Annoying coworker

So I started working at a new job and everything is nice except this girl who is 7 years younger than me and very hostile towards me. She takes every chance she can to prove me wrong and be verbally aggressive towards me. My Libra Ascendant makes me avoid conflict and my Aries Sun wants to tell her that I haven’t meet someone more stupid and set in her stupid ways. I’ve changed so many jobs and coworkers that I don’t care enough to fight with her but also I want to subtly let her know that she shouldn’t mess with me. Have you any advice and more importantly can you explain her behaviour to me?

Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

Posted by ATGR
Definitely find a way to get her to make a mistake and make it very public what she did 🤣


Any chance of you avoiding her altogether?

Unfortunately no because we share an office. The 8 of us.

Why can’t you let her know that she is not talking to you in a professional way?

Also is she proving you wrong? Is she finding faults in your work?

Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?


Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.

Posted by Bumboklaat
She's jealous, threatened of your capabilities.


I find peoples weakness and make subtle jokes about them so they feel naked and threatened, then I laugh or smile, works most of the time.


She likely mistakes your kindness/diplomacy as weakness. Those people are the most weak cause they put all their fake anger and aggression at the front of their personality and when its time to actually take action or courage they have lost most of their energy.

Yes I think that she is insecure. And ok I get it, I know what’s it like to be young and new in this profession, to think you know everything and show off your traits but honestly I don’t give a damn because I solve my bad thoughts and ego trips inside of myself. I am auto-aggressive and I try to be polite, until I get fed up and then my Aries Sun bursts into flames 🔥. Honestly I just want to keep this job because the paycheque is nice and the office is in a walking distance from my place. I just want her to fuck off

I would just not give her a chance to wrong me. If she did make up something then I'll just pretend I didn't even hear that. Just ignore her negative comments. I would not chat with such person, will limit any interaction to work and only if it's necessary. You don't gain anything from these people but headaches... good luck

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

I wonder if she’s been overlooked for a promotion or raise or something and is taking it out on the newbie?


Good point from @bumboklaat, maybe she’s worried someone will do the job better / doesn’t want someone to diminish her usefulness or importance.

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As far as I know, she’s fresh out of University and has a lot to learn which is normal. I was hired as someone with a nice CV and experience

Posted by slug
Next time she's giving you shit, immediately offer her mint after she's stopped talking.

Yeah, this is something I would love to achieve. Just to brush it off with something funny.

Posted by saggurl88
Why can’t you let her know that she is not talking to you in a professional way?

Also is she proving you wrong? Is she finding faults in your work?

Because of my stupid Libra Ascendant. Sometimes my Aries Sun shows and I shut her up. We each have our own tasks and projects so we don’t communicate work wise

Posted by TxOgal
I would just not give her a chance to wrong me. If she did make up something then I'll just pretend I didn't even hear that. Just ignore her negative comments. I would not chat with such person, will limit any interaction to work and only if it's necessary. You don't gain anything from these people but headaches... good luck

This is what I am trying to because honestly I just want to work and earn my salary. I have no interest in defending myself against someone who doesn’t interest me.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.

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She has something negative to say about the thing you shared? Or just being negative in general.

I'm not being rude because when I say this I'm saying this in a very sincere way. You need to find you a job working alone. I hate to bring this up but introverts and extroverts don't work well as a team. And you sound introverted as to where you like working alone without being bothered. You need your space and dont need no one invading it even in the workplace. I don't know how many jobs I had where I don't get in a conflict with someone. It's best to employ yourself.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.
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She has something negative to say about the thing you shared? Or just being negative in general.

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About everything I say. For example I gave another coworker vitamins because he was coughing ( now I got it from him ) and she started babbling how medicines are bad. I told another female coworker that I sent her a fr on IG and she asked me who are you, meaning my nickname but in my language it could have sounded as “who do you think you are” and she burst into laughter. She has no respect for me even though I am older and more experienced. In a nutshell she acts like a hostile asshole towards me. Anyway I am mostly interested in figuring out why she is the way she is, that’s why I stated her Sun/Ascendant combination

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I'm not being rude because when I say this I'm saying this in a very sincere way. You need to find you a job working alone. I hate to bring this up but introverts and extroverts don't work well as a team. And you sound introverted as to where you like working alone without being bothered. You need your space and dont need no one invading it even in the workplace. I don't know how many jobs I had where I don't get in a conflict with someone. It's best to employ yourself.

Agreed but I am not in a position to do so. I would very much like for you to understand me as a fellow Libra Rising. I simply cannot seem to offend her even though she deserves it.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.
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She has something negative to say about the thing you shared? Or just being negative in general.

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About everything I say. For example I gave another coworker vitamins because he was coughing ( now I got it from him ) and she started babbling how medicines are bad. I told another female coworker that I sent her a fr on IG and she asked me who are you, meaning my nickname but in my language it could have sounded as “who do you think you are” and she burst into laughter. She has no respect for me even though I am older and more experienced. In a nutshell she acts like a hostile asshole towards me. Anyway I am mostly interested in figuring out why she is the way she is, that’s why I stated her Sun/Ascendant combination

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Just comfort yourself with the most likely reality that with your experience and her being straight out of school you are making more than her.

Collect your coins.

I'd be overly nice. Really amp up the contrast so she looks like more of the AH

I don't really have good practical advice to give here. If I have a difficult client, I charge them more for the next project. Its my headache fee. If I have a consultant or vender who is disrespectful, I don't use them in the future. I never have to directly call someone out or confront them. But perhaps you need to do that with this person.

After some time with this company could you request to work from home a day or two a week? Maybe having a break from breathing the same air as her would help ease the annoyance.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I'm not being rude because when I say this I'm saying this in a very sincere way. You need to find you a job working alone. I hate to bring this up but introverts and extroverts don't work well as a team. And you sound introverted as to where you like working alone without being bothered. You need your space and dont need no one invading it even in the workplace. I don't know how many jobs I had where I don't get in a conflict with someone. It's best to employ yourself.

Agreed but I am not in a position to do so. I would very much like for you to understand me as a fellow Libra Rising. I simply cannot seem to offend her even though she deserves it.

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As a fellow Libra rising.....ehh yeah I can understand. I know all too well what's it like as a libra rising employee. I can't speak on your behalf on this but people like pushing my buttons and I feel I don't get the same treatment everyone else does. I'm not blaming my Libra ascendant for anything to be honest. If anything, it's all my fucked up afflicted pluto aspects and 1st house lilith in scorpio for a lot of my outbursts. Astrology-wise that is. I know. People like to screw with us Libra risings especially the quiet ones that just want to keep to themselves without being bothered. If it keeps happening I would explode. Just let it all loose. But that's just me. I'm not saying for you to do that. You should probably tell her to back off, leave you alone. If that don't work just report her.

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Posted by saggurl88
Why can’t you let her know that she is not talking to you in a professional way?

Also is she proving you wrong? Is she finding faults in your work?

Because of my stupid Libra Ascendant. Sometimes my Aries Sun shows and I shut her up. We each have our own tasks and projects so we don’t communicate work wise

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I’m a libra rising too but I know how to kill them with kindness and be passive aggressive.

Seems like what she is doing is just being immature.

Stop doing things within earshot of her, if what she says bothers you.

I’m not sure why she thinks it’s her business if you are trying to be social at work.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.
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She has something negative to say about the thing you shared? Or just being negative in general.

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About everything I say. For example I gave another coworker vitamins because he was coughing ( now I got it from him ) and she started babbling how medicines are bad. I told another female coworker that I sent her a fr on IG and she asked me who are you, meaning my nickname but in my language it could have sounded as “who do you think you are” and she burst into laughter. She has no respect for me even though I am older and more experienced. In a nutshell she acts like a hostile asshole towards me. Anyway I am mostly interested in figuring out why she is the way she is, that’s why I stated her Sun/Ascendant combination

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Sorry but I’m not seeing anything negative in her behavior.

She share her opinion n you call that hostile n laughter at something funny??

What’s her sign?

Posted by GC69_
What’s her sign?

Cancer Sun with Capricorn Ascendant

Posted by GenericUsername
So I started working at a new job and everything is nice except this girl who is 7 years younger than me and very hostile towards me. She takes every chance she can to prove me wrong and be verbally aggressive towards me. My Libra Ascendant makes me avoid conflict and my Aries Sun wants to tell her that I haven’t meet someone more stupid and set in her stupid ways. I’ve changed so many jobs and coworkers that I don’t care enough to fight with her but also I want to subtly let her know that she shouldn’t mess with me. Have you any advice and more importantly can you explain her behaviour to me?

Anytime I come across someone aggressive - professionally and they’re being rude or just ignorant. I repeat something dense or rude they’ve said back to them and I slow it down and look at them…and I wait for their reaction, and then I ask them “can you please tell me what you mean by that?”

When they’re forced to repeat the rude remark they’ve said in front of others, or have to explain themselves they’re very aware they’re being checked and their behaviour is exposed.

When you ask them what they mean by that, you gotta make sure your character doesn’t break. Look them dead ass in their thick headed eyes and wait, patiently….wait while they laugh, look around to others in the room for sympathy and then finally return their eyes to you.

If you get a response and they repeat their rude remark, simply respond “I don’t appreciate your response. If you’d like to sit down with a manager and me to resolve this, I can start the email process so we can manage this with more control.”

Done and done ✔️

Nothing is negative, all an optorunity. Grap that and every Day you stay strong.

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Posted by GC69_
What’s her sign?

Cancer Sun with Capricorn Ascendant

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So..... Some problem here, they are opposite, she has problems nowing what path to take.

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Posted by saggurl88
Why can’t you let her know that she is not talking to you in a professional way?

Also is she proving you wrong? Is she finding faults in your work?

Because of my stupid Libra Ascendant. Sometimes my Aries Sun shows and I shut her up. We each have our own tasks and projects so we don’t communicate work wise

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What's the sign and house placement of your Mars?

Posted by TXCowboy
Unless the other folks in the office where you work at are deaf or blind, they notice the behavior too. It won't be long before they make a decision: lose you, with many years of experience and dedication to the job already or dump her low experience, conceited ass.


I give it about 2 months before she's out, you won't be the only one she does this to, and when she disrupts the office dynamic enough? Out she goes!

Ideally yes.

But sometimes friendships, friends with benefits, connections or people they've known for quite a while are valued more than good employees.

Most of the time people like to stay neutral in dramas that do not directly involve them (this applies more to colleagues).

And it's quite common for young adult bullies to not be mean to everyone or even several people in the same environment. They just pick on the weakest person and are nice to everyone else.

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Posted by GC69_
What’s her sign?

Cancer Sun with Capricorn Ascendant
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So..... Some problem here, they are opposite, she has problems nowing what path to take.

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Yes. I had the same problem with an ex colleague. She was a Pisces Sun / Virgo Ascendant and was primitive and aggressive. Maybe I am problematic because I am Aries/Libra

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Posted by saggurl88
Why can’t you let her know that she is not talking to you in a professional way?

Also is she proving you wrong? Is she finding faults in your work?

Because of my stupid Libra Ascendant. Sometimes my Aries Sun shows and I shut her up. We each have our own tasks and projects so we don’t communicate work wise
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What's the sign and house placement of your Mars?

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I don’t know the House but my Mars is in Aquarius

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Posted by GC69_
What’s her sign?

Cancer Sun with Capricorn Ascendant

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I have a cap rising and it’s a very aggressive placement and probably one of my least liked placements. It’s such an ignorant planetary placement to have as a woman, because it’s very male and stubborn.

Pair that with the instabilities of cancer sun and you’ll get someone who’s emotionally open and stubborn which are not good leading abilities. I’m assuming she doesn’t lead by fairness and people like this rarely move up the ranks by the process of respect, they move up by taking people down and that’s what she’s trying to do to you by making you an example to the group.

Keep pushing back. Like Texas said, she’ll do herself in within months. You’ve got this.

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Posted by GenericUsername
So I started working at a new job and everything is nice except this girl who is 7 years younger than me and very hostile towards me. She takes every chance she can to prove me wrong and be verbally aggressive towards me. My Libra Ascendant makes me avoid conflict and my Aries Sun wants to tell her that I haven’t meet someone more stupid and set in her stupid ways. I’ve changed so many jobs and coworkers that I don’t care enough to fight with her but also I want to subtly let her know that she shouldn’t mess with me. Have you any advice and more importantly can you explain her behaviour to me?

There are always jealous/hateful people somewhere somehow. Rather it's that you are attractive or have confidence that they don't have. That is the truth of the reality in the workplace or anywhere else you go. I have a lot of people who are very jealous of me as well. They will talk behind your back even if you aren't even doing anything wrong. Just let her know that she's being rude and move along. You need to give her that message, that way you have a sense of relief for yourself that she knows how you feel about her behavior.

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Dude. Are you the quiet type? Do you keep to yourself without wanting and attracting attention? Are you a loner? Do you attract women naturally without putting in any efforts? If you can answer yes to all those questions then you can say people talk about you behind your back. And jealous of you. It's not just about being attractive.

I’ve never been good at dealing with catty women in the work place. Working in a male dominant environment is pretty nice, while having certain cons of its own of course, this is not one of them. A woman purposefully creating a hostile work environment is one of the most toxic things possible.

I wish you luck 🍀 this is hard, and shitty, and no one should have to deal with it, at all ever.

Thanks to all of you for the insight. To be honest, I really dislike my Libra Ascendant. Maybe it’s just me playing the victim but I really do think that Aries - Libra are the most drastic opposites of the Zodiac wheel. If I were different she would behave differently.

Posted by Saturn_Returns
Some great advice here already.


Just keep your cool and ride it out. If the situation worsens, take it up with your superiors.


The fact that you're more of an asset to the company than she is should provide some comfort.

😘

Just focus your energy on your work. You can't be friends with everybody. It is what it is. I have the same issue with a passive aggressive coworker. I dislike her. But i know if I focus on her, it will mess with my work. At the end of the day, which is more important: to get the job done, get paid and spend a stress free day with my fam or not get the job done and get stressed about work and then lose my job? Always the first bit.

Work is just work. It's not your entire life so don't stress over coworkers.

Cancer suns care about being liked. Maybe she isn't seeing the love you show towards your other co workers directed towards her, so she's being bitchy.

I ignored my Cancer coworker for 2 years before he finally got the hint that I really didn't care about him being upset with me. He initially was upset because I never said good morning to him first, so he held a grudge and I pretended he didn't exist. lol

It worked for me, one less person to talk to 😆

She's young and probably feeling some sort of way that you aren't friendly towards her.

I bet if you held out an olive branch she would latch on for dear life and forgive you immediately. That's all they want, to be liked.

Cancers are called "Cancer" for a reason- They are invasive. It could be a good or a bad thing.

Posted by saggurl88
Cancer suns care about being liked. Maybe she isn't seeing the love you show towards your other co workers directed towards her, so she's being bitchy.


I ignored my Cancer coworker for 2 years before he finally got the hint that I really didn't care about him being upset with me. He initially was upset because I never said good morning to him first, so he held a grudge and I pretended he didn't exist. lol

It worked for me, one less person to talk to


She's young and probably feeling some sort of way that you aren't friendly towards her.


I bet if you held out an olive branch she would latch on for dear life and forgive you immediately. That's all they want, to be liked.


Cancers are called "Cancer" for a reason- They are invasive. It could be a good or a bad thing.

Honestly, I really don’t care about Cancers. I have a Pisces mother and Cancer sister and they are assholes towards me. Life is too short to bend yourself for emotional degenerates

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I'm not being rude because when I say this I'm saying this in a very sincere way. You need to find you a job working alone. I hate to bring this up but introverts and extroverts don't work well as a team. And you sound introverted as to where you like working alone without being bothered. You need your space and dont need no one invading it even in the workplace. I don't know how many jobs I had where I don't get in a conflict with someone. It's best to employ yourself.

Agreed but I am not in a position to do so. I would very much like for you to understand me as a fellow Libra Rising. I simply cannot seem to offend her even though she deserves it.

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Well you should talk to my Libra Rising, Scorpio sister in law. She has no problem quickly putting people in their place and being down right offensive when slightly pissed off. I was also married to a Libra/Libra Rising and he was the same way, that's why we divorced.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
I'm not being rude because when I say this I'm saying this in a very sincere way. You need to find you a job working alone. I hate to bring this up but introverts and extroverts don't work well as a team. And you sound introverted as to where you like working alone without being bothered. You need your space and dont need no one invading it even in the workplace. I don't know how many jobs I had where I don't get in a conflict with someone. It's best to employ yourself.

Agreed but I am not in a position to do so. I would very much like for you to understand me as a fellow Libra Rising. I simply cannot seem to offend her even though she deserves it.

Well you should talk to my Libra Rising, Scorpio sister in law. She has no problem quickly putting people in their place and being down right offensive when slightly pissed off. I was also married to a Libra/Libra Rising and he was the same way, that's why we divorced.

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Do your sister in law got any cancer that fall anywhere in her major planets? Cus honestly I think cancer placements in any of the major planets are a bit too soft. Especially if any are in retro. It's a totally different thing if she has moon square pluto, Pluto conjunct the ascendant, Mars square pluto or simply too much squares in the natal. I would think those are the main culprit of having no issues of putting people in their place. The scorpio sun and Libra ascendant is just a facade. At least that's the way I see it.

Posted by BaeMaxx
Just focus your energy on your work. You can't be friends with everybody. It is what it is. I have the same issue with a passive aggressive coworker. I dislike her. But i know if I focus on her, it will mess with my work. At the end of the day, which is more important: to get the job done, get paid and spend a stress free day with my fam or not get the job done and get stressed about work and then lose my job? Always the first bit.


Work is just work. It's not your entire life so don't stress over coworkers.

^^^^This

I have the feeling that things will take an U-turn in your favour, if you have a calm, private discussion with her. Ask if she is aware of the attitude she is giving to you, and if yes, what are her intentions or motivations.

Posted by GenericUsername
Thanks to all of you for the insight. To be honest, I really dislike my Libra Ascendant. Maybe it’s just me playing the victim but I really do think that Aries - Libra are the most drastic opposites of the Zodiac wheel. If I were different she would behave differently.

I understand disliking being a libra ascendant. Trust me, it ain't easy being pretty. There was a time I always use to wonder why people stare at me so much (and they still do), why there was always a conflict between me and somebody from every jobs I had in the past, why all the jealous and dirty looks only to find out years later I got Libra ascendant. I've done come to terms to live with it. Nothing I can do about it. At least my ascendant has progressed in scorpio. And that rising sign ain't much better either.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.

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She admires or likes you yet is intimated/threatened.

I'm sure if you start asking questions to get to know her you will come to a similar conclusion.

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What’s her sign?

Cancer Sun with Capricorn Ascendant

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Ahhh, so she is Cancer/Capricorn and you are Aries/Libra. I blame all the Cardinal energy.

Thankfully I get along great with all of my co workers, but it took some time for me to get to this point with all of them. I had to check some of them…example: a negging Libra guy, wooo weee he was annoying.

i just avoid people like that at work.

one time, i found out a girl was being snappy at me just coz she's stressed out about her electric bills.

so now everytime some stranger's being mean (coz yeah that's what you are if we're not dating/friends/family), i just assume it's coz they live such hard lives. prob a public schooler and deep in student debt or smthng.

People like that usually do themselves more harm than good. Others will notice & it comes back at them. My experience is that they are usually insecure, jealous & even mad that you have wronged them in their imagination.

Best thing is to tolerate them, but not interact if possible. Give them the rope to do damage to themselves, without putting yourself in the line of fire. Meaning don’t get caught up in their bullshit. They are just annoying.

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Correcting a new employee on where they are wrong is one thing, but being verbally aggressive is never ok.

Can you give us an example of the verbal aggression?

Also is she your superior or in a management role?

She never corrected me, I have 7 years of experience in the field I studied and she’s a recent graduate. My superior is another guy and I have a correct relationship with him. There is so much work that I am concentrated on finishing my tasks because that’s what I am paid for at the end of the month. Well examples - when we chat at the office she always has something negative to say after I share something.
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She has something negative to say about the thing you shared? Or just being negative in general.

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About everything I say. For example I gave another coworker vitamins because he was coughing ( now I got it from him ) and she started babbling how medicines are bad. I told another female coworker that I sent her a fr on IG and she asked me who are you, meaning my nickname but in my language it could have sounded as “who do you think you are” and she burst into laughter. She has no respect for me even though I am older and more experienced. In a nutshell she acts like a hostile asshole towards me. Anyway I am mostly interested in figuring out why she is the way she is, that’s why I stated her Sun/Ascendant combination

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Just comfort yourself with the most likely reality that with your experience and her being straight out of school you are making more than her.

Collect your coins.


I'd be overly nice. Really amp up the contrast so she looks like more of the AH

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I agree here. It is a bit tricky but I'd say just smile.

You will shine regardless. You have the experience, knowledge, and in the end of the day the results are what matter..the results speak for themselves and words are not even needed..



There may even be some insecurity or jealousy

within this person towards you from what it sounds like because constant negative feedback to you or to anyone is a unrealistic way of thinking. Nevertheless, if that is so, that is none of your business and just let her learn and see.

Nothing wrong with being blunt or talking to her

in private but I wouldn't let her take you off your

game if you choose to do so or not. Also, I'd say

give her positive feedback too especially in front

of people. No, it doesn't show you are a push over

or scardy cat. It shows others that you take the high

ground and you are not affected be her way of being which is 'lower' and 'immature'.

What you provide is value, they all know that and it's only a matter of time before she sees it too and will treat you accordingly. Just focus on that 🙂

🌙

We’re getting better. I chose to be kind

Posted by GenericUsername
We’re getting better. I chose to be kind

So awesome 👏👏👏🙂🙏

Posted by GenericUsername
So I started working at a new job and everything is nice except this girl who is 7 years younger than me and very hostile towards me. She takes every chance she can to prove me wrong and be verbally aggressive towards me. My Libra Ascendant makes me avoid conflict and my Aries Sun wants to tell her that I haven’t meet someone more stupid and set in her stupid ways. I’ve changed so many jobs and coworkers that I don’t care enough to fight with her but also I want to subtly let her know that she shouldn’t mess with me. Have you any advice and more importantly can you explain her behaviour to me?

I understand your non confrontational traits as I have Libra placements too, but I've been working on standing up for myself and settings boundaries more and I can say that she will definitely keep bullying you if you don't say anything and using you as her own emotional punching bag. So, either report her behaviour to your manager. Or next time she says something aggressive, just be assertive. Saying like "I understand that I'm new here and have much to learn, however I don't appreciate the things you have been saying and doing to me (give examples), those actions and words makes me feel hurt. Whenever I do make a mistake, please just calmly and politely let me know about it and that's all."

Hope this helps 😅 I feel for you. Dealt with bullies like this before. You're strong though, don't let her take your power.