Aries girl, scorpio man

Hello everyone,

First, thanks for taking the time to read this. I just wanted a honest opinion from anonymous Scorpios smile I do know that it takes more than just a sun sign to trace a part of a person's profile. My sun sign is a fire one, but my rising is in Scorpio.

So... I have been friends with this person for more than one year now and we started talking and hanging out alone.

Things started to evolve romantically about 3/4 months ago. We are both attracted to each other, he already verbalized it, but the thing between us is more of a friend with benefits thing/grey area “situationship”. In between, I started to develop feelings for him  and whenever I try to ask him if he feels the same, without being too direct or pushy, I feel frightened.

We see each other every 2 weeks, sometimes once a week and most of those "dates" are just to hang out, talk, and do activities together. We text often, for many days in a row, but not daily. He is able to grab my hand in public and demonstrate affection with hugs & kisses but does not want to label anything. I do not know any of his friends and so far have not attempted to introduce him to mine, although I would not mind to do it.

I already approached him, when I had the chance, with a talk about this situation. He says he likes things as they are and says that from his experience a commitment into a relationship is the same as conditioning his freedom. I get that, as I also believe that a couple should have time to spend by themselves. However, the grey area is killing me... I do not know how to react or what to do, I do not want to be pushy and I respect him and his freedom.

We are nothing; I may be investing my time and emotions into someone that simply demonstrates he does not like me enough to take things further and could potentially be seeing other girls at the same time.

I like him and I want to break it off now. I am terrified of going on with this because I do not want to get hurt...

Thanks.

Posted by chocolatepancake



I already approached him, when I had the chance, with a talk about this situation. He says he likes things as they are and says that from his experience a commitment into a relationship is the same as conditioning his freedom.

A man that has intentions of being your boyfriend would never tell you he likes things the way they are with no commitment. That leaves you open and available to other men. Scorpio's are jealous and possessive and would not leave you open to other men's advances if they want you. You are right to move on from him so you don't get hurt.

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by chocolatepancake

I already approached him, when I had the chance, with a talk about this situation. He says he likes things as they are and says that from his experience a commitment into a relationship is the same as conditioning his freedom.

A man that has intentions of being your boyfriend would never tell you he likes things the way they are with no commitment. That leaves you open and available to other men. Scorpio's are jealous and possessive and would not leave you open to other men's advances if they want you. You are right to move on from him so you don't get hurt.

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Completely agree with this. A man that has intentions of being your boyfriend would never tell you he likes things the way they are with no commitment. And that's not including his zodiac sign...

Thanks everyone.

Hey, Scorpio man with gemini moon here. (Sagittarius Mercury, Scorpio Venus, ...)

Just wanted to share my own experience, my current girlfriend is Leo with Aquarius moon. However before we got to this stage, we dated for a few months, seeing eachother once a week on average. Were really intimate meetings and we behaved like a couple for sure, also in public. Still, I also didn't want to give up my freedom yet, something held me back.

Maybe it's just a (Scorpio) guys (or gemini moon) thing; the not being sure yet and overthinking. Maybe it's a curse of our modern digitalised generation, always thinking the grass is greener elsewhere.

Anyways, my advice would be to not let yourself become crazy waiting around so you don't risk getting hurt badly. On the other hand, my girlfriend also reported afterwards to have really struggled in this grey zone as it took me a while to really open up to the idea of a relationship with her.. but now I'm really happy!

Either way I felt somewhere deep down that she was a good girl for a relationship, for doing things together, for sharing life. Those deep down feels don't lie (even if they need a bit more time as was the case with me). So maybe just go ahead, be bold, and throw some ultimatum on him. If he's not at least thinking it over or expressing his doubt, probably better dropping him cold?

Good luck! x