WHY DOES VIRGO MAN HATES ME FOR WANTING HIM BACK?

Hello,i need a virgo perspective and suggestions...he fell head over heels for me 6months ago and said he will always love me.I was totally hooked but clueless on how to deal with him...he finally broke up with me and told me to get help.i tried to contact him he just gets violently angry and abusive even in public...i just want him to know i miss him and to give us another chance...what can i do?

Not enough details. Listen closely. If he's acting that way give him time. Maybe you shouldn't be with someone with tendencies to react like that. I suggest you evaluate what you like about him. If he act abusive & violently angry get away from him. He needs to learn to communicate & you're not the one to teach him. Give him space.

Posted by LostintheSauce
Not enough details. Listen closely. If he's acting that way give him time. Maybe you shouldn't be with someone with tendencies to react like that. I suggest you evaluate what you like about him. If he act abusive & violently angry get away from him. He needs to learn to communicate & you're not the one to teach him. Give him space.

I agree.

This is eyebrow raising and sketchy without more details.

"he finally broke up with me"

Posted by RoseTheTaurus
This is eyebrow raising and sketchy without more details.

"he finally broke up with me"

LOL ...... I also agree with this.....

There are pertinent details that you maybe purposely leaving out because you want advice to
continue to chase him when deep down inside you know this isn't a good match....but you want
him anyway and you don't want to be alone..... (hmmm Taurus tenacity used for a lost cause..)

No one wants to get their heart broken and have to start over.... from square one
Especially if we "feel" like we have bonded with someone special ..... but unfortunately, that
is life. It gets harder to start over the older we get so we sometimes "hold on " not really for that
person but secretly because we don't want to start over again....

And have to once again ask those soul searching questions .....

Why did this happen again?
Why can't I find happiness?
I thought this would last?
Blah blah blah..... you know the routine .....

Posted by lovelytaurus
Hello,i need a virgo perspective and suggestions...he fell head over heels for me 6months ago and said he will always love me.I was totally hooked but clueless on how to deal with him...he finally broke up with me and told me to get help.i tried to contact him he just gets violently angry and abusive even in public...i just want him to know i miss him and to give us another chance...what can i do?

Lovely Taurus,
If there is violence in his anger and abusiveness, even in public, I think you should
consider that it is likely to only get worse and much more dangerous than it already is that the
best recourse, is to let go. For your physical and emotional safety. He sounds extreme.
Believe me, I feel your hurt. But don't let your emotional heart blind so much that you cannot protect it.
I believe that you deserve a lot better than that.

Taurus stop trying to control this virgo guy. Bide your time maybe he will cool down. You tauruses can be tough on us virgos in relationships. Is it within your realm of thinking that you made him feel like you were trying to rule the roost?

One thing we virgoes do notabide is being ruled.

hello and thank you for the kind response...my relationship with virgo was totally unexpected as i was just coming to terms with a divorce from my cancer husband and he(virgo) swept me off my feet.yes i was vulnerable but i was definately not looking to fall in love with anyone at all.He made me smile all the time(we work together) and he told me he always had feelings for me...he finally broke up with me when i got emotional infront of him when i learned about my ex husband getting re-married.
He just distanced himself and became cold to me.i even asked my best friend to interceed and he told her his plans of marrying me before the above took place😢...he has a 4yr old son whom he loves dearly and i adore him too...i know im not perfect but when he came into my life i acheived perfection in the form of virgo..i feel really bad that i am failing at every attempt to get him to come back and i feel helpless as he slips away further....is there hope for me?

Why did you get emotional over your ex remarrying? Maybe he saw that you are still emotionally tied to your ex and decided to take a step back.

Posted by lovelytaurus
he just gets violently angry and abusive even in public...

Why in the HELL would you want to still be with him? HE'S ABUSIVE. Nuff said. What's wrong with you?

@realtalk because i love him,doesn't it count?

Posted by lovelytaurus
@realtalk because i love him,doesn't it count?

Because you love him— Is this a joke? We're all being punked right? You can't be that stupid at 33 yrs old...ok so the fact that he beats your ass in public is ok because you love him right? I can't...smh.

ola everyone...@realtalk...:-) no you are not getting punk'd love is love whether im 13yrs or 33yrs.being abusive was after we broke-up.i never ever felt threatened or afraid for my life or i would have left on my own.
@harry99 thank you and i appreciate you for understanding my pain.i think about him alot.It's amazing how someone can break your heart, but you still love them anyway.
yes virgo/taurus is a power struggle esp. when it comes to communication because he always complained that he should be the one to initiate everything.i am always impulsive while he always followed a to do list.
but In all honesty i dont know how to let go.

could any virgo man who has had the expirience with a taurus girl out there or vice versa,i would love your thoughts please...

ola...si,people we care about hurt us all the time,do you walk away from everyone you care for?

Obviously, you want to be hurt, so ... suffer as you wish

Posted by lovelytaurus
could any virgo man who has had the expirience with a taurus girl out there or vice versa,i would love your thoughts please...

Hmm. Okay, well as has been pointed out now, the abusive thing in public sounds like a red flag which goes beyond being a Virgo.

From a Virgos perspective, I'm guessing you probably put him through the mill, instigated problems and talked around the issues you really needed addressed to form the trust you needed to avoid those very arguments. It was probably very difficult for Virgo to move on and resolve that they let someone do that to them, and that they were unable to smooth things over, because love doesn't always prevail. Virgos are used to lovers coming back to them, but they usually learn that each time they've been open to reconciliation, it's a mistake. So your return is likely frustrating, and triggering. If you're getting resistance, you need to move on. 6 months isn't a long time for people to change, so you would essentially resume where things left off, and that wasn't good. It's also too long, in that the window for a quick reconciliation is probably long gone, because he's probably had enough space to feel less invested emotionally in what sounds like a complicated situation now.
Also, your return just gives the power back in his court, and while that's healing to him he's now reacting with anger. There is nothing you can do to change that. The best thing for a Taurus to do with a Virgo is learn to take responsibility and not knit pick at trivial issues, turning them into mountains a Virgo can't defend themselves against.

P angel nobody WANTS to be hurt,i may be wrong but somebody who i love and care for alot to me has the capacity to hurt me because they matter to me and they mean something to me...it is bitter sweet thats how you know its love...

Posted by lovelytaurus

...it is bitter sweet thats how you know its love...

Nope. Love is not bitter sweet. The only reason you say that is because that's all the experience you have, so you have no real love to compare it to.

therefore, since this is what you believe .... again, suffer as you wish

wordsworth i appreciate your insight to the matter and yes im beggining to learn alot about virgo men...there was nothing like instigate problems or nit picking from me...i was always forthright and loyal im softspoken(drama free)and never fussy or petty and always calm and friendly.
my only undoing was my impatience when it came to communication and somewhat possesive tendencies...yes the power is in his court because sometimes i just know hes there thinking of me and he just knows im not going anywhere and thats very frustrating.

P angel...you are pisces...bonita,very deep and soulfull,you of all people understand what i talk of...you are more expirienced than me so you surely know that the course of love never ran smooth.

Posted by lovelytaurus
..there was nothing like instigate problems or nit picking from me...i was always forthright and loyal im softspoken(drama free)and never fussy or petty and always calm and friendly.

You might not be a typical taurus then. Typically they think they're avoiding confrontation, but there's a tendency to hold grudges and be very difficult.

If you really have no guilt in the relationship, there shouldn't have been a breakup, and your Virgo has no reason to resort to such drama. Sounds like you need to walk away.

Smh.

Hello, dear wordsworth he told me i was possesive(typical taurus female) and he found it disrespecting his privacy and his time with his son...I told him i just didn't know where i fit in and it made me impatient and i reacted impulsively(venus in aries).
After which He was kind enough to tell me everytime he needed his space and time alone.The time we had together was always strictly planned and scheduled which felt like a punishment for my actions...
i still feel like im on punishment right now and that he's teaching me a lesson but the harsh way...mi amigos virgos what do you think?

I think is obsession, not love. Love would be respectful of his wishes and walk on. Even if it hurts. Love is giving of yourself selflessly. Not being swallowed in despair. It is much loftier than this. Use your reason and sense mujer. Love does not hold you under to punish you and make you bleed, it lifts you up. If this is his reasoning early on, what would it be years hence? Think about that.

ola,venusianbull i agree about being respectful of his wishes but why should i walk on? we sometimes say and do things we regret were only human afterall.using reason and sense in matters of the heart is a difficult task chica...love lifts you up yes because it makes you rise above any obstacles.not by giving up and turning your back everytime you face a rough patch.
For my loved ones i believe in staying through thick and thin...would you?

Posted by lovelytaurus
ola,venusianbull i agree about being respectful of his wishes but why should i walk on? we sometimes say and do things we regret were only human afterall.using reason and sense in matters of the heart is a difficult task chica...love lifts you up yes because it makes you rise above any obstacles.not by giving up and turning your back everytime you face a rough patch.
For my loved ones i believe in staying through thick and thin...would you?

I just think you're being ignorant, due to being blind.

Look at the title .... why is he mad for wanting him back ..... this means he wants you to move along, and quit hanging onto him like dingleberry.

the thing is ... you are defending your position in claiming that a loyal and loving partner stands by through all obstacles and to love that person means you don't bail on them because times get tough .. and you want to pride yourself on this.

Oh yes, you boast and boast about how wonderful you must be to have such diligence in standing by him (in your own words).


But, the thing is .. he doesn't want you to be there. So, this proud stance you take to defend your territory of being loyal to him, is complete ignorance on your part ... because the only thing you are standing by is a concept.

If you want to be dignified .. then step the fuck away from clinging onto a man who doesn't want to be with him.

And the whole violently abusive part .. and you attempting to convince people that this is perfectly ok and normal if in love is a crock of shit, to be honest.


Standing by a person like that doesn't prove you love him ... it proves you have no self worth.

You can come back and deny it all you want to .. but, I'm telling you, everyone around you, in every part of your life, when you try to tell people that it's right to stand by a man like this .... yeah, they are looking at you/thinking about you like you're a piece of scum yourself, if you would allow yourself to not only be treated like that = to defend it.


They might not say it you, I might be the only person being honest in telling this ... but, they think it, guarranteed

Nobody is looking at you with awe, and thinking how amazing of a woman you are for standing by your man.


nobody


It's all in your head, in fantasy

And I don't know why any woman would fantasize about being physically abused is a beautiful state of being, as in look at how incredibly loyal and dedicated they are for this act .... but, there are plenty of women who do it.


I guess you must have been shunned your whole life? .. and any attention is amazing attention?



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hello ninafish thank you for your kind words,and you are right maybe i need to elaborate on the violence and anger to avoid any misconception...after he went quiet i tried to contact him by text calls at home and i was faced with alot of hate speech and raised voices out of anger(in public)throwing things and punching the wall(at home)...it was once and it was completely out of character...i was previously married to a cancer so i am well aware of moodiness and emotional outbursts...
Pangel...no comments mamacita...

MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY(IN SUBTITLES LOL)...PLS ENJOY...LOVELY TAURUS

Posted by P-Angel
Nobody is looking at you with awe, and thinking how amazing of a woman you are for standing by your man.




It's all in your head, in fantasy

Takes one ta'know one. Was it in your head as well when you were getting your ass beat? Fantasy? Oh no...that was real. Surprised...being a fish & all...lol.

::::shakes head::::

*sigh* virgo men—?? where art thou?speak to me...

Of course, because ignorance is bliss, right?


Only it isn't bliss ... the existence of this thread proves it isn't bliss.


I know, I know .... by virtue of being an ignorant female, embracing pain to have the glorious reason to cry feels good to you.


Women like you actually enjoy it .. the evidence is right here. You have the choice not to rejoice in emotional injury, but, you elect to hold onto it, stroke, share in it so other people can wrap the misery of it around you, with you.


It's actually pretty disgusting for men ... that's probably why you stand in dark, though all of this will fly over your head because it's too real for you to handle

Pangel...no comment..but thank-you for your concern...

To THE VIRGO MEN here i would really like to hear your thoughts...please?🙂

Sometimes, I really like someone at first but as I get to know them more I find them irreconcilably incompatible with the type of person I see myself with in the long run so I pull away. For some reason, many times, this has made the woman cling onto me more. Which isn't my intention, at all.

This person no longer has the feelings and thoughts for you they did 6 months ago and the longer you throw yourself at him hoping he will pity/love you, the way he did before, the more pathetic and unattractive you will come across to him.

Posted by webothhavescales
Sometimes, I really like someone at first but as I get to know them more I find them irreconcilably incompatible with the type of person I see myself with in the long run so I pull away. For some reason, many times, this has made the woman cling onto me more. Which isn't my intention, at all.

This person no longer has the feelings and thoughts for you they did 6 months ago and the longer you throw yourself at him hoping he will pity/love you, the way he did before, the more pathetic and unattractive you will come across to him.

hello,i see what you mean,
*shrug*i guess i just thought sometimes people put up walls and walk away just to see if you care enough to ask why...

Posted by harry99
Virgos want perfection. They have an ideal of what they want. When they become mean and abusive it's not some test it's them saying LEAVE ME ALONE. Move on, gooooo. I know ur a Taurus & ur stubborn so just re-read what the Virgo male wrote. It is not cool to have someone think about u like that.

I really think there's a reason that I like him so much. Like something is telling me not to let him go. Every time I follow my heart... it leads me to him. I mean... what other explanation is there. Why is it that he is all I can think about? Why is it that no matter how upset I am... I see him and I can't help but smile? Why is it that when he smiles at me... I get that feeling in my stomach? And even when he'd broken my heart, and hurt me as much as anyone could ever hurt me why then did I still feel those same feelings? Answer me that, and then I'll tell you why I let him hurt me so much.

Posted by VirgoR


You want a Virgo mans opinion?
Search for a gentleman that is gentle, compassionate, caring, mature and will treat you with respect.

this is how he started out...Even though all of you may see something in him that is so horrible I don't regret any of my feelings or things I did with him, because when I look at him I see something different than what everyone else can see. When I'm with him, I feel a feeling that no one or being anywhere else can give me...he spoilt me for the next guy.

Posted by lovelytaurus

Posted by harry99
Virgos want perfection. They have an ideal of what they want. When they become mean and abusive it's not some test it's them saying LEAVE ME ALONE. Move on, gooooo. I know ur a Taurus & ur stubborn so just re-read what the Virgo male wrote. It is not cool to have someone think about u like that.

I really think there's a reason that I like him so much. Like something is telling me not to let him go. Every time I follow my heart... it leads me to him. I mean... what other explanation is there. Why is it that he is all I can think about? Why is it that no matter how upset I am... I see him and I can't help but smile? Why is it that when he smiles at me... I get that feeling in my stomach? And even when he'd broken my heart, and hurt me as much as anyone could ever hurt me why then did I still feel those same feelings? Answer me that, and then I'll tell you why I let him hurt me so much.

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This is the reason why many people stay in abusive relationships. They still feel something, still see something, still want something. What you feel right now is not abnormal, but these situations usually never ends well. Fixed signs can literally be fixed on what they want. I tell my mother(Aqua) all the time...what you want may not be what you need or whats best for you.

You are an adult, and I dont get the impression you will turn yourself into a victim after all is said and done, which shows you'll take your share of the responsibility if you decide to continue on.

I personally wouldnt advise you to continue, but only you know what you can handle and your limit. I really hope the Virgos chiming in helps you look the other way.

Posted by lovelytaurus

Answer me that, and then I'll tell you why I let him hurt me so much.

Wow, you really are a pathetic fool ... and yes, when the reality finally knocks you upside the head, you will proclaim that stance of victim.

Not only do you not seem to mind that you have no integrity or self worth ... you use this lack of it as badge to strut.


I have no pity for you .. and I doubt your people in the RW do either, that's why you're coming in here to project how emotionally stupid you are because in here, you don't have to worry about being a fool since nobody knows you.


It boggles my mind that you are the age you are, and still have gained no emotional sense or maturity.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by lovelytaurus

Answer me that, and then I'll tell you why I let him hurt me so much.

Wow, you really are a pathetic fool ... and yes, when the reality finally knocks you upside the head, you will proclaim that stance of victim.

Not only do you not seem to mind that you have no integrity or self worth ... you use this lack of it as badge to strut.


I have no pity for you .. and I doubt your people in the RW do either, that's why you're coming in here to project how emotionally stupid you are because in here, you don't have to worry about being a fool since nobody knows you.


It boggles my mind that you are the age you are, and still have gained no emotional sense or maturity.

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i had a very close friend female pisces(we worked together) whom i would confide in.when i had a problem i would call her for advice.one day my virgo called me to tell me that he bumped into her and she gave him a whole history of my relationship with him and about my problems with my ex-husband and that finally did it btw. me and him because he didnt believe he was ready to commit to me and declared that he hated me...

i am no longer friends with her but i did forgive her..i dont carry any bitterness for anyone but i believe in my love for virgo and have faith that it was for real...

^^lol @ the last two lines..ok

^^^it just simply means I'm single..
but my heart is taken

^^good for u, lol. No returns or forceful take backs? Dont get me wrong, love is beautiful, but its not all there is. Joost saying

honestly speaking love;is like water,cant go without it...

Posted by lovelytaurus
honestly speaking love;is like water,cant go without it...

True... but who says you have to drink just water? There are a ton of beverages out there. Choose one that actually quenches your thirst.

What everyone is trying to tell you is this, "HE doesn't love you. It doesn't matter that you love him and you're willing to be hurt by him.... HE.DOESN'T.GIVE.A.SH*T." Feelings are reciprocal, if one person does not feel the same way about you, GAME OVER!

I am so utterly shocked by how mentally brainwashed and naive you are.

Amazing, isn't it?