When virgo reappears - how best to act

Two months ago me (cancer) and a virgo man had a small disagreement, which obviously seemed as a huge deal to him. Before that everything was perfect, we were not officially committed, but were keeping in touch for a long time, as at that time he was living abroad. We had seen each other, never had sex, he used to say that I am perfect, smart, unique and I felt that he likes me sooo much. He shared his deepest secrets with me and admitted he never felt like this before.

During the last date he was soo into me, but then after the disagreement he changed, turned cold, distant and vanished. I tried to talk to him, to solve the problem, but he said I should find a better one as he is so much trouble, and it is hard to understand him.

Now he reappeared, we had a short conversation, he even asked if I would like to see him again, said he was thinking about me all this time.

How best to act in this case? Pretend nothing happened, be cool, or be initiative?

He is worth a second chance, and I wouldn't like to loose him for ever. Thanx

We were spending time together and he said he would like to leave for a couple of hours to meet somebody (concerning) his hobby and I said I would like him to stay, as it would be disrespectful to leave me and that I hadn't seen him for a long time so I think he should give his full attention to me that day. He stayed but later said there was a huge fight inside him as he didn't see nothing bad in this. That's why he later said he is hard to deal with, and that he sees the world in a "ubnormal way" sometime 😄

Typical virgo man 😄

*abnormal

Well, if you don't want history to repeat itself, you're gonna have to sit him down for a serious talk, otherwise you'll end up right back where you ended. The point of the past is to learn from it.

Having said that, being a Virgo moon which makes me often more Virgo than Pisces, I can tell you for sure that "we" don't like feeling trapped in any way. He probably saw it as emotional blackmail. We're very independent and when something happens to mess with that, it can get very ugly internally.

You just need to be a bit less selfish and respect what he wants/needs sometimes. As for how to act, don't act like you're holding back or like a cold fish. We're far more sensitive than you think and we can pick up the slightest change in behavior. If you get frigid, so will he.

Posted by yupvirgoo
@Kikyy

What did you have a disagreement about?

Me. I weaved my magic on him and the OP caught us in bed, in the middle of.............

I understand I was too judgmental at that moment, and could have been more understanding, and I would like to talk to him about everything. I think it means something that he eventually reappeared, I hope he still cares about me. The main task for now is to get back in contact and to make him talk..so that's my question - how to act to not scare him again..

Posted by Kikyy
I understand I was too judgmental at that moment, and could have been more understanding, and I would like to talk to him about everything. I think it means something that he eventually reappeared, I hope he still cares about me. The main task for now is to get back in contact and to make him talk..so that's my question - how to act to not scare him again..

From my experience keep your guard on, don't be too much you know, all into feelings and stuff. And dont bring back that fight ever again. Just be yourself like you used to be when you had great times and he'll be comfortable. He made a step which means he cares about you and it's a huge deal for a virgo, so don't make reproaches he probably thought them through. That being said you never know so you'll observe and conclure once you see him. What's your sun sign ?

Posted by VirgoSquirrel

Posted by Kikyy
I understand I was too judgmental at that moment, and could have been more understanding, and I would like to talk to him about everything. I think it means something that he eventually reappeared, I hope he still cares about me. The main task for now is to get back in contact and to make him talk..so that's my question - how to act to not scare him again..

From my experience keep your guard on, don't be too much you know, all into feelings and stuff. And dont bring back that fight ever again. Just be yourself like you used to be when you had great times and he'll be comfortable. He made a step which means he cares about you and it's a huge deal for a virgo, so don't make reproaches he probably thought them through. That being said you never know so you'll observe and conclure once you see him. What's your sun sign ?

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I am a cancer..thanx for opinion..i hope he will contact me again as after that reappearance he didn't text me. I don't want to be clingy as well..

Posted by Kikyy
Two months ago me (cancer) and a virgo man had a small disagreement, which obviously seemed as a huge deal to him. Before that everything was perfect, we were not officially committed, but were keeping in touch for a long time, as at that time he was living abroad. We had seen each other, never had sex, he used to say that I am perfect, smart, unique and I felt that he likes me sooo much. He shared his deepest secrets with me and admitted he never felt like this before.

During the last date he was soo into me, but then after the disagreement he changed, turned cold, distant and vanished. I tried to talk to him, to solve the problem, but he said I should find a better one as he is so much trouble, and it is hard to understand him.

Now he reappeared, we had a short conversation, he even asked if I would like to see him again, said he was thinking about me all this time.

How best to act in this case? Pretend nothing happened, be cool, or be initiative?

He is worth a second chance, and I wouldn't like to loose him for ever. Thanx

Why even contemplate this? The dude left you for TWO MONTHS because you wanted him to stay? He is a headache and immature. I would block him and send him on his way.