Virgo Men...Shy and Cautious in Love?

This seems to be one sign I attract constantly to me but things never take off. Instinctively, I assume a male Virgo that doesnt make things happen as uninterested, but two Virgos from my past continue to come back. Each time the declaration of love is stronger than before and followed with an explanation about how they were too shy to express how they felt. Now neither guy is the shy type and I have seen them in relationship after relationship with women. So in my opinion I consider it all a bunch of talk and no more, but I cant figure out why a guy woild go through all of that? Calling a woman up from their past (one is an ex, I dated BRIEFLY in hs...but knew since I was 11) to unload all this emotion just to once more back off.

Are Virgo men typically known to be shy? I would not peg them as pursuers unless they are certain they can land the girl, so are they overly cautious? What is their pursue style?

Posted by CrosstownTraffic
maybe the guy has a trust in you to even think about coming back.

the thing with you saying they come back is the pisces women do this also and its bc they trust you....

some virgo guys are shy however im usually not..some pisces women are persuers also...

Thanks for the perspective. Idk, it's just a bit frustrating. I find that behavior a bit flakey and a waste of time, so I know now at this point I seem aloof. My best friend who happens to be best friends with one of the guys in question, wants me to give him a chance but after knowing him for years (since we were kids), that constant hot and cold behavior has worn thin. I suppose I will just take this as something someone does when they are bored...they reminisce.

I didn't know that was a characteristic of a Pisces, but I can see perhaps the error of my ways in how I approached his situation. Perhaps I just never gave him a chance, when I met him as a kid it was all very innocent and cute, but once we got to hs he was very popular, charismatic and a lady-charmer and I was a bit shy, a virgin, classic good girl in hs so I didn't really take his interest in me seriously. I still don't know if I'll give it a chance this time around though, it just seems to never work out for us, so perhaps that is the universe answering this.

Thanks for your insight 🙂

Malloryor... From my experiences this is true for Virguys with the hot and cold act. They initially come on strong and will suddenly pull back, but never disappears. I don't think this is completely intentional however. Thing is, they are completely cautious lovers and think with their mind in matters of love. They like to have contol of their emotions so they hang on to them for dear life. Pisces has a counter effect to that emotional wall they put up... In some cases, and seemingly in yours, it seems that he truly cares about u but slow in expressing it. They will even second guess themselves and spend alot of time pondering the whole situation of how they fell so hard. With Virgos, their actions can be interpreted better than their words in love.... I was dealing with a Virgo a while back and I've learned so much from that relationship...Oan dxpnet's Virgo forum lol....
Good Luck

@PrettiPisces Okay, so it seems like you and @CrosstownTraffic are saying that I should maybe (sigh..I hate to suggest take the lead) take more control of the situation? Just flat out tell him "this is how I feel, this is how you feel, this is what I want and if you want me, then you have to be ready to step up to the plate..."—? Essentially...this is what I am assuming you all mean.

If we are to go off of his actions, then I would assume he is uninterested in me, but since I have known him since childhood, given our history in hs of dating, and my best friend (who happens to be his best friend) relaying how he tells her how much he likes me and cares for me (apparently, he's very open emotionally with her). Sigh this is all so confusing because he has no problem getting women, he's a good looking guy, he was the popular guy in school and consider a lady charmer (not a player) but he definitely had his pick of girls because he was so charismatic, so idk I have a hard time believing why he would be so shy around me...so my aqua placements take over and make me see this from a logical perspective instead of my initial emotional point of view and then I just think...well he just wants to toy with my heart, because if he was serious he'd make it happen.

So yeah I'm guarded. 😢