queeneemy
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Posted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
Posted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)click to expand
Posted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)click to expand
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
Posted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)click to expand
Posted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)click to expand
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
You wouldn't know after 2 dates. Taurus ven plays the long game.
Posted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."click to expand
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
Posted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅click to expand
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
What did you say or ask before he said that?click to expand
It literally went:
Me: Are you coming to my sister's restaurant?
Him: No
Me: Okay... Is everything alright?
Him: Yeah... why?
Me: I don't know... You haven't been talking that much...
Him: I've been thinking about life.
And then for a few moments he was texting like he used to in the beginning and then stopped replying.
Posted by queeneemy
So, I've been texting a guy with his venus in Taurus. We've been on two dates that went really well in my opinion. After that he became a little cold. We still talk but he was so in my face in the beginning, texting and calling all the time so now I'm a little bit confused. He told me he's been thinking about life. I wonder if he has lost his interest in me? How do I know if he really lost interest in me or is just taking this slowly?
Thanks in advance.
The only sure shot way to know this is by sleeping with a Scorpio Venus.
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by queeneemy
So, I've been texting a guy with his venus in Taurus. We've been on two dates that went really well in my opinion. After that he became a little cold. We still talk but he was so in my face in the beginning, texting and calling all the time so now I'm a little bit confused. He told me he's been thinking about life. I wonder if he has lost his interest in me? How do I know if he really lost interest in me or is just taking this slowly?
Thanks in advance.
The only sure shot way to know this is by sleeping with a Scorpio Venus.click to expand
How so? I'm a scorpio venus 😅
Posted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by queeneemy
So, I've been texting a guy with his venus in Taurus. We've been on two dates that went really well in my opinion. After that he became a little cold. We still talk but he was so in my face in the beginning, texting and calling all the time so now I'm a little bit confused. He told me he's been thinking about life. I wonder if he has lost his interest in me? How do I know if he really lost interest in me or is just taking this slowly?
Thanks in advance.
The only sure shot way to know this is by sleeping with a Scorpio Venus.
How so? I'm a scorpio venus 😅click to expand
Masturbating does not count.
Posted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.click to expand
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
You mean to tell me that in 2 dates you have no clue about what he even remotely is interested in?
If you never asked or bothered to listen, well you have to follow what pop culture talks about on a daily.
As said before, this is a lazy venus. You will have to put in the effort till he is ready to reciprocate, that is if he even reciprocates all.
If you never asked or bothered to listen, well you have to follow what pop culture talks about on a daily.
As said before, this is a lazy venus. You will have to put in the effort till he is ready to reciprocate, that is if he even reciprocates all.
Posted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?click to expand
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?click to expand
From being lost to gaining control.
Posted by DMV
You mean to tell me that in 2 dates you have no clue about what he even remotely is interested in?
If you never asked or bothered to listen, well you have to follow what pop culture talks about on a daily.
As said before, this is a lazy venus. You will have to put in the effort till he is ready to reciprocate, that is if he even reciprocates all.
I listened to everything he told me. I know a few of his interests. And he told me plenty of stories from his past and all. But he doesn't want to hang out anymore. How am I supposed to do anything at all?
Posted by DMV
You mean to tell me that in 2 dates you have no clue about what he even remotely is interested in?
If you never asked or bothered to listen, well you have to follow what pop culture talks about on a daily.
As said before, this is a lazy venus. You will have to put in the effort till he is ready to reciprocate, that is if he even reciprocates all.
What a waste of time .
Posted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...click to expand
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.click to expand
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.click to expand
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Posted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?click to expand
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.
Posted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.click to expand
So, yesterday we were talking about my car and I asked him if he was afraid of being in my car (because my car is making a few weird noises and I'm getting repaired tomorrow) and he said he was afraid of the car's owner and I asked why. That's the last text. He didn't reply. I just texted a while ago. I said hi, he said hi, I asked how he was and he said he was fine. He didn't ask how I was so I said "I'm fine too thanks" with a laughing emoji 'cause it was meant as a joke. He replied "Good...". Then I said "So, you haven't told me why you're afraid of me". I'm still waiting... He's online on Facebook... Why is he ignoring me?
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.click to expand
Why is it a red flag?
Posted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.
Why is it a red flag?click to expand
Guy seems insecure and is trying to gain power with some petty moves .
Posted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.
So, yesterday we were talking about my car and I asked him if he was afraid of being in my car (because my car is making a few weird noises and I'm getting repaired tomorrow) and he said he was afraid of the car's owner and I asked why. That's the last text. He didn't reply. I just texted a while ago. I said hi, he said hi, I asked how he was and he said he was fine. He didn't ask how I was so I said "I'm fine too thanks" with a laughing emoji 'cause it was meant as a joke. He replied "Good...". Then I said "So, you haven't told me why you're afraid of me". I'm still waiting... He's online on Facebook... Why is he ignoring me?click to expand
maybe is a question he is not ready to answer. read the room and change the subject.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?click to expand
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
Posted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by queeneemyPosted by jeanePosted by Mactavish_R
Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.
So, yesterday we were talking about my car and I asked him if he was afraid of being in my car (because my car is making a few weird noises and I'm getting repaired tomorrow) and he said he was afraid of the car's owner and I asked why. That's the last text. He didn't reply. I just texted a while ago. I said hi, he said hi, I asked how he was and he said he was fine. He didn't ask how I was so I said "I'm fine too thanks" with a laughing emoji 'cause it was meant as a joke. He replied "Good...". Then I said "So, you haven't told me why you're afraid of me". I'm still waiting... He's online on Facebook... Why is he ignoring me?
maybe is a question he is not ready to answer. read the room and change the subject.click to expand
Okay... should I suggest us doing something tonight?
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by queeneemyPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by TurnedOnPosted by Phantom_DangusPosted by queeneemyPosted by DMV
Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.
Why is it a red flag?
Guy seems insecure and is trying to gain power with some petty moves .
I asked if you thought he was doing that, and you said no, he wasn't thinking about her.
You're weaving lies for some other dude you don't even know. lolclick to expand
That was before OP said that he had shown interest in her in the beginning.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.click to expand
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.
Why is it a red flag?
Guy seems insecure and is trying to gain power with some petty moves .click to expand
What should I do?
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
That's a red flag.
Dessert his ass.
Why is it a red flag?
Guy seems insecure and is trying to gain power with some petty moves .
What should I do?click to expand
Give him the taste of his own medicine.
Turn the tables.
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Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.
So, yesterday we were talking about my car and I asked him if he was afraid of being in my car (because my car is making a few weird noises and I'm getting repaired tomorrow) and he said he was afraid of the car's owner and I asked why. That's the last text. He didn't reply. I just texted a while ago. I said hi, he said hi, I asked how he was and he said he was fine. He didn't ask how I was so I said "I'm fine too thanks" with a laughing emoji 'cause it was meant as a joke. He replied "Good...". Then I said "So, you haven't told me why you're afraid of me". I'm still waiting... He's online on Facebook... Why is he ignoring me?click to expand
Here's another theory.
Earth signs are all about stability. Financial stability.
How is your money? Is your abundance poppin?
Cause you're talking to a man you just met about car repairs. Any other of your financial woes discussed?
As an earth venus myself, that nugget of info would turn me off. Any talk about negative finances or your financial worries would have me running.
Its ok for him to struggle financially but his mate most be in a financial league that represents long term stability.
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Instead of you buying stuff for THEM, they buy stuff for YOU.
illustration: mine bought me a car.
😅 we've only been on two dates... isn't it a bit early for him to get me a car?
Ahaha ok that's really cool tho.
Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex...
(disclaimer: it was a cheap car.)
lol, we weren't even together at that point. he did say it was just a cunning ploy to get into my pants though. needless to say, it worked.
it was a very cheap car though. total banger. (pun intended...😉)
"Did you ever experience him going hot and cold? 'Cause I'm really confused right now. He started off so strong and now... I don't know what to think. While we were texting last night he seemed like he was looking for signs of my interest for him. He told me "I heard you've been going to your sister's restaurant to see me". We both go there a lot but I've going there in the afternoon and I know he's not there in the afternoon cause he works and told him that. Then he said "You seem to enjoy being with me" and I told him yes. Then we texted a bit more and he eventually stopped replying. I don't want him to think I'm too pushy but I kind of miss him and talking to him. I'm also afraid he might still have feelings for his ex..."
first you have to question all your assumptions and conclusions.
has he gone cold? you were texting last night. i wouldn't say that is going cold.
when did he break up with his ex?
and...ah man, why did you tell him that you go there when he is not there? where's your bants? give him a little encouragement! flirt a bit! honestly, if it was me, i'd say something along the lines of "hey yeah, whenever i go you're not there! it's so disappointing. i think you need to buy me a drink to make up for it."
I must be the most unflirty person in the whole universe really 😅 Well, what makes me say that he went cold is the fact that in the beginning he was always asking me to hang out with him and texting all the time. And now it seems he doesn't want to spend time with me. I asked him last night to come to my sister's restaurant cause I was there and he said no. And it began right after our second date and he didn't text me for a few days... Maybe I'm overthinking but it did change a little bit. I totally understand if he needs some space, I'm just afraid that he has lost his interest in me. He broke up with his ex 5 months ago because he moved from our home country to the country we live in now. And apparently she cheated on him and has recently started texting him again and he says he wants a little revenge. A friend of mine told me that when a guy wants revenge from his ex it means he still has feelings for her. He did tell my brother-in-law that he doesn't want to go back to her tho. Also, yesterday I asked him if everything was alright and he said he has been thinking about life...
But I totally feel that this guy is a keeper and I don't want to screw things over. I don't know what to do 😅
easy. take it very slow. very very slow. 5 months is not long after a break up. if he is getting contemplative and ruminative then give him space to process his thoughts and try to be a constant companion. i wouldn't focus on if he likes you or doesnt like you. he might be finding that a number of emotions have recently been prodded.
if you think he is a keeper, start investing the time in him.
what are his other placements?
Sun gemini, moon capricorn, mercury taurus, mars aries. That's all I know.
But I want, I do want to spend time with him. And get to know him better. And I want to go slowly too but I'm getting anxious because of not knowing what to do. I totally understand if he still has feelings for her. But it's his change that is worrying me. How can I spend time with him tho? I suggest something and he refuses. I text and he's cold...
i'm still not convinced its a change.
all i can tell you is what i did. i pestered him. at the start, every few weeks. then if i didn't hear from him for a few days, i would drop him a line. "what are you doing? what's going on? what have you been up to?"
but it seems like you are further along than this. you've already been on a few dates. he is interested to know that you are interested in him. oh my god, flirt! geminis love banter. chat, make him laugh, be cheeky! tease him, drop the odd dirty innuendo but also be interested in him as a person. as k him what he is thinking about. show him that you can be a trusted friend. as dmv said, taurus venus you have to push a little. be a little (and i mean a very little) aggressive.
it might take some time. be patient. work the programme.
So, yesterday we were talking about my car and I asked him if he was afraid of being in my car (because my car is making a few weird noises and I'm getting repaired tomorrow) and he said he was afraid of the car's owner and I asked why. That's the last text. He didn't reply. I just texted a while ago. I said hi, he said hi, I asked how he was and he said he was fine. He didn't ask how I was so I said "I'm fine too thanks" with a laughing emoji 'cause it was meant as a joke. He replied "Good...". Then I said "So, you haven't told me why you're afraid of me". I'm still waiting... He's online on Facebook... Why is he ignoring me?
maybe is a question he is not ready to answer. read the room and change the subject.
Okay... should I suggest us doing something tonight?click to expand
nope. i wouldn't. what the rush? if he doesn't respond let the texts go cold for a bit.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.click to expand
My advice was also to leave this alone.
This isnt even about interest. It's about power struggles.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
Aaaand the truth comes out. You're playing games too and confusing him.
Why do I get involved in these dramas? So frustrating.click to expand
Why was I playing games? The guy wasn't replying to me, I didn't want to bother him or put pressure on him. I did have to control myself a bit 'cause I wanted to text him but I didn't... But I honestly don't think I was playing games.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
My advice was also to leave this alone.
This isnt even about interest. It's about power struggles.click to expand
Well, we are immigrants and he just came here. We did compare the life style of our home country to the life style in the country we live now but I never gave told him I struggle financially. I'm getting my car repaired and it's going to be expensive, that means I have the money...
Well, I tried to explain in the other thread why I was so attracted to him... I'm just really confused... Seriously...
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
Aaaand the truth comes out. You're playing games too and confusing him.
Why do I get involved in these dramas? So frustrating.
Why was I playing games? The guy wasn't replying to me, I didn't want to bother him or put pressure on him. I did have to control myself a bit 'cause I wanted to text him but I didn't... But I honestly don't think I was playing games.
The bolded part. It sounds like you were mad that he had not texted you enough or quickly enough so he came to say hi to you in person (which you referred to as him being petty, and I don't know why), and you were cold to him because you wanted to seem indifferent. Is that not what happened?click to expand
I am really confused right now... I wasn't mad because he didn't text me. I was mad because I thought he was playing games so I didn't want to show him that his games were working in other to stop them. I don't like games, really... I truly understand he might still have feelings for his ex and that's okay with me. But he doesn't have to play with me like this 'cause this is driving me crazy. I also came out of a complicated relationship not long ago and I don't want to go through the same thing again. I just want us both to be honest... I do admit that I am a bit cold about my feelings. I don't know how to show them. But I am trying my best to show him that I like spending time with him and all and he does this. If I'm going on dates with him, if I'm talking to him, it's because I'm interested, right? The day of our second date we had agreed that we would see each other the next day. He cancelled last minute saying he was tired. I understand that, there was a special event at the restaurant where he works. I've worked there a few years ago too and I know how tiring that event is. But he was barely speaking to me after that. The next day he texted 'hi' I replied and he didn't say anything else. Then he doesn't text me for days. I may sound high maintenance but I'm not, really. It's not that I want him to shower me with attention. But he was so attentive when we first started talking that I can't help to think that he lost interest. I genuinely want to spend time with him and build some connection with him and see where it goes. But he's not giving a chance to do that.
They are still around. If we dont like you, there is no real need to be around you. Our presence says a lot i guess.
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
Aaaand the truth comes out. You're playing games too and confusing him.
Why do I get involved in these dramas? So frustrating.
Why was I playing games? The guy wasn't replying to me, I didn't want to bother him or put pressure on him. I did have to control myself a bit 'cause I wanted to text him but I didn't... But I honestly don't think I was playing games.
The bolded part. It sounds like you were mad that he had not texted you enough or quickly enough so he came to say hi to you in person (which you referred to as him being petty, and I don't know why), and you were cold to him because you wanted to seem indifferent. Is that not what happened?
I am really confused right now... I wasn't mad because he didn't text me. I was mad because I thought he was playing games so I didn't want to show him that his games were working in other to stop them. I don't like games, really... I truly understand he might still have feelings for his ex and that's okay with me. But he doesn't have to play with me like this 'cause this is driving me crazy. I also came out of a complicated relationship not long ago and I don't want to go through the same thing again. I just want us both to be honest... I do admit that I am a bit cold about my feelings. I don't know how to show them. But I am trying my best to show him that I like spending time with him and all and he does this. If I'm going on dates with him, if I'm talking to him, it's because I'm interested, right? The day of our second date we had agreed that we would see each other the next day. He cancelled last minute saying he was tired. I understand that, there was a special event at the restaurant where he works. I've worked there a few years ago too and I know how tiring that event is. But he was barely speaking to me after that. The next day he texted 'hi' I replied and he didn't say anything else. Then he doesn't text me for days. I may sound high maintenance but I'm not, really. It's not that I want him to shower me with attention. But he was so attentive when we first started talking that I can't help to think that he lost interest. I genuinely want to spend time with him and build some connection with him and see where it goes. But he's not giving a chance to do that.
Dating is messy and trying to explain the subtleties of it is even messier. How long ago did he last text you?click to expand
An hour ago? I texted him first today. It went:
Me: Hi
Him: Hi
Me: How are you?
This is how we always start our conversations only that today he didn't ask how I was.
Him: Fine
Me: I'm fine too thank you (with a laughing emoji as it was meant as a joke)
Him: That's good
Me: You still haven't told me why you're scared of me.
(That's where our conversation ended last night)
And then he didn't reply while he was online on Facebook and posting stuff there. That hurt once again so I said: Okay, I get it. Bye.
I don't usually have this kind of reaction but I'm so hurt right now... Like, to be honest with you, I wasn't really interested in him the first couple of times we texted but even then I didn't ignore him the way he's ignoring me now. And then he replied to the other text saying he was joking when he said he was afraid of me. (We were talking about my car last night because it's making a few noises and I was joking about him being afraid of me driving it). I haven't replied to that text and I don't think I will. Honestly, he's just being mean now. I won't put up with that behaviour. I've been hurt way too many times to allow someone to do this to me. I never did anything wrong to him, I don't deserve this.
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They are still around. If we dont like you, there is no real need to be around you. Our presence says a lot i guess.
But the thing is he's not really around... I asked him if he wanted to meet last night and two days ago and he didn't even bother...
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Hes also a Gemini. You have to come across as interesting and have something undeniably interesting to text about.
Hes probably bored af and his thoughts go to his ex...who to him is an interesting thought.
I do consider myself an interesting person but how am I supposed to show him that if he doesn't give me the chance to? He doesn't text anymore, he doesn't want to hang out...
It sounds like he's just not that into it. It doesn't have to be anything you said or did wrong, just a lack of spark on his end.
Naah he is busy getting his life back on track .
Back on track from what?
From being lost to gaining control.
So, you think he's interested in her but doing this so he has the upper hand?
I'm just seeing a guy who is not that into her or at least hasn't gotten into her yet.
Naah I think he is busy and is not considering this girl at all at the moment.
Then, why did he ask my brother-in-law for my number? Why was he texting me all the time? Why was he asking me to hang out all the time? After our first date, why did he tell me that he really enjoyed spending time with and that I was an amazing person and that he wanted to be with me again asap?
Please refer back to my post in your other thread.
Honestly, he has you right where he wants.
His indifference and pull back has you putty in his hands. Now, he knows he just has to say Hi and you're ready to do anything just to get more attention from him. Every crumb he feeds you has you more desperate waiting for a bigger better crumb.
I did take into consideration what you told me last time. I didn't text him. We saw each other because my friend's father owns the restaurant where he works and the other day my friend suggested us going there. He found some petty excuse to come to our table and say hi. He texted me later asking if I was mad and I said no. I wanted to seem as indifferent to his games as possible.
Aaaand the truth comes out. You're playing games too and confusing him.
Why do I get involved in these dramas? So frustrating.
Why was I playing games? The guy wasn't replying to me, I didn't want to bother him or put pressure on him. I did have to control myself a bit 'cause I wanted to text him but I didn't... But I honestly don't think I was playing games.
The bolded part. It sounds like you were mad that he had not texted you enough or quickly enough so he came to say hi to you in person (which you referred to as him being petty, and I don't know why), and you were cold to him because you wanted to seem indifferent. Is that not what happened?
I am really confused right now... I wasn't mad because he didn't text me. I was mad because I thought he was playing games so I didn't want to show him that his games were working in other to stop them. I don't like games, really... I truly understand he might still have feelings for his ex and that's okay with me. But he doesn't have to play with me like this 'cause this is driving me crazy. I also came out of a complicated relationship not long ago and I don't want to go through the same thing again. I just want us both to be honest... I do admit that I am a bit cold about my feelings. I don't know how to show them. But I am trying my best to show him that I like spending time with him and all and he does this. If I'm going on dates with him, if I'm talking to him, it's because I'm interested, right? The day of our second date we had agreed that we would see each other the next day. He cancelled last minute saying he was tired. I understand that, there was a special event at the restaurant where he works. I've worked there a few years ago too and I know how tiring that event is. But he was barely speaking to me after that. The next day he texted 'hi' I replied and he didn't say anything else. Then he doesn't text me for days. I may sound high maintenance but I'm not, really. It's not that I want him to shower me with attention. But he was so attentive when we first started talking that I can't help to think that he lost interest. I genuinely want to spend time with him and build some connection with him and see where it goes. But he's not giving a chance to do that.
Dating is messy and trying to explain the subtleties of it is even messier. How long ago did he last text you?
An hour ago? I texted him first today. It went:
Me: Hi
Him: Hi
Me: How are you?
This is how we always start our conversations only that today he didn't ask how I was.
Him: Fine
Me: I'm fine too thank you (with a laughing emoji as it was meant as a joke)
Him: That's good
Me: You still haven't told me why you're scared of me.
(That's where our conversation ended last night)
And then he didn't reply while he was online on Facebook and posting stuff there. That hurt once again so I said: Okay, I get it. Bye.
I don't usually have this kind of reaction but I'm so hurt right now... Like, to be honest with you, I wasn't really interested in him the first couple of times we texted but even then I didn't ignore him the way he's ignoring me now. And then he replied to the other text saying he was joking when he said he was afraid of me. (We were talking about my car last night because it's making a few noises and I was joking about him being afraid of me driving it). I haven't replied to that text and I don't think I will. Honestly, he's just being mean now. I won't put up with that behaviour. I've been hurt way too many times to allow someone to do this to me. I never did anything wrong to him, I don't deserve this.click to expand
women are confusing.
Wow he literally texted you an hour ago and you are crying about him not giving you enough attention?
Literally, wtf.
Wild.
Good luck with landing this one. Your gonna need it if you carry on in this manner.
Literally, wtf.
Wild.
Good luck with landing this one. Your gonna need it if you carry on in this manner.
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Wow he literally texted you an hour ago and you are crying about him not giving you enough attention?
Literally, wtf.
Wild.
Good luck with landing this one. Your gonna need it if you carry on in this manner.
Read the whole thread before accusing me of anything, okay? Thank you.
Posted by queeneemyPosted by AbbyNormal
They are still around. If we dont like you, there is no real need to be around you. Our presence says a lot i guess.
But the thing is he's not really around... I asked him if he wanted to meet last night and two days ago and he didn't even bother...click to expand
I think you have your answer then. He is uninterested, or has far too much on his plate to consider it as well right now. Either way, time to do your own thing and maybe he will come around. Dont hold your breath. If he does, he does. If he doesnt, it isnt the end of the world.
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This is just my take - I’m not a gemini sun or taurus venus myself, but I have a lot of geminis in my life...
Generally it seems to me like geminis aren’t that fond of small talk (the only exception I can come up with is if they’re libra moons), it gets old fast. From my own experience: ‘How are you?’ is fine once or twice, but then they seem to get bored with it and want to talk about something else/new.
What I think you’re doing right is establishing some kind of routine between you two. They seem to like that.
But okay, so I think he was trying to joke/flirt with you about being scared of you (a scorp guy said something similar to me once, but that was in person, so I could see on his expression that he was kidding), and you took it seriously. Well, when you have to explain your own joke to someone, that takes all the fun out of it. I don’t think he could be bothered, and hoped that you would change the subject. Also, I think they have a bit of ego when it comes to stuff like this, like you not understanding or laughing at his joke. They tend to get kind of pouty (or sad?), like ‘Maybe she doesn’t think I’m funny 😢‘ Plus, it sounds like you were having a serious/depressive conversation about your car? Maybe he was trying to lighten the mood by joking with you...
Also, I think they’re usually not as ‘invested’ in the beginning. Haven’t you just gotten to know each other? Sure, if they find you interesting they’ll be excited at first, and they’ll put in some effort to get to know you. But they need to see some consistency from you, and for you to KEEP being interesting and nice to them, for them to want to make you a part of their life, I think. A gem friend said to me once: ‘Okay, it looks like you’re not going anywhere. I think it’s safe for me to get attached now!’
This is just my take - I’m not a gemini sun or taurus venus myself, but I have a lot of geminis in my life...
Generally it seems to me like geminis aren’t that fond of small talk (the only exception I can come up with is if they’re libra moons), it gets old fast. From my own experience: ‘How are you?’ is fine once or twice, but then they seem to get bored with it and want to talk about something else/new.
What I think you’re doing right is establishing some kind of routine between you two. They seem to like that.
But okay, so I think he was trying to joke/flirt with you about being scared of you (a scorp guy said something similar to me once, but that was in person, so I could see on his expression that he was kidding), and you took it seriously. Well, when you have to explain your own joke to someone, that takes all the fun out of it. I don’t think he could be bothered, and hoped that you would change the subject. Also, I think they have a bit of ego when it comes to stuff like this, like you not understanding or laughing at his joke. They tend to get kind of pouty (or sad?), like ‘Maybe she doesn’t think I’m funny Sad‘ Plus, it sounds like you were having a serious/depressive conversation about your car? Maybe he was trying to lighten the mood by joking with you...
Also, I think they’re usually not as ‘invested’ in the beginning. Haven’t you just gotten to know each other? Sure, if they find you interesting they’ll be excited at first, and they’ll put in some effort to get to know you. But they need to see some consistency from you, and for you to KEEP being interesting and nice to them, for them to want to make you a part of their life, I think. A gem friend said to me once: ‘Okay, it looks like you’re not going anywhere. I think it’s safe for me to get attached now!’
This is just my take - I’m not a gemini sun or taurus venus myself, but I have a lot of geminis in my life...
Generally it seems to me like geminis aren’t that fond of small talk (the only exception I can come up with is if they’re libra moons), it gets old fast. From my own experience: ‘How are you?’ is fine once or twice, but then they seem to get bored with it and want to talk about something else/new.
What I think you’re doing right is establishing some kind of routine between you two. They seem to like that.
But okay, so I think he was trying to joke/flirt with you about being scared of you (a scorp guy said something similar to me once, but that was in person, so I could see on his expression that he was kidding), and you took it seriously. Well, when you have to explain your own joke to someone, that takes all the fun out of it. I don’t think he could be bothered, and hoped that you would change the subject. Also, I think they have a bit of ego when it comes to stuff like this, like you not understanding or laughing at his joke. They tend to get kind of pouty (or sad?), like ‘Maybe she doesn’t think I’m funny Sad‘ Plus, it sounds like you were having a serious/depressive conversation about your car? Maybe he was trying to lighten the mood by joking with you...
Also, I think they’re usually not as ‘invested’ in the beginning. Haven’t you just gotten to know each other? Sure, if they find you interesting they’ll be excited at first, and they’ll put in some effort to get to know you. But they need to see some consistency from you, and for you to KEEP being interesting and nice to them, for them to want to make you a part of their life, I think. A gem friend said to me once: ‘Okay, it looks like you’re not going anywhere. I think it’s safe for me to get attached now!’
I really appreciate your answer. Just to correct a little thing. I did take it as a joke. I have done the same joke to him once too. The conversation about my car wasn't depressive at all. So, the other day they were all at my sister's restaurant. He was there and my mechanic was there too and my mechanic was talking about the state of my car and how dangerous it was for me to ride it. He listened to this and he's a mechanic himself so he knows it too. He's the one who told me I should get it repaired asap. He even said that if he had his tools with him he would do it himself. He sent his car to repair too so he doesn't have it now. And I told him if he wanted to go somewhere he could ask me. And that's when he asked if it would be in my car and I said yes and we started talking about it and that's when I asked if he was afraid of riding my car and he said yes and then I said i didn't see why and he said he was afraid of the car's owner. So, it was a pretty lighthearted exchange of jokes. That was me flirting too 😅
I do think he's funny. So far, every time we were together all I did was laugh at his jokes and his stories.
It hasn't been a long time since we met so I also thought that maybe I wasn't showing him enough interest that's why I texted him first a few times and asked him to hang out. If he's not texting nor hanging out with me how are we supposed to get to know each other? He was literally the sweetest guy I ever met until a week ago. That's why I'm so confused. Like he even mentioned meeting my friends and he sent a friend request to my mother on Facebook and had already spoken to her in person. He seemed so... idk... serious about us going somewhere that I just can't understand him.
I think I might see him tomorrow. He told my friend he would go to her restaurant on Tuesday and I have to give my car to the mechanic which next to the restaurant and I will be waiting there for my mom to pick me up. I'll try to see how he acts face to face... But I also don't wanna seem pushy or like I'm putting too much pressure on him...
Anyway, thank you for your answer.click to expand
Again. I told you to block him and leave him be. But you're still invested in a guy you only went on 2 dates with. Leave him alone. Stop texting, stop initiating any form of communication.
Zero communication.
1.) He talks about his ex while on the only 2 dates with you. Multiple times.
2.) Hes barely responds when you initiate.
3.) Hes told mutual friends that you're a stalker and 5 stage clinger.
And you STILL want to give him a chance? You still make excuses for his behavior.
Who cares if its the truth or not. This is the story he has painted about YOU.
Hes probably wondering why you take all this disrespect and keep coming back.
Zero communication.
1.) He talks about his ex while on the only 2 dates with you. Multiple times.
2.) Hes barely responds when you initiate.
3.) Hes told mutual friends that you're a stalker and 5 stage clinger.
And you STILL want to give him a chance? You still make excuses for his behavior.
Who cares if its the truth or not. This is the story he has painted about YOU.
Hes probably wondering why you take all this disrespect and keep coming back.
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