Taurus/ Cancer Motive here?

I think she feels that you should continue the plan to live separately to give you both a break on the tension and her feeling uncomfortable with how we have been living. And that that is in no way to see other people and that she isn’t going anywhere out your life.

She's a LIAR and has lied 3 times, to YOUR knowledge. Liars aren't mature enough to be in a wholesome relationship. If one of the issues was the clutter in the house/not feeling comfy because of it, what ADULT would lie about that? What will happen once bigger issues arise?

So, yes, you should be skeptical. If you so happen to find yourself back w her, you'll never feel secure. Never.

It sounds like you both need to seriously rewind your relationship.

If you're naturally messy then you'll need to make effort in cleaning up and being more organised. You can't do much about your kid living with you so she's just going to have to accept that if you continue to move forward. Whereas she has lied so she will need to work on this behaviour as it is rather damaging to a relationship.

If you want to work it out then you will but if you feel there is too much against it and you'd be better off with your separate living arrangements then it might phase itself out although she has said she doesn't want this to happen.

I think a bit of rewinding might be helpful.

Hey there,

I had to go to therapy for this kind of stuff. I’m a typical Taurus- stubborn, closed off, slow to anger but stuck there. Not anymore, or at least not at all to the same degree.

I will say this... it took me ten years to break off a relationship because I did not want to hurt my ex. Ten years! She is likely waiting on you to make the call to end it... it’s a cowardly way to deal, but she’s already shown her propensity for being a coward by refusing to be vulnerable and lying to you. You don’t do those things to people you are invested in.

Do what makes you happiest- if you are here asking, you probably know the answer already. Heal up, and move on my friend.

Killjoy