Virguy's intentions...

So,met this virgo guy at school... Didnt really notice him until I say him talking to my friends. As the weeks passed I really began to take a liking to the guy (he was very handsome). I asked him for a one of his french fries one day in passing. lol So we were approaching finals week and I saw him holding his cap and gown. He told me he was about to graduate with his degree in computer science, and wants to get his masters. From hearing that I knew he had his head on straight and I had to talk t him, so we stepped in a stair well and talked. He told me that he had been noticing me from a far for a while and always thought I was beautiful.I told him that I really like what he was doing with his life and wanted to know if it would be ok for us to talk. He told me he had a girlfriend and they were starting to get to the point were they were basically growing apart.So he said he would give his number if it was ok with me. I obliged but got a lil scared after a few days and told him I wanted to pull back. He said something about me had him more interested than usual and he would still like to be friends.So we hung out all day thursday and he invited me to his graduation after party sunday. Well Sunday came and I heard nothing so I called. He said he told me saturday.I texted him later and told him he didnt have to lie. He said "I didnt sweety and I'm sorry if I upset you." But he would invite to an after party if he went to one. Well around three in the morning was when all the after parties were taking place and when me and him were having this conversation, and my friends invited me to another gradution party but then went to sleep.so he calls around four(twenty minutes later)and still has liquer left. I was asleep so I missed the call but I asked him if he was trying to come to the crib last night and he says yes, if you were ok with that. I told him no,i dont invite guys to the crib, and he said he liked that. We talked all day the next day until five in the morning. He said he would be free this week, and we could meet up but I havent heard from him. Should I respond to his next call—

Only if you feel confident about him, which you obviously do not.

Has he broken it off with the other girl as yet?

Are you a Scorpio?

lol yes Cajun I am a scorpio, what gave it away?? and no he is still with his girlfriend. I do feel pretty confident about the guy, but in the beginning you never know what a guy really wants. I just wonder how should I play this and does he really like me.

Well if a virgo spends a good deal of time talking to you there a good chance he likes you. Curious, did a the whole week that he said he was free go by without a call, or has he just not set anything up yet? Cause when I want hang out with scorpio women I have a habit of suggesting and letting her initiate.

yep we only talked this monday.... i sent him a txt telling him to let me know when he wanted to hang out... nothing yet.

Posted by melyssa04
lol yes Cajun I am a scorpio, what gave it away?? and no he is still with his girlfriend. I do feel pretty confident about the guy, but in the beginning you never know what a guy really wants. I just wonder how should I play this and does he really like me.

I'm an expert on Scorpio women.

The way you wrote, how you mentioned you pulled back, your shyness.

So long as he is still in a relationship... you'll be shunned a bit.
But knowing Scorpio women, you will continue to talk to him and try to get him to initiate. Your patience will run thin and you will either be emotionally turned off or confront him.

Given that you are shy becoming "emotionally turned off" is more likely. He will then break up with his girlfriend and finally be prepared to give you what you want, but seeing as you are already turned off, you will turn him down.

Posted by Cajunspirit

I'm an expert on Scorpio women.

The way you wrote, how you mentioned you pulled back, your shyness.

So long as he is still in a relationship... you'll be shunned a bit.
But knowing Scorpio women, you will continue to talk to him and try to get him to initiate. Your patience will run thin and you will either be emotionally turned off or confront him.

Given that you are shy becoming "emotionally turned off" is more likely. He will then break up with his girlfriend and finally be prepared to give you what you want, but seeing as you are already turned off, you will turn him down.

It's kind of funny that this has become quite like a mathematical formula. LOL.

lol I dont expect everyday contact from him, nor to see him two or three times a week. I know what friends means: we talk every once and a while and we see each other every once and a while. But i do expect for you to keep your word on the things we do agree upon to do here and there. lol Why is he wishy washy on that— It makes me think he isnt interested, but I know that he really is. Just the other day he told me I was soo pretty to him. I called his bluff and it upset him, and he told me I could at least say thank you. lol Why is he soo hesitant?? I dont bite. lol is this a virgo thing? Is he thinking?

Posted by melyssa04
lol yes Cajun I am a scorpio, what gave it away?? and no he is still with his girlfriend. I do feel pretty confident about the guy, but in the beginning you never know what a guy really wants. I just wonder how should I play this and does he really like me.

I thought u were because you started this topic about what his intentions are. I notice scorpios love throwing that word around like every one has alternative motive lol. No just scorpios lol that's why you guys think the way you do lol.

lol so true so true.... but again what is this guy doing? sitting at home in a bat cave? lol when will he stick his pinky toe into the scorpion waters? lmao Why is he hesitant?

Posted by melyssa04
It makes me think he isnt interested, but I know that he really is.

This is my problem with young Scorpios. You all live in a bubble and seem to separate yourselves from reality.

Just the other day he told me I was soo pretty to him. I called his bluff and it upset him, and he told me I could at least say thank you. lol Why is he soo hesitant?? I dont bite. lol is this a virgo thing? Is he thinking?

Take the compliment at face value. Not everything and everyone has a dark side or alternate motive.

lol when will he stick his pinky toe into the scorpion waters? lmao Why is he hesitant?

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He is mirroring your actions, that's what we do.
You hesitate, we hesitate.

So are you saying I have to be the one to initiate things for right now cause he's shy?

Posted by melyssa04
So are you saying I have to be the one to initiate things for right now cause he's shy?

*applauds*

Thanks soo much for the advice guys. I txt him a few hours ago and he hit me back instantly, and we talked. So im trying to see him this weekend.I guess Im hesitant on this dude cause of an aqua I dated before that was pretty aloof. I was patient and held his hand through the hold thing but he just wanted sex in the end. So after that I thought every dude that wanted me would have no problem pursuing me....but I like his reserved behavior and his pickiness. I love it, since i've met soo many male whores that rush into things and dont wanna take their time. He seems more of my speed... I just wanted to know if this was typical virgo behavior.

ugh. seems like he's just a slut.

it's so common for guys to say that they're about to end things, doesn't mean they're gonna. i'd stop talking to him completely. flirting with a guy in a relationship is just trouble and bad karma. if they really do break up, he'll be able to find you.

thanks alot guys for all the advice...He hasn't made any real moves to take me out on a date yet, but got excited when he thought i was about to pass him an invite to my house. lmao i think its clear of what he wants...and im starting to loose interest...virgo guys always do that to me.lol in the mean time a beautiful aqua guy has contacted me again from my past...long story we met when i was 21(now 23) he was in college, a bachelor's life style ...but we still kept in touch on and off again.a couple months later he found out i was going to school out of state, he was soo excited about the opportunity for me, but devastated that I was leaving. He continued to keep in touch with me while i was out of state on and off, and just recently he's checked in again. were friends on facebook now.he seems like he's still kinda hung up on the fact that im out of state. I made a little funny comment about how he's picked up a little weight, he said he didnt mind my little comment and told me I was absolutely beautiful in my pics... I dont know what he want's so i speak to him when he wants to talk, but other than that I move forward with my life....Anybody know—lol

oh yeah and it's not the same aqua jerk i talked about in an earlier message above

Update on virguy....So last night we hung out after he got off work. He came by and just wanted me to sit in his car and talk to him, but i invited him upstairs, which i never do. lol We sat back and talked for four long hours. He apologized for any of the misunderstandings that we may have had with one another,and told me that I was soo real to him and unscripted.He said I had a wealth of knowledge, loved my house, and drank four glasses of oj from my fridge lol that he promised to replace. We watched cartoons, talked about our life goals, and he told me how excited he was about our next date, which will be out amongst the public next time, he was even talking about his schedule for the next day as if he wanted to see me again the following day. I must say that i'm shocked. lol Not once did he make a sexual gesture, ever grab me, try to feel me up, or anything, and he left with just a hug and nothing more. Now i'm not sexually active but i think this guy either has REALLY good game or is just a good guy, who knows...."Come chill with the virgo" in the words of NAS lol.....

Ok so did him and the girlfriend break up?

no guys he's still with the girl,been with her for eight years...there still having there problems, not sure what will happen with them, or when....lmao to ianthefish!!!!that's what i was thinking... lol but seriously he contacted me twice today, but i took a nap after school today, soo tired...

hey guys, im back and need advice...

ok so now it's been two months and me and the virguy are still kicking it. He is still a gentleman hasn't advanced me for sex, and is very helpful, and concerned. He brought a few groceries, replace some old light bulbs in my house, and brought me a new fan for the crib. If im hungry he will go to three or four restaurants just to make sure that I get what I want....Problem is, of course I'm starting to get emotional as the natural scorpio womn that I am and I know there is no "open door"... Im kinda scared, and dont wanna get hurt... What should I do— By the way, he left his watch at my place, it's been here for a whole week now. He told me to take it to school, so I can ace my test, or sleep with it under my pillow, I chose neither, lol didnt wanna scratch it up....

Posted by Rishi_L

RISHI WHAT THE HELL IS THAT?

ugh. So he's got a gf of 8 years, but he's using you for the pleasant companionship he hasn't been getting at home? To him, you are a friend. Not more. You are letting him feel useful, but he has his relationship. He might not even be attracted to you.

you know how sometimes girls will accidentally lead guys on. To the girl, they are friends, but the guy is convinced she wants him. It happens the other way too.

I'm a libra. I hate guys who come on strong. And I've ended up learning the hard way that sometimes a guy seems like a friend but wants more (sex, relationship, something besides just friends) and other times the guy who seems shy just doesn't like you like that.