Why do Virgo men and women have trouble letting go of toxic people ?

Why do Virgo men and women have trouble letting go of toxic people ?

Posted by gyrados
Because they think they can cure everything, they're the Doctor & Nurse of zodiac remember that.

Thats why Virgo love Cancer man & woman so much, simply because they are Incurable.

My ex keeps telling me about this chick who was once his friend .she is a Scorpio. He is sad that she lied to him for two years. but i think he should just stop talking to her and drop her like a bad habit

Posted by sierra_
how are you doing OP?

@sugarplumeow

@Sierra Omg its nice of you to ask. im pretty good, I got a job at UPS. My ex Virgo and I had sex which was great and now we are talking more. how are you?

Virgos have an issue with martyrdom. The myth is that Virgos are looking for the "perfect" partner. The lesser known fact is that Virgos are willing to "fix" their partners in order to make them "perfect" (at least in their eyes). The problem though is that people can't be "fixed" in this way.

Additionally Virgos are typically very analytical and critical in nature. They won't let just anyone into their hearts. However Virgos are not perfect people, they make mistakes in judgement just like anyone else. So if a Virgo chooses poorly, you'll find that they will still seek to justify their decision by rationalizing it.

The truth is Virgos are very sensitive people deep down and once they invite someone past their barriers, they have a difficult time reversing that logic. A Virgo will think, "Well if this person got this far with me, there MUST be a reason." In reality the Virgo just wants to be vulnerable, to feel the way other people do.

Virgos are constantly in their own heads and are often very critical of themselves. They can easily be their own worst enemies. While a Virgo may seem fine after a breakup, they ARE NOT. They are constantly running a multitude of hypothetical "what if" scenarios in their heads regarding their recent relationship and breakup. Virgos know that they can be overly critical of the world around them and potentially fear a life in which they never allowed love to happen.

Therefore until a Virgo stops worrying comes to terms with their own internal fears, they run the risk of allowing the wrong people into their hearts.

They search for the ugliest sob story like the ugly desperate duckling and critique them on everything to see if they can become a swan so they can feel their presence is meaningful in life lol j/k but not really.

They love to be intoxicated...

I actually don’t really like someone that I have to “fix.” I like someone whoI will always have room in my heart to love my partner and help him anyway I can, and be his Of course I will help someone if need be, but romantically? Nah.

I’ve realized I need someone that has enough love for the both of us bc I know I can be really hard to get to know and I can be slightly clueless when it comes to love. I need someone to take the reigns.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Virgos have an issue with martyrdom. The myth is that Virgos are looking for the "perfect" partner. The lesser known fact is that Virgos are willing to "fix" their partners in order to make them "perfect" (at least in their eyes). The problem though is that people can't be "fixed" in this way.

Additionally Virgos are typically very analytical and critical in nature. They won't let just anyone into their hearts. However Virgos are not perfect people, they make mistakes in judgement just like anyone else. So if a Virgo chooses poorly, you'll find that they will still seek to justify their decision by rationalizing it.

The truth is Virgos are very sensitive people deep down and once they invite someone past their barriers, they have a difficult time reversing that logic. A Virgo will think, "Well if this person got this far with me, there MUST be a reason." In reality the Virgo just wants to be vulnerable, to feel the way other people do.

Virgos are constantly in their own heads and are often very critical of themselves. They can easily be their own worst enemies. While a Virgo may seem fine after a breakup, they ARE NOT. They are constantly running a multitude of hypothetical "what if" scenarios in their heads regarding their recent relationship and breakup. Virgos know that they can be overly critical of the world around them and potentially fear a life in which they never allowed love to happen.

Therefore until a Virgo stops worrying comes to terms with their own internal fears, they run the risk of allowing the wrong people into their hearts.

I'll also add the following that is often overlooked: Once you realize the truth that Virgos are self-critical to the point of constantly chasing fubared rabbits down illogical rabbit holes, you then come to realize that Virgos are holding themselves to an impossible standard: "Be ye perfect for your God in Heaven is perfect."

In other words, they're beating themselves up constantly with those "what if" scenarios since they see it as imperfection and falsely project that onto others (i.e. they delude themselves into thinking others saw that imperfection and thus walk on eggshells bracing for a pounce / confrontation that may never come). They convince themselves that the proverbial shoe is gonna drop ...

And I sense that another devastating crippling fear among Virgos where love and romance is concerned is learning the truth too late. In other words, they learn too late that the person they secretly crushed on had also crushed on them back, yet that person gave up, moved on, or abandoned them for some reason or another just as the Virgo was feeling safe and comfortable enough to confess their crush. This triggers another round of self-flagellating "what if" scenarios ... and woe be to the poor Virgo who discovers that it was their own insensitivity and cruelty that had chased that person away. Their turn their fury inward, cutting themselves off from the dating scene as a form of penance for months. It as if the judge, jury, and executioner inside their heads banged the gavel and said, "You could've had love in your life, but you blew it. Do the crime, serve the time." And they will stay in this state licking their wounds and beating themselves up until they've managed to forgive themselves; to give themselves "parole" ...

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Nah, we get hard on ourselves but not soap opera delusional with tales of woe. Switch the bolded for "obliviousness".

When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, "Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?"

On hearing this, Jesus said, "It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick."

People are unaware the duality of Virgo was an Angel caught between heaven and earth... not a virgin maiden.

Guilt from when they left their SO stranded in cold weather so they could catch another 15mins of sleep.

Posted by crazysioux

Nah, we get hard on ourselves but not soap opera delusional with tales of woe. Switch the bolded for "obliviousness".

Thank you. My wording implied deliberation and malice; obliviousness in more apt.

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Yeah, I got what you meant through the paragraph, it's just that part sounded like you think Virgos wake up in the morning and then we go to the kitchen for a cup of coffee and we come back with it and read our list of people to fuck over/ abuse/ cheat on/ ignore/ disrespect/ hurt/ leave in the cold both literally and figuratively for the day at hand.

And the truth is we also kick a puppy on our way to the kitchen and a toddler on our way back.

We're also tied to Astraea as far as myth goes.

During the Golden Age, Greek mythology tells us, the immortals and humans lived together on Earth. As time passed, and the Bronze and Iron Ages came, humans became less moral, and finally during the Iron Age (according to Ovid) Astraea, the only Immortal who still lived on Earth, fled to the heavens:

Last [of the Ages of Men] came the Race of Iron (Proles Ferro). In that hard age of baser vein all evil straight broke out, and honour fled and truth and loyalty, replaced by fraud, deceit and treachery and violence and wicked greed for gain . . . Honour and love lay vanquished, Astraea, virgin divine, the last of the immortals, fled away.

This is the last sign to ever give up on humanity.

I got kinda hurt that my ex was crying over a girl who kept playing him (even before me). its like come on dude, you had a good woman, youll find another good woman

Even when I told him all the bad stuff she said about him, he still has his blinders on

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Posted by Chuckcem
Virgos have an issue with martyrdom. The myth is that Virgos are looking for the "perfect" partner. The lesser known fact is that Virgos are willing to "fix" their partners in order to make them "perfect" (at least in their eyes). The problem though is that people can't be "fixed" in this way.

Additionally Virgos are typically very analytical and critical in nature. They won't let just anyone into their hearts. However Virgos are not perfect people, they make mistakes in judgement just like anyone else. So if a Virgo chooses poorly, you'll find that they will still seek to justify their decision by rationalizing it.

The truth is Virgos are very sensitive people deep down and once they invite someone past their barriers, they have a difficult time reversing that logic. A Virgo will think, "Well if this person got this far with me, there MUST be a reason." In reality the Virgo just wants to be vulnerable, to feel the way other people do.

Virgos are constantly in their own heads and are often very critical of themselves. They can easily be their own worst enemies. While a Virgo may seem fine after a breakup, they ARE NOT. They are constantly running a multitude of hypothetical "what if" scenarios in their heads regarding their recent relationship and breakup. Virgos know that they can be overly critical of the world around them and potentially fear a life in which they never allowed love to happen.

Therefore until a Virgo stops worrying comes to terms with their own internal fears, they run the risk of allowing the wrong people into their hearts.

I kinda find this reading of Virgos to be mythical in a sense, I have never wanted to fix someone, if anything I actively push back wanting to fix them or trying to. Criticism isn't freely offered, but I will make commentary on issues that my partner may deem as an issue in their life... but if things are going fine as they consider it...then I stay mum on most decisions.

The way I see it, I am willing to let them be them, so long as they let me be me. So long as they are healthy and happy and not affecting my own health and happiness unduly, we are good.

I won't stay in a toxic relationship but I do make a good faith effort to allow the relationship a chance to improve, that can seem to an outsider as if we are holding on to the point of destruction.

Which is understandable sometimes it can feel like holding on long after something has died, but the romantic in me needs to give it that shot for the heart to properly heal when the swan song finally comes up.

End of the day the realist in me doesn't allow the romantic to get too carried away especially as I rack up experiences.

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You know what's funny, I find that my Virgo guy friends don't do this nearly as much as the Virgo girl friends I have. I honestly think the men and women have completely different approached to relationships. It's just hard explaining those nuances when speaking in general terms.