachother the other day. We hardly ever argue, but i see thats wasnt a positive, because obviously theres a lot of frustration underneath on both sides.

Pray for him and yourself in being able to move on.

I am a Scorpio

What is both of your bdays time and place if you don't know the time than the place will be fine and I could look at your charts to see what happen.

Really?? Virgoking? His is 8/24/62 Boston, I am 10/29/67 Boston, that is all I know.

Here is both of your charts i'll be back to break it down

Sun Virgo 1.00
Moon Gemini 28.38
Mercury Virgo 22.54
Venus Libra 16.52
Mars Cancer 1.25
Jupiter Pisces 8.38 R
Saturn Aquarius 6.23 R
Uranus Virgo 0.55
Neptune Scorpio 11.00
Pluto Virgo 9.33
Lilith Libra 3.23
Asc node Leo 8.42

Sun Scorpio 5.33
Moon Virgo 15.43
Mercury Scorpio 12.15 R
Venus Virgo 19.25
Mars Capricorn 4.52
Jupiter Virgo 1.36
Saturn Aries 7.03 R
Uranus Virgo 27.17
Neptune Scorpio 23.25
Pluto Virgo 22.01
Lilith Taurus 4.09
Asc node Aries 27.52

Ummm ok, what does any of this mean?

I stay away from venus in libra men, not liking the grass is greener somewhere else syndrome and indecisiveness...just not my type.

I don't know the time of your birth so I can't go into deep but looking at this chart I can see a lot of power struggles and both of you guys, both of you do not understand each others feelings. Both of your mars are square each other this show power struggle can also indicate miss understanding sexually. Both of your moons which represents your emotion are at odds with each other. He is more immature and light with his emotions and a big talker. You are more serious than him you are also a introvert at times and take things more seriously than he does. The only reason why I can see you guys were together is because your south node is connected to his venus, which in astrology represent a past love. When you to first saw each other it might seem like you knew each other before, and the connection was extremely strong. Some astrologers say the node person feels held back and wants to leave but I believe its more the planet person meaning him. his venus was tired but trus me he still misses you and so do you.

Which is the South Node?

Posted by kindleberry
Which is the South Node?

Her north node is aries and the south node is always the opposite sign of the north node which is libra for her hopes that helps.

Thanks virgoking. Yes, I do miss him, not going to try and lie about that.,

How did you learn this stuff?

Eggs Dying—

Posted by prplhayesr
How did you learn this stuff?

Lots of reading and studying but it looks like your relationship was a past life relationship that had to play it's karmic roll in this life time.

ohh, so, that is it? all of this is interesting..

See this ish right here is the reason snapped is a tv show.

That's plain awful...I agree with one of the other posters. I've never heard of a virgo cold breaking it off with someone and doing it in such a hurtful way. Even if what he said about the other girl was the case and I hated my SO; I would NEVER break things off in such a cruel and hurtful manner. Even if he came back I'm not sure that would be something I could ever fully forgive or forget. Stay strong OP!

Wow, how horrible....I would be devastated.

However....There is a lack of love in this relationship....not.once did you mention you loved this man. You liked that he was consistent, and it was a comfortable relationship, which doesn't equal a happy fulfilling relationship. I notice some emotional detachment.

That does not excuse how he ended things.

I am new here, I have no ideal what butter is or tree trunked means. Piscesx, I am trying to heal and understand the break up. As for love, I do love him very much and still do. I honestly thought for the first time in my life, he was it, the man I was supposed to Marry. We connected on a spiritual level and that I never had before. I was just saying after 6 sears we were comfortable.

Yes, could be, he turned 50 in August.

Considering a situation like this (with any astro sign involvement) is rare, it becomes extremely rare with a Virgo. You mention all of his actions, and it's very strange to me that you mention nothing of what took place prior to this Virgo or your involvement in the situation. ESPECIALLY where you say he immediately gets involved with another female and you say you had no clue. I find that very hard to believe that you sensed absolutely NOTHING leading up to this. Unless of course you just left it out. This story makes no sense at all. There's a reason behind everything especially a six year relationship that suddenly isn't anymore. Without information other than wanting a sympathy pat on the back, what is it your looking for here? Clearly we don't know enough of the story to give any advice or direction.

Also, a 20 year difference in age with him being a mature adult, mid life crisis doesn't come into play here either. I suppose though, since that's been offered here without knowledge of the full story it helps your shock. (?)

Posted by prplhayesr We connected on a spiritual level and that I never had before. I was just saying after 6 sears we were comfortable.

^^^^That right there is the justification of why I say I find it impossible you didn't ~sense~ anything.

LetitB, I have given all of the complete facts and dates as they have happened. There is no more I can tell. Like I said, were things comfortable yes, was it like when we first met, butterflies? NO.... 6 years, it becomes routine. Were/are there things that could be worked on, of course but, nothing so awful that would lead to this... All of what happened honestly happened in 3 weeks time. I am sure this was not planned on his part either. As he booked our August vacation in January as well, which I have the itinerary for. I am just looking for insight into the Virgo man. I am sorry you don't understand, neither do I, that is why I am here. I am not sure where you are getting I am looking for sympathy or a pat on the back?

In any case, no offense, but it seems as if you guys are blaming the sign and not the actual guy. But overall, you should rather ponder on whether it's worth it or not; is it worth it to wait for a man who just simply needs his pace has a right of a living soul to have in order to recollect himself and make whatever decision he decides to make regarding it. and this same man is the one that you know will never let you down if you really need him, his shoulder is there if you need to cry, he actually listens to you and cares about you; provides you with what you need. This guy will always have your back; he just needs his space sometimes. So are you ready to be with a man like that or not? And you should ponder that and make your own decision...oh and if you want to have a grasp of how their mind are going overload when they need to think things through? it's literally what you guys are doing, what we all do in a way, we analyse your every mood, emotion, reaction, passive / aggressive, intensity, what has been said not said regarding a statement that has been made....now the difference is in the Virgo signs: they are perfectionist, and perfectionist do not like to make mistakes nor leave things to chance.

thanks for the support teektook2tw, other than what has happened, he has never let me down. I could not have asked for a better boyfriend. Who knows what the future may hold, I have no idea. I have cut off all communication with him. The only way he can reach me, is through email. I do wonder why he has not dropped off the last of my items at my girlfriends house like I asked, and it is not out of the way for him.

Then exactly what do you want from us— Your last statement about him not dropping off your stuff is interesting. But just to put a point on it we are not a collection agency.

I think you need a mutual friend to ask if they can pick your stuff up.

miamivirgo, wondering why he (virgo) was holding onto it.

WE CANNOT ANSWER THAT QUESTION. ASK A MUTUAL FRIEND TO ASK HIM.

If he is active in your church then I am sure he is aquainted with the term "It is better to forgive..."

So he should answer the question and forgive you. I am still waiting for any sign that this dude is really a Virgo. Cause of all the Virgo's I know this guy is an Outlier.

Not a shred of Virgo in your description that I can see. But in any case. I am sorry for your confusion with this guy.

I suggest you look into yourself and see if you can find what is in you that can help you move on.

No, you cannot make an offer on a home without a pre approval. He loved the home we saw together.

The house idea was his idea... I was going along fine and yes, I was disappointed. I believe the girl thing because before I deleted my fb he became friends with her and I saw her pic. Here is part of the email he sent me on 3/7.... I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.

Posted by prplhayesr
The house idea was his idea... I was going along fine and yes, I was disappointed. I believe the girl thing because before I deleted my fb he became friends with her and I saw her pic. Here is part of the email he sent me on 3/7.... I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.

So did he become friends with a female and that resulted in you deleting? I'm trying over here, I'm just not feeling this. Also I agree with the poster who said.. THIS IS NOT VIROGISH...I'm surrounded by them, they aren't flakes when committed. It's just hard to fathom.

no, they day I moved out, I saw he became friends with her. The next day, I deleted my fb. Did not want to see it.

Posted by coolcappy
it's hard to tell but why haven't you thought of dropping the house thing imediately. Maybe that's what scared him. Virgo guys don't usually like buying properties but renting...

Virgos don't throw away 6 years like that! I know if they have a relationship especially that long it means something to them. I also know that cheating isn't their style at all! They hardly go dating and sleep around when single nevermind when they're with someone!

... they're usually the ones which would cut communication off and he didn't with you, which means he's waiting for you to drop the house idea and go back to the way you were. He'd do it I'm sure but he needs time, he's not ready to commit with buying property right now! Cos it is a big commitment especially financialy!
Think about it, he felt presurised and went along with it till he couldn't anymore just to please you. But just the idea alone would have scared him to bits, I mean of buying a home! You're not even married etc...

All of the above -full quote ^^^TRUTH^^^ I really think coolcappy has this almost figured....
And I cannot stress enough just how much of an investment 6 years is to a Virgo! The house and other aspects here would pale into comparison with the time and energy put in with you...

You really need to open your lines of communication with this guy, steer clear of the emotional drama and ask him straight out what exactly is his story here.

I hear what you two are saying. I wish I could forward you the email he sent me on March 7th, it was heartless and very hurtful, that was when I decided to end all communication with him.

Hehe, yeh, the unrequited Virgo is the worst. That doesn't mean once they find the "right" one they ain't all over it though... Gotta have faith lol
Virgo and Cap have an implicent understanding though, really lovely.

Posted by prplhayesr
I hear what you two are saying. I wish I could forward you the email he sent me on March 7th, it was heartless and very hurtful, that was when I decided to end all communication with him.

If he was heartless and very hurtful you should probably say that- to him.
Nothing like standing up for yourself and your place in this relationship! I don't know, if I send my SO a strongly worded email I expect a response...
If only to clear the air... And I can be very hurtful. He has to be strong enough to come back at me too...
Virgos are not robots, contrary to popular opinion.

Oh, I did stand up for myself, this was email to his heartless and hurtful email to me.... I find it in my spirit to reply and I have prayed on it. The email you sent a couple of weeks ago telling me, you were only being good to me because I was good to you, that you were only returning my kindness and to go as far as to tell me about a girl you are seeing and that you have a good feeling about her so on. I would never send an email like that to my worst enemy, let alone someone I care about. That email was heartless and hurtful. Did you pray on it before you sent me that email? Did GOD say Michael, this is good email to send to the girl that you believe I sent you? As you said it yourself, you believe GOD sent me to you, for what? To basically shit on me and then discard me? So, no Michael, I do not want any further contact with you. If there is emergency you can email me. I do hope you continue on with your journey of serving the Lord and that you pray that he orders your steps and guides you.

His reply:
I said too much to b honest.Im sorry.That was me an my big mouth.But I'll pray for your forgiveness and for the Lord to strengthened you.It has been bad in the end.But I was always good to you.You think I shit on you. But I'm just trying to move on. I know you can't understand me but I will let the Lord guide me.

I live by the words "Everything happens for a reason" I'm not seeing that here. He moved on for a reason. Virgo's in a 6 year stable relationship at 50 years of age, don't do this unless they have some kind of unstable mental history, or unstable relationship (which has to be really bad for them to budge after 6 years) The part where he says "It has been bad in the end" may be referring to whatever IT is.

LetitB, here it is, email I rec'd..I had to respond after giving lots of thought to what you said.Yes it`s good in the beginning it always is but as it goes on. I should have a special feeling for you that never goes away.An that feeling was is that you are special ,sweet, pretty and so good to me how could I say no to you.But I did. You asked me to marry you one day. An I said no( I have to ask you). Right then an their I knew that wasn`t the reason. An I should have been honest with you an said I didn`t feel it.You once said to me why won`t you marry me and I should of told you. But I never had the heart to tell you because you was so good to me.I think I was trying be optimistic an hope that the felling would come one day but the truth of the matter is you feel it in the very beginning.Do you remember the day I saw the prettiest ring an I sent u the picture of it .The reason why I never bought it was not that I didn`t love enough or I wanted u to loose weight it was because I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.An the Lord is my witness it`s not the devil`s work. That comes from the heart.An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February.But I would have found another excuse if u lost the weight.You always said to me [you don`t want to marry me] an you was right I just never had the heart to tell you because you was so good me an I believed the Lord did send you to me. I always wanted it to work but I couldn`t get that doubt out of my head.It is hard to live without you but deep down inside I knew this day would come and you an I would hurt for from my decision. I tried for a long time to tell myself you was the one but somethiing deep in side would stop me an the biggest excuse I could come up with was( I`ve been hurt before) that was always my way out. An I should have never looked for a way out.But I always looked for a way out.An that was the problem I should never had looked for a way out.But because you was so good to me I couldn`t help but try to ge good back.I think that was the

hardest part you was so good to me I couldn`t help it I had to be good back but I was just returning your kindness.I couldn`t help it. You did for me so much I could never repay you.An that`s why I will always love you.It`s just not that love to make the biggest leap of all.The Lord is watching over us and he knows I tried.An the devil did do his part but in the end it was all my fault.Because I should of never let it go so far.I was scared to break up with you. I didn`t want to loose a good thing.An that was selfish on my part I see that now.I will never forgive myself for being so selfish an putting us both threw this.