What now, virgo man? Just friends or more?

Hi guys, it's my first post here & I'll try not to be too verbose. We are friends and I for sure like him as a friend! I'm still figuring out if I have any deeper feelings for him. In the meantime, I'm curious about how he thinks about me. Your feedback will be much appreciated!

**the idea of dating is not so popular here & it's quite normal to form a relationship out of an established friendship... if this would make any difference.**

Some back story:

I met this virgo guy about 6 months ago through a community project and he's the one who organized it. Somehow it ended up only two of us showing up in our first group meeting, and we had a great time talking with each other about all kinds of topics. The lunch meetup ended in the evening. For the following 2 months, we met up almost every week for the project work and it's almost always two of us (everyone can go by themselves if they like), and after some work session, we usually had some nice conversations over some tea and we also cooked together a few times. We could talk for hours, about everything, politics, society, philosophy, etc. BUT we normally didn't have much contact between meetings. And a while later, as I mentioned some problems I had, he voluntarily offered his spare room as my work space and trusted me with his house keys, so I could go to his place while he's away at work. I was thankful & surprised he trusts me so much. So we met each other much more frequently and cooked together more often during that month. I enjoyed his company for sure and I could tell it's mutual, but we've always been friendly and no more than that. There were a few times I thought I heard some flirty remarks but the problem is he always made it sound like he's just murmuring so I let them slide. A month ago he voluntarily offered me his place to crash for some days because he thought I might need a place to stay later (and I do). So I've got myself a deal now.

So, everything seems great for our friendship(?) you said? The thing is, we don't see each other that regular recently and since like 2 weeks ago, he suddenly became much more quiet/distant when it comes to replying my messages. If it's a question, he'd reply, but I usually got nothing back to my friendly msgs which he used to reply. I'm certainly not a big messenger myself so it's NOT like I message him everyday and expect him to reply every message. That's not my thing. For some ulterior reason we can hardly have any one-on-one meetings now,

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but everything's still pretty normal when we meet, just we don't get to talk much since there are always other people around. And he being unusually quite in our private communication through msgs doesn't make the situation better. For what it's worth, to add to this complication, he knows I will leave the country soon and no returning date planned.

My questions:
1. do you think he might like me more than a friend, or I'm just reading too much into this?
2. is it a good idea for me to be upfront and ask about how he feels about me?

Thanks!

Are you really this stupid?

Or, are you just seeking attention, so you thought others would be stupid enough to not notice how you pretend with him?


How many of your (other) friends are you making threads about on the internet, trying to figure out if they are your friend?

None, you say .... then you know you don't consider him to be a friend.


So, you hear him flirt with you, and you realize his interest in you ..... but, you play dumb about it for what purpose? .... if it's not for attention?

Posted by P-Angel

Or, are you just seeking attention, so you thought others would be stupid enough to not notice how you pretend with him?


How many of your (other) friends are you making threads about on the internet, trying to figure out if they are your friend?

None, you say .... then you know you don't consider him to be a friend.


So, you hear him flirt with you, and you realize his interest in you ..... but, you play dumb about it for what purpose? .... if it's not for attention?

Hi P-Angel, I'm unfortunately quite inexperienced in (romantic) relationships even in my mid-20, so I guess I am stupid in that department and I got the impression that I might be hopelessly oblivious (so that's why I asked is it a good idea to just ask him!). I don't ask around about how my other friends feel about me because I rarely have guy friends to be honest. As I said, I'm not sure about how I feel about him yet and I've come to realize that slight flirts could mean nothing at all. Therefore I started this thread, hoping some more experienced folks here can give me a second opinion - I'd appreciate it whether it's "get over yourself. he doesn't like you more than a friend" or "he seems interested".

If I know he's interested, I wouldn't start this thread! I am not sure at all and I don't want to be presumptive. I am not an attention seeker & that's unfortunate if my genuine question gave you that impression. If you still feel like helping me out, please do. Many thanks.