Aries guy serious or not

Ok so long story long I’ve been seeing this Aries guy for 2 months now, he’s extremely physically affectionate and loving. This guy has adhd and anxiety, not sure how serious it is tho. I know I can come off very cold and intimidating and that can scare away a lot of people not him though. Recently there have been more feelings involved on my part and I’ve started to overthink his every action so I wanna know if he’s actually genuine or just messing about. So he’s told me he’s scared to flat out text me if he wants to meet up because he thinks I get overwhelmed sometimes and he doesn’t wanna cross any boundaries, he does seem very self conscious around me about the fact that he can be a lot at times even though I’ve given him no reason to think that. Whenever I text him he replies within an hour and even though I’m always the one to ask if he wants to meet up he’s mostly available, he also said I seem to be too busy and he doesn’t wanna bother me with texting. I did tell him he needs to be more straightforward cause whenever he asks me something it’s always very vague and like he’s hinting at something. There’s been a lot of times looking over our texts when he’s hinted at meeting up but I’ve either intentionally or unintentionally ignored those hints. Like when his parents were visiting he sent me a message that I should go taste the food his mom cooked but thought it was a bit weird seeing as we haven’t dated that long so didn’t say anything. Last night he very casually said that if a woman doesn’t text him for more than a week he immediately assumes she’s seeing somebody else and is not interested. Basically earlier this week I told him I’m gonna spend my first Christmas alone and he said he’s gonna tell his parents he’s gonna take someone with him, I said no that’s ok, I thought he just said that cause he felt sorry or something. To make matters worse last night when we were together I kinda kept going out of the room to text my ex to leave me alone cause he kept blowing up my phone. I have blocked him now before you get on my case about that!! He asked me multiple times if everything’s alright and if I wanna talk about it even if it’s about a guy he said he can take it, I felt like I wasn’t ready to explain the whole ex situation to him cuz I’m a very guarded person so pretended like everything was fine but I know he didn’t believe it. I did give him a lot of reassurance it wasn’t about him and said I just get in my head sometimes and that makes me detach from people, he kept asking me about it but I couldn’t give him a reply. At one point when we hadn’t texted for two weeks when I was away he posted a video of him, his brother and this girl on the elevator together, I didn’t pay much attention to that at that point. He seems to post a lot on social media to get attention and that’s not really my thing. Anyway sorry for rambling but why I’m writing this is cause I got some attachment issues and I can’t stop thinking if I’m the cold hearted d*ckhead in this situation if he’s maybe picking up some weird signs from me or he’s just messing around and I should drop him. I do tend to self sabotage and distance myself a lot but have tried to be more mindful of it with him. A lot of people say trust your gut but it’s hard when your gut makes you overthink a lot, I do feel safe with him and he’s always said I can communicate with him about everything I guess that’s good.

I wanna believe he’s genuine and his adhd and anxiety can’t let him think logically but at the same time the streets are cold and you can’t trust no one. We’re not exclusive btw. Also he broke up with his long term ex only 4 months ago that also makes me a bit wary.

Also what are Aries men usually like when they’re into you, like what are the basic signs?? And if you got any tips on dating people with adhd that would be much appreciated

He’s got a Scorpio moon, Sag asc, Pisces Venus and Aquarius mars btw

have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda life is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

You seem to be having more issues than him! Can't you just enjoy your dates and the getting to know each other? If any of you is not interested, would you carry on dating? There is no need to complicate things which are quite simple. Relax! Aries is one of the easiest signs to read and handle.

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have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda like is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

I think I have, I ask him loads of questions and try to be physically affectionate back

That’s what he’s said!! He feels like I’m not comfortable around him acting so timid but I said it takes time until that crazy outgoing side of me comes out can’t help it but it’s defo starting to come out

What 2 dates girl how’d you do that??!! Idk how to exaggerate my interest, if anything I play it down idk how to stop doing it. You need to share those tips. I actually feel like I’ve done a lot more than I have in my previous situations texting him and asking him out but maybe his anxious brain only sees it from his pov

The self sabotaging tendencies in me tell me to drop him and move on like I would usually do but something’s telling me not to but I don’t wanna be played either so dunno what to do. Also his social media posts are weird af recently, are men intentional about what they post??

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have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda like is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

I think I have, I ask him loads of questions and try to be physically affectionate back

That’s what he’s said!! He feels like I’m not comfortable around him acting so timid but I said it takes time until that crazy outgoing side of me comes out can’t help it but it’s defo starting to come out

What 2 dates girl how’d you do that??!! Idk how to exaggerate my interest, if anything I play it down idk how to stop doing it. You need to share those tips. I actually feel like I’ve done a lot more than I have in my previous situations texting him and asking him out but maybe his anxious brain only sees it from his pov

The self sabotaging tendencies in me tell me to drop him and move on like I would usually do but something’s telling me not to but I don’t wanna be played either so dunno what to do. Also his social media posts are weird af recently, are men intentional about what they post??

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made myself super accommodating and try to reply real quick (coz i wasn't so much usually). don't really text him as much as he'd like to but i'm the same way with you phyically (i'm much more open physically than over the phone/online). oh and he's a scorpio moon too so i feel like it'd really work if you make him feel a bit more secured (like not rejecting spending christmas with him).

yeah the streets are cold and there was a time i was guarded like you but i can be extremely optimistic too lol. i think you've mentioned your moon before. was it aries moon or sag moon?

Posted by Undine
You seem to be having more issues than him! Can't you just enjoy your dates and the getting to know each other? If any of you is not interested, would you carry on dating? There is no need to complicate things which are quite simple. Relax! Aries is one of the easiest signs to read and handle.

Thank you! I actually needed to hear that

You’re probably right they are usually very upfront

Posted by TXCowboy
Too many variables here. This isn't going to work out long term. Both of you are human wrenches tossed into the gears.

What do you mean too many variables?? You can’t say something like that and not explain more

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have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda like is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

I think I have, I ask him loads of questions and try to be physically affectionate back

That’s what he’s said!! He feels like I’m not comfortable around him acting so timid but I said it takes time until that crazy outgoing side of me comes out can’t help it but it’s defo starting to come out

What 2 dates girl how’d you do that??!! Idk how to exaggerate my interest, if anything I play it down idk how to stop doing it. You need to share those tips. I actually feel like I’ve done a lot more than I have in my previous situations texting him and asking him out but maybe his anxious brain only sees it from his pov

The self sabotaging tendencies in me tell me to drop him and move on like I would usually do but something’s telling me not to but I don’t wanna be played either so dunno what to do. Also his social media posts are weird af recently, are men intentional about what they post??
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made myself super accommodating and try to reply real quick (coz i wasn't so much usually). don't really text him as much as he'd like to but i'm the same way with you phyically (i'm much more open physically than over the phone/online). oh and he's a scorpio moon too so i feel like it'd really work if you make him feel a bit more secured (like not rejecting spending christmas with him).

yeah the streets are cold and there was a time i was guarded like you but i can be extremely optimistic too lol. i think you've mentioned your moon before. was it aries moon or sag moon?

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I’m actually learning something here so scorpio moons need to feel secure??… He’s also said he doesn’t like flaky people, I feel like all these comments he makes very casually are kinda meant for my ears. but yeah I definitely could give him a bit more reassurance especially about the christmas I might’ve been too rash with my reply, makes me think I’ve ruined our connection now 😩

So I’m here thinking he’s messing about and he probably thinking the same especially after yesterday when he was talking to his brother about how he thinks the worst when a girl doesn’t text him and I was there walking out the room to text my ex even if it was to tell him to stop harassing me but if I was in his shoes I would’ve been so mad like bruh what’s the matter with me

Yeah I have a Sag moon and asc

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have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda like is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

I think I have, I ask him loads of questions and try to be physically affectionate back

That’s what he’s said!! He feels like I’m not comfortable around him acting so timid but I said it takes time until that crazy outgoing side of me comes out can’t help it but it’s defo starting to come out

What 2 dates girl how’d you do that??!! Idk how to exaggerate my interest, if anything I play it down idk how to stop doing it. You need to share those tips. I actually feel like I’ve done a lot more than I have in my previous situations texting him and asking him out but maybe his anxious brain only sees it from his pov

The self sabotaging tendencies in me tell me to drop him and move on like I would usually do but something’s telling me not to but I don’t wanna be played either so dunno what to do. Also his social media posts are weird af recently, are men intentional about what they post??
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made myself super accommodating and try to reply real quick (coz i wasn't so much usually). don't really text him as much as he'd like to but i'm the same way with you phyically (i'm much more open physically than over the phone/online). oh and he's a scorpio moon too so i feel like it'd really work if you make him feel a bit more secured (like not rejecting spending christmas with him).

yeah the streets are cold and there was a time i was guarded like you but i can be extremely optimistic too lol. i think you've mentioned your moon before. was it aries moon or sag moon?
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I’m actually learning something here so scorpio moons need to feel secure??… He’s also said he doesn’t like flaky people, I feel like all these comments he makes very casually are kinda meant for my ears. but yeah I definitely could give him a bit more reassurance especially about the christmas I might’ve been too rash with my reply, makes me think I’ve ruined our connection now 😩

So I’m here thinking he’s messing about and he probably thinking the same especially after yesterday when he was talking to his brother about how he thinks the worst when a girl doesn’t text him and I was there walking out the room to text my ex even if it was to tell him to stop harassing me but if I was in his shoes I would’ve been so mad like bruh what’s the matter with me

Yeah I have a Sag moon and asc

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scorpio moon + anxiety

you have to make him feel secure. even when i get a text from my exes, i always make sure that this scorp moon knows that i got it. if someone was being creepy with me, i let him know. even when i'm paranoid, i tell him about it. don't create insecurity coz people tend to act weird or retaliate in catastopic ways over misinterpreted words/actions.

Two Sag risings making each other anxious....? You two need urgent drinks and laughter together!

My cousin is Aries with Scorpio moon and Pisces Venus. She's moody sometimes, but doesn't hold grunges. Our "fights" only lasted for a few minutes before we were best of friends again. I like her even when she's a bit paranoid (I usually just grin at her intensely when she talks nonsense), and she adores my Sag rising optimism....she needs it!

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have you ever shown interest in him at all? lol

i dated an aries for a heartbeat then my phone went wack so i was unable to really communicate with him for a while and even when we're together, i was way too timid that he thought i just was not interested. plus what kinda like is vchat 4x/day? i could never.

so nowadays, i try to exaggerate my interest so i don't get misinterpreted which actually WORKED so well that someone literally moved in with me on the 2nd date 😂😂

I think I have, I ask him loads of questions and try to be physically affectionate back

That’s what he’s said!! He feels like I’m not comfortable around him acting so timid but I said it takes time until that crazy outgoing side of me comes out can’t help it but it’s defo starting to come out

What 2 dates girl how’d you do that??!! Idk how to exaggerate my interest, if anything I play it down idk how to stop doing it. You need to share those tips. I actually feel like I’ve done a lot more than I have in my previous situations texting him and asking him out but maybe his anxious brain only sees it from his pov

The self sabotaging tendencies in me tell me to drop him and move on like I would usually do but something’s telling me not to but I don’t wanna be played either so dunno what to do. Also his social media posts are weird af recently, are men intentional about what they post??
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made myself super accommodating and try to reply real quick (coz i wasn't so much usually). don't really text him as much as he'd like to but i'm the same way with you phyically (i'm much more open physically than over the phone/online). oh and he's a scorpio moon too so i feel like it'd really work if you make him feel a bit more secured (like not rejecting spending christmas with him).

yeah the streets are cold and there was a time i was guarded like you but i can be extremely optimistic too lol. i think you've mentioned your moon before. was it aries moon or sag moon?
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I’m actually learning something here so scorpio moons need to feel secure??… He’s also said he doesn’t like flaky people, I feel like all these comments he makes very casually are kinda meant for my ears. but yeah I definitely could give him a bit more reassurance especially about the christmas I might’ve been too rash with my reply, makes me think I’ve ruined our connection now 😩

So I’m here thinking he’s messing about and he probably thinking the same especially after yesterday when he was talking to his brother about how he thinks the worst when a girl doesn’t text him and I was there walking out the room to text my ex even if it was to tell him to stop harassing me but if I was in his shoes I would’ve been so mad like bruh what’s the matter with me

Yeah I have a Sag moon and asc
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scorpio moon + anxiety

you have to make him feel secure. even when i get a text from my exes, i always make sure that this scorp moon knows that i got it. if someone was being creepy with me, i let him know. even when i'm paranoid, i tell him about it. don't create insecurity coz people tend to act weird or retaliate in catastopic ways over misinterpreted words/actions.

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Wow ok did not know that!!

If he hasn’t given up on me yet, I’ll try and be as straightforward and honest as I can about why I act the way I do when I see him next, it’s not gonna be easy cuz I don’t wanna tell people about my stuff but I need to get my sh*t together fr cause what you’re saying is so right especially people with anxiety he will probably think the worst fingers crossed it’s not too late 😬

Thanks for the advice girl!

Geez girl, are you in or out?!

Posted by Undine
Two Sag risings making each other anxious....? You two need urgent drinks and laughter together!

My cousin is Aries with Scorpio moon and Pisces Venus. She's moody sometimes, but doesn't hold grunges. Our "fights" only lasted for a few minutes before we were best of friends again. I like her even when she's a bit paranoid (I usually just grin at her intensely when she talks nonsense), and she adores my Sag rising optimism....she needs it!

That’s what it was in the beginning!! It was all jokes but now the energy has kinda shifted, I guess mostly cuz of me and we’re getting to know each other more, we haven’t really had any deep discussions

He’s moody as well and I need to learn not to take that personally. I think that’s what attracted him to me in the first place he said I’m chilled and optimistic, I just need to keep that same energy

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Geez girl, are you in or out?!

I wanna be in so bad but I’m struggling 😩

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Geez girl, are you in or out?!

I wanna be in so bad but I’m struggling 😩

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That means he ain’t the one

It seems to me that you’ve sent a lot of mixed messages & he doesn’t quite know what to think. I think you need to communicate better about how you feel or ask questions instead of assume things. For example, the reason he said you could come with him to his parents for Xmas. You assumed he was just being nice… well here’s the thing he wanted to invite you, he didn’t have to. You need to act like you are interested if you are.

Anyway, Aries when they like you want to be around you. They do things like invite you to family gatherings. Take you to do fun things with them. They really like you, they want you around a lot. I think my 3rd date with my ex was helping him paint his house lol with his mother! Okay maybe not really a date but an in between hanging out thing. 2nd date was a motocross race with his friends ( I knew a couple of them) the day after the first date. He asked me as we were saying goodnight the first date. I spent Thanksgiving with him & 25 members of his family at 3 months of dating. And Xmas that year too. Aries can get excited and it’s full steam ahead if it’s right. But they need to know you’re all in too. Just my experience 🙂 we have 2 kids & were together 20 years. I don’t know if he knew right away, or just that I was pretty cool 😉

He likes you but you need to reassure him more and be more affectionate. If he tells you that you need to taste his mom's cooking say "yeh is she a good cook? I would love to someday" or something to acknowledge it. Don't just ignore it. Poor guy lol. You seem cold.

@alexscaries is an aries with scorpio moon. Help the girl out. 😁☺️

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Forgot to add it could be fear of rejection on his part, as well as second guessing. Next time he hints say "that would be amazing, when are you free next?" Boom.

I think it's this. He's giving every sign that he's interested. She on the other hand is not.

Posted by PuzzlePieces
It seems to be that you’ve sent a lot of mixed messages & he doesn’t quite know what to think. I think you need to communicate better about how you feel or ask questions instead of assume things. For example, the reason he said you could come with him to his parents for Xmas. You assumed he was just being nice… well here’s the thing he wanted to invite you, he didn’t have to. You need to act like you are interested if you are.

Anyway, Aries when they like you want to be around you. They do things like invite you to family gatherings. Take you to do fun things with them. They really like you, they want you around a lot. I think my 3rd date with my ex was helping him paint his house lol with his mother! Okay maybe not really a date but an in between hanging out thing. 2nd date was a motocross race with his friends ( I knew a couple of them) the day after the first date. He asked me as we were saying goodnight the first date. I spent Thanksgiving with him & 25 members of his family at 3 months of dating. And Xmas that year too. Aries can get excited and it’s full steam ahead if it’s right. But they need to know you’re all in too. Just my experience we have 2 kids & we’re together 20 years. I don’t know if he knew right away, or just that I was pretty cool 😉

You’re probably spot on, that’s why I’ve decided to be completely transparent next time I see him, just hope it’s not too late :/

Aw no this is just too cute, such a happy ending 🥺

He does seem to want to do stuff with me but the vague questions and beating around the bush get to me, and when I told him that he was surprised and said he’s so sorry he didn’t know he does that and he’ll try to be more straightforward

Posted by Timone
He likes you but you need to reassure him more and be more affectionate. If he tells you that you need to taste his mom's cooking say "yeh is she a good cook? I would love to someday" or something to acknowledge it. Don't just ignore it. Poor guy lol. You seem cold.

I know I need to work on my reassurance :/

Now reading back on that message I did say that’s amazing and can’t wait, but probably could’ve been a bit more enthusiastic about it

I know poor him, he said I’m very composed so that’s probably another word for cold

Posted by alexscaries
Be straight forward and you get straight forwardness back. It's that easy.

Being an aries with pisces anything is the worst combination in my opinion.

It's quite simple if I like someone I spend time with them. Be the best possible option and I will text everyday. Be boring, distant, needy, self destructive or worst of all what puts me off is a lack of interest if I said "let's meet up" and I keep getting vague "maybe when I'm less busy" answers I will give up. If you are doing this stop. The right answer is yes or no.

To me sounds like he's spotted something within and he is trying to figure it out. Probably thinks you are still shagging your ex. That's a talk you need to have and he can deal with it.

@PuzzlePieces is right on this

That’s it, that’s what he says all the time

Why is it the worst combination?? He has said he feels more like a Pisces than an Aries

Basically I’m not used to be the one to text first but with him I’ve started doing it cause he has said if I wanna meet up I just need to text him but then I start overthinking like why do I have to be the one to message so that’s where the self sabotage comes from. i have said I’ll let you know a couple of times when he’s suggested a day but I genuinely had a reason for that both times

He probably has spotted something and it must be very confusing if the other person doesn’t explain what’s up obviously an anxious brain is gonna think the worst, but I didn’t think about that in the moment. I’ll try and be as straight up as I can next time and see how he reacts to that. I’m scared to go deeper with him and idk if he can sense that

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Forgot to add it could be fear of rejection on his part, as well as second guessing. Next time he hints say "that would be amazing, when are you free next?" Boom.

That’s it that’s the one!!! That’s the vibe I’m getting from him, sometimes he seems a bit self conscious around me like he’s so scared to overwhelm me and feels like he’s scared I’m not gonna be into him or something or maybe that I’m judging him not sure

I have actually said that before and then I got tired of it and told him to be more straight up so we’re gonna see if it worked

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Forgot to add it could be fear of rejection on his part, as well as second guessing. Next time he hints say "that would be amazing, when are you free next?" Boom.

I think it's this. He's giving every sign that he's interested. She on the other hand is not.
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He sounds like he's quite young and it took me ages to learn you have to read between the lines a bit.

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He’s actually not that young, I’m 26 he’s 30

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It seems to be that you’ve sent a lot of mixed messages & he doesn’t quite know what to think. I think you need to communicate better about how you feel or ask questions instead of assume things. For example, the reason he said you could come with him to his parents for Xmas. You assumed he was just being nice… well here’s the thing he wanted to invite you, he didn’t have to. You need to act like you are interested if you are.

Anyway, Aries when they like you want to be around you. They do things like invite you to family gatherings. Take you to do fun things with them. They really like you, they want you around a lot. I think my 3rd date with my ex was helping him paint his house lol with his mother! Okay maybe not really a date but an in between hanging out thing. 2nd date was a motocross race with his friends ( I knew a couple of them) the day after the first date. He asked me as we were saying goodnight the first date. I spent Thanksgiving with him & 25 members of his family at 3 months of dating. And Xmas that year too. Aries can get excited and it’s full steam ahead if it’s right. But they need to know you’re all in too. Just my experience we have 2 kids & we’re together 20 years. I don’t know if he knew right away, or just that I was pretty cool 😉

You’re probably spot on, that’s why I’ve decided to be completely transparent next time I see him, just hope it’s not too late :/

Aw no this is just too cute, such a happy ending 🥺

He does seem to want to do stuff with me but the vague questions and beating around the bush get to me, and when I told him that he was surprised and said he’s so sorry he didn’t know he does that and he’ll try to be more straightforward

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Well it sounds like you both need to work on the communication & stop so much overthinking. Then see what happens.

In my case, we split up after 20 years. It was not what either of us wanted, but the right thing. We had different paths to walk. There is still a bond, a connection, co-parenting etc. sometimes you have to let people go & let them find their way or not. It was definitely worth it 😁 all of it!

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It seems to be that you’ve sent a lot of mixed messages & he doesn’t quite know what to think. I think you need to communicate better about how you feel or ask questions instead of assume things. For example, the reason he said you could come with him to his parents for Xmas. You assumed he was just being nice… well here’s the thing he wanted to invite you, he didn’t have to. You need to act like you are interested if you are.

Anyway, Aries when they like you want to be around you. They do things like invite you to family gatherings. Take you to do fun things with them. They really like you, they want you around a lot. I think my 3rd date with my ex was helping him paint his house lol with his mother! Okay maybe not really a date but an in between hanging out thing. 2nd date was a motocross race with his friends ( I knew a couple of them) the day after the first date. He asked me as we were saying goodnight the first date. I spent Thanksgiving with him & 25 members of his family at 3 months of dating. And Xmas that year too. Aries can get excited and it’s full steam ahead if it’s right. But they need to know you’re all in too. Just my experience we have 2 kids & we’re together 20 years. I don’t know if he knew right away, or just that I was pretty cool 😉

You’re probably spot on, that’s why I’ve decided to be completely transparent next time I see him, just hope it’s not too late :/

Aw no this is just too cute, such a happy ending 🥺

He does seem to want to do stuff with me but the vague questions and beating around the bush get to me, and when I told him that he was surprised and said he’s so sorry he didn’t know he does that and he’ll try to be more straightforward
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Well it sounds like you both need to work on the communication & stop so much overthinking. Then see what happens.

In my case, we split up after 20 years. It was not what either of us wanted, but the right thing. We had different paths to walk. There is still a bond, a connection, co-parenting etc. sometimes you have to let people go & let them find their way or not. It was definitely worth it 😁 all of it!

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I agree, we definitely need to talk about that if we wanna continue seeing each other

That’s very true!! You have to let some things go and if they’re meant to be in your life they’ll find their way back to you I think

He seems to be moving too fast for you. He's letting you know what he expects and what he won't accept and you seem to either not believe him or blow him off. He is being very upfront, IMO

I don't think it's gonna last either since you seem too busy for him and he's making all these efforts.

He seems serious, you're the one that seems to be dragging your feet.

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He seems to be moving too fast for you. He's letting you know what he expects and what he won't accept and you seem to either not believe him or blow him off. He is being very upfront, IMO

I don't think it's gonna last either since you seem too busy for him and he's making all these efforts.

He seems serious, you're the one that seems to be dragging your feet.

Talk about giving it straight 😬

I appreciate the honesty though!!

I’ve never met a guy like him that’s why it’s so hard for me to trust what he says and doubt his intentions constantly

I need to man up basically and explain to him why I behave the way I do I just hope it won’t scare him away

He seems to like you, so being honest with him should be fine. Just word it in a way that tells him you like the way he acts, but aren't used to how direct and forward he is, and it makes you a little nervous, but that he should keep being himself and you will get used to it.

Based on what you wrote, it seems like you're sneaky or evasive and he is wondering what the heck is up, when you say that isn't your intention.

Aries move quickly, and they are a sign that is a lasting sign, unafraid of commitment. They know what they want.

what would it hurt? eating his mom's cooking and spending christmas with him. like srsly what's the worst that can happen? just reealized scorpio moons always do things i find emotionally-fulfilling. maybe coz my moon's in the 8th house 🤷🤷

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He likes you but you need to reassure him more and be more affectionate. If he tells you that you need to taste his mom's cooking say "yeh is she a good cook? I would love to someday" or something to acknowledge it. Don't just ignore it. Poor guy lol. You seem cold.

I know I need to work on my reassurance :/

Now reading back on that message I did say that’s amazing and can’t wait, but probably could’ve been a bit more enthusiastic about it

I know poor him, he said I’m very composed so that’s probably another word for cold

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Just show him that you want him. Aries are usually not that complicated. ☺️

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Wow his placement sounds so.... masculine. I agree with people that say Aries pull full speed ahead with things. They would be inviting you to hang out with friends, bringing you flowers, it will be pretty exciting from the get go and probably at least expect you to be at least luke warm. You being distant and cold probably made him not sure, especially when he has scorpio moon. I have scorpio moon, I take a long time figuring out how I feel emotionally because I want to be sure and don't want to lead you on with false flirty stuff to waste your time. If you are cold and disinterested I will just detach and leave you alone. My thought process: welp since I'm not sure and you on the other hand is disinterested - I guess we should just bid adieu.

Really? Hm it’s weird cuz he’s definitely got a feminine side to him as well, he’s even admitted it

He does have that exciting and fun energy about him!

Hm ok I don’t know anything about scorpio moons really but all this insight is useful

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Be straight forward and you get straight forwardness back. It's that easy.

Being an aries with pisces anything is the worst combination in my opinion.

It's quite simple if I like someone I spend time with them. Be the best possible option and I will text everyday. Be boring, distant, needy, self destructive or worst of all what puts me off is a lack of interest if I said "let's meet up" and I keep getting vague "maybe when I'm less busy" answers I will give up. If you are doing this stop. The right answer is yes or no.

To me sounds like he's spotted something within and he is trying to figure it out. Probably thinks you are still shagging your ex. That's a talk you need to have and he can deal with it.

@PuzzlePieces is right on this

That’s it, that’s what he says all the time

Why is it the worst combination?? He has said he feels more like a Pisces than an Aries

Basically I’m not used to be the one to text first but with him I’ve started doing it cause he has said if I wanna meet up I just need to text him but then I start overthinking like why do I have to be the one to message so that’s where the self sabotage comes from. i have said I’ll let you know a couple of times when he’s suggested a day but I genuinely had a reason for that both times

He probably has spotted something and it must be very confusing if the other person doesn’t explain what’s up obviously an anxious brain is gonna think the worst, but I didn’t think about that in the moment. I’ll try and be as straight up as I can next time and see how he reacts to that. I’m scared to go deeper with him and idk if he can sense that
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IMO aries pisces is the most difficult, think about the others double aries like me, aries Taurus, aries gemini, I think aries aqua is a thing but very rare - all more closer to aries energy. Pisces energy is arguably most feminine, most introverted and most self destructive out of the water signs.

I have social anxiety, but I would ask him how his anxiety manifests itself.

I can't speak for what works for him, but I'm easily bribed with sex or food.

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It’s so weird you brought up the feminine thing, he’s literally said he has a feminine side as well and I can definitely see that. Self destructive in what way? From what I’ve seen Pisces placements are always emotional, maybe a bit too emotional for me. I feel like he has a lot of emotional signs in his chart but at the same time I can’t read charts so dunno

Ok I’ll definitely ask that!

Haha those 2 are literally his favourite things I feel like

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Be straight forward and you get straight forwardness back. It's that easy.

Being an aries with pisces anything is the worst combination in my opinion.

It's quite simple if I like someone I spend time with them. Be the best possible option and I will text everyday. Be boring, distant, needy, self destructive or worst of all what puts me off is a lack of interest if I said "let's meet up" and I keep getting vague "maybe when I'm less busy" answers I will give up. If you are doing this stop. The right answer is yes or no.

To me sounds like he's spotted something within and he is trying to figure it out. Probably thinks you are still shagging your ex. That's a talk you need to have and he can deal with it.

@PuzzlePieces is right on this

That’s it, that’s what he says all the time

Why is it the worst combination?? He has said he feels more like a Pisces than an Aries

Basically I’m not used to be the one to text first but with him I’ve started doing it cause he has said if I wanna meet up I just need to text him but then I start overthinking like why do I have to be the one to message so that’s where the self sabotage comes from. i have said I’ll let you know a couple of times when he’s suggested a day but I genuinely had a reason for that both times

He probably has spotted something and it must be very confusing if the other person doesn’t explain what’s up obviously an anxious brain is gonna think the worst, but I didn’t think about that in the moment. I’ll try and be as straight up as I can next time and see how he reacts to that. I’m scared to go deeper with him and idk if he can sense that
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IMO aries pisces is the most difficult, think about the others double aries like me, aries Taurus, aries gemini, I think aries aqua is a thing but very rare - all more closer to aries energy. Pisces energy is arguably most feminine, most introverted and most self destructive out of the water signs.

I have social anxiety, but I would ask him how his anxiety manifests itself.

I can't speak for what works for him, but I'm easily bribed with sex or food.

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It’s so weird you brought up the feminine thing, he’s literally said he has a feminine side as well and I can definitely see that. Self destructive in what way? From what I’ve seen Pisces placements are always emotional, maybe a bit too emotional for me. I feel like he has a lot of emotional signs in his chart but at the same time I can’t read charts so dunno

Ok I’ll definitely ask that!

Haha those 2 are literally his favourite things I feel like
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They're everyman's favourite thing.

Self destructive can manifest itself in different ways addiction, depression or even giving up on something like choosing not to work after failing a job interview.

If he has adhd and anxiety might be worth asking if he is on the spectrum?

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Hm ok, I think I need to get to know him a bit more to tell if he has any self destructive qualities.

For some reason I can’t get over the fact that he only broke up with his ex two months prior to meeting me. I feel like he’s the type of person to fall hard. I can’t be sure but I get the vibe that she maybe initiated the break up so that also makes me a bit hesitant to get more involved. Cuz when we talked about why we broke up with our exes on the first date his reason wasn’t something that would make you break up with someone in my opinion. And I found out he still followed her on social media but she didn’t follow him 🤔

What’s the spectrum??

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Be straight forward and you get straight forwardness back. It's that easy.

Being an aries with pisces anything is the worst combination in my opinion.

It's quite simple if I like someone I spend time with them. Be the best possible option and I will text everyday. Be boring, distant, needy, self destructive or worst of all what puts me off is a lack of interest if I said "let's meet up" and I keep getting vague "maybe when I'm less busy" answers I will give up. If you are doing this stop. The right answer is yes or no.

To me sounds like he's spotted something within and he is trying to figure it out. Probably thinks you are still shagging your ex. That's a talk you need to have and he can deal with it.

@PuzzlePieces is right on this

That’s it, that’s what he says all the time

Why is it the worst combination?? He has said he feels more like a Pisces than an Aries

Basically I’m not used to be the one to text first but with him I’ve started doing it cause he has said if I wanna meet up I just need to text him but then I start overthinking like why do I have to be the one to message so that’s where the self sabotage comes from. i have said I’ll let you know a couple of times when he’s suggested a day but I genuinely had a reason for that both times

He probably has spotted something and it must be very confusing if the other person doesn’t explain what’s up obviously an anxious brain is gonna think the worst, but I didn’t think about that in the moment. I’ll try and be as straight up as I can next time and see how he reacts to that. I’m scared to go deeper with him and idk if he can sense that
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IMO aries pisces is the most difficult, think about the others double aries like me, aries Taurus, aries gemini, I think aries aqua is a thing but very rare - all more closer to aries energy. Pisces energy is arguably most feminine, most introverted and most self destructive out of the water signs.

I have social anxiety, but I would ask him how his anxiety manifests itself.

I can't speak for what works for him, but I'm easily bribed with sex or food.

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It’s so weird you brought up the feminine thing, he’s literally said he has a feminine side as well and I can definitely see that. Self destructive in what way? From what I’ve seen Pisces placements are always emotional, maybe a bit too emotional for me. I feel like he has a lot of emotional signs in his chart but at the same time I can’t read charts so dunno

Ok I’ll definitely ask that!

Haha those 2 are literally his favourite things I feel like
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They're everyman's favourite thing.

Self destructive can manifest itself in different ways addiction, depression or even giving up on something like choosing not to work after failing a job interview.

If he has adhd and anxiety might be worth asking if he is on the spectrum?

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Hm ok, I think I need to get to know him a bit more to tell if he has any self destructive qualities.

For some reason I can’t get over the fact that he only broke up with his ex two months prior to meeting me. I feel like he’s the type of person to fall hard. I can’t be sure but I get the vibe that she maybe initiated the break up so that also makes me a bit hesitant to get more involved. Cuz when we talked about why we broke up with our exes on the first date his reason wasn’t something that would make you break up with someone in my opinion. And I found out he still followed her on social media but she didn’t follow him 🤔

What’s the spectrum??
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The autistic spectrum, but it's a big reach by me.

A person's reason for breaking up could seem massive to them. It's difficult to judge, usually I've found it some form of neglect. Also how fast a person moves is down to the individual. I would also say men don't dwell on it as much as women.

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Hm ok, I might ask him that

That’s very true, I’m just seeing it from my perspective so not fair to put that on him