Taurus woman confused by Cancer man

I met a Cancer guy almost 2 months ago online. He's 28 and I'm 36. From the moment I saw his picture online it's like I imprinted and had an intense attraction to him. We've met up twice and hooked up both times and it was great. After the first initial meeting after about two weeks he stopped returning my texts which I found weird. I waited about a week and then contacted him asking him what was up. He replied saying that we're cool he's just going thru a lot at work and is very stressed and he tends to shutdown and just keep to himself. I told him I understood and that if he wanted to talk about anything bothering him then I'm always willing to lend an ear. After that we hooked up once more and it was even better than the first time, as we're getting to know each other better. After our last night together when he dropped me off the next morning, I sent him a text a few minutes later saying 'Thanks for such a great time'. No response. A couple days later I get a normal 'Hey. Good morning' text. A few days later I sent him some info via text that I told him I would look into for him. His response...'LOL. Thank you.' uhm what does that mean sir?

Following that later on that weekend we were texting one morning and I jokingly suggested he take me out for breakfast because I was starving. He didn't respond so ten minutes later I said 'I take that as a no. Wow.' He responded right away and said 'Sweetie, no, I can't take you to breakfast today.' I reply 'okay cool'.

That was almost 3 weeks ago. I texted him twice since then to check in and nothing. No response. I wanted to try and reach out again over the holidays but I haven't as I decided maybe I need to give him space until Mercury retrograde is done. I really like him, yea I understand it hasn't been that long and i just don't like him because of the physical attraction and sex. I actually just like being around him, talking, laughing and getting to know him. Should I chalk it up as a loss and move on? I feel like he's still interested but just not ready. I think about him all the time.

Any feedback? Oh some more background, I found out that he was previously engaged about 6 months ago, he hasn't mentioned that past relationship though. But he is single now. I'm thinking that when we met he was looking for just something physical and now that we've hung out he may have changed his mind, is still feeling me out or doesn't want to get into anything serious right now.

What I really want to know is what the deal?

How did you find out that he was engaged? and that's a very short time to break up an engagement with another woman. And what for? And yeah six months then two months yall meet. Could be yeah sex, could be trying to save engagement with other woman too.

I don't meet Cancer males, but looks like people bounce when stressed, then come back to the ones they care about more. Some people dont want to burden people either about their stress.

Some people may play games, and some people just need to communicate in 2 months what they want or looking for as well? Looking for interests and red flags.

You should chalk it up as a loss and move on, you havent hung out that much and there's been no plans or contact really in three weeks. In totality not that much in two months time. This is not going anywhere.

I found out he was previously engaged because I looked at his and His Mom's Facebook page. She had a pic of him and the fiancée up with the girl showing her ring. She also tagged the girl (fiancée) in the picture, so naturally since I was already down the rabbit hole I looked at her page as well and there's pics of the fiancée with another guy and a baby.

No I don! What happened with yours?

Posted by MissCEO
Do you live in Canada? Sounds A LOT like the cancer male I was dealing with.. who i met online.. who's 28 lol. @taurusrose

You could be right. It's just so weird to me. Maybe I'm just not good at being rejected. We haven't spoken but he's still following me on Snapchat and looking at ny vids I noticed that the other day.

Posted by rabidtalker
You should chalk it up as a loss and move on, you havent hung out that much and there's been no plans or contact really in three weeks. In totality not that much in two months time. This is not going anywhere.

What do you mean?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I don't meet Cancer males, but looks like people bounce when stressed, then come back to the ones they care about more. Some people dont want to burden people either about their stress.

Some people may play games, and some people just need to communicate in 2 months what they want or looking for as well? Looking for interests and red flags.

Mercury retrograde only works sometimes more than others.

My advice would be to text him that you only want his company and his dick inside you. Be honest with the guy. Cancers like that raw emotion. I'm not trying to be crude. Breakfast and all that stuff is kinda like a date, something he's not interested in.

Keep it simple

This is kind of sad imho. Sorry, it seems things started out well, then fizzled out. What I think is interesting is that I've always been under the impression that cancers like security and Taurus' could provide that. The recent fiancee news, if that info applies to your situation, suggests that he was in something, then out, then found something with you. He might not know what he wants, or might have been looking for attention or validation since his last relationship. I think its hard to in some way lack the closeness needed to increase understanding in these situations, when you meet online. Not that meeting that way is wrong, but once upon a time I met a lady online and we had a great relationship, and it too started off physically intimate. But as we dated and grew closer it was clear that despite meeting online, and getting intimate soon thereafter, we lacked a certain closeness / familiarit, that helps another person understand their partner. Anyway, id say move on, and see if he comes back around more once you start dating someone else.

Stop making excuses for him, like oh he was engaged and needs time to get over that. He's interested in me but not ready yet. That's bull.

You pursued him and he's been down to hit it... but that's all. Your doing all the communication, hinting that you want breakfast dates = you want more. So he went ghost on your ass. Not that hard to understand...

As of right now, you are something on the side. That doesn't mean his focus is on someone else, but it definitely means that it isn't all on you.

I've said it once. I've said it twice: Cancerian or not, when a guy is into you, he is IN TO YOU. No games, no beating around the bush, no making you second guess things. They don't make excuses to not be with you. They make excuses to get away from other obligations to be in your company.

This 6 month engagement thing you found out about is huge red flag, especially considering you didn't hear it from him. I would honestly bail and not look back.

Gross? No ma'am I'm not. Didn't expect to be wifed up or a ring. I expected to be cool and friends.

And you're right he's just not into me. That's clear now. Thanks for your feedback.

You are right and I've said it as well and know it to be true. When a man is interested there's nothing you can do to keep him away. He got engaged in June but I don't know when it ended. In prior conversations he sounded almost desperate to have some physical connection with someone. But as you said. Leave it alone.

Posted by Crabra
As of right now, you are something on the side. That doesn't mean his focus is on someone else, but it definitely means that it isn't all on you.

I've said it once. I've said it twice: Cancerian or not, when a guy is into you, he is IN TO YOU. No games, no beating around the bush, no making you second guess things. They don't make excuses to not be with you. They make excuses to get away from other obligations to be in your company.

This 6 month engagement thing you found out about is huge red flag, especially considering you didn't hear it from him. I would honestly bail and not look back.

You're right. Time to let it be and let it go.

Posted by rabidtalker
You should chalk it up as a loss and move on, you havent hung out that much and there's been no plans or contact really in three weeks. In totality not that much in two months time. This is not going anywhere.

Ok.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Mercury retrograde only works sometimes more than others.

Okay point taken.

Posted by DonJohn
i feel like i'm repeating myself but the attraction is only on your end.

you will NEVER keep a cancer man if you sleep with him on the first date. so there's no way we locking down possible sloots.

any form of contact after easy sex is just to have sex again. he doesn't have time for you = he's not interested in anything other than using ur snatch.

Posted by TaurusRose
You are right and I've said it as well and know it to be true. When a man is interested there's nothing you can do to keep him away. He got engaged in June but I don't know when it ended. In prior conversations he sounded almost desperate to have some physical connection with someone. But as you said. Leave it alone.

Posted by Crabra
As of right now, you are something on the side. That doesn't mean his focus is on someone else, but it definitely means that it isn't all on you.

I've said it once. I've said it twice: Cancerian or not, when a guy is into you, he is IN TO YOU. No games, no beating around the bush, no making you second guess things. They don't make excuses to not be with you. They make excuses to get away from other obligations to be in your company.

This 6 month engagement thing you found out about is huge red flag, especially considering you didn't hear it from him. I would honestly bail and not look back.

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Yup, more red flags. I thought desperation was a huge turn off for you ladies? Anywho, definitely sounds like the "get over someone by getting under someone else" kind of self medicating. You don't need that sh*t. Get with someone a little more appreciative of your time.

I am a Taurus and also confused by a Cancer guy. I have been getting to know a Cancer Man for the last 4-5 months. We are really close friends and have both expressed strong feelings towards one another. We are both from the same town however he is in the army and is based at the other side of the country, we mainly communicate through messages, snapchat, and phone.

I am now stuck in a situation where I have fallen for him and can see us having a future together, however, with both of our lives quite busy and his deployment coming up, I am unsure on what to do. He keeps saying, he needs to concentrate on work. A part of me feels I should stay put, carry on like we are and hope when he's back, he may want to make a go of it. On the other hand, I feel like I should move on and save myself from getting hurt, as I think he may just move on.

That's a doozy Kay071. Not sure what would be the right thing to do in that situation, I understand you're both busy but I don't think I would ever be too busy for someone I'm crazy about and I would want them to reciprocate the same which is why everyone's advice here was spot on. The cancer I fell just isn't that interested in me.

In your case its difficult as your crab has a deployment coming up. Is it possible for you to spend some time prior to his deployment? I know you guys are on opposite sides of the country and communicate via text and social media if possible spend some QT time together before his deployment and then you can make a decision as to what to do next.

Posted by kay071
I am a Taurus and also confused by a Cancer guy. I have been getting to know a Cancer Man for the last 4-5 months. We are really close friends and have both expressed strong feelings towards one another. We are both from the same town however he is in the army and is based at the other side of the country, we mainly communicate through messages, snapchat, and phone.

I am now stuck in a situation where I have fallen for him and can see us having a future together, however, with both of our lives quite busy and his deployment coming up, I am unsure on what to do. He keeps saying, he needs to concentrate on work. A part of me feels I should stay put, carry on like we are and hope when he's back, he may want to make a go of it. On the other hand, I feel like I should move on and save myself from getting hurt, as I think he may just move on.