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When a virgo is ignoring or mad??
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Just ask him
Just ask him
Dont overcomplicate this. Ask.
Posted by LostinmyMind11
Just ask him
Ask what exactly? He doesnt like confrontation so I dont want to make him uncomfortable. If I asked if we're still on for friday casually would that be wrong?
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11
Just ask him
Ask what exactly? He doesnt like confrontation so I dont want to make him uncomfortable. If I asked if we're still on for friday casually would that be wrong?click to expand
Ask if you're still on for Friday.
Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.click to expand
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.click to expand
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁click to expand
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....click to expand
It was a way of being petty.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.click to expand
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.click to expand
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
click to expand
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.click to expand
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.click to expand
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
Posted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
click to expand
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.click to expand
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.click to expand
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.click to expand
Thank you for your advice! ❤️ you are so sweet. I guess I'll keep you posted if anything happens. Right now I'm being ignored so best of luck to him lol.
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.click to expand
This
Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by WeedsPosted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by aquatar1Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Weeds
I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
click to expand
This again lol
I second everything weeds has said
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.click to expand
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is not a good start. I would not communicate any further. It's a shame you work with him. There's no honeymoon stage or very short lived... really not a good sign. He seems no longer interested. But, he will let you play yourself for a while.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....click to expand
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
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He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt badclick to expand
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.click to expand
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—click to expand
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.click to expand
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lolclick to expand
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.click to expand
I wont see him until sometime next week, is it bad to leave it that long?? I technically wouldve seen him this weekend but I made plans instead, to clear my head so yeah...
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.
I wont see him until sometime next week, is it bad to leave it that long?? I technically wouldve seen him this weekend but I made plans instead, to clear my head so yeah...click to expand
I dont see anything wrong with waiting that long.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.
I wont see him until sometime next week, is it bad to leave it that long?? I technically wouldve seen him this weekend but I made plans instead, to clear my head so yeah...
I dont see anything wrong with waiting that long.click to expand
Hi, so plot twist...he seems to be avoiding me now? Usually our lunch breaks are at the same hour, today he didnt show for his and stayed away. Wtf..... is he done, then? for good?
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.
I wont see him until sometime next week, is it bad to leave it that long?? I technically wouldve seen him this weekend but I made plans instead, to clear my head so yeah...
I dont see anything wrong with waiting that long.
Hi, so plot twist...he seems to be avoiding me now? Usually our lunch breaks are at the same hour, today he didnt show for his and stayed away. Wtf..... is he done, then? for good?click to expand
That's a bit of an awkward thing to do.
I wonder if he thinks your mad at him so is avoiding you.
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I think it's important to resolve the "are you mad" before getting into the "are we still on for"
One thing that may get irritating is if you over look problems that need to be addressed.
Or do this first.
I asked if he was ok and he said yes hes been working on a work project. Yet I know hes been on social media actively and wasnt working on it yesterday and still chose to ignore me during these times, which quite frankly is hurtful to me now.
I understand but life too short...just tell his ass to be ready on Friday and go have fun 😁
We're not on I guess either. I asked about it. was this virgo way of pulling out of the date then...by ghosting and lying that it was work? cause wtf....
It was a way of being petty.
What do you mean?? Petty about what? lol I'm so confused.... we seemed fine a few days ago.
That's the funny thing about ppl who date virgos.. they always think things are fine when they aren't fine. Common problem.
You already recognized you were rude to him... it's that exact moment you should have corrected it. You let it fester for a whole day..
A whole day for a virgo to over think what you did.. a whole day to question is this thing between you and him worth it... a whole day to question if he wants to deal with THAT again.
It may not have been a big deal to you but it may have been everything to him.
You fell off the pedestal.
But thing is, he's done the exact thing to me before and I said nothing about it. The "rude" thing in question is I left work without talking to or saying bye to him that day. I was busy and in a rush and he was busy too....If that's what it takes to discard me completely then I dont understand? Would you say this is done for good then?? I'm just still confused how quickly he turned like this.
I don't think it's done. After awhile of down time I imagine he will resume where you two left off before this happened. The issue being this will repeat itself later on. Lot of effort to be made in keeping communication fully open and honest when ppl are mad/upset/hurt.. a lil common courtesy goes a long way.
Thank you for your advice! I appreciate it. But he technically flaked on our date/rejected me by doing that...how could it pick up where it left off?? Surely he understands that.. like this was our conversation below.... I dont see how this could turn out other than awkward and an ending??
Me: replies to his texts normally.
*silence for 3 days*
Me: Hey how are ya? Just thinking of ya.
Him: Hello! I'm good thank you, hope you are too. Sorry just been swamped with work as usual!!
Me: Oh sorry about that! *insert work chat* and then after a that back and forth i said "Hey are we still on for friday? let me know haha *insert inside joke here*
*radio silence*
He will pop up like it never happened LOL
it's a very classic virgo move.
Haha yeah i read about it. I dont know though. Could it be he changed his mind?? Maybe the closer it came to the date the more he was like i dont wanna do this?? Cause we talked normally all the way up until I was ghosted so I dont know what i could've said for him to determine i'm not it at all....we've been talking for quite some time now and he seemed interested. Now I'm just left confused and hurt.
There is a comfort zone that has to be met.
If that comfort zone isnt met they can get cowardess.
He may be extremely interested.. but it has to be done right.. cant be forced on him and cant be hyped that stuff can scare him into calling it off.
He texted me casually like nothing happened and essentially flaked on the date and asked if we can do it another day. Wtf?? No apology, no explanation, nothing. Acted as if we had never set the date in the first place.....
This is what we call a progress reset.
The best thing to do now is get him to work for it.
Let him know CASUALLY how dissappointed you are that the progress in a date has been stunted. That you feel time has been wasted between the both of you.. and you don't feel like starting all over to work up to another day.
LETS JUST BE FRIENDS.
That punch in the gut will either motivate him to step up or he will agree and you can move on to better things.
He essentially suggested a later time today to meet up casually (texted me way too late in the day). I texted back that i already made plans cause i hadnt heard from him, but maybe another time?? lol. hopefully that wasnt bad
That's fine just keep the "let's be friends" in your pocket when you need it.
thank you, yeah i dont think i'll be using that line lol. he never responded to my last text about "sorry cause i didnt hear from you i made other plans".... which is quite frankly very rude. even if you had no interest in me romantically, as a person you should apologize for flaking and being like that, am i wrong—
Well for one because he was petty.. he missed a date... then when he changed his mind last minute it was too little to late because you made other plans. So now it's not him being rude its him thinking in his head "did I fuck up?"
Now he will do the waiting game... does he wait for you to reschedule or does he make first contact?
The big thing I see between you is you both don't know each other deep enough.
He doesn't know what's rude to you and you don't know what knocks you off his pedestal.
A lot of hurt feelings because you two don't "GET" each other.
omg Youre definitely right about that. I also think its because he doesnt communicate well or do confrontation, he'll never be direct about his feelings or if something bothers him so I never know if I'm doing wrong.
Also, I kinda disappeared from work this past week which was sucky timing and unrelated lol, so he hasnt seen me either.
Am I wrong to be hurt that I contacted him the night before asking to confirm our plans and he responded the next day (day of our date) at 3pm agreeing to the plan but simultaenously postponing the time cause he'd rather do something else first.... ?? You can just say no and not go, damn. Is that not petty? Not even an apology. So do I stay silent then?? Cause now I'm hurt lol
If your going to say anything it has to be face to face. Cant be crazy emotional but forward and to the point. A good virgo will take it in and make the adjustments.
I wont see him until sometime next week, is it bad to leave it that long?? I technically wouldve seen him this weekend but I made plans instead, to clear my head so yeah...
I dont see anything wrong with waiting that long.
Hi, so plot twist...he seems to be avoiding me now? Usually our lunch breaks are at the same hour, today he didnt show for his and stayed away. Wtf..... is he done, then? for good?
That's a bit of an awkward thing to do.
I wonder if he thinks your mad at him so is avoiding you.click to expand
I dont know, he never responded when I told him i made other plans last week....I know he watched my snapchat stories this weekend, but no contact. Today my coworker saw him come to his lunch break after I finished/left mine. He's either avoiding me or there's someone else he is wanting to run into, which is strange considering he seemed to be into me a week ago so idk. what do i do? 😢 id text but idk if hes mad or over me or what....
@aquatar1 okay the snapchat thing is a good sign virgos stalking is always a good sign.
I think you can go about things two ways.
1. Don't do nothing and let him contact you but virgos can be patient and can go months staying silent... so that's out.
2. One playful text "Hey you bum are you intentionally avoiding me at work?"
Don't use my words use your own playful words. That will at least break the awkwardness.. only issue with this is now he will always leave making contact up to you in these situations.
I think you can go about things two ways.
1. Don't do nothing and let him contact you but virgos can be patient and can go months staying silent... so that's out.
2. One playful text "Hey you bum are you intentionally avoiding me at work?"
Don't use my words use your own playful words. That will at least break the awkwardness.. only issue with this is now he will always leave making contact up to you in these situations.
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@aquatar1 okay the snapchat thing is a good sign virgos stalking is always a good sign.
I think you can go about things two ways.
1. Don't do nothing and let him contact you but virgos can be patient and can go months staying silent... so that's out.
2. One playful text "Hey you bum are you intentionally avoiding me at work?"
Don't use my words use your own playful words. That will at least break the awkwardness.. only issue with this is now he will always leave making contact up to you in these situations.
Thank you for your great advice, ill def consider these 2 lol. Yeah tbh hes active on social media so he probably watches everyones snaps, but he saw mine so at least hes not avoiding them...
Also option 3 is me waiting until later in the week when I know he has to be in for a meeting and showing up so he'll HAVE to run into me/see me... but then IDK how to behave in that situation lol. Should I do that??
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@aquatar1 okay the snapchat thing is a good sign virgos stalking is always a good sign.
I think you can go about things two ways.
1. Don't do nothing and let him contact you but virgos can be patient and can go months staying silent... so that's out.
2. One playful text "Hey you bum are you intentionally avoiding me at work?"
Don't use my words use your own playful words. That will at least break the awkwardness.. only issue with this is now he will always leave making contact up to you in these situations.
Thank you for your great advice, ill def consider these 2 lol. Yeah tbh hes active on social media so he probably watches everyones snaps, but he saw mine so at least hes not avoiding them...
Also option 3 is me waiting until later in the week when I know he has to be in for a meeting and showing up so he'll HAVE to run into me/see me... but then IDK how to behave in that situation lol. Should I do that??click to expand
Yeah you can. I think it still fall under option 2 just in person.
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@aquatar1 okay the snapchat thing is a good sign virgos stalking is always a good sign.
I think you can go about things two ways.
1. Don't do nothing and let him contact you but virgos can be patient and can go months staying silent... so that's out.
2. One playful text "Hey you bum are you intentionally avoiding me at work?"
Don't use my words use your own playful words. That will at least break the awkwardness.. only issue with this is now he will always leave making contact up to you in these situations.
ok thank you so much ❤️ ill think about this and do one of the 2 asap lol
Thank you for your great advice, ill def consider these 2 lol. Yeah tbh hes active on social media so he probably watches everyones snaps, but he saw mine so at least hes not avoiding them...
Also option 3 is me waiting until later in the week when I know he has to be in for a meeting and showing up so he'll HAVE to run into me/see me... but then IDK how to behave in that situation lol. Should I do that??
Yeah you can. I think it still fall under option 2 just in person.click to expand
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ohh i just said honestly I think I'll leave it alone for now. I am hurt by his actions honestly. I didnt do anything wrong. All I can think of honestly is that he mistook me making other plans when he was too late for the date as me not being interested, cause hes an idiot like that and cant take responsibility for his own actions. Its incredibly thoughtless and selfish, i just dont get it.
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Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️
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I guess thread broke from quoting cant see your reply.
Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️click to expand
No biggie hope you dont have anymore problems LOL
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I guess thread broke from quoting cant see your reply.
Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️
No biggie hope you dont have anymore problems LOLclick to expand
Ummm so I got ghosted again....idk why. but this time hes not watching my snapchat anymore.... is that really bad?? IDK what I did we were talking fine then boom ghosted....
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I guess thread broke from quoting cant see your reply.
Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️
No biggie hope you dont have anymore problems LOL
Ummm so I got ghosted again....idk why. but this time hes not watching my snapchat anymore.... is that really bad?? IDK what I did we were talking fine then boom ghosted....click to expand
Sometimes it's just "Me Time" your dealing with a virgo who are natural loners. This happens every now and again.
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I guess thread broke from quoting cant see your reply.
Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️
No biggie hope you dont have anymore problems LOL
Ummm so I got ghosted again....idk why. but this time hes not watching my snapchat anymore.... is that really bad?? IDK what I did we were talking fine then boom ghosted....
Sometimes it's just "Me Time" your dealing with a virgo who are natural loners. This happens every now and again.click to expand
He went ghost for a week...longest hes gone MIA. And last time he ghosted he was still watching my story/snap....yet now he chose not to despite bang online. Does that mean he no longer cares??
Should I say something or text again?
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I guess thread broke from quoting cant see your reply.
Ok nevermind, sorry im a gemini venus and flip flop ahah, I took your advice and messaged him about avoiding me. He assumed I was avoiding him apparently. We had a chat about it. I'm still a little confused but at least I wasnt ghosted? lol Thank you for all your help!! ❤️
No biggie hope you dont have anymore problems LOL
Ummm so I got ghosted again....idk why. but this time hes not watching my snapchat anymore.... is that really bad?? IDK what I did we were talking fine then boom ghosted....
Sometimes it's just "Me Time" your dealing with a virgo who are natural loners. This happens every now and again.
He went ghost for a week...longest hes gone MIA. And last time he ghosted he was still watching my story/snap....yet now he chose not to despite bang online. Does that mean he no longer cares??
Should I say something or text again?click to expand
No don't do anything. Just do you for the meantime. preoccupy yourself.
We can go months without contact.. it doesn't mean we ghosted anybody or its over. We just need time to ourselves.
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