VIRGO VANISHED - completely confused!

I'm a Libra, have been slowly talking to a Virgo for over a year, he took me out on a date (after a year!) and we had a lot of fun and he was so sweet and such a gentleman. Afterwards he kept saying "I had such a nice time, I had such a good time", called me maybe 5 times the next day (I only answered I think once), and then after we finally spoke that day, he blocked me? And it's been 4 days since he blocked me? I AM SO CONFUSED! Why did he block me? Doesn't he want to keep going the good that is happening? Honestly, this has turned me off...

Don't panic!

He might have got deep feelings for you and need time to retreat!

Go on with your life and stay busy. He will contact you but he needs space! Space for his logic to catch up with his heart.

When he comes back tell him that you don't accept that kind of behavior into blocking you and disappearing. I he needs space you can give him that without him pulling that kind of stuff. Once you mention that once he will know not to do that again. Don't make conflict out of it put speak about it in a matter of fact way. If you stop that game early you won't have to worry about him disappearing like that again.

Weird breed yes they are but it doesn't mean he isn't still interested in you.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
Don't panic!

He might have got deep feelings for you and need time to retreat!

Go on with your life and stay busy. He will contact you but he needs space! Space for his logic to catch up with his heart.

When he comes back tell him that you don't accept that kind of behavior into blocking you and disappearing. I he needs space you can give him that without him pulling that kind of stuff. Once you mention that once he will know not to do that again. Don't make conflict out of it put speak about it in a matter of fact way. If you stop that game early you won't have to worry about him disappearing like that again.

Weird breed yes they are but it doesn't mean he isn't still interested in you.

Thank you. I do know that he likes me however he is so afraid of love (based on him being hurt before) and he has a history of being a player. Therefore are you sure he's not blocking me because maybe he has some sort of other relationship? I do feel in my heart that the feeling he has for me is quite intense for him, so agree he is trying to sort it out. To me though I take it as very selfish, here you are spending quality time with me then you cut me off like crazy by blocking your phone, strange to me.

Posted by virgoloveer
I'm a Libra, have been slowly talking to a Virgo for over a year, he took me out on a date (after a year!) and we had a lot of fun and he was so sweet and such a gentleman. Afterwards he kept saying "I had such a nice time, I had such a good time", called me maybe 5 times the next day (I only answered I think once), and then after we finally spoke that day, he blocked me? And it's been 4 days since he blocked me? I AM SO CONFUSED! Why did he block me? Doesn't he want to keep going the good that is happening? Honestly, this has turned me off...

Blocked you where?

he is sorting out his feelings. They do strange things just let him know that he can't do that to you. They are horrible communicators so lead him with that.

*rolls eyes they always remember who hurt them but forget that they have hurt a lot of people. He scared of love because karma comes full circle to them.

In your case train him how to teach you since he is a "player" they need to meet their match!

dont allow him to play games with you. theyre very good at it. if they know that they can get away with it theyll repeat the cycle. stand your ground and be strong. life is too short for playing tricks on people and feelings. if he cant be upfront with his feelings (trust me, he can be) then let him go and date other men.

the world does not revolve around men like virgo

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Posted by chococream
if he cant be upfront with his feelings (trust me, he can be)

i've talked with plenty of virgos about this and the general theme of it is that they don't fee like they should have to talk about their feelings. it makes them uncomfortable. they prefer to show in their actions.

of course they could. it's not like any of them would burst into flames if they talked about their feelings. it's just that for most of them it seems the desire it not there.

the thing about actions without words though is that you can be told "i never promised you anything. i never said i loved you. i don't know why you're so mad i didn't lead you on" etc. actions are fine as long as there is also verbal affirmation. one without the other is worthless.

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that is true. I on the other hand prefer words adn actions otherwise I wouldnt take it seriously.

Are you sure he blocked you?

Yes he blocked my phone. I have blocked him...what should I do now?

I think he takes advantage of my patience for sure

Posted by virgoloveer
Yes he blocked my phone. I have blocked him...what should I do now?

But how do you know?? That youve been blocked?

Lmao, so you block him back? Wth?

Why did you only pick up the phone once when he called 5 times?

How old are you?

I do think this is a troll post though.

No one is this childish.

Posted by DMV
Why did you only pick up the phone once when he called 5 times?

As DMV said. That's the only thing that bothered me.

Did you show him your interest?
It could be that he thought you weren't that into him, so he decided to move on.
I'm a Virgo, and I detest when someone I like doesn't reciprocate my chasing, so I assume that the person aint that into me.

Because I was working and in meetings! I don't play games! And I know I was blocked!

So the Virgo assumed I'm not that into him bc I don't answer his calls? We're adults there shouldn't be chasing after a year...yes he knows I like him but liking someone doesn't mean that I want to be blocked?

Well.. that was your FIRST date after a year. Maybe he thinks you're not that into him after meeting him in real life. I don't know, but honestly no matter what we say, you're not going to be satisfied with the answers, because it't not directly from him. You either have to wait for him to unblock you, or just move on.
Easy as it sounds, I know it is hard when you don't get a real closure.

What do you lot mean by "why did you only pick up the phone once when he called 5 times". Some people have lives, they work, they have things going on around them.

Sheesh some People are going to be shocked when scientists discover the centre of the universe and they come to find that it isn't them!

I think blocking him also was playing into his immature games. But if you genuinly never want to hear from him again then block away. This is something I would expect from myself or one of my friends when we were 16 years old, but from a grown ass man, it's just screaming "INSECURITIES" and that is so unattractive. Like StellaVixen said, it doesn't really matter what we say...but I think you should probably just move on. So much damn drama after 1 date..NEXT!

He may wants to see if you care enough about him, while cutting you off.. Anyways, you should note the advice the scorpio chick gave because to me she is the closest to the truth
You should have a talk about it, this is not cool at all, stand your ground and know your limits so he would not play with you like he is immaturely doing ! Just to know : did you told him clearly that you cared about him, does he know that he is important to you ?
Good luck anyways x

Posted by virgoloveer
Yes he blocked my phone. I have blocked him...what should I do now?

First of all the fact you entertained and used up your energy for a year on a guy for one date speaks volumes... I don't get that at all.

He finally takes you out, communicates he really likes you and you blow him off after five texts.

Now he has you blocked. How's that feel? Sucks doesn't it?

Don't play games...Virgo's will mirror those games back at you and then walk away for good.
Your loss.

* excuse me...he didn't text five times HE PICKED THE PHONE UP AND CALLED..wow. Nice guy.

Posted by virgoloveer

yes he knows I like him but liking someone doesn't mean that I want to be blocked?

No hun, by you not acknowledging ANY of the calls with a brief text...you told him to fuck off.
Deal with it.

Posted by virgoloveer

called me maybe 5 times the next day (I only answered I think once),

So let me get this straight ... you are so unconcerned about this man that you (think) you only answered once? You don't know your own actions?

Or, did you put that tidbit in there to paint a picture to us that your ditzy, and your brain cannot function well enough to remember minute to minute?


Here you are babbling about how he isn't working on wanting you hard enough ..... while you tell insinuate to us from that remark, that you can't be bothered to remember whether or not you talked to him.

You guys are too much...

Posted by virgoloveer
You guys are too much...

Come on guys.. See what you've done ?

lol some people are only here to ctitiize you it doesn't matter what kind of advice you are asking for they get off on making you look like a idiot.

Ignore the miserable ones they have no life.

Once again agrees with octoberbaby91 !
Just take what you need to take as an advice and get away wwith it 😉
Good luck anyways x

But how do you know youve been blocked? Ive blocked ppl b4 and they never knew. Do you get a greeting when u call or a text saying youve been blocked.

im just curious

I just know. It goes straight to his voicemail. Not willing to debate on this.

All I can do is feel what I feel and I feel hurt and pushed away and completely confused.

Aww :/ There is nothing you can do, that's unfair but that is the way it is unfortunately. Maybe he will come back, who knows ? But i dare you to show him that what if has done was really wrong

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More like his loss if I walk away....

Posted by virgoloveer
More like his loss if I walk away....

Ha...This is a funny sentence. I remember I wrote it and P Angel handed me a new asshole. LOL

I'm a Libra, have been slowly talking to a Virgo for over a year, he took me out on a date (after a year!) and we had a lot of fun and he was so sweet and such a gentleman. Afterwards he kept saying "I had such a nice time, I had such a good time", called me maybe 5 times the next day (I only answered I think once), and then after we finally spoke that day, he blocked me? And it's been 4 days since he blocked me? I AM SO CONFUSED! Why did he block me? Doesn't he want to keep going the good that is happening? Honestly, this has turned me off...

So you SLOWLY talked to this Virgo male for OVER a year. Then he finally took you out on a date. You use all these adjectives to state how nice he was. Then he attempts to call you 5 times. FIVE mind you and you talked to him once. You never state what you talked about. So I am going to say what ever was stated is your issue. He gets off the phone labels you a no go and gets rid of you. That's what men do.

But my question is this..if you waited so long and enjoyed yourself why would you feel like you deserved to be on this pedestal? He called you. His intent showed. You could have taken a moment to call or text just to say you were busy and you would call when you were off. You have no idea how many ladies on here complain for a phone call or text. You come off snobbish in a way almost a feeling of entitlement. Maybe what you stated on the phone came off the same way. Virgos bypass those who are not genuine. So it's not his loss really. He saw what wasn't going to work and let it go. No loss on either side.

Posted by virgoloveer
Yes he blocked my phone. I have blocked him...what should I do now?

Posted by DMV
Why did you only pick up the phone once when he called 5 times?

And that's the part of the story that will explain some things. I'm guessing the fact that she has chosen to block him in response and made a thread asking what next (*still scratching head over that one*) means he probably realized who and what he's dealing with.

Posted by scorpvixen
What do you lot mean by "why did you only pick up the phone once when he called 5 times". Some people have lives, they work, they have things going on around them....

It's all in the wording. It could have been a poor choice of words on her part, but "I only answered his call once I think" is one thing and "he called me 5 times and I missed his calls..." is another completely. The former sounds like game playing. Further, how do you not know how many times you answered a phone call, yet you're stressed over why he blocked you? Mirror mirror....

😆 well the point I made in my post was already covered apparently.

As you were....

Onto the next "Virgo are such assh*les" and I refuse to take accountability thread.

Posted by PhoenixRising
😆 well the point I made in my post was already covered apparently.

As you were....

Onto the next "Virgo are such assh*les" and I refuse to take accountability thread.

Please tell me what to do? I am totally taking accountability by trying to do what's right. Here's my stance. I unblocked his number. I left him a voicemail (as a friend, telling him nicely and kindly what's up but hope he's good). Not sure what else I can do. Do I have resentment? Sure, it took him a year to take me out on a date (he is very afraid and has been deeply hurt in the past), and we had a good time, were close, had fun etc. and he shuts me out? Him calling me 5 times in one day is immature, he knows I was working and busy. I answered the moment I could. The moment he got satisfaction that I was where I was (busy) then he blocks me on the phone. I'm not sure what I'm doing so wrong here? I'm confused, he confused the shit out of me. You can't give someone a piece a piece of cake, then pull it away and say "never mind". I feel like he's holding onto me as long as he can. I should of probably never went out on a date with him (not sure).

@Scorchedearth - Can I get an Amen!

Posted by scorchedearth
there are a few people that white knight for virgos regardless of what's actually happening ie letibe and p-angel. they try to make you feel stupid and like you've done something wrong if a virgo isn't up your ass. if you feel lost or unsure that's your own fucking fault and how dare you question the all mighty virgo and his mirroring.

when in reality not all virgo men or women are worthwhile. there's just as many POS virgos as there are of any other sign. sometimes they game play. sometimes they emotionally withhold because there's something wrong with THEM. sometimes you haven't done shit wrong and your confused feelings are justified.

like look at them jumping on you because you didn't pick up after he called five times. that's you game playing. no one thinks it's odd at all that the virgo called FIVE FUCKING TIMES WITHOUT GETTING A RESPONSE. didn't wait for you to contact him like a normal person would. which if you did that they'd accuse you of being clingy mess and that you don't deserve the virgo.

btw his phone is probably off. if your phone is blocked it doesn't go to voicemail you get a special message saying that the person is not accepting calls or that your number has been blocked. i've dated drama queens before and been blocked myself. i've broken up with a couple of girls and instead of trying to be friends or go our separate ways they decided to try to destroy, destroy, destroy. apparently me not wanting to be with them caused a lot of butthurt and they had to do that.

Thank you appreciate it. Fyi on an iPhone, if you block someone (through the phone/not the service), your texts get blocked and if you call it goes straight to voicemail.

Posted by virgoloveer


Please tell me what to do? I am totally taking accountability by trying to do what's right. Here's my stance. I unblocked his number. I left him a voicemail (as a friend, telling him nicely and kindly what's up but hope he's good). Not sure what else I can do. Do I have resentment? Sure, it took him a year to take me out on a date (he is very afraid and has been deeply hurt in the past), and we had a good time, were close, had fun etc. and he shuts me out? Him calling me 5 times in one day is immature, he knows I was working and busy. I answered the moment I could. The moment he got satisfaction that I was where I was (busy) then he blocks me on the phone. I'm not sure what I'm doing so wrong here? I'm confused, he confused the shit out of me. You can't give someone a piece a piece of cake, then pull it away and say "never mind". I feel like he's holding onto me as long as he can. I should of probably never went out on a date with him (not sure).

I'm not a Virgo whisperer, so look to them for the specifics. What I can suggest to you as a young lady, is anyone that would block you (if he did) instead of talking to you and saying straight up, "I don't think this is gonna work for me" or " I need some time alone" is NOT worth your time/energy. You're spinning around in circles and working against yourself. It's a waste of energy. So you blocked him--please explain to me how that is gonna get you what you want? You want him to call right? You want to address this and figure out what's what right? So, blocking him "one ups him" and he one ups you. Do you really have another year to waste? (I'll get to that in a minute). Set boundaries and stand by them. No need to block him, just live your life. If he comes around, you address it and state very directly how you feel about what he did.

My comment about accountability refers to the fact that you seem to be all over the place. Again, this may be nothing more than poor choice of words, but I tend believe the words people choose to use (and don't) and your words suggest confusion.

Posted by scorchedearth
what's the point of blocking someone then if they can leave you a voicemail? to me that just seems like an attention seeking feature.

i have an android not an iphone so i wasn't aware of that.

Agree, I think part of it is he wants to see how much I chase him. (Crazy I know...)

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Posted by scorchedearth
what's the point of blocking someone then if they can leave you a voicemail? to me that just seems like an attention seeking feature.

i have an android not an iphone so i wasn't aware of that.

Ya depends on what service, but you can block someone and it goes straight to vm.

anyways have you left a message for him?

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Yes I did and will leave it be from there. He doesn't realize that my interest has gone beyond south.

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Posted by virgoloveer


Please tell me what to do? I am totally taking accountability by trying to do what's right. Here's my stance. I unblocked his number. I left him a voicemail (as a friend, telling him nicely and kindly what's up but hope he's good). Not sure what else I can do. Do I have resentment? Sure, it took him a year to take me out on a date (he is very afraid and has been deeply hurt in the past), and we had a good time, were close, had fun etc. and he shuts me out? Him calling me 5 times in one day is immature, he knows I was working and busy. I answered the moment I could. The moment he got satisfaction that I was where I was (busy) then he blocks me on the phone. I'm not sure what I'm doing so wrong here? I'm confused, he confused the shit out of me. You can't give someone a piece a piece of cake, then pull it away and say "never mind". I feel like he's holding onto me as long as he can. I should of probably never went out on a date with him (not sure).

I'm not a Virgo whisperer, so look to them for the specifics. What I can suggest to you as a young lady, is anyone that would block you (if he did) instead of talking to you and saying straight up, "I don't think this is gonna work for me" or " I need some time alone" is NOT worth your time/energy. You're spinning around in circles and working against yourself. It's a waste of energy. So you blocked him--please explain to me how that is gonna get you what you want? You want him to call right? You want to address this and figure out what's what right? So, blocking him "one ups him" and he one ups you. Do you really have another year to waste? (I'll get to that in a minute). Set boundaries and stand by them. No need to block him, just live your life. If he comes around, you address it and state very directly how you feel about what he did.

My comment about accountability refers to the fact that you seem to be all over the place. Again, this may be nothing more than poor choice of words, but I tend believe the words people choose to use (and don't) and your words suggest confusion.

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I have to think about all of this, but yes agree somewhat because honestly I have already said to him once before "hey if you need some space, just say it, what's the big deal" an

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The dynamics between the two of you seem to be set a long time ago whether you were aware of it or not. This year long delay before dating for whatever reason, set the stage you're now dancing on.

I also believe something was said in that conversation (the call you did answer) that you're not mentioning (and you don't need to) that influenced this whole reaction. How does one go from blowing up your phone in one breath to blocking you in another? Unless he's a lunatic (and if so, you have your answer as to how to proceed), then what gives? I am not saying this to blame you, simply to relate it back to my initial comment. Accountability. His behaviour is not isolated. Is this really all about him? So,

Option A: He's a damaged man that has been hurt before and he act immaturely when he doesn't get the attention he craves - if so, why waste your time?

Option B: You had a conversation and things were communicated that made him feel unimportant to you. Given his history, he reacted by retreating - Give him space and if he comes around, he comes around. A Virgo cannot be forced to open up if he/she is not ready to. However, blocking him won't make him talk any faster.

If it is Option B, then that is where my comment about accountability comes in again. This man is not new to you. You know his past, you know how he operates. Were you not friends before the date? So, you also know how to respond and approach him (or should). If you don't, that is telling. I am not trying to imply this is all on you, but the OP reads like you believe that it is all on him.

I believe it was suggested somewhere to give him space, do that. If you think he's worth it, address it when he comes around. Playing games won't get the job done though.

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Please tell me what to do? I am totally taking accountability by trying to do what's right. Here's my stance. I unblocked his number. I left him a voicemail (as a friend, telling him nicely and kindly what's up but hope he's good). Not sure what else I can do. Do I have resentment? Sure, it took him a year to take me out on a date (he is very afraid and has been deeply hurt in the past), and we had a good time, were close, had fun etc. and he shuts me out? Him calling me 5 times in one day is immature, he knows I was working and busy. I answered the moment I could. The moment he got satisfaction that I was where I was (busy) then he blocks me on the phone. I'm not sure what I'm doing so wrong here? I'm confused, he confused the shit out of me. You can't give someone a piece a piece of cake, then pull it away and say "never mind". I feel like he's holding onto me as long as he can. I should of probably never went out on a date with him (not sure).

I'm not a Virgo whisperer, so look to them for the specifics. What I can suggest to you as a young lady, is anyone that would block you (if he did) instead of talking to you and saying straight up, "I don't think this is gonna work for me" or " I need some time alone" is NOT worth your time/energy. You're spinning around in circles and working against yourself. It's a waste of energy. So you blocked him--please explain to me how that is gonna get you what you want? You want him to call right? You want to address this and figure out what's what right? So, blocking him "one ups him" and he one ups you. Do you really have another year to waste? (I'll get to that in a minute). Set boundaries and stand by them. No need to block him, just live your life. If he comes around, you address it and state very directly how you feel about what he did.

My comment about accountability refers to the fact that you seem to be all over the place. Again, this may be nothing more than poor choice of words, but I tend believe the words people choose to use (and don't) and your words suggest confusion.

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Posted by virgoloveer
Do I have resentment? Sure, it took him a year to take me out on a date (he is very afraid and has been deeply hurt in the past)

I pegged you to a t.

You played games like an immature high school child and it backfired in your face. All because you say it took him a year to ask you out on a date. Shows how desperate you are.

I said this already...play games with a virgo, they will mirror it back and walk. You blew it, so move on and grow up.