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WHY DOES VIRGO MAN HATES ME FOR WANTING HIM BACK? (Page 2)
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well seems to me so far that nothing but conditional love matters where having any kind of vulnerability is deemed as weak and desparate and only perfect people deserve love and to be loved...how unrealistic of me?
Posted by lovelytaurus
well seems to me so far that nothing but conditional love matters where having any kind of vulnerability is deemed as weak and desparate and only perfect people deserve love and to be loved...how unrealistic of me?
Lovelytaurus,
You sound like a lovely woman... A very kind one. But, you are being extremely ignorant and stupid.
Your love for him is unconditional, his for you is conditional. Does that make sense? He simply does not want you no matter how long you wait and wish and try to get him back... It's not about what you are willing to give him, it's what he is NOT WILLING to give you no matter what you do or say or love.
SNAP OUT OF IT!
SNAP OUT OF IT!
^^^The reason why i can't let go is because deep inside i still hope.
Hope that u snap out of it thou, please. Come on, sweety, everybody over 18 knows that 'real' love (mills & boon kind) is as real as santa claus or unicorns. Dont do this to yourself. I hope this is all a joke and if it is u r good, if not ---> (; 😉
^^^i do realise sometimes loving someone too much, you lose yourself in the process,forgetting that you are special too.
loving a virgo man who hates you is torture.
yet i believe that we cant use hate to drive out hate,but we can use love.
thank you elusivesoul...you know,honestly I'll never forget the way he made me feel when I was with him. My only wish is that I could forget the way he made me feel when he left.
Posted by lovelytaurus
thank you elusivesoul...you know,honestly I'll never forget the way he made me feel when I was with him. My only wish is that I could forget the way he made me feel when he left.
You should never try to forget your negative experiences because forgetting will not teach you or remind you to avoid it and learn from it in the future. This is why you are the way you are, you have a very fatal flaw that is "avoidance" of the issue instead of "acceptance" of the issue. If you learn to accept that that's what he did to you, hurt you, mistreated you, then you will realize that he does not deserve you. Because you choose to "forget" all the time, you cannot help yourself heal yourself and, you have an extremely hard time facing the reality of the matter at hand. Stop trying to "forget" the bad times, they're there to teach you a lesson!
I used to be a strong girl , but a lot has changed, a lot has happened , and I've had to deal with so much. And do you know something ? I finally broke... with virgo guy Everything around me crashed and I fell right with it . I'm not that strong anymore .
It happens to a lot of people, LovelyTaurus...
If you continue to work on yourself, you will be able to rebuild yourself. Stop giving pieces of yourself away hoping they would take care of you because you will never get that back when they disappoint you. We are all in control of our own life, what we choose to do with it and how to live it is OUR DECISION to make, noone elses. Your happiness is yours, not his... It becomes his when you let him control your emotions like this.
I am absolutely in love with my Virgo, but if things don't work out between us, I know that it will shatter me to pieces... But, life goes on and if he's not contributing to my happiness, I will go and make myself happy.
Pick yourself up and try again.
You are strong you're a bull for Christ sakes, but you sound so weak. You really need to spend sometime learning and loving yourself. Maybe the Virguy saw you as weak and that's another reason he left. Men don't like weak women. I love my Virgo too but I refuse to let him continuously treat me any kind of way. Think if you got back with him would you really be happy? Look at the way he is treating you now! It would be alot worse if y'all got back together because by you getting back with him you are telling him it's ok to treat me any kind of way. I hope this makes sense to you! Tauruses are strong individuals. They can do anything they put their mind to. Put your mind to something else besides him. Let yourself heal and learn to love again. I'm rooting for you!!
thank you for the encouraging words
Sometimes being strong enough means admitting you need help getting over something, instead of dwelling on it on your own You can judge me,tell me to just let go and move on.knowing i should let go dosent make doing it any simpler He's the person I gave my trust to...i just held on because i thought maybe he hasnt let go either...
any virgo with a cancer moon and venus in scorpio here? what do you think?
Melly your comment is welcome...its becoming clear that feelings dont matter here and having them has no place in the virgo forum.
im sorry my relationship with virgo isn't those perfect couples coming together where i can gloat how in love we are.im here asking for some clarity...thanks to this very thread among other things i am learning...give me some time doll...
Dafuq?^^^
Posted by lovelytaurus
honestly speaking love;is like water,cant go without it...I am so utterly shocked by how mentally brainwashed and naive you are.
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Seriously...smh.
+a lot @ what melly said. Really smart comment
Ok, I know y'all are stubborn but dayummmm! He doesn't want you anymore. He is probably laid up with another female not worried about you anymore. Virgos are heartless people. They don't give a treetrunk about anybody but themselves. When they go into anything they think about how it will benefit them. He doesnt need you anymore so he left. They are horrible people. You have to move on. This will ruin you if you let it. You are stronger than this. He isn't coming back and if he does it's only to use you and he'll be gone again. Come on lovely Taurus. I know what I'm talking about because I've been where you are right now. It sucks to be rejected. It sucks to love someone and they don't love you anymore. But Thats the beauty of love. Please for your on sake let it go. Give yourself some time to heal and learn to love again. I'm screaming treetrunk a Virgo and get with a Scorpion. Lol I'm praying you have better days.
Posted by sillykim123
Ok, I know y'all are stubborn but dayummmm! He doesn't want you anymore. He is probably laid up with another female not worried about you anymore. Virgos are heartless people. They don't give a treetrunk about anybody but themselves. When they go into anything they think about how it will benefit them. He doesnt need you anymore so he left. They are horrible people. You have to move on. This will ruin you if you let it. You are stronger than this. He isn't coming back and if he does it's only to use you and he'll be gone again. Come on lovely Taurus. I know what I'm talking about because I've been where you are right now. It sucks to be rejected. It sucks to love someone and they don't love you anymore. But Thats the beauty of love. Please for your on sake let it go. Give yourself some time to heal and learn to love again. I'm screaming treetrunk a Virgo and get with a Scorpion. Lol I'm praying you have better days.
So, what's your sign, oh frustrated one?
I'm a Gemini
Posted by MellyMel
I am a Virgo with a Cancer moon and Venus in Leo (not Scorpio), and I think you need to re-read all the advice previously given. Re-read it several times. Then print it out, re-read it some more, and then beat yourself over the head with the printed out pages until it sinks in.I truly am sorry you are going through what you are going through, but stop continuously bumping your thread in the hopes that someone will give you a thread of hope to cling to.
I'm not trying to be a bitch, but this kind of martyr-like whining and complete lack of awareness or accountability seriously make my eye twitch.
Work. On. Your. Self.
She won't work on herself .... because of the simple fact, she's ignorant. Ingorant in = she has no clue what anybody in here has said, and believes ....
...its becoming clear that feelings dont matter here and having them has no place in the virgo forum.
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..... that martyrdom is an honor.
Posted by sillykim123
Ok, I know y'all are stubborn but dayummmm! He doesn't want you anymore. He is probably laid up with another female not worried about you anymore. Virgos are heartless people. They don't give a treetrunk about anybody but themselves. When they go into anything they think about how it will benefit them. He doesnt need you anymore so he left. They are horrible people. You have to move on. This will ruin you if you let it. You are stronger than this. He isn't coming back and if he does it's only to use you and he'll be gone again. Come on lovely Taurus. I know what I'm talking about because I've been where you are right now. It sucks to be rejected. It sucks to love someone and they don't love you anymore. But Thats the beauty of love. Please for your on sake let it go. Give yourself some time to heal and learn to love again. I'm screaming treetrunk a Virgo and get with a Scorpion. Lol I'm praying you have better days.So, what's your sign, oh frustrated one?
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Lol...
Posted by sillykim123
Ok, I know y'all are stubborn but dayummmm! He doesn't want you anymore. He is probably laid up with another female not worried about you anymore. Virgos are heartless people. They don't give a treetrunk about anybody but themselves. When they go into anything they think about how it will benefit them. He doesnt need you anymore so he left. They are horrible people. You have to move on. This will ruin you if you let it. You are stronger than this. He isn't coming back and if he does it's only to use you and he'll be gone again. Come on lovely Taurus. I know what I'm talking about because I've been where you are right now. It sucks to be rejected. It sucks to love someone and they don't love you anymore. But Thats the beauty of love. Please for your on sake let it go. Give yourself some time to heal and learn to love again. I'm screaming treetrunk a Virgo and get with a Scorpion. Lol I'm praying you have better days.
Funny...Most Geminis possess the EXACT same traits you are noting. Quite contradictory, no? Geminis are a ball of positive emotion I gather? Happily skipping through the field of daisies? I don't fucking think so.
Posted by scorchedearth
realtalk, i thought you guys were a good match with gems since you're both mercury ruled?someone seems mad.
In most circumstances, we are. I guess depending on the entire chart, & how a person was brought up. I like geminis but alot of things that person listed about Virgos, some Geminis are guilty of.
This bitch here isn't. I give a treetrunk about other people. I don't use them for my own good. I have empathy. I always think before I do something especially dealing with peoples feelings. Virgos are liars. They are hypocrites. They only give a fuaq about themselves. I hate y'all but love y'all at the same time. I think the only reason why I'm clinging to my Virgo ex is because the dick is good. Once my scorp comes along I'm chunking my Virgos cheating manipulating sorry no good trifling lying ass the dueces. I might just get back with him and play his ass. I've never cheated on any of my boyfriends. I'm always 100% honest because I believe in the saying do unto others as you would want others to do unto you. But the bitch crossed me he will see my treetrunking wrath.
^^^Lol...if Virgos don't give a fuck about anyone but themselves, then surely he won't give a fuck about you fucking with someone else so what's the point?
You're calling him a liar, a cheater, manipulative, etc., but you're still fucking him? Yeah...that makes ALOT of sense.
True realtalk! But I have to keep it real he has good dick!
Posted by sillykim123
True realtalk! But I have to keep it real he has good dick!do you have any self respect? at all?
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Agreed.
@ Silly, so you're saying you'll allow him to treat you like shit because of "good dick"?
Posted by capricornmoon
Wanting and needing Good dick has nothing to do with self respect...
The hell it doesn't.
I was just mad. His not going to stop what he's been doing. I'd rather just leave with my dignity. thanks for the advice and criticism I really needed it!
violent virgos
are the ones that can't think
are you stupid too?
looks like there's only 1 head working
wow...ok what did i miss lol...clearly there are many victims like me huh!virgo men...
wow...ok what did i miss lol...clearly there are many victims like me huh!virgo men...
You're not a victim ... an actual victim has no control of their own circumstances.
^^^you speak exactly like my insincere picses "friend"...you say you are emotionally smart but you are bereft of those very emotions you claim to understand...you are among certain females who dissaprove of every thread where a woman displays vulnerability.your comments seem solely aimed to embarrass,mock and humiliate people who sincerely have an issue they want to discuss in this forum regardless how pathetic it may sound to you...
may i remind you that we are still females unless you are a diffrent species it is a beautiful gift.
im not trying to be a man i have tears i have sympathy and maternal instincts pls dont come here and make me feel like these qualities make me a worthless female by calling me clingy and whiney yet you really sound sullen bitter and resentful when you comment about a person which is totally unnessesary.
you are by all means entitled to your opinion you can make a powerful point and stay diplomatic.
i may seem like a martyr i could live with that...its better than selfish amd self absorbed anyday...we all have flaws hun...i love this virgo man and i always will
thank you all and pls feel free to speak up anytime.🙂
you speak exactly like my insincere picses "friend"...
I could speak like every Pisces you've ever known, but, that doesn't change fact: You're not a victim
may i remind you that we are still females unless you are a diffrent species it is a beautiful gift.
im not trying to be a man i have tears i have sympathy and maternal instincts pls dont come here and make me feel like these qualities make me a worthless female by calling me clingy and whiney yet you really sound sullen bitter and resentful when you comment about a person which is totally unnessesary.
Furthermore, this quote above offends every female on this planet who has integrity, because it indicates that by virtue of being female that it makes them beneath a man AND a place the female should think is beautiful.
It claims that having sympathy and maternal instincts are proud qualities to have as they are relative to you willingly make an ass out of yourself, and anybody (in this case, me) pointing out to you that you make yourself worthless in doing this .... that it's me calling you worthless, when in reality, it's you doing it to yourself.
It is necessary to point this shit out to you ... however, you are so stuck onto believing you deserve to be a piece of shit that nothing anyone could say could possibly wipe the shit off of you.
You should go hang out with Midnightstar, she's a Scorpio .... like you, she revels in being a piece of shit, also.
In fact, I will link this to one of her many self-defeating threads, she's always looking for another human being who has no dignity or self-worth to share stories with ... so she would probably love you, since you are completely ignorant to reality, and love to believe you are worthless, by virtue of being female.
Here's midnitestar .. you can meet her in this thread ....
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/i-m-ashamed-to-be-in-a-relationship-3469891/?p=2
She is a person similar to you, and could probably relate to you since, like you, she has no pride in herself so therefore constantly seeks approval.
Just sad...but bulls are stubborn eh?
well thanks for the comment and gemstar yes stubborn taurus female here.
im here because i take responsibility in my part of what went wrong with my relationship with my virgo.He was not entirly at fault and i must take part of the blame for this...all im saying is im miserable with the way things ended between us and i miss him terribly.
curious i understand how i might sound to you in this thread because its easy for posters to speak in theory and sound all objective and rational and shake your head.
knowing you have been here and moved on why do you condemn me for being here?...My relationship with virgo MENT ALOT to me regardless.im not here seeking justification i truely wanted to make things right and clear my concience.
i have left him alone yet i cant shake this feeling that he thinks of me often.
pangel you are almost my mothers age and i respect that you have expirience yet your words have so much negativity and laced with so much cynisim that its hard to see through.swap your negativity with positivity and see how much more you can accomplish.
im not saying we are beneath men but we are not in competion with them either they have their place and we have ours(we are their better half).
about the thread you suggest it most certainly is not my place to join you im mocking another human beings issues because to you they sound trivial and unimportant but i respect peoples feelings...but thanks anyway
... and see how much more you can accomplish.
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lol ..... considering you can't even accomplish recognizing he doesn't want you ....
Damn Pisces...shut the fuck up already. If she wants to pine for someone who isn't worth it, that's her damn business. We all have given her advice here & if she doesn't want to follow it OH WELL. Who cares at this point? You're beating a dead horse...
i have left him alone yet i cant shake this feeling that he thinks of me often.
Actually, I take that back .. he does want you.
he needs someone to dump on, a doormat with no integrity who will stand there and take it, mermuring how much he's loved and how he is deserving of having a bitch to knock around, it makes him feel better and it's her honor to give herself to him, so he can have her to kick around when he needs to unload his bullshit.
You're right, every time he gets irritated, angry or frustrated ..... he thinks of you.
Aren't you special?
* murmuring
... because its easy for posters to speak in theory and sound all objective and rational and shake your head.
... the point of you asking for advice here as in you want an objectionable opinion.someone that is not involved so they can give you an opinion from the outside.
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Your point is logical, and on target ... too bad there so many people who can't get that.
People usually really don't want to hear options, they want to be enabled so they don't have to look at themselves.
I agree with curious. When posting here you have to take the good with the bad. Great points Lenore and well said.
curious and lenore thank you ladies for the friendly advice.
i just wish the v-men would speak up though...*sigh*
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At 33 years old PLUS it wasn't another person brainwashing her .... it was her doing it to herself.
I guess because of being desperate in needing someone to love her, so she wrapped a delusion around her awareness.