Gemini Male/Cap Female - communication issues

Hey all,

I'm stuck in a situation with my cappy gf and really not sure of how to proceed. Lately, this situation has become more and more of an issue and it's starting to get to a point where I feel like I need to step in and say something or it'll cause a huge blow-up down the road.

Anyway, the situation is one of finances. To give some perspective, I've been working and studying full time for the past few years and I've admitted as much that during my younger years I wasn't good with my money. I've tried hard to change those bad habits, especially after I become involved with my GF. For the past 7-8 months I haven't had a car, that being I had one (it's an older car) but it's been sitting idle and I'm waiting to sell it for parts. During this period my GF has become increasingly irritated at the fact that I haven't bought another one. Whilst I agree that it's practical to have a car I've been saving a lot of money to use towards a house deposit, something I'm very close to having and using to buy soon.

My GF always makes snide remarks here and there about purchases I make, especially saying I shouldn't have spent it on this or that. I recently bought a TV as I had a TV for the past 2 years with a scratch in the middle, the TV was under $ 500. I didn't see this as a big purchase, she did. I've tried telling her that I want to get a proper car, not a bomb. She just thinks I'm making excuses. She is a privileged as her dad bought her a high-range sports car and is going to swap that for another new car soon, all while she doesn't have to save or pay for it herself so I strongly feel like she doesn't have my perspective because she doesn't have the same worries I do.

Whenever I try to bring the topic up she runs from it and says I'm just making excuses. How do I put my point across to a stubborn cappy. I don't know whether to take a strong stance or try and be accomodating. My natural behaviour is to take a strong chance but I love this woman and am honestly scared that she'll take it the wrong way and go nuts.

Any thoughts on how to discuss this with her?

I assume you want to confront/ discuss/assert your ability to make independent financial decisions without her input. Just talk to her gently. Caps are reasonable.

You should consider her though. 7-8 months is a long time without a ride. You neglected to mention if you are relying on her for transportation. If you are, I can understand her frustration. You have to be for some degree unless you are borrowing someone’s vehicle to date or see her.



if it was me personally I wouldn’t consider dating a dude for an extended period of time (more than 4 months) without a car and only if this was by way of some misfortune after I already started dating him. This is mostly because the city where I live is very car dependent. Public transportation sucks.

Bottom line is unless you live in a metro city with easily accessible public transportation, you need to get a car. It does not have to be fancy, just reliable and decent

Posted by Scheherazade

Posted by CreativeCap

I assume you want to confront/ discuss/assert your ability to make independent financial decisions without her input. Just talk to her gently. Caps are reasonable.

You should consider her though. 7-8 months is a long time without a ride. You neglected to mention if you are relying on her for transportation. If you are, I can understand her frustration. You have to be for some degree unless you are borrowing someone’s vehicle to date or see her.



if it was me personally I wouldn’t consider dating a dude for an extended period of time (more than 4 months) without a car and only if this was by way of some misfortune after I already started dating him. This is mostly because the city where I live is very car dependent. Public transportation sucks.

Bottom line is unless you live in a metro city with easily accessible public transportation, you need to get a car. It does not have to be fancy, just reliable and decent

You should read the other thread

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I’ll post in the other thread

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Posted by Wild_Flo

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Posted by Wild_Flo

Gem and cap seems like a bad juju combo.

It actually can work really well.

This thread and gemitati’s life story says otherwise.

I know a lot IRL that work well

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My first real bf was a gem and eventhough we were really young, I still

Consider him to be one of the best bfs I had. It was a really peaceful and loving courtship. Gems and caps have differing personalities, but actually share a lot of the same interests. It definitely can work and long term too. My gem aunt has been with her cap man for almost 20 years.