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lftybklyn
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The Virgo man I've been crushing on for a year finally broke it off with his gf. I think it ended badly and he went so far as to take all his stuff back, change his FB status, all of that kind of stuff. I immediately sensed a shift between us and totally gave him his space. We still chat, but it's much more brief and superficial than it's been for the past year. What's strange is that this all happened a week after I followed him on Twitter. I spontaneously decided to go for it, after suspecting for a while that he read mine and all the subtweets to him. He followed me back five minutes later, no exaggeration. Since that night, I still sent cute subtweets to him, my little songs and poems, the usual. Two weeks later and I see his FB status change. Then he came to work and had the "Virgo Wall" around him, so I just acted casual, yet friendly. Over the past two weeks, he's softened a bit, but I am so unsure about what to do at this point. Last week I posted something with the Twitter trend #DescribeYourCrushinThreeWords: Sexy, handsome, genius. When I saw him after the weekend, he had a bit of a brighter smile on his face, but he's still not the same... Should I just wait and let him come around in his own time, or should I try to draw him out? Am I just being impatient, or is it true what they say with Virgo men and that women need to make the first move?
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lftybklyn
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Posted by Shescomeundone
I can't wait to hear an answer! I'm pretty much in the same boat.. Don't know if I should reach out.. It's always me....I'm waiting for him because of some things that transpired... It's been 3 werks now... We have never gone this long without communicating...good luck... Let's hope we get some insight here!



Well, if we didn't work together, I would have already asked him out. I mean, what have I got to lose? But the work aspect makes it a challenge because if he says no, it could ruin a good friendship that would affect my job. There would be the whole awkwardness at work thing. I have several men in my life that I see now and then, who I could be more serious with, but I've been hesitating because of this Virgo. I just feel like I've been waiting for this to happen and now it has...so, do I keep him on the back burner or the others? I'd be happy if we could just talk for hours like we used to and then it just sort of morphed into getting drinks after work, something like that. I feel like it needs to happen organically, not someone asking someone out. Guess I'm just another crazy Capricorn dreamer....
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lftybklyn
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Posted by Shescomeundone
Very interesting article, maybe help you out.. You Virgos and Caps are suppose to go well together but Virgo men marry libra woman most often according to statistics!! My Virgo problem would be a Leo and I'd be the Virgo according to Vedic ...This sure sounds like mine though!!!http://siderealist.com/30-degrees_virgo.html



Well, he just broke it off with a Cancer (cue Clueless Cancer; surprised she hasn't chimed in already) and I think he might just be done with the drama. I don't really know what did it. All I know is I think I could make him happy, given the chance. Over this past year, I've felt like his "work wife," which I think he'd agree with. But there's always been a respectful distance on both of our parts. I could tell he didn't like it when I brought a date to the work Christmas party, though. He spent the whole night talking to me and making me ignore my date, which I did happily. I brought someone I knew he wouldn't be threatened by. Something's happening, I'm just not sure what quite yet...
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lftybklyn
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Posted by Shescomeundone
I will tell you they are SLOW- he is watching your every move trust me.. That sounds creepy but I don't mean like that.. They have to make sure you meet all the criteria I kid you not... Read the article, I posted the link so you can prepare for all the shite!!



Oh, believe me, I know. It doesn't creep me out. I kind of like it. That's why I've always thought he read my Twitter feed before we followed each other. He would "coincidentally" mention things relating to stuff I posted. I know I'm just being impatient and that what I thought was the hard part--waiting for him to break things off with her--was really just the beginning...
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lftybklyn
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Posted by CluelessCancer
so you're his work wife, wtf is that sheet about, anyways slow your roll unless you want to be the rebound chick.



You're absolutely right, CC. I guess being his work wife was all I had for the longest time, so I learned to like the role. We're there for each other emotionally and he tells me things relating to the company that shows he trusts me. Other people would see us talking and say things like "Is this a private conversation?", as if they thought there was more to us than a work friendship. I know I need to work on patience because I don't want to be the rebound. That would break my heart and I don't know that I could ever recover from that...
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lftybklyn
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Posted by CluelessCancer
this saddens me because it sucks there are vultures awaiting in the shadows ...to see people fail at their relationships...

it's very selfish...I can never think or be this way...it's very callous

so i hope it doesn't work out for you. Not because he dated a Cancer, but because you're not a good person.



Yes, we're complete opposites, and yes, I am callous. You know why I wanted it to end with the Cancer? Because I knew he wasn't truly happy with her. I felt it from the moment we met. I want, with all my heart and soul, to make him the happiest man alive. I want to inspire him to be the best man he can be. I know I can and I know I will. Perhaps I'm not a "good person," but what matters in the end is that I love someone with all my heart to the best of my ability. I'm not a touchy-feely Cancer. I'm a Capricorn and I love a Virgo. We don't float on an ocean of emotion. We walk on the Earth of endless possibilities, making miracles of all we touch and see. Together, nothing can stop us.
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lftybklyn
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Posted by VirgoFlirt
So hang on if you want that virgo, It's a whole lotta fun!



Virgo fun=serious hard work where you collapse into a heap on the floor when it's over. LOL. He tells me how he's fallen asleep after work in his clothes and coat with his laptop bag still on his shoulder. I don't foresee long, luxurious vacations with this man, but that's okay with me. I haven't had a real vacation in almost eight years. I think our idea of fun is working though dinner. He's done 98 hours of overtime in a single week. I get him and I'm cool with that. Gives me the alone time I need to regroup and to do my own thing when I need to. We're both workaholics and I don't think either of us will change any time soon.
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Posted by lftybklyn

We walk on the Earth of endless possibilities, making miracles of all we touch and see.

Together, nothing can stop us.





You're seriously deluded ... you need to check yourself.


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She's the one who needs to worry.

I would NEVER screw him over. I'd die first.

I'll put my hand in the fire for this man.

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wow ... are you threatening her?

reality check: Virgo men don't like women who aren't rational, and you're not rational.
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lftybklyn
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All I have to say is whatevs. I don't waste time fighting with trolls. If I weren't rational, I think my Virgo would have stopped dealing with me a long time ago. I've never met the Cancer ex, so in saying she needs to worry, I only mean that I'm the one in his every day life who has managed to show him that I'm loving, caring and there for him. Do you want to know what I think did them in? Distance, plain and simple. I'm here and I accept him for who he is. She's two hours away and I feel no threat from her whatsoever. I knew from the beginning that he wanted to stay here, for work, but then I added the bonus of having someone at work who cares for him. He does the same for me. I accept that work comes first because I'm just as much of a go-getter. As for all this prejudice against social media--wake up. It exists and people use it to communicate. I'm as rational as they come. I exist in the real world every day, with my Virgo, and he knows it. That's all that matters to me. I'm cool with being married to a boss or being the actual boss. I don't care if we switch roles, as a matter of fact. Day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, in bed and out. That's a Gemini moon for you...
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lftybklyn
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Posted by VirgoFlirt
So hang on if you want that virgo, It's a whole lotta fun!



Virgo fun=serious hard work where you collapse into a heap on the floor when it's over. LOL. He tells me how he's fallen asleep after work in his clothes and coat with his laptop bag still on his shoulder. I don't foresee long, luxurious vacations with this man, but that's okay with me. I haven't had a real vacation in almost eight years. I think our idea of fun is working though dinner. He's done 98 hours of overtime in a single week. I get him and I'm cool with that. Gives me the alone time I need to regroup and to do my own thing when I need to. We're both workaholics and I don't think either of us will change any time soon.
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Perhaps the Capricorn-Virgo intimacy seems superficial to the rest of the world. I'm friends with a couple of Cancer females at work and honestly, they seem crazy to me. It's just the opposite dynamic, I guess. They seem too complicated to me. Perhaps as a Capricorn, I seem more like a robot or a computer, personality-wise. Lucky for me, my Virgo love is the IT engineer at my company. This is what I think he appreciates about me--I can be programmed, unlike the Cancers. He can figure me out and I think he likes that. I'm predictable and dependable. I don't see these as bad things, but you probably do. I think he might find the intimacy she expected a little threatening. I want him to be successful and to make the most of himself at work, with all my heart. His success there thrills me. I don't care to have children and I hope he doesn't really want them either. I'd be happy with just working and supporting all of his creative, money-making schemes. I want us to work together on our creative ideas, making them our "babies." Actual human babies seem too weird and scary, in all honesty. They're too distracting from what's important: work and business-creativity.

Oh yes then he'd be most definitely happier with you. Because Cancers expect intimacy. We want that depth. We want it all and we think you can have it all. It's called work life balance. Not that superficial sheet. When a person tells me they're workaholics all that means is they don't want
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As far as I know about Virgos-I am slightly Virgo-is that if they don't talk to you a whole lot they don't give a flying F about you. If they are on the fence, pondering possibilities and angles, and you push a button one too many times, that will be it. I also don't see anything healthy coming from a Twitter/FB relationship but correct me if I am wrong!! I don't have a clue about how society works nowadays..