Do you like someone fighting for you?

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doesn't everyone want this?

(assuming feelings are reciprocated)

That sounded like a silly question lol! I guess I find they are so good at their poker face, I sometimes can’t tell if they’ve noticed anything. I know they are slow to make up their mind. Did you have to deal with that? Any tips on how to keep calm and carry on?
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all you can do is be yourself. are you loyal and consistent because you want to illicit a reaction or because that's who you are? if that's who you are then their reaction is not essential (nice to have but not essential). if you are doing it because you want praise, then that's not the best way to go about things.

don't worry, they noticed. they notice everything.

hmm, he is slow to make up his mind? about you? i certainly went through a sort of assessment phase with the bull. again, all i did was be honest and authentic with him. that's all i could do. i let the rest worry about itself.
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Posted by 2LoV3
Posted by jeane

doesn't everyone want this?

(assuming feelings are reciprocated)

That sounded like a silly question lol! I guess I find they are so good at their poker face, I sometimes can’t tell if they’ve noticed anything. I know they are slow to make up their mind. Did you have to deal with that? Any tips on how to keep calm and carry on?

all you can do is be yourself. are you loyal and consistent because you want to illicit a reaction or because that's who you are? if that's who you are then their reaction is not essential (nice to have but not essential). if you are doing it because you want praise, then that's not the best way to go about things.

don't worry, they noticed. they notice everything.

hmm, he is slow to make up his mind? about you? i certainly went through a sort of assessment phase with the bull. again, all i did was be honest and authentic with him. that's all i could do. i let the rest worry about itself.
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I try to be consistent simply because I want to, but there are definitely times that I question whether my efforts are going unnoticed and I’m wasting my time. This is definitely clearly me on a bad day LOL!!

Yes, he is still a little bit unsure about me. I am sure it is because many years ago (as they never forget anything) I broke up with him about 15 years ago. I can understand his uncertainty, absolutely! I know it is definitely not a no but he hasn’t quite reached yes Yet. He is always there for me, but tries not to show too much of his feelings. sometimes he is not as composed and things get very sexual in conversation so I sometimes get an idea of where his head is but not very often. Very guarded as I’m sure you know

I just have to keep at it. What helped you?
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Posted by 2LoV3
Posted by jeane
Posted by 2LoV3
Posted by jeane

doesn't everyone want this?

(assuming feelings are reciprocated)

That sounded like a silly question lol! I guess I find they are so good at their poker face, I sometimes can’t tell if they’ve noticed anything. I know they are slow to make up their mind. Did you have to deal with that? Any tips on how to keep calm and carry on?

all you can do is be yourself. are you loyal and consistent because you want to illicit a reaction or because that's who you are? if that's who you are then their reaction is not essential (nice to have but not essential). if you are doing it because you want praise, then that's not the best way to go about things.

don't worry, they noticed. they notice everything.

hmm, he is slow to make up his mind? about you? i certainly went through a sort of assessment phase with the bull. again, all i did was be honest and authentic with him. that's all i could do. i let the rest worry about itself.

I try to be consistent simply because I want to, but there are definitely times that I question whether my efforts are going unnoticed and I’m wasting my time. This is definitely clearly me on a bad day LOL!!

Yes, he is still a little bit unsure about me. I am sure it is because many years ago (as they never forget anything) I broke up with him about 15 years ago. I can understand his uncertainty, absolutely! I know it is definitely not a no but he hasn’t quite reached yes Yet. He is always there for me, but tries not to show too much of his feelings. sometimes he is not as composed and things get very sexual in conversation so I sometimes get an idea of where his head is but not very often. Very guarded as I’m sure you know

I just have to keep at it. What helped you?
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It sounds to me like you need to have a conversation with him to explain how you feel, what you are assuming about him and figure out where the reality lies.