Question for Taurus

What inclines you to want to try things again with someone or allow them back into your life in the same way they previously were? How do you like to be approached? How do you like the pace? What are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

Posted by sadgeminiWhat are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

be patient.

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Posted by sadgeminiWhat are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

be patient.

He said 'again', if wronged a taurus, you are done forever, basically dead

dead until they have one tew many drinx and the emotions come out and then it's like a frustrated bull in heat

But they will not come back, like never, is super rare por a taurus to forgive, maybe with a lot of mutable in the chart

that's true

some of them will be way too stubborn to ever come back but if they never deal with their emotions their venusian nature will always secretly think about the ex

tauruses or just earth signs in general imo can really take a nasty, nasty beating when #emotions are involved because they rarely ever openly express theirs x

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So true for Virgo!

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Posted by sadgeminiWhat are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

be patient.

He said 'again', if wronged a taurus, you are done forever, basically dead

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hmm, not my experience. if they care, they return.

obvs it depends on the degree of being wronged but if you read his previous threads, nothing particularly bad has occurred.

I didn’t “wrong” a Taurus - I do think that things were rushed in the beginning and we both got ahead of ourselves. She backed off because she was unsure of me and the pace wasn’t right. I’m giving her space for now but could see myself loving to love this girl.

I'm Taurus and mostly fixed...still I've taken exes back after fairly major betrayal. I can definitely forgive and often need a lot of forgiveness myself....best way to initiate is in person...I remember an ex said she just wanted to catch up, talk etc....lured me over, made me a candlelight dinner and just basically hopped in my lap at some point later when we were hanging out...just the way she kissed me told me everything I needed to know - we really didn't need to discuss anything after that night; we just started over...if you have real love and strong chemistry with someone, its hard to erase or forget that, and I feel it can be resparked easily (for me at least)...I got back with her for some time after that (at least a year)....

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Posted by sadgeminiWhat are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

be patient.

He said 'again', if wronged a taurus, you are done forever, basically dead

dead until they have one tew many drinx and the emotions come out and then it's like a frustrated bull in heat

But they will not come back, like never, is super rare por a taurus to forgive, maybe with a lot of mutable in the chart

that's true

some of them will be way too stubborn to ever come back but if they never deal with their emotions their venusian nature will always secretly think about the ex

tauruses or just earth signs in general imo can really take a nasty, nasty beating when #emotions are involved because they rarely ever openly express theirs x

But i have to confess i am talking at the taurus men viewpoint, i never actually paid too much attention on taurus women lol, they seem different in many ways

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seems to be the same to me

OP just as someone said in your previous thread, and that was spot on. She already told you what to do, be her friend.

I get it you're a Gemini, you can do it. But if you keep pushing her for anything more than friends, you'll only push her away. Been there. Stop this, and relax enjoy the friendship just beware of being too available and don't let her push you around, that may put you in friendzone and you won't ever get out.

Posted by Metatron

I'm Taurus and mostly fixed...still I've taken exes back after fairly major betrayal. I can definitely forgive and often need a lot of forgiveness myself....best way to initiate is in person...I remember an ex said she just wanted to catch up, talk etc....lured me over, made me a candlelight dinner and just basically hopped in my lap at some point later when we were hanging out...just the way she kissed me told me everything I needed to know - we really didn't need to discuss anything after that night; we just started over...if you have real love and strong chemistry with someone, its hard to erase or forget that, and I feel it can be resparked easily (for me at least)...I got back with her for some time after that (at least a year)....

How long should I wait to initiate? She reached out to me last Thursday briefly, but since then, radio silence. I don’t know if I should be initiating conversation or just give it time then ask to meet up in person...

Posted by TxOgal

OP just as someone said in your previous thread, and that was spot on. She already told you what to do, be her friend.

I get it you're a Gemini, you can do it. But if you keep pushing her for anything more than friends, you'll only push her away. Been there. Stop this, and relax enjoy the friendship just beware of being too available and don't let her push you around, that may put you in friendzone and you won't ever get out.

This is another reason why I haven’t reached out. I don’t think it’s fair to discuss a potential relationship and future with someone then out of the blue change your mind with little explanation. I’ve been keeping quiet because I don’t want to reach out and talk to her to solidify the fact that it was okay to act that way towards me. If she didn’t feel it ever, then she shouldn’t have said those things. She did open up to me emotionally and ALL of a sudden, pulled back. I don’t want to reach out and somehow make it seem like that behavior is acceptable to me?

This Taurus is wise enough to understand how to forgive but not forget. If after a while, the person understands that they had a part to play in the demise of our previous friendship/relationship, then I will consider a new and different type relationship. If not, no. Stay gone. My best girl friend of decades who is a Libra insists that she had no part to play in us parting ways. At the time I got divorced I also parted ways with her. She and he played a small part of that decision; and as well a ton of other drama from her going on as well. It's been 6 years and I'm now talking to my ex husband but that's all it is just talk. I have absolutely noooo interest romantically. I would vomit if he touched me.

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Posted by Metatron

I'm Taurus and mostly fixed...still I've taken exes back after fairly major betrayal. I can definitely forgive and often need a lot of forgiveness myself....best way to initiate is in person...I remember an ex said she just wanted to catch up, talk etc....lured me over, made me a candlelight dinner and just basically hopped in my lap at some point later when we were hanging out...just the way she kissed me told me everything I needed to know - we really didn't need to discuss anything after that night; we just started over...if you have real love and strong chemistry with someone, its hard to erase or forget that, and I feel it can be resparked easily (for me at least)...I got back with her for some time after that (at least a year)....

How long should I wait to initiate? She reached out to me last Thursday briefly, but since then, radio silence. I don’t know if I should be initiating conversation or just give it time then ask to meet up in person...

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haven't been following along, don't know her, etc., so wouldn't be able to advise you on that....just wanted to emphasize the importance of actually meeting up; I do think we tend to be the "out of sight, out of mind" type.....and also dispel the whole "bulls never forgive" thing. I've had a lot of close Taurus friends throughout life, and I've found them to be extremely forgiving in some major areas (e.g., men and women who have forgiven and stayed with cheating spouses). All comes down to the strength of the connection....good luck...

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Posted by TxOgal

OP just as someone said in your previous thread, and that was spot on. She already told you what to do, be her friend.

I get it you're a Gemini, you can do it. But if you keep pushing her for anything more than friends, you'll only push her away. Been there. Stop this, and relax enjoy the friendship just beware of being too available and don't let her push you around, that may put you in friendzone and you won't ever get out.

This is another reason why I haven’t reached out. I don’t think it’s fair to discuss a potential relationship and future with someone then out of the blue change your mind with little explanation. I’ve been keeping quiet because I don’t want to reach out and talk to her to solidify the fact that it was okay to act that way towards me. If she didn’t feel it ever, then she shouldn’t have said those things. She did open up to me emotionally and ALL of a sudden, pulled back. I don’t want to reach out and somehow make it seem like that behavior is acceptable to me?

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she is allowed to change her mind. she is allowed to give no reason at all if she feels like it. you are not owed anything. she is not obliged to you. you are not entitled to her feelings.

you are allowed to be upset/annoyed/disappointed but you don't own her or her reaction to you.

clearly you are hurt by it but you don't get to determine what reaction is "acceptable" or "okay".

Would it be considered a good sign if she replies immediately to my texts? Keeps asking me about what I’m doing/how I am?

We’ve had brief convos that don’t lead anywhere serious. Just touch and go. Have yet to see her in person or create plans to do so...

Posted by sadgemini

Would it be considered a good sign if she replies immediately to my texts? Keeps asking me about what I’m doing/how I am?

We’ve had brief convos that don’t lead anywhere serious. Just touch and go. Have yet to see her in person or create plans to do so...

of course it's a good sign, what do you need a bat signal in the night sky ? take it slow, eventually you can get together and do something fun

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Posted by sadgemini

Would it be considered a good sign if she replies immediately to my texts? Keeps asking me about what I’m doing/how I am?

We’ve had brief convos that don’t lead anywhere serious. Just touch and go. Have yet to see her in person or create plans to do so...

of course it's a good sign, what do you need a bat signal in the night sky ? take it slow, eventually you can get together and do something fun

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I would LOVE for her to blantantly tell me along with a sign written in the sky and some fireworks LMAO. Would be nice but I know it doesn’t work that way. I just like the reassurance from you guys. (So thank you!)

Damn, these Taurus breakups (and sometimes get togethers). They hit you hard. It's sort of like, therapy to read this. Nevermind I'll find someone like him. And yes, do keep talking to her but at her own pace to where she feels comfortable again. They don't set off fireworks in the beginning. Its always at the end..

Posted by sadgemini

What inclines you to want to try things again with someone or allow them back into your life in the same way they previously were? How do you like to be approached? How do you like the pace? What are some things one can do to better their chances with you again?

I will only allow them back in....unless....I was the party who screwed it up. Most Bulls only look forward, rarely looking back once they're crossed. If there is marriage and children involved, that may be another story.

For me, if it was a special person who got away, that I allowed to slip through my fingers, then I will pursue this individual like a bulldog....with determination, charm, nurturing energy, affection and attention.

I like to be approached as if I'm being courted. I prefer the pace to be a gradual getting to know process. Once I feel safe, I let my guards down. I can be a bit shy in the beginning, but will warm up afterwards.

If someone needed a second chance, then they would have to move mountains....literally. I'm a fixed, stubborn sign, I'm not easily swayed. Persistence, transparency and genuine accountability may leave you with a 50/50 chance.

Be patient. It is important for a Taurus to know what to put energy into and what not--the little things. Life is short so I try not to hold grudges or burn bridges. If I have loved someone truly, I always love them. Maybe not romantic love, but who's to say it couldnt be again?! I think if you are truly sorry for whatever it was and your intentions are good, it wouldnt hurt to try right? Worst you can get it a no.

Gifts, apologies and patience. It may never work again, but if Taurus sees you trying it could, depending on the circumstances and whether they have mutability in their chart.