Watery Gem Love-Bomb

Met this watery Gem the past weekend and we had a date. She hasn't done anything wild, but I'm concerned because she's laying it on pretty thick via text. In person she's a bit conservative so I'm wondering if this is a typical push-pull game for her. She's 37, no kids, attractive.

Sun - Gem

Moon - Scorpio

Mercury - Cancer

Venus - Taurus

Mars - Cancer

She's saying things like she wanted to do matching outfits next year for Halloween, how much she's attracted to me and just OD'ing on flattery. While I do like her, I'm worried she's not being sincere, and this is manipulation before the big pull-back where she wants someone to chase her.

Gem reached out this morning to make plans this weekend. She wants to watch the game on Sunday, and I asked her about the Halloween party she mentioned she was going too. Gem tells me she chose Sunday so she would not drink a bunch because she absolutely cannot pass an opportunity for us to meet again.

Give me a break, don't blow smoke up my ass.

Venus in Taurus plays the long game, but she has a ton of water placements. I feel like she's secretly crazy.

Posted by Stardustmopped
And so you’re going to play it cool and not going to match her efforts or enthusiasm and she’s still going to pull back and then you’ll be asking us why she pulled back 🙃

nope, I've been mirroring her. She needs the intensity I'm assuming, but it's a lot for my aqua moon lol.

Obsessive

Scorpio

Moon

👿

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Obsessive

Scorpio

Moon

👿

She's out there! Not holding back

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Obsessive
Scorpio
Moon
👿

She's out there! Not holding back

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😱😂😃

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Met this watery Gem the past weekend and we had a date. She hasn't done anything wild, but I'm concerned because she's laying it on pretty thick via text. In person she's a bit conservative so I'm wondering if this is a typical push-pull game for her. She's 37, no kids, attractive.

Sun - Gem

Moon - Scorpio

Mercury - Cancer

Venus - Taurus

Mars - Cancer

She's saying things like she wanted to do matching outfits next year for Halloween, how much she's attracted to me and just OD'ing on flattery. While I do like her, I'm worried she's not being sincere, and this is manipulation before the big pull-back where she wants someone to chase her.

Gem reached out this morning to make plans this weekend. She wants to watch the game on Sunday, and I asked her about the Halloween party she mentioned she was going too. Gem tells me she chose Sunday so she would not drink a bunch because she absolutely cannot pass an opportunity for us to meet again.

Give me a break, don't blow smoke up my ass.

Venus in Taurus plays the long game, but she has a ton of water placements. I feel like she's secretly crazy.

Whats her rising sign?

Thats a lot of cancer energy, and Taurus venus.

Let alone moon. So what comes to mind she is sharing with you what she is excited and enthusiastic about. She may very well be introverted so more comfortable expressing this over text. Try asking her about those things in person. Another words, she isn't trying to hook you rather share things about herself she doesn't feel comfortable doing in person "YET".

Any experience dating people who are slow to open up?

P.S. lol since your are calling it love bombing, I take it you are into her and what she talked about over text?

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Met this watery Gem the past weekend and we had a date. She hasn't done anything wild, but I'm concerned because she's laying it on pretty thick via text. In person she's a bit conservative so I'm wondering if this is a typical push-pull game for her. She's 37, no kids, attractive.
Sun - Gem
Moon - Scorpio
Mercury - Cancer
Venus - Taurus
Mars - Cancer
She's saying things like she wanted to do matching outfits next year for Halloween, how much she's attracted to me and just OD'ing on flattery. While I do like her, I'm worried she's not being sincere, and this is manipulation before the big pull-back where she wants someone to chase her.
Gem reached out this morning to make plans this weekend. She wants to watch the game on Sunday, and I asked her about the Halloween party she mentioned she was going too. Gem tells me she chose Sunday so she would not drink a bunch because she absolutely cannot pass an opportunity for us to meet again.
Give me a break, don't blow smoke up my ass.
Venus in Taurus plays the long game, but she has a ton of water placements. I feel like she's secretly crazy.

Whats her rising sign?

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Not sure yet. May be an earth sign..

Posted by Lostthoughts
Thats a lot of cancer energy, and Taurus venus.

Let alone moon. So what comes to mind she is sharing with you what she is excited and enthusiastic about. She may very well be introverted so more comfortable expressing this over text. Try asking her about those things in person. Another words, she isn't trying to hook you rather share things about herself she doesn't feel comfortable doing in person "YET".

Any experience dating people who are slow to open up?

P.S. lol since your are calling it love bombing, I take it you are into her and what she talked about over text?

Thats fine to be excited. I wouldn't necessarily say she's introverted but like you said she may need some rapport first to share these things in person.

In my experience, people who are slow to open up don't make hasty plans or smooth-talk you. I have interest in her, I'm just a suspicious person. There was just a lot of "you're hot and I have plans for us", along with "I cannot mess this up, so I will act accordingly when with you." Opposed to just being consistent, making plans and then gradually building connections and wanting to spend more time with the person.

Typically, its just hot air to me. Taken with a grain of salt but I am factoring in she has a lot of cancer in her chart. Haven't dealt with too many but one chick that had similar placements (Cancer with gem energy) also wanted to have a child within a month of knowing each other and I met her mom the second date... we did not have a child btw, she was pretty intense.

So maybe it is possible. To my knowledge, Cancer energy plays the sweet innocent role in person and she's herself when texting at home.

i'm not sure i believe that about taurus venus coz i'm with one

and we pretty much moved in together after 2 weeks of knowing each other

but i can't exactly recommend that for everyone but the whole slowness to commit sounds like a myth coz i don't think most people actually understand the essence of this sign energy in actuality

welp scorpio moon eh?

nvrmind you're just paranoid and she's prob great in every way

also would def move in with you after like 2 dates

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welp scorpio moon eh?

nvrmind you're just paranoid and she's prob great in every way

also would def move in with you after like 2 dates

Lmao I am being paranoid, but the second date went well. Little bit of tongue kissing and we went out for some wings and played darts.

Never dated a Scorpio moon, she's been pretty forthcoming though.

Yes, there will come a time where she will sit down with herself and take stock of the your dynamic.

But usually that’s triggered by something changing in the other person.

She knows your patterns already so she’ll notice the slightest change.

If you’re down for her, match that energy and say so

If you think it’s all bs, let her know in a playful way if she’s for real or not.

Share your insecurities

Posted by DMV
Yes, there will come a time where she will sit down with herself and take stock of the your dynamic.

But usually that’s triggered by something changing in the other person.

She knows your patterns already so she’ll notice the slightest change.

If you’re down for her, match that energy and say so

If you think it’s all bs, let her know in a playful way if she’s for real or not.

Share your insecurities

Nah, she already vanished and I removed her from social media. She picked the place and was acting weird from the beginning. She had gone to a Halloween party the previous night and requested to push the time back about an hour (assuming she drank a bit.)

Cool, everything is fine, and we order food. Seemed like she was a bit hungover and overstimulated. Kept complaining about the table adjacent to us and I could tell she was inside her head at this point. Wings come out and she picks at them, maybe ate two at max.

Obviously Gem did not like the wings, but she was familiar with the venue we were at. Not a new spot to try food. So, I make a suggestion for a different bar, and we go there. Still inside her head, but the environment is a bit quieter. Overall, we were out probably 3.5 hours and played darts etc. I paid for the food at the first bar. Gem orders a small pizza later, which she stated she will pay for since she didn't eat the wings. Once again, she picks at the pizza and did not eat most of it nor did Gem get a to-go box, odd.

Gem texted me she made it home and went ghost. Kept watching my stories so after about 7 days I just removed her. Told you it was hot air from the beginning. If someone isn't interested that's fine, however, I don't allow folks who ghost to lurk on my content.

The whole date was weird though, she was not present at all. Lol this is why I don't get too involved with heavy water placements. Feelings are facts in their world. I should have just canceled after the intial comment to push the time back. She wasn't in the correct head-space and it's one of those things where the other person becomes a causality.

I should note that I did kiss Gem at the end of the date to see if she was interested. She did return the kiss and initated tongue. didn't hear from her after that 😂.

Not sure if that's "moving too fast" but I just wanted to check if she would reject a kiss. I try to be self-aware and I don't think I did anything strange in this situation. It just seemed like a personal thing going on with her. I personally wouldn't spend almost 4 hours with someone I'm flat out not interested in. She should have called it after the first bar if that's the case.

Welp, there that goes

Idk how I feel about you testing her with a kiss just to see what would happen.

That does indeed sound a bit immature you know.

Posted by DMV
Idk how I feel about you testing her with a kiss just to see what would happen.

That does indeed sound a bit immature you know.

It's not immature, it lets you know where you stand. If you get the cheek, then typically she's not attracted to you or there's a control thing going on. It's a peck, I wasn't undressing her in the parking lot.

Anyway, who knows. I do know that Gem's are not the ones you chase after.

You removed her on social media for no reason lol

you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol

you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.

We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.

I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.

We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.

I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.

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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest

pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”

You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest

pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”

You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?

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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.

Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't need to be accessible to everyone. If she wants to chat, she has my number. No peeking to see what I'm up to.

Actions > words.

Posted by Bumboklaat
Didn't read much into it but I saw she has Scorpio Moon with Gemini Sun. Yikes, she's gonna need control. Not good for long term, maybe just a fling.

Scorpio moons are for Taurus energy that can handle it.

Don't know her well enough that. But IMO, Gem & water energy is chaotic. I think of 50 cent & Future lol.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.

Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Actions > words.

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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.

I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.

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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.

I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!

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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.

Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.

What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.

I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.

People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.

Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.

One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.

Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.

She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.

Same shit.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!

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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.

Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.

What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.

I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.

People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.

Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.

One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.

Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.

She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.

Same shit.

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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.

As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.

Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*

Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!

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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.

Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.

What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.

I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.

People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.

Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.

One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.

Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.

She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.

Same shit.

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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.

As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.

Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*

Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.

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You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!

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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.

Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.

What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.

I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.

People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.

Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.

One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.

Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.

She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.

Same shit.

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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.

As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.

Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*

Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.

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You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.

Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't need to be accessible to everyone. If she wants to chat, she has my number. No peeking to see what I'm up to.

Actions > words.

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I’m confused.

Who played a stupid game and won a stupid prize?

Initially, you said you were worried that she was coming on too strong love bombing you and now you say you’re getting breads crumbs.

The answer is NOT clear.

You’ve yet to talk and communicate with her

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!
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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.
Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.
What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.
I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.
People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.
Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.
One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.
Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.
She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.
Same shit.
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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.

As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.

Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*

Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.

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I’m not socially inept, I’m just not wasting my time with her.

Like I mentioned already I removed her the other week. Tonight, she popped up on my story. Meaning, she actually typed my name in to find me.

You don’t find that odd? This is the definition of breadcrumbing.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't need to be accessible to everyone. If she wants to chat, she has my number. No peeking to see what I'm up to.
Actions > words.

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I’m confused.

Who played a stupid game and won a stupid prize?

Initially, you said you were worried that she was coming on too strong love bombing you and now you say you’re getting breads crumbs.

The answer is NOT clear.

You’ve yet to talk and communicate with her

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She did come on strong which was concerning to me. She then does a complete pullback and is bread crumbing by looking at my stories and we don’t follow each other.

Doing all of this instead of just replying to the message.

These are games and I don’t play games. I’m not going to block her or anything, she just doesn’t exist now.

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!
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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.
Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.
What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.
I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.
People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.
Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.
One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.
Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.
She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.
Same shit.
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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.
As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.
Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*
Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.
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I’m not socially inept, I’m just not wasting my time with her.

Like I mentioned already I removed her the other week. Tonight, she popped up on my story. Meaning, she actually typed my name in to find me.

You don’t find that odd? This is the definition of breadcrumbing.

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You are socially inept and the mere fact that you can’t even acknowledge that illustrates my

Point that you’re highly egoistic too, which is detrimental to your approach to romantic pursuits. Did you communicate? Nope. People who don’t know how to communicate = socially inept. You can justify it however you want (e.g I don’t wanna waste my time…) Fact of the matter is you don’t definitively know what happened here as you nor her communicated. It’s all speculation based on your assumption.

If she’s looking you up, she’s interested. You sabotaged yourself! Congrats. Seeking people out = interest! How strong? We will never know because charming Libra never communicated. Your guard is up and for that reason you aren’t letting loose and taking things personally. If she didn’t message after the date, why didn’t you message her?

She pulled back because she realized she was putting in all the work and wants to see you HUNT after her.

Have you ever played the hunter role? I ask because usually Libra and Taurus placements don’t hunt very much.

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She pulled back because she realized she was putting in all the work and wants to see you HUNT after her.

Have you ever played the hunter role? I ask because usually Libra and Taurus placements don’t hunt very much.

True! Unless they have fire moons. It’s like I’ll go along with whatever the other person wants. I’m gonna take he’s guarded and letting his insouciance dictate his behaviour. It doesn’t come across as cool but rather lukewarm interest.

What he’s doing is an Aquarius moon thing. They are guarded and paranoid at the beginning. Everything is suspicious because they have high walls that need to be broken down. Aqua moons don’t want to get hurt. The littlest thing is perceived as disrespect. Mind you, I still think his interest in her was lukewarm otherwise even the most aloof take charge. It’s a male hunter thing. Modern men only behave this way, against their nature, when the woman isn’t all that.

Very true! If he were really interested, even the most shy and aloof will still hunt

Very very true

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Posted by KimboSlice
You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!
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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.
Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.
What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.
I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.
People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.
Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.
One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.
Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.
She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.
Same shit.
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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.
As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.
Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*
Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.
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I’m not socially inept, I’m just not wasting my time with her.
Like I mentioned already I removed her the other week. Tonight, she popped up on my story. Meaning, she actually typed my name in to find me.
You don’t find that odd? This is the definition of breadcrumbing.
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You are socially inept and the mere fact that you can’t even acknowledge that illustrates my

Point that you’re highly egoistic too, which is detrimental to your approach to romantic pursuits. Did you communicate? Nope. People who don’t know how to communicate = socially inept. You can justify it however you want (e.g I don’t wanna waste my time…) Fact of the matter is you don’t definitively know what happened here as you nor her communicated. It’s all speculation based on your assumption.

If she’s looking you up, she’s interested. You sabotaged yourself! Congrats. Seeking people out = interest! How strong? We will never know because charming Libra never communicated. Your guard is up and for that reason you aren’t letting loose and taking things personally. If she didn’t message after the date, why didn’t you message her?

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.

A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

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You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!
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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.
Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.
What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.
I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.
People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.
Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.
One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.
Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.
She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.
Same shit.
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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.
As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.
Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*
Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.
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I’m not socially inept, I’m just not wasting my time with her.
Like I mentioned already I removed her the other week. Tonight, she popped up on my story. Meaning, she actually typed my name in to find me.
You don’t find that odd? This is the definition of breadcrumbing.
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You are socially inept and the mere fact that you can’t even acknowledge that illustrates my
Point that you’re highly egoistic too, which is detrimental to your approach to romantic pursuits. Did you communicate? Nope. People who don’t know how to communicate = socially inept. You can justify it however you want (e.g I don’t wanna waste my time…) Fact of the matter is you don’t definitively know what happened here as you nor her communicated. It’s all speculation based on your assumption.
If she’s looking you up, she’s interested. You sabotaged yourself! Congrats. Seeking people out = interest! How strong? We will never know because charming Libra never communicated. Your guard is up and for that reason you aren’t letting loose and taking things personally. If she didn’t message after the date, why didn’t you message her?
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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.

A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

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So many assumptions and nothing confirmed. Let me ask you a simple question: how much did you like her on a scale of 1-10?

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She pulled back because she realized she was putting in all the work and wants to see you HUNT after her.

Have you ever played the hunter role? I ask because usually Libra and Taurus placements don’t hunt very much.

Lmao women always say this and it never works out for men.

She didn’t plan any dates. Putting in work is NOT texting someone or responding to them.

Men hunting after women is a myth. No progress is made if she’s not interested in the first place. She HAS to like you first.

Now there’s some interest on Gem’s end. However it is not enough for her to reach out currently. She’s behaving like a Scorpio and observing.

Interest fluctuates and she could reach out or maybe not. Who knows. I’ve done my part, I’ve taken her out multiple times and initiated a kiss. If that’s not enough for her to respond then, sorry. On to the next.

I don’t chase women who don’t reciprocate.

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You removed her on social media for no reason lol
you don't only seem immature, but insecure as well. You kissed her to save your own pride and then deleted her on social media for watching your stories but not reaching out?

She didn't reply after a week. What is the purpose of keeping her on my page? It's not petty, she just serves no purpose if we have no contact with each other. I've kept woman on my page before and it changes absolutely nothing other than them seeking to be nosey or you're another click during the daily spree of scrolling. You're acting like I blocked her.
We aren't friends, no mutual friends and there's no interest romantically. So, remind me of why I should keep her? Give me a break, I met her online. We don't owe each other anything.
I kissed her because she was indifferent during the date. This isn't rocket science.
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Pay attention to Kimbo’s advice. You’re doing the double air sign thing where you are in your head and closed off, so you take the slightest
pull back from the other person as disrespect. As much as you want to deflect blame that she’s a water sign and in her feelings, you’re in your head. Damn shame! You’re a sign of communication yet none of that happened. You know how you’re openly writing here what you felt and what you were doing for what reason. Why didn’t say that to her? “Hey, I feel confused. Are you into me? I can’t gauge you?” If after the kiss she wasn’t reaching out, you could have done that and made a coy remark, “hey is this it? Are we done?”
You are insecure of rejection and extremely prideful too, which makes you take rejection very personally, why else is the Libra charm and communication missing?
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I didn’t chase because no reply is a reply. I don’t see how asking someone “do you like me” isn’t the pinnacle of insecurity.
Gem had no issues communicating prior and did an entire pull-back. I’m not upset at her or quite frankly confused because the answer clear. She's breadcrumbing. Someone legitimately not interested wouldn't even bother monitoring your social media or they would say "hey, I don't feel a connection, but I wish you the best."
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Actions > words.
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Yes, I agree that actions speak louder than words. However, actions can be misinterpreted that’s why we were given a tongue. This generation is socially inept as evident in both your actions. Where is the goddamn communication? Stop being egoistic and accept that you didn’t communicate. You just went onto interpret the action based on the narrative that was in your head.
I’m going to tell you a story to elucidate my point. When I was younger I was painfully shy and didn’t even know it until I had my date with my Libra dude. On our first date, my body was freezing on its own. I couldn’t help it and out of embarrassment I avoided looking at my Libra guy. Had he not explicitly asked me “listen I can’t tell if you like me. I feel like you don’t.” I answered and explained what was happening with me.” Thanks to our open communication we went onto date for a year. Had he not asked me and assumed what he saw my behaviour as, we’d go nowhere! You’re being given solid advice. Don’t be stubborn and take it so you can do better next time. This is coming from someone who used to be like you!
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I understand what you're saying. I'm not reacting like this out of stubbornness though, this isn't my first rodeo. She did not behave like this on our first date. I understand the need for reciprocity and there were no communication barriers prior to the Halloween party.
Are there some assumptions being made? Sure.
What I can tell you is that she halted all communication and effort after that day. Could be an issue with me, could be she's just not ready to date. She wasn't clear on her intentions.
I know I could have fished and asked questions. The sudden coldness was an answer to me because she had been pretty warm prior. She's also 37, so I can't compare her to the scenario you provided.
People who display this type of behavior leave the door open to come back often. She could have easily said she didn't see this working out and chose not to.
Shyness? no, she tongue kissed me. Sounds more like confliction.
One of my Gem friends had a scenario similiar to this. I met the chick, idk what sign she was though. Very cordial and seemed nice. They went on about 4-5 dates and she had invited him to visit Brazil for Carnival (invited him by date 3, then he invited a few friends). I thought it was odd, but he was excited.
Well, she fell off the face of the earth and he sent her a Happy NYE text. No reply.
She replies MLK weekend and says she didn't see the text. No mention of the trip and didn't even say where she had been. He showed me the messages and I affirmed he shouldn't reply. He agreed he wasn't going to.
Same shit.
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I get that people use ghosting to revive themselves from the dead. I rather force them to get a definitive response, so everyone can rest in peace. There’s no revisitation either at that point.
As for your friend, again, no reply is such a cowards way out. It is also a tactic to keep the back door open. I had someone do that to me, when they came back I simply, “you ghosted me. I didn’t appreciate that rudeness. Don’t ever message me again.” The person was reprimanded and dismissed. When did men and women become such pussies? Sometimes I think it’s a way to not look like the bad guy/girl or it’s to keep the back door open for drought season.
Use your mouth to clearly communicate whether or not the woman is doing that. It’s all about you wanting to know where you stand. Trust me, it’s very attractive to both gender when you are confident and communicate! Without communication, everyone’s life is a soap opera *guy furious in the corner* *girl complaining with her friends*
Also age has got nothing to do with maturity. She’s a 37 yr and socially inept, but then so are you.
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I’m not socially inept, I’m just not wasting my time with her.
Like I mentioned already I removed her the other week. Tonight, she popped up on my story. Meaning, she actually typed my name in to find me.
You don’t find that odd? This is the definition of breadcrumbing.
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You are socially inept and the mere fact that you can’t even acknowledge that illustrates my
Point that you’re highly egoistic too, which is detrimental to your approach to romantic pursuits. Did you communicate? Nope. People who don’t know how to communicate = socially inept. You can justify it however you want (e.g I don’t wanna waste my time…) Fact of the matter is you don’t definitively know what happened here as you nor her communicated. It’s all speculation based on your assumption.
If she’s looking you up, she’s interested. You sabotaged yourself! Congrats. Seeking people out = interest! How strong? We will never know because charming Libra never communicated. Your guard is up and for that reason you aren’t letting loose and taking things personally. If she didn’t message after the date, why didn’t you message her?
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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.
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So many assumptions and nothing confirmed. Let me ask you a simple question: how much did you like her on a scale of 1-10?

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Looks wise, she’s probably an 8-8.5 for her age bracket.

As a person, maybe a 6. The immediate infatuation thing was odd and she doesn’t really have a lot of women as friends. Mainly men.

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All the Scorpio moons digging into you for not dropping down to their level and feeding into their toxic nature lol.

Merge souls in an all encompassing euphoria and find out about the darkest side of yourself

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.

A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.

“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.

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She pulled back because she realized she was putting in all the work and wants to see you HUNT after her.
Have you ever played the hunter role? I ask because usually Libra and Taurus placements don’t hunt very much.

Lmao women always say this and it never works out for men.

She didn’t plan any dates. Putting in work is NOT texting someone or responding to them.

Men hunting after women is a myth. No progress is made if she’s not interested in the first place. She HAS to like you first.

Now there’s some interest on Gem’s end. However it is not enough for her to reach out currently. She’s behaving like a Scorpio and observing.

Interest fluctuates and she could reach out or maybe not. Who knows. I’ve done my part, I’ve taken her out multiple times and initiated a kiss. If that’s not enough for her to respond then, sorry. On to the next.

I don’t chase women who don’t reciprocate.

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Absolutely not a myth.

When a man is interested, there is no stopping him.

He will do whatever to be in her energy.

I’ve experienced it with a sag, taurus, Aries, Libra

When men like what they see, baby…ain’t no stopping it

If she reaches out, she’ll be back in the same ol unfulfilling cycle with you…constantly reaching out, taking the lead, secretly wanting to be swept off her feet, wanting a passionate crazy romance but not getting it.

She wants a silly passionate cat and mouse game that always ends with soul merging intimacy .

You’re dug in your heels for some odd reason

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.

“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.

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You're taking this too serious. I don't need to be a "passport bro". I made a reference that her ego is just bruised because she made zero effort to reach out and would rather stalk at this point.

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She pulled back because she realized she was putting in all the work and wants to see you HUNT after her.
Have you ever played the hunter role? I ask because usually Libra and Taurus placements don’t hunt very much.

Lmao women always say this and it never works out for men.
She didn’t plan any dates. Putting in work is NOT texting someone or responding to them.
Men hunting after women is a myth. No progress is made if she’s not interested in the first place. She HAS to like you first.
Now there’s some interest on Gem’s end. However it is not enough for her to reach out currently. She’s behaving like a Scorpio and observing.
Interest fluctuates and she could reach out or maybe not. Who knows. I’ve done my part, I’ve taken her out multiple times and initiated a kiss. If that’s not enough for her to respond then, sorry. On to the next.
I don’t chase women who don’t reciprocate.
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Absolutely not a myth.

When a man is interested, there is no stopping him.

He will do whatever to be in her energy.

I’ve experienced it with a sag, taurus, Aries, Libra

When men like what they see, baby…ain’t no stopping it

If she reaches out, she’ll be back in the same ol unfulfilling cycle with you…constantly reaching out, taking the lead, secretly wanting to be swept off her feet, wanting a passionate crazy romance but not getting it.

She wants a silly passionate cat and mouse game that always ends with soul merging intimacy .

You’re dug in your heels for some odd reason

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So the man is the leader that proves himself by chasing after a woman and with unrelenting passion wins her over?

Sounds like a Disney movie or someone that wasn't interested to begin with. The birth-rates and relationship dynamics have changed because women control those things.

I can tell from the things you’re assessing in a person from the beginning that you don’t date for fun. For you, it’s serious and you want to consider catches good for long-term relationship.Having lots of male friends (things a person male/female wouldn’t concern themselves with when they are just looking to have a good time, get laid or just go with the flow.

While it’s nice that you date seriously and with intent, there some things that are problematic with this approach, especially in today’s world. I suggest you get out of your head and go with the flow. I know it’s easier said than done for Aqua moons. I say this is problematic because:

1.You’re projecting your level of seriousness or your style of dating on the other person. For example, this is the beginning and you have no business concerning yourself with how many men she’s talking to and how she’s staying busy. The John in her DM shouldn’t even cross your mind unless you were exclusive. The fact that you did think that is the entitlement that she should be exclusively talking to you. Nope! If she’s the only woman you’re talking to, then that’s your prerogative but you can’t force the same on her. If that is something you need to engage a woman, then you need to say that to her. “I only date women who are solely focused on me rather than having their hands in so many pots.”

2. When your level of seriousness is not matched, you feel slighted/disrespected. You can’t be butthurt over one-sided expectations which you didn’t even COMMUNICATE. I’ll cut you some slack if you bothered to mention to her that you like to date 1 person at a time and prefer the same from the other person. Let them decide if they want that or not.

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.
“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.
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You're taking this too serious. I don't need to be a "passport bro". I made a reference that her ego is just bruised because she made zero effort to reach out and would rather stalk at this point.

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Your passport already has South American stamps though lol

It’s not too late to smarten up with other options. You’re done with that chick. She is stalking you because she watched your stories? Haha I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, assume that’s hyperbole. She’s just being a normal woman going about her business, you’re the one who has their ego bruised kiddo.

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.
“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.
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You're taking this too serious. I don't need to be a "passport bro". I made a reference that her ego is just bruised because she made zero effort to reach out and would rather stalk at this point.

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It’s called taking an initiative. Why are you seeing that as you chasing her? Would it be the end of the world if you messaged her after seeing her stalking your stories? She was giving you bat signals to take charge and there you were thinking with your ego “why don’t you message me?” This is soooo juvenile and pathetic. I really need to know your age as well. In her actions I’m seeing interest but she’s being coy now. You on the other hand wanted her to be straight forward, which you doubted when she was love bombing. She love bombs (shows excessive interest) and you become suspicious. She tones it down and you feel like she’s breadcrumbing. There’s no winning with you.

You are self-sabotaging and are the problem. You have ample people telling you this here so pay heed. If you don’t want to take constructive criticism, then why post your thing here? I talked to a Libra sun, Aqua moon dude two yrs ago and he behaved a lot like you. He self-sabotaged because of his one-sided expectations that I knew nothing about and his egoistic assumptions. He was such an egomaniac and that’s what you’re coming across to her.

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I can tell from the things you’re assessing in a person from the beginning that you don’t date for fun. For you, it’s serious and you want to consider catches good for long-term relationship.Having lots of male friends (things a person male/female wouldn’t concern themselves with when they are just looking to have a good time, get laid or just go with the flow.

While it’s nice that you date seriously and with intent, there some things that are problematic with this approach, especially in today’s world. I suggest you get out of your head and go with the flow. I know it’s easier said than done for Aqua moons. I say this is problematic because:

1.You’re projecting your level of seriousness or your style of dating on the other person. For example, this is the beginning and you have no business concerning yourself with how many men she’s talking to and how she’s staying busy. The John in her DM shouldn’t even cross your mind unless you were exclusive. The fact that you did think that is the entitlement that she should be exclusively talking to you. Nope! If she’s the only woman you’re talking to, then that’s your prerogative but you can’t force the same on her. If that is something you need to engage a woman, then you need to say that to her. “I only date women who are solely focused on me rather than having their hands in so many pots.”

2. When your level of seriousness is not matched, you feel slighted/disrespected. You can’t be butthurt over one-sided expectations which you didn’t even COMMUNICATE. I’ll cut you some slack if you bothered to mention to her that you like to date 1 person at a time and prefer the same from the other person. Let them decide if they want that or not.

I'm not trying to marry her or pin her down. While there can be a level of seriousness with a long-term prospective, I didn't place her in that category. She's unclear of what she wants. I don't mind casual, I just do not do confusion and that's what this is.

She's not the only person I'm dating and I'm not losing sleep over her. What I'm saying is, I just do not like her coming on strong and then ghosting. Casual doesn't equal ghosting either. There's still communication there and you link up when both parties are free. The John thing was just a reference y'all are taking too serious. I just mentioned I'm sure other men are reaching out to her, but she's worried about someone who unfollowed her and that she didn't respond too.

Ghosting has become a common phenomenon at this point, so I took the liberty to remove her and we part ways. Well, now she's back again but there's still radio silence. That's playing games and for Christ sake, I know I can reach out and ask what's going on. Judging by her actions, it'll be some BS excuse, or she's been really busy etc.

Why enable that behavior? She's the one who did not respond so she will be the one to reach out. That's how the dynamic should work. I'm not cleaning up her mess and this applies to anyone who breaks-off a relationship etc.

Yall defending a ghoster is wild. She knows why she didn’t respond, not me. That responsibility should not be put on me to seek that answer out anyway.

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.
“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.
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You're taking this too serious. I don't need to be a "passport bro". I made a reference that her ego is just bruised because she made zero effort to reach out and would rather stalk at this point.
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Your passport already has South American stamps though lol

It’s not too late to smarten up with other options. You’re done with that chick. She is stalking you because she watched your stories? Haha I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, assume that’s hyperbole. She’s just being a normal woman going about her business, you’re the one who has their ego bruised kiddo.

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I didn't go there for women. We went for the carnival and one of my friend's has family there.

No, we do not follow each other and she's still watching them.

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Her looking me up is not a sign of interest, it's her ego. She's curious as to why I'm not chasing her but John in her DMs won't leave her alone probably. My Gem ex used to do this after an argument. Some time passes and she would attempt to show face by waiting until I post, and she pops up. I would ignore that and eventually she reached out, like adults should do.
A sign of interest is actually reaching out to chat. She doesn't need to "ask me out" or anything ridiculous. This is just seeking a reaction.

How old are you man lol. Why are you worried about John in her DMs when you were never exclusive. Either you got a case of cuck brain or you are unreasonably entitled. It’s always a numbers game with dating. She was clearly rocking with you since she returned the kiss and kept an eye on you.
“At least I didn’t block her” you might as well just lose her number at this point too, even if you’re operating on bad faith. It would be wishful thinking on your part if you think she’ll reach out. Probably dries up when she thinks about you now. Women (especially older) can tell the difference between a man staying busy living his life and a hurt little boy. Remember that or you’ll be a passport bro your whole life.
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You're taking this too serious. I don't need to be a "passport bro". I made a reference that her ego is just bruised because she made zero effort to reach out and would rather stalk at this point.
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Your passport already has South American stamps though lol
It’s not too late to smarten up with other options. You’re done with that chick. She is stalking you because she watched your stories? Haha I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, assume that’s hyperbole. She’s just being a normal woman going about her business, you’re the one who has their ego bruised kiddo.
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I didn't go there for women. We went for the carnival and one of my friend's has family there.

No, we do not follow each other and she's still watching them.

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Oh so you have Brazil stamped too, I’m talking about that trip to Colombia you openly talked about surviving. Your friends have family there too I guess lol.

I believe you Libra 👌

She ghosted because she’s doing all the emotional labor