Should I go for it ? Or should I just give up?

I'm a Scorpio and the man I'd like to get to know better is a Taurus. He is a new employee at my office as well as a friend of my best pal. To summarise his personality, he is an extrovert who effortlessly fits in with new people and is enjoyable to be around.

As a newcomer, he had to sit with each of our coworkers to learn about our daily tasks and other stuffs. However, he never approached me and instead sat with my friend who sat opposite me few times.

I'm not sure when it started, but the two of us constantly exchange glances to the point where I had to look away first. I assumed it was just me jumping to conclusions, but ever since then, I've noticed him gazing at me when I was talking with my other coworkers and I've started to feel weird around him as if I didn't know how to react. There were a few occasions when he attempted to strike up a conversation with me but it was always awkward whenever our eyes met thereafter. When I tried to smile, he would sometimes return the favour but other times it would not, he just ignored it. I assumed he didn't enjoy my presence (because I’m an introvert which I think our personality totally opposite ) as he often stopped by my other coworkers' table for a chat but never did for me. I wish he would talk to me too ☹️

One day, he asked my friend to invite me to join them for dinner together. Over dinner, I was only a listener when he and my friend talked. I felt a little left out but he was always asking me questions and laughing at my awful jokes and he would occasionally make eye contact. It went well, and I thought that after the meeting he would treat me the same way he treated my coworkers. However, he did not. He appeared to be trying to avoid me.



Oh, and he did skype me once after the meeting. He expressed his dissatisfaction with not receiving the same benefits as other employees. I was overjoyed that he had finally reached me, but when we ran into each other, we both seemed to be at a loss for words and sometimes, we smiled awkwardly lol.

Just yesterday, we went out to dinner again. I was surprised to learn that he admitted to being shy around me since our first meeting.

To be honest, I'm attracted to him and want to get to know him more. If he had even the tiniest interest in me, I would have jumped at the chance.

What do you think?

Thank you for reading. Sorry if you notice any grammatical errors as English isn’t my native language.

I think you should bump his shoulder with your shoulder and say "so whats up? Lol



Then say " why you dodgin'?" 🤣



that would surely kick it off I think.

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I know you said you were an introvert. I am too.

But know that sometimes you must use your

masculine yang energy aswell to help manifest

what you desire into your life.

Not "man" energy, but masculine as in the sun,

As in your foward motion. Its The white part

on the yin and yang symbol.



How ever you decide to reach out though , I think that it would be nice and that could take you where you

want to be with him.



Now on the other hand, you can wait and see

and do nothing. That isn't wrong either.

I'd say it's important to see if he can initiate

first because initiating and being firm as a man

is very important. Because if you initiate, later

down the line let's say in you twos love relationship,

he might not be able to pass your subconscious natural test to see if he is able to care for you and your child but also when or if things hit the fan,

him as a man might not be able to handle said

situations and will crumble both of you.

So I'd watch out for that if you initiate first.

It's just a suggestion.

If he doesn't, it's not a deal breaker but

it's something you might want to get his

attention on later down the line. It's important.

You two sound lovely though and I hope

It works out for the both of you.

Also, no don't give up.



Be comfortable with knowing that you are

already his type even if he doesn't know it yet.

That's how you align with attracting him.



Don't be in...... scarcity. He already yours.



He already sees your beauty lol

He says he shy around you lol.

I personally don’t see any signs which explicitly indicate that he’s interested in you! Exchanging glances and trying to strike up a conversation really don’t mean much! But that’s not to say that you should let it go! If you are the type that doesn’t have problem making the first move , just do it! However, if you don’t like making the first move, probably just hang out with him a few times along with other common friends of yours till you both get comfortable in each other’s physical presence and space(this will be easier with ppl around if you both are really awkward/shy like you mentioned)! Try to be casual and playful. Once you get to that point where you both are comfortable around eachother and he still doesn’t make a move, you know he’s never going to initiate and/or isn’t interested ! In which case you will have to express interest and understand if he at all wants to give it a go(if you still want it at that point ofcourse)

Posted by xxAjuxx I'd say it's important to see if he can initiate first because initiating and being firm as a man is very important. Because if you initiate, later down the line let's say in you twos love relationship, he might not be able to pass your subconscious natural test to see if he is able to care for you and your child but also when or if things hit the fan, him as a man might not be able to handle said situations and will crumble both of you. So I'd watch out for that if you initiate first.

I kinda have a similar view about men not initiating it! I don’t think I’d go with a man who cannot initiate it. One reason being I’m not generally the type to initiate things!

Now not being interested is a different thing of course but not being able to actively show interest or initiate when you actually like the person is sure a turn off for me(i know how this can be read as double standards but I just like men taking the lead with this)and I would start thinking about future just like the kinda things you mentioned!

Posted by Teena

Posted by xxAjuxx I'd say it's important to see if he can initiate first because initiating and being firm as a man is very important. Because if you initiate, later down the line let's say in you twos love relationship, he might not be able to pass your subconscious natural test to see if he is able to care for you and your child but also when or if things hit the fan, him as a man might not be able to handle said situations and will crumble both of you. So I'd watch out for that if you initiate first.

I kinda have a similar view about men not initiating it! I don’t think I’d go with a man who cannot initiate it. One reason being I’m not generally the type to initiate things!
Now not being interested is a different thing of course but not being able to actively show interest or initiate when you actually like the person is sure a turn off for me(i know how this can be read as double standards but I just like men taking the lead with this)and I would start thinking about future just like the kinda things you mentioned!

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That is highly fair.



But a lot of men are not aware.



Many men (and women) do not have the other

Parent, namely a male and so that yang energy

is not taught. Also the brain development in the

child, girl or boy, may take more to develop.

That is highly based on me and my experience

of and of little research I have done as a man though so maybe not quote me there.



I'd say if they send you a letter or go about it in

a more shy way then at least it's something.

I agree with you though...

they must try..

It's like a baby learning to walk...



Every species on earth must learn

to one day go into the unknown and

have faith that they won't plunder.

Posted by xxAjuxx

Posted by Teena

Posted by xxAjuxx I'd say it's important to see if he can initiate first because initiating and being firm as a man is very important. Because if you initiate, later down the line let's say in you twos love relationship, he might not be able to pass your subconscious natural test to see if he is able to care for you and your child but also when or if things hit the fan, him as a man might not be able to handle said situations and will crumble both of you. So I'd watch out for that if you initiate first.

I kinda have a similar view about men not initiating it! I don’t think I’d go with a man who cannot initiate it. One reason being I’m not generally the type to initiate things!

Now not being interested is a different thing of course but not being able to actively show interest or initiate when you actually like the person is sure a turn off for me(i know how this can be read as double standards but I just like men taking the lead with this)and I would start thinking about future just like the kinda things you mentioned!

That is highly fair.


But a lot of men are not aware.


Many men (and women) do not have the other
Parent, namely a male and so that yang energy
is not taught. Also the brain development in the
child, girl or boy, may take more to develop.

That is highly based on me and my experience
of and of little research I have done as a man though so maybe not quote me there.


I'd say if they send you a letter or go about it in
a more shy way then at least it's something.

I agree with you though...

they must try..

It's like a baby learning to walk...


Every species on earth must learn
to one day go into the unknown and

have faith that they won't plunder.

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Ah that’s interesting to know! I don’t think I ever gave a thought about the “why”part of it ! What you said makes sense. But sure, I’ll not quote you 😁

Oh shy/cute ways still work!!! I’m all for it! Oh and I love letters! That’d be super cute 🥰

If he’s interested, he would eventually make a move. They become longtime pests when they set their mind on someone! Have patience. Why rush into initiating a personal relationship? Get to know him as a colleague first.

Posted by privnrzt
I'm a Scorpio and the man I'd like to get to know better is a Taurus. He is a new employee at my office as well as a friend of my best pal. To summarise his personality, he is an extrovert who effortlessly fits in with new people and is enjoyable to be around.

As a newcomer, he had to sit with each of our coworkers to learn about our daily tasks and other stuffs. However, he never approached me and instead sat with my friend who sat opposite me few times.

I'm not sure when it started, but the two of us constantly exchange glances to the point where I had to look away first. I assumed it was just me jumping to conclusions, but ever since then, I've noticed him gazing at me when I was talking with my other coworkers and I've started to feel weird around him as if I didn't know how to react. There were a few occasions when he attempted to strike up a conversation with me but it was always awkward whenever our eyes met thereafter. When I tried to smile, he would sometimes return the favour but other times it would not, he just ignored it. I assumed he didn't enjoy my presence (because I’m an introvert which I think our personality totally opposite ) as he often stopped by my other coworkers' table for a chat but never did for me. I wish he would talk to me too ☹️

One day, he asked my friend to invite me to join them for dinner together. Over dinner, I was only a listener when he and my friend talked. I felt a little left out but he was always asking me questions and laughing at my awful jokes and he would occasionally make eye contact. It went well, and I thought that after the meeting he would treat me the same way he treated my coworkers. However, he did not. He appeared to be trying to avoid me.



Oh, and he did skype me once after the meeting. He expressed his dissatisfaction with not receiving the same benefits as other employees. I was overjoyed that he had finally reached me, but when we ran into each other, we both seemed to be at a loss for words and sometimes, we smiled awkwardly lol.

Just yesterday, we went out to dinner again. I was surprised to learn that he admitted to being shy around me since our first meeting.

To be honest, I'm attracted to him and want to get to know him more. If he had even the tiniest interest in me, I would have jumped at the chance.

What do you think?

Thank you for reading. Sorry if you notice any grammatical errors as English isn’t my native language.

Do nothing

In my experience when Taurus men are interested, they ask you out and wine and dine you. They are not shy about showing their feelings. Very manly and protective.

Op get out of this place! And go with the flow.

Nobody knows shit

To early to tell not every Taurus is the same n if he said he was shy around you well he said it.