INTJ emotionally conflicted virgo
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Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Yes I’m Virgo sun and aqua moon , everything is logic .
Yet Scorpio rising and Venus always overrule it all
And then I get pissed that I went against logic
I feel like such an idiot when my heart leads, but truth is emotions take longer than logic. I blame it on my cap placements lol
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Do others struggle with this too?
What’s your sun sign/moon/Venus
Every time I’m in love it’s almost impossible to let go. Not impossible but holy cow it takes forever. Doesn’t matter if there is no contact or not btw.
Sag sun
Aqua moon
Cap Venus
Fortunately, I am not one of those. Very strong cardinal signs in my chart. If its not working out, then I stay single until I found one who is worth my time. Making investments on people who aren't worth my time is a bummer. Time wasted cannot be taken back. Its gone. I like to invest wisely.
My venus is in the 7th house. If its not gonna last forever, I don't want it. Lol
Well the ones who are hard to let go of we’re supposed to be forever. Not just anyone is hard to let go of.
Hmmm. I guess it has something to do with Rose colored glass making u see them as forever even if they show signs that they are not. It happens. Through the years I have just learned to see people for who they are. As far as relationships go, not everyone or most are categorised as "forever" because its just not possible. Especially when it comes to love. As friends, it's a different story. Family is a different story.
That assumes you think logically about relationships. Perhaps my generation was different. I believed love conquered all. I found out sometimes love is not enough. People have demons, baggage and you have to mature to beat them. Not everyone matures or evolves to do that. You can’t make them. I learned the hard way. Sometimes a forever relationship ends because something happened to change the direction of the path. In my case, that’s what happened. I don’t know how one can think all these 20+ year marriages were just not forever relationships and therefore not love. That’s ridiculous.
It's not possible to have a 20+ year marriage so many times is it? All I'm saying is, true love is just one person. It can't be many. It can't be all of them. Therefore, the rest are just in someone's life to teach a lesson, to help the person grow or to direct that person to the one that's actually for long-term. There is a difference between someone who is Inlove with the right person vs a serial monogamist who thinks he or is she is always Inlove, never single and just always on the lookout for a new relationship when one relationship doesn't workout. That's basically addiction to relationships.
i can't understand the style of having options, is it like, when they make the decision, they'd stick to it forever? but will they ever decide? i prefer them giving it a try and if it doesn't work out, be honest then leave.
what's your placement?
You're misunderstanding me. It's not just about being in different relationships. It's about being more picky. If you've gone through a string of men having the same results, you must be doing something wrong, right? You can't possibly be Inlove with so many wrong men. Surely after the relationship you realise something was in fact wrong. What I'm trying to point out is, not all of your exes are worth it. That's why they are the ex. And if someone clings on to every ex' perfection, it's not real. It never was. A real love is a relationship that lasts past the rose colored glass phase.
I'm a venus dom. Venus in 7th house.click to expand
Thanks, I wondered about your placements because you sounded quite rational. Venus is my chart ruler, it's in 1st.
About the relationship thing, I said that from my experience with someone who seems to be like that, he doesn't want to be trapped (for reasons only he knows), which further hurts me in a way.
I agree with your point about love.
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Yes I’m Virgo sun and aqua moon , everything is logic .
Yet Scorpio rising and Venus always overrule it all
And then I get pissed that I went against logic
How powerful is your scorpio rising? Would it affect less if the venus is in another sign?
I know someone with virgo sun/scorpio rising/aquarius moon/leo venus/virgo mars, he always shows he doesn't care much
Welcome to having a fixed moon
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Do others struggle with this too?
What’s your sun sign/moon/Venus
Every time I’m in love it’s almost impossible to let go. Not impossible but holy cow it takes forever. Doesn’t matter if there is no contact or not btw.
Sag sun
Aqua moon
Cap Venus
Fortunately, I am not one of those. Very strong cardinal signs in my chart. If its not working out, then I stay single until I found one who is worth my time. Making investments on people who aren't worth my time is a bummer. Time wasted cannot be taken back. Its gone. I like to invest wisely.
My venus is in the 7th house. If its not gonna last forever, I don't want it. Lol
Well the ones who are hard to let go of we’re supposed to be forever. Not just anyone is hard to let go of.
Hmmm. I guess it has something to do with Rose colored glass making u see them as forever even if they show signs that they are not. It happens. Through the years I have just learned to see people for who they are. As far as relationships go, not everyone or most are categorised as "forever" because its just not possible. Especially when it comes to love. As friends, it's a different story. Family is a different story.
That assumes you think logically about relationships. Perhaps my generation was different. I believed love conquered all. I found out sometimes love is not enough. People have demons, baggage and you have to mature to beat them. Not everyone matures or evolves to do that. You can’t make them. I learned the hard way. Sometimes a forever relationship ends because something happened to change the direction of the path. In my case, that’s what happened. I don’t know how one can think all these 20+ year marriages were just not forever relationships and therefore not love. That’s ridiculous.
It's not possible to have a 20+ year marriage so many times is it? All I'm saying is, true love is just one person. It can't be many. It can't be all of them. Therefore, the rest are just in someone's life to teach a lesson, to help the person grow or to direct that person to the one that's actually for long-term. There is a difference between someone who is Inlove with the right person vs a serial monogamist who thinks he or is she is always Inlove, never single and just always on the lookout for a new relationship when one relationship doesn't workout. That's basically addiction to relationships.
i can't understand the style of having options, is it like, when they make the decision, they'd stick to it forever? but will they ever decide? i prefer them giving it a try and if it doesn't work out, be honest then leave.
what's your placement?
You're misunderstanding me. It's not just about being in different relationships. It's about being more picky. If you've gone through a string of men having the same results, you must be doing something wrong, right? You can't possibly be Inlove with so many wrong men. Surely after the relationship you realise something was in fact wrong. What I'm trying to point out is, not all of your exes are worth it. That's why they are the ex. And if someone clings on to every ex' perfection, it's not real. It never was. A real love is a relationship that lasts past the rose colored glass phase.
I'm a venus dom. Venus in 7th house.
Thanks, I wondered about your placements because you sounded quite rational. Venus is my chart ruler, it's in 1st.
About the relationship thing, I said that from my experience with someone who seems to be like that, he doesn't want to be trapped (for reasons only he knows), which further hurts me in a way.
I agree with your point about love.
If he's not on the same page as you and not willing to compromise, he's not the one. You will meet someone who is on the same page as you are and that is the one worth investing in. Excuses like not wanting to be trapped is nothing but.... Excuses. Because he will one day find someone who he is willing to compromise for and be on the same page with and that is his "one". It's really just how it goes.click to expand
I hope I'll meet the one, but the struggle isn't over yet and it's really hard.
He suggested having more than one partner so not to be trapped, that's when I woke up. Personally I can only be with one. I also believe that he just hasn't met the one for him yet. Anyway there's no point of explaining further to him, so I withdrew, however, he probably thought I was being childish, and he'd check on me still, just we're parting for sure.
I don't really get emotional thinking at all. I struggle with trying to understand it. It's something I do actively try to understand, but just don't. So now I just acknowledge it as much as I can, but I still dismiss it.
Scorp sun
Libra moon
Sag Venus
6 planet 4th house stellium
Scorp sun
Libra moon
Sag Venus
6 planet 4th house stellium
I don’t know why everything is supposed to be a tragedy...analyzed...dissect...
But I think one has to get to the point of being tired of complicated shit...like hit the bottom and turn everything upside down without giving people opportunity of hiding or running or ghosting or building walls etc.
Just tell yourselves...I AM NOT TAKING CRAP ANYMORE!!!
You got to run - I’ll tie your running shoe and bye!
You are afraid to be hurt - go grow up but I am not your mother to watch you maturing...
You building the wall - I am going to be at the nearby bar having fun with friends...
Until you feeling tired of bullshit - ask those questions (in title) and get no answers...how long have you been doing this? Did it help?
But I think one has to get to the point of being tired of complicated shit...like hit the bottom and turn everything upside down without giving people opportunity of hiding or running or ghosting or building walls etc.
Just tell yourselves...I AM NOT TAKING CRAP ANYMORE!!!
You got to run - I’ll tie your running shoe and bye!
You are afraid to be hurt - go grow up but I am not your mother to watch you maturing...
You building the wall - I am going to be at the nearby bar having fun with friends...
Until you feeling tired of bullshit - ask those questions (in title) and get no answers...how long have you been doing this? Did it help?
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Do others struggle with this too?
What’s your sun sign/moon/Venus
Every time I’m in love it’s almost impossible to let go. Not impossible but holy cow it takes forever. Doesn’t matter if there is no contact or not btw.
Sag sun
Aqua moon
Cap Venus
Fortunately, I am not one of those. Very strong cardinal signs in my chart. If its not working out, then I stay single until I found one who is worth my time. Making investments on people who aren't worth my time is a bummer. Time wasted cannot be taken back. Its gone. I like to invest wisely.
My venus is in the 7th house. If its not gonna last forever, I don't want it. Lol
Well the ones who are hard to let go of we’re supposed to be forever. Not just anyone is hard to let go of.
Hmmm. I guess it has something to do with Rose colored glass making u see them as forever even if they show signs that they are not. It happens. Through the years I have just learned to see people for who they are. As far as relationships go, not everyone or most are categorised as "forever" because its just not possible. Especially when it comes to love. As friends, it's a different story. Family is a different story.
That assumes you think logically about relationships. Perhaps my generation was different. I believed love conquered all. I found out sometimes love is not enough. People have demons, baggage and you have to mature to beat them. Not everyone matures or evolves to do that. You can’t make them. I learned the hard way. Sometimes a forever relationship ends because something happened to change the direction of the path. In my case, that’s what happened. I don’t know how one can think all these 20+ year marriages were just not forever relationships and therefore not love. That’s ridiculous.
It's not possible to have a 20+ year marriage so many times is it? All I'm saying is, true love is just one person. It can't be many. It can't be all of them. Therefore, the rest are just in someone's life to teach a lesson, to help the person grow or to direct that person to the one that's actually for long-term. There is a difference between someone who is Inlove with the right person vs a serial monogamist who thinks he or is she is always Inlove, never single and just always on the lookout for a new relationship when one relationship doesn't workout. That's basically addiction to relationships.
i can't understand the style of having options, is it like, when they make the decision, they'd stick to it forever? but will they ever decide? i prefer them giving it a try and if it doesn't work out, be honest then leave.
what's your placement?
You're misunderstanding me. It's not just about being in different relationships. It's about being more picky. If you've gone through a string of men having the same results, you must be doing something wrong, right? You can't possibly be Inlove with so many wrong men. Surely after the relationship you realise something was in fact wrong. What I'm trying to point out is, not all of your exes are worth it. That's why they are the ex. And if someone clings on to every ex' perfection, it's not real. It never was. A real love is a relationship that lasts past the rose colored glass phase.
I'm a venus dom. Venus in 7th house.
Thanks, I wondered about your placements because you sounded quite rational. Venus is my chart ruler, it's in 1st.
About the relationship thing, I said that from my experience with someone who seems to be like that, he doesn't want to be trapped (for reasons only he knows), which further hurts me in a way.
I agree with your point about love.
If he's not on the same page as you and not willing to compromise, he's not the one. You will meet someone who is on the same page as you are and that is the one worth investing in. Excuses like not wanting to be trapped is nothing but.... Excuses. Because he will one day find someone who he is willing to compromise for and be on the same page with and that is his "one". It's really just how it goes.
I hope I'll meet the one, but the struggle isn't over yet and it's really hard.
He suggested having more than one partner so not to be trapped, that's when I woke up. Personally I can only be with one. I also believe that he just hasn't met the one for him yet. Anyway there's no point of explaining further to him, so I withdrew, however, he probably thought I was being childish, and he'd check on me still, just we're parting for sure.
Funny enough, one guy did that to me. Didn't want exclusivity. I dropped him. He kept coming back after that. But I was done.
After him I met my husband. There is hope 🙂click to expand
Exactly! Or you could be waiting for that guy giving him attention and time and whatnot...but he would never grow up! So you would be unnecessary hurt and your time would be wasted.
Good riddance and I am glad you found yours! ❤️
It depends, if feels involved it’s hard as fuck but if not it’s simple. Than again I have a lot of opposition in my chart
Leo Sun
Pisces moon
Virgo Venus
Virgo mercury
Leo Sun
Pisces moon
Virgo Venus
Virgo mercury
Posted by 7thHousePosted by AnihpPosted by 7thHousePosted by AnihpPosted by 7thHousePosted by AnihpPosted by 7thHousePosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by 7thHousePosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by 7thHousePosted by PuzzlePieces
Do others struggle with this too?
What’s your sun sign/moon/Venus
Every time I’m in love it’s almost impossible to let go. Not impossible but holy cow it takes forever. Doesn’t matter if there is no contact or not btw.
Sag sun
Aqua moon
Cap Venus
Fortunately, I am not one of those. Very strong cardinal signs in my chart. If its not working out, then I stay single until I found one who is worth my time. Making investments on people who aren't worth my time is a bummer. Time wasted cannot be taken back. Its gone. I like to invest wisely.
My venus is in the 7th house. If its not gonna last forever, I don't want it. Lol
Well the ones who are hard to let go of we’re supposed to be forever. Not just anyone is hard to let go of.
Hmmm. I guess it has something to do with Rose colored glass making u see them as forever even if they show signs that they are not. It happens. Through the years I have just learned to see people for who they are. As far as relationships go, not everyone or most are categorised as "forever" because its just not possible. Especially when it comes to love. As friends, it's a different story. Family is a different story.
That assumes you think logically about relationships. Perhaps my generation was different. I believed love conquered all. I found out sometimes love is not enough. People have demons, baggage and you have to mature to beat them. Not everyone matures or evolves to do that. You can’t make them. I learned the hard way. Sometimes a forever relationship ends because something happened to change the direction of the path. In my case, that’s what happened. I don’t know how one can think all these 20+ year marriages were just not forever relationships and therefore not love. That’s ridiculous.
It's not possible to have a 20+ year marriage so many times is it? All I'm saying is, true love is just one person. It can't be many. It can't be all of them. Therefore, the rest are just in someone's life to teach a lesson, to help the person grow or to direct that person to the one that's actually for long-term. There is a difference between someone who is Inlove with the right person vs a serial monogamist who thinks he or is she is always Inlove, never single and just always on the lookout for a new relationship when one relationship doesn't workout. That's basically addiction to relationships.
i can't understand the style of having options, is it like, when they make the decision, they'd stick to it forever? but will they ever decide? i prefer them giving it a try and if it doesn't work out, be honest then leave.
what's your placement?
You're misunderstanding me. It's not just about being in different relationships. It's about being more picky. If you've gone through a string of men having the same results, you must be doing something wrong, right? You can't possibly be Inlove with so many wrong men. Surely after the relationship you realise something was in fact wrong. What I'm trying to point out is, not all of your exes are worth it. That's why they are the ex. And if someone clings on to every ex' perfection, it's not real. It never was. A real love is a relationship that lasts past the rose colored glass phase.
I'm a venus dom. Venus in 7th house.
Thanks, I wondered about your placements because you sounded quite rational. Venus is my chart ruler, it's in 1st.
About the relationship thing, I said that from my experience with someone who seems to be like that, he doesn't want to be trapped (for reasons only he knows), which further hurts me in a way.
I agree with your point about love.
If he's not on the same page as you and not willing to compromise, he's not the one. You will meet someone who is on the same page as you are and that is the one worth investing in. Excuses like not wanting to be trapped is nothing but.... Excuses. Because he will one day find someone who he is willing to compromise for and be on the same page with and that is his "one". It's really just how it goes.
I hope I'll meet the one, but the struggle isn't over yet and it's really hard.
He suggested having more than one partner so not to be trapped, that's when I woke up. Personally I can only be with one. I also believe that he just hasn't met the one for him yet. Anyway there's no point of explaining further to him, so I withdrew, however, he probably thought I was being childish, and he'd check on me still, just we're parting for sure.
Funny enough, one guy did that to me. Didn't want exclusivity. I dropped him. He kept coming back after that. But I was done.
After him I met my husband. There is hope 🙂click to expand
Thanks for the hope, and sharing it with me 🙂
He came back once again, I felt fine this time, let's see how it'll go.
Posted by Ocelot009
It depends, if feels involved it’s hard as fuck but if not it’s simple. Than again I have a lot of opposition in my chart
Leo Sun
Pisces moon
Virgo Venus
Virgo mercury
Interesting I know someone with 3 of your four placements & he takes forever to let go, if ever.. okay yes those he’s been involved with.
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Ocelot009
It depends, if feels involved it’s hard as fuck but if not it’s simple. Than again I have a lot of opposition in my chart
Leo Sun
Pisces moon
Virgo Venus
Virgo mercury
Interesting I know someone with 3 of your four placements & he takes forever to let go, if ever.. okay yes those he’s been involved with.click to expand
It is hard but i forgot my Virgo Mars tbh but once involved those feelings bind us to it.
Posted by Ocelot009Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by Ocelot009
It depends, if feels involved it’s hard as fuck but if not it’s simple. Than again I have a lot of opposition in my chart
Leo Sun
Pisces moon
Virgo Venus
Virgo mercury
Interesting I know someone with 3 of your four placements & he takes forever to let go, if ever.. okay yes those he’s been involved with.
It is hard but i forgot my Virgo Mars tbh but once involved those feelings bind us to it.click to expand
Yeah he’s Leo Mars & Libra Venus but it’s the same. In all those he’s been involved with over the last 30 years.
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I’ll go first. I attract a lot of earth & air signs especially Libra/Aquarius
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How does one with Aqua moon behaving in love?
Asking for a friend
😯😁
I was dating this guy (Venus Aries, Sun Aries) for the past 3-4 months. For the record, I am Venus in Pieces, Sun in Aquarius, Rising in Cancer.
I was previously cheated on before.. so I have quite terrible insecurity issues. I haven't really dated anyon
The best relationships are probably with these groupings
Most immature thinkers: aries, taurus, gemini, cancer
Well versed: leo, virgo, libra, scorpio
Ignorant wisdom: sag, cap, aqua, pisces
I need examples of Aqua WOMEN’s stubbornness and selfishness.
I continue to see variations of those key words posted when referring to Aquas.
I definitely concede to stubbornness, but idk about selfish.
I’m genuinely curious to know how they manifest.
Ive been trying to figure out my emotions, and i just feel to distant and detached from people.
OK, I'm a Gemini born in the year of rabbit, and he's an aquarian in the year of Dog.. at first I had no plan to like him or see him in that kind of romantic way.
We were facebook friends, He's a very sweet and friendly guy, kept commenting and like on m
Sun Cappy
Rising Aqua
Moon Aqua
mars Leo
Mercury Cappy
Venus Scorpio
Jupiter Pisces
Or make you nervous? Or do you understand it?
Sun, moon, Venus signs please.
I observe a lot! But I think mostly when I’m trying to figure someone or something out.
Sag sun, aqua moon, Cap Venus
So why if I love or fall in love do I lose control and go into depression and feel enormous pain in my soul?
In fact, I'm more afraid of love than death, my most difficult times in life is that I start to love or fall in love.
I m sun aquarius, moon in s
My virgo friend ( M ) was engaged to be married last summer (June 2018) to his Cancer ( F )
he's aqua moon + scorp. venus
she's aqua moon + cancer venus
*together more than 4 years, living together for almost as long.
Weeks before the wedding - she
they need a lot of fcking space!!
isnt 13 years in a relationship enough to prove ourselves that we wont go astray and love you from the bottom of our hypothalamus?
why ya’all need validation?isnt out loyalty enough?the time we spent with you isnt it en
...feels so cold. Like, we've been thru very rough times, and the phase we are in is" I can't live without you" - h says. I say the same but I add to myself... "or with you". I am a Virgo, asc.Libra, Leo moon, and I know him so well, I am still interested
i need help i can tell i’m going to go crazy at some point, i just need to know like the loopholes for me to get my point across during a dispute and how to make sure i’m understood in general...
aquarius sun gemini moon aquarius rising
pisces mercury ca
My mom is
Aqua Sun
Aqua Moon
Capricorn Merc
Aqua Venus
Aqua Mars
She is soooooo mean to men. She is super cold in general, but watching her with my dad, step-dad... boyfriends of the past, she runs them into the damn ground.
Are Aqua women known for
I think us Cancers are funny as hell.
I think Capricorns are dry funny.. Aquarius are fuckin silly..
There definitely sun signs more funnier than the rest.. Because there are some signs that take themselves too seriously.. I won't name them, but get the
This is my dilemma right now.
Seems a no-brainer why am I struggling with it?
I keep running into my ex & seems like health.. looking at him..
What do you guys think & what’s your sun, moon, mars? Mine is sag sun, aqua moon, cap mars.
Are Aquas the type of people that would use people when they need them and drop them when they dont?
For example if you as an Aqua had a relationship with someone whether it was romantic or plantonic. Would you "use" someone by talking to them when you
Yet Scorpio rising and Venus always overrule it all
And then I get pissed that I went against logic