Virgo men - enigma or just a pain in the —

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To all women who are baffled by behaviours displayed by Virgo men....please raise their hands!

I have personally experienced hurt, pain and sorrow caused not by one but three Virgo men in my life. I must have done something to piss them off in my past life because I just cannot get away from them!

Being a Scorpio woman, it is very hard for me to open up emotionally to another person therefore when someone hurts me, the pain is unbearable, unlike any other.

These men pursued me relentlessly...would not take no for answer when I was hesitant to commit to the relationship initially. When I got my guard down and began to trust them and let them into my private world, they just got scared of the intensity and just shut down.

It's amazing how fast these men fall for you. They can even tell you that they are falling in love with you on the first date!

How could you tell someone that you love them every single day and then suddenly disappear without any reason or warning? It's like having your man go to the shop to buy some groceries but never came back because he got hit by a car or something...

That is very hurtful, to love someone so intensely and then just walking away without giving it any thought or any reason.

Could any Virgos enlighten me why do you do the disappearing act? Why was it not possible for Virgos to tell us women what the problem was so that we could work on it?

I am not the only victim of Virgo men. My friend who was in a loving relationship with a Virgo man recently found out that he had another girlfriend in his hometown... (They were in a long distance relationship for three years!)

Recently, a Virgo wanted to have a relationship with me after a very short period of knowing me and the worst part was that he is still married to his wife although he claims to be unhappy in his marriage.

When I declined politely why I did not want to have anything to do with him, he just took it as an insult!Huh?

There are too many stories I have heard from my friends how much these men love to hurt us women by doing what they do best...disappearing!

When I got hurt the first time, I swore I would never get myself involved with another Virgo again but I keep going back to them because I kept falling for the same tricks.

These men look like they could never hurt a fly but boy do they really sting! At least with a Scorpio, you knew it was coming!

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Then it must be something like (trick me) engraved in your forehead flashing from miles away..! How is that possible to fall in the same manner 3 times with the same people of the certain star sign?

Could any Virgos enlighten me why do you do the disappearing act?

Water creatures are suffocating —in general term?? which leaves Virgos with no choice but either murdering or disappearing!

Ps!

We usually take the civilized manner.
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Virgo's can be a lot of fun to be around. The Virgo that I'm mingling with has given a lot of indication that he wants to be with me, but because I'm not so sure about the relationship jumping from friendship to serious, he has acted out. LOL

I've noticed he can be bit of akid. Currently, he's on my ignore list after some of the shit he pulled, and now he keeps texting and calling. He knows what he did and what he was doing, I'm just not playing along. And now that I'm not involved, he is trying to figure out how to get back in contact with me.

I think it's males in general. They will try to push their boundaries to see how much they can get away with (or more like how much you will give in too). Once you have given them permission to stretch those limits, then they are allowed to do what they do.
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Virgo's can be a lot of fun to be around. The Virgo that I'm mingling with has given a lot of indication that he wants to be with me, but because I'm not so sure about the relationship jumping from friendship to serious, he has acted out. LOL

I've noticed he can be bit of akid. Currently, he's on my ignore list after some of the shit he pulled, and now he keeps texting and calling. He knows what he did and what he was doing, I'm just not playing along. And now that I'm not involved, he is trying to figure out how to get back in contact with me.

I think it's males in general. They will try to push their boundaries to see how much they can get away with (or more like how much you will give in too). Once you have given them permission to stretch those limits, then they are allowed to do what they do.
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-Posted by apple moon-

>Being a Scorpio woman, it is very hard for me to open up emotionally to another person therefore when someone hurts me, the pain is unbearable, unlike any other.

I've dated two Scorps so far as I know and the first one, tho a very nice lady, had some quirks I just couldn't tolerate. Keep in mind that SHE is the one who asked me in her first email about sex and that she wanted a FWB relationship. I thought she was kidding, but she wasn't. I didn't really want that kind of a relationship, but thought I'd see if she was serious or not. She was. Her quirks... she wouldn't make love unless it was under the covers, in the dark. Hey, I like to SEE what's happening, lol. Second quirk, she was not really into kissing, didn't care much for oral... ME GIVING. And LOVED quickies... which I generally dislike. I got so tired of her asking me all the time what was taking me so long (after only 15 minutes) that I finally quit seeing her.

Second Scorp I dated. Also a very nice lady. In fact, we are still friends and write each other weekly. She also wanted a FWB relationship, and I also didn't believe her at first, but it turned out to be true. And I really didn't want that kind of a thing... but had to find out the hard way that this must be a Scorp thing as I'd never had another woman tell me outright they only wanted that kind of relationship. So this second Scorp... same as the first, LOVED quickies, which I dislike. We couldn't get around that. So we split, but have remained very close friends.

>These men pursued me relentlessly...would not take no for answer when I was hesitant to commit to the relationship initially. When I got my guard down and began to trust them and let them into my private world, they just got scared of the intensity and just shut down.

Weird Virgos. When a woman tells me NO, it means NO to me and I STOP. I might let a week or so go by, and try again, but if told no two or three times, I give up and will NEVER ask again.

Letting your guard down, heh. Ya, I noticed with both Scorps I dated... were VERY guarded. VERY suspicious, and secretive. Tho interestingly, not jealous as is often said about them.

Virgos getting scared and shutting down... -boggle- I read that often, but don't understand it myself. I love intensity. Only reason I could think of a guy shutting down and getting scared is if he was cheating on his wife with you, or had pangs of guilt because of religion or something along those lines
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>It's amazing how fast these men fall for you. They can even tell you that they are falling in love with you on the first date!

Yes. Sometimes it's like I have a sixth sense about a compatible sign. I felt a strong connection to a woman across a group campfire a couple of years ago, and asked her if she was a Virgo. Said I sensed it. She confirmed it. Interesting 'eh. This summer I was chatting with a customer and we were really hitting it off, and I guessed she was a Cappy, and it turned out to be true. I think some of us can sense a compatible sign and confirmed, is a huge turn on to us.

>How could you tell someone that you love them every single day and then suddenly disappear without any reason or warning? It's like having your man go to the shop to buy some groceries but never came back because he got hit by a car or something...

Well, I can say that sometimes we get bogged down with lifes troubles, our jobs, etc... and don't know what to say to anyone. If friends came by, I'd welcome them... and it would probably cheer me up... but during one of those funks, it's hard for me to call, or even write friends. I do try to keep this quirk in mind tho and at least write every few days... no longer than a week. But I suppose that could be a real bummer if you're used to chatting daily.

>That is very hurtful, to love someone so intensely and then just walking away without giving it any thought or any reason.

So YOU contact them. OR, go by their house and knock on the door. LOL. Nudge them out of their funk.

>Could any Virgos enlighten me why do you do the disappearing act? Why was it not possible for Virgos to tell us women what the problem was so that we could work on it?

I don't have that problem in general. Tho there have been times. We Virgo guys are so analytical, that sometimes we out think ourselves. For instance, with one past GF, I was getting sexually bored with her, but still really loved her. I didn't know how to explain my feelings of boredom, and felt that doing so would end the relationship, which I valued... so didn't say anything and probably was thought to be distant or something... and the relationship ended anyway.
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>I am not the only victim of Virgo men. My friend who was in a loving relationship with a Virgo man recently found out that he had another girlfriend in his hometown... (They were in a long distance relationship for three years!)

I think any sign can be that way. Depending on their hormones perhaps. My Scorp penpal, the one I used to date, has two married lovers (she seems to prefer married men) and several other men she dates here and there and is always looking for more, LOL. She is no whore or anything like that... but IMO, is just SO picky, she is never satisfied with anyone and is always looking for something better.

>Recently, a Virgo wanted to have a relationship with me after a very short period of knowing me and the worst part was that he is still married to his wife although he claims to be unhappy in his marriage.

Is that the one you are complaining about? Then that's his problem. He feels the need to find another mate, but still feels some loyalty to his wife, so feels guilty and distances himself from you at those times. Depending on how much loyalty he feels, or if children are involved, he may never leave her.

>When I declined politely why I did not want to have anything to do with him, he just took it as an insult!Huh?

Oh. Well. Good for you for telling him no way, heh.

>When I got hurt the first time, I swore I would never get myself involved with another Virgo again but I keep going back to them because I kept falling for the same tricks.

I feel that way about Scorps now... that most of them only want FWB relationships, and want fast and furious sex. I'll be much more careful should I become interested in one in the future, to make sure we understand each other before we go past the friendship stage.

I also feel that way about Cappys. I seem to be VERY attracted to Cappy women, but they take so long to make up their minds about intimacy, it makes me crazy. I don't think I will ever date a Cappy again. First one I dated, I wrote about here on DXP. After two months of weekly dating, I was 46 at the time and she was 52... the last two dates we french kissed for over 4 hours straight each time... and she still didn't want to have sex and didn't know when she would... she kept telling me not to push her. I finally couldn't take it anymore and quit going out with her.

>These men look like they could never hurt a fly but boy do they really sting! At least with a Scorpio, you knew it was coming!

I can relate. At lea
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First of all, thank you for all the replies.

Strings Attached - Well..good luck on your personal vendetta..even if it was just a thought :-)

Mars in Aries - So true about the part where they act like a kid because now he is trying to get in touch with me after a month of the disappearing act. P.S. I have my Mars in Aries too!

sortilege85 - I assume that is not your real profile picture because you look like Keanu Reeves, who happens to be an enigma and a Virgo but I suppose you knew that already...

Layna - In fact, when we first met, he surprised me with his intensity and jealousy! I was playing it cool but he would pout and get upset when I did not call a day or two because I was tied up with work. I have to admit though, we do have trust issues in this relationship as it progresses.....

Ferghus Clydelover - I appreciate your lengthy replies and trying to explain explicitly why Virgos act the way they do.
He is an intense man himself and jealous! It does not mean that I have a lot of friends that I am sleeping with them!
We have always had trust issues in this relationship.

Me, being 9 years older, running my own business and very independent somehow makes him feel a little insecure.
Him, obviously handsome,intelligent and charming ( Most Virgos are! Sigh..) make me doubt him sometimes.

I get a lot of Virgos hitting on me, especially younger men, some as young as 22!I'm 36 by the way so this is not some teenage crush.

And lastly, no I am not having an affair with this Virgo because he is not married, I can assure you that.

I did not try to get in touch with him but he tried to get in touch with me just yesterday. That just totally threw me for a loop..I really do not know how to react.

seavixen - He does like compliments and he appreciates that I make him see things in a different perspective...like when he was overworked and stressed out and I was there to offer him emotional support and provide a few laughters as well..
And then he keeps saying.."Do you know how much I love you?", "I really love you so much" over and over again..

Of course I really love the Virgo's qualities like their determination and intelligence or else I would not have fallen in love with these men over and over again.

Ah...and look what I found here as well..

Me - If you have Juno in your first house then you will probably make your entire world about another person. This may seem romantic but it is heartbreaking for you if the relations
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Me - If you have Juno in your first house then you will probably make your entire world about another person. This may seem romantic but it is heartbreaking for you if the relationship ever falls apart or if the person passes away. Individuals who have Juno in the first house often have an air of innocence about them that others find attractive. You are a very loyal individual and would never cheat but your naivet? often leaves you as the one who is cheated on. Individuals that would have this attractive air of innocence thanks to a First House Juno are Vanessa Paradis, George Clooney, Bill Clinton, Prince William and Melanie Griffiths.

Him - If you have Juno in the fifth house, you make a wonderful, creative parent. You would also excel at all kinds of games, sports andhobbies. One of the dangers of this placement is that you may be the type who never seems to grow up. You may act out a lot and subconsciously choose a marriage partner who is more like a parent then a lover. You also subconsciously choose partners that you feelwill "baby" you in some way. Celebrities that have this childlike placement of Juno include Gerard Depardieu, Elvis Presley, Demi Moore, Paul McCartney, Freddie Mercury, Katie Holmes, Ted Bundy and the Marquis De Sade.

Hmm....interesting!
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Posted by Learus
And for you ladies, a man is only gonna run a game on you IF YOU LET HIM. A person can only do to you as much as you let them. Don't be so quick to fall in love yourselves, and you won't get played.



AGREED!!!!!

But then you are considered as a hostile bitch for not letting them get close to you. For some reason, it's considered bad if you have STANDARDS and place BOUNDARIES and make men walk the line.

A real man can handle my love, and the only game I play is for keeps. But I don't give my heart out to anyone. If a guy knows me, he will know how to get me. And he won't be pissed off if he doesn't get his way with me. Instead, he'll respect me more because of it, and admire the strength of my love.

I'm tired of little boys and their games.
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Very well said and I agree with you 100% . Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. REAL men don't play games anyway, and if they do, it's playing for keeps too.

I have learned that men who considered you hostile apparently do not have enough common sense to realize that maybe closeness is earned? Those type of guys are impatient and not good relationship material. If they don't have good sense, it's best not to let them in your life anyway because they'll end up rubbing off on you, and YOU'LL be the one running around making illogical decisions.



Wow.... that is actually something that I needed to hear!!! Thank-you!!!!

You're last sentence rings especially true. Sounds like you too have a solid head on your shoulders. And you're absolutely right.... closeness IS earned. Thank you for reminding me!!!
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ok, first of all, I am the only ninja here! name says it all so don't go around being a poser. 😉

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I'm sorry, i just can't see that.

I've always hated that ever sine my taurus and scorpio father always fought... that engrained me to believe that relationships are nothing both heart sobbing and wimpering confusion.

Well, if'd still like to have people prove me wrong and say that it does work 😉



oh! that's where ur perspective needs tweaking, my dear. u gotta prove that to urself!
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Posted by ninjamu

oh! that's where ur perspective needs tweaking, my dear.




Fine let me get my crackpipe...

Yup, i already proved love plenty of times...now where do i go? haha.
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that's on u, love. see? this is where u go wrong. u keep turning to others for ur answers. btw, never take the 1st hit off that pipe. melt it down, roll a nice even coating on the bottom, then hit it.
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Hah, good post apple moon. I am a pisces, funny to say I've been involved with virgo men as well and it just left me in sorrow, confusion, and feeling like I did the problem. My last encounter i was engaged 3 years with a virgo male and it ended with anger, resentment and questionable reason and he's already dating. Typical virgo...(Which I'm still pissed at him for)

I love virgos and all, but when you hear about ex issues and how they solved them, (if it was bad) I advise you to run far far farrr away. Lol