Virgo trying to attack Scorpio

A big hello to everyone on this forum I am new to this, and this is in fact only my second post (my first post was to reply to 'what Virgo men want from a woman').

I would appreciate it VERY much if any of you could shed some light into my case, and hopefuly help me figure this one out...I also posted this message on the Scorpio forum.

She is a 23 y.o. Scorpio and I am a 28 y.o. Virgo, and we met through a common friend. This guy also happens to be one of her two closest friends here at university. He helps me out by giving me info that I can then use (effectively and not so...) to pursue her and understand her more.

We have been around each other for only a couple of weeks, and always in small or large groups. She laughts at all my jokes and finds me very funny, and I am captivated by her wit and smile/laughter. She has only had one relationship, for 6 years (between the ages of 17 and 23). I am not sure about how much she is over him (I guess almost totally, but not sure).

Anyway...my style is totally direct and quick. Soon after we met at a lunch prepeared by our common friend, I got her email by that guy (not by asking her directly) and send her a very witty message, starting a 'game' about how she can work for my secret organisation in order to destroy our common friend (I and that guy were competing for a prize...all in great atmosphere of course!). She replied with an equally witty message, which she had obviosuly spent some time writing. A couple more messages were exchanged around the same theme, and then my group won the prize. That was on Wednesday. On the same day I and our common friend (we are both doing the same Master's course; she is doing a different course) came back to his flat for a coffee, and he promptly invited her down. As soon as I saw her I grabbed her and kissed her on the cheeks (I was happy about winning), and then all three of us laughed and had a good time over coffee, as usual.

The same evening I called her for the first time (again, getting her number from our common friend), and we talked for some time, just joking as usual.

On Friday, I sent her an e-card inviting her to dinner as a way of thanking her for her 'help' in defeating the enemy group hehe. She did not reply to my e-card, and so I called her on the same day. She said that she was ill and had a big deadline for Wed, and so she could not go for dinner that day or at the weekend, but that we could go next week (i.e. this week). I said that's fine.

Next day, I send her a packet of Jelly Babies with a get well note. I called her and she thanked me for them, but said she could not talk because she was on Skype with some other people (did not specify). She said she would call me later, after she had finished chatting. That was at around 7 p.m., and after waiting until 9, I called her. She said she was still on Skype, and would call me when she finished. I did not call again that night, and she did not call either.

Next day she send me an email apologising for not calling, and saying that by the time she remembered to call me it was really late. I said it's ok, don't worry, and that in fact I should be the one apologising for maybe pressuring her. Also, in her email she said she was going to call me when she came back from university that day. Again, she did not call me.

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated Please tell me what I am doing right and where I am failing!

Thanks!

Hi Virgo C. This is only my opinion and I could be wrong. I am a scorpio and it sounds very much like the way I deal with a guy that I really like, but I don't feel any chemistry for and I don't want to hurt his feelings. It looks like she is hoping that she doesn't have to confront you and that you will just go away so that she doesn't have to tell you that she is not interested. If I were you I would back off. If she is interested she will contact you. She is a scorpio and she will find a way to contact someone that she really likes. I would give it a couple of months with no contact and then maybe just try to casually run into her somewhere and be very friendly but also a little aloof like you are over her and she may just surprise you by working to get back your attention. Maybe she will be a little more open to something by then. Scorpio's like mystery and a little bit of chase.

Thanks for your input gslove, much apprecieted 🙂 What bugs me the most is not even being called after the Jelly Baby gesture to be thanked. Yes, I got an email, but she had my number and could have called easily. I am starting to cool off now anyway, I guess that all this chase was as much a test for her as it was for me. The last email she will be getting from me is one I sent yesterday, containing a very funny short clip of cats going crazy. That's one last chance for her to acknowledge me, and also to say 'ok, let's stay friends, the heat is off'. She has not responded to it yet, and I do not care if she does really.

By the way, I bumped into her today when I went around to get some notes from our common friend. We were cordial and she was laughing at my jokes as always. I did not mention anything about emails or dinners, etc. Just wished her good luck with her big deadline tomorrow and that's it!

Women are so complex, and that's why we like them so much 🙂

Shaka2 you are totally right, that's what I am doing now. I didn't put my life on hold for her, no way 🙂 All I did was be me...when I like the company of someone, I pursue it with my direct style . If in return I get indirectness, that kills it for me, period (as it hapenned in this case). Thanks for the great advice!

Virgogotme and Shaka2 thank you both. I know the theory, and you are both right. But to be honest her lack of a reply to my emails just shows to me that I should look elsewhere. I do not believe that we are very compatible when I think about it. She is organised and focused on her career totally, while I am more anarchic and unconventional. She gives me the impression that she is totally part of the system, whereas I always leave some room for manouvre. Don't know, time will tell whether I find what I am looking for 🙂

"I am a scorpio and it sounds very much like the way I deal with a guy that I really like, but I don't feel any chemistry for and I don't want to hurt his feelings. It looks like she is hoping that she doesn't have to confront you and that you will just go away so that she doesn't have to tell you that she is not interested. "

I couldn't have said it any better. I also am a Scorpgirl and I totally agree with gslove. Give her time. If she wants to remain friends she will stay aloof, but always socialize in public. Sounds like you make her smile and she likes that about you. Maybe that's all you should concentrate on. Make her smile and she'll let you know if she wants more.