Virgo Moons

My husband is a Virgo Moon (Sag Sun, Cancer Rising, Aries Mars) and we get into these awful arguments sometimes when he is critical and negative. My Libra Moon (Aries Sun, Sag Rising, Cap Mars) feels his criticisms are unfair and unjustified most of the time, so I will attempt to stand up for myself.

For example, he asked me the day before yesterday to make schnitzel, cucumber salad, chicken soup, and a cheesecake made with cottage cheese via a TikTok recipe he found (it was pretty good considering cottage cheese but we think it’s more like a flan than a cheesecake). I had the day off yesterday so I spent half the day grocery shopping and making all the dishes (they turned out really damn well too, if I do say so myself) and he loved them all. In bed that night, he says he needs to start eating healthy to lose weight and made a comment that because of the environment, it’s difficult for him to lose weight. He has blamed me in the past for gaining weight (I have a higher metabolism and snack a lot. I’ve since been hiding my snacks). We argue about the fact that he asked me to make him that dinner and also on the healthiness of schnitzel (I used avocado oil and the schnitzel is really thin, idk I don’t think it’s as bad as all the carbs in a whole tarte d’alsace, which he had the other day). He ended up sleeping in his office and we both didn’t get good sleep but said sorry the next morning and carried on LOL.

How can I try to defuse situations like these where we both can get heated? We are both very stubborn with a need to be right. Although, my need to be right is based on fairness but maybe that’s a Libra thing to say lol!

lol I have a Sag Virgo Moon man, and he also blames me for his food choices. But we disagree on mozzarella cheese sticks being healthy, because he has a hard time digesting it, but also can't say no if its in the fridge. So I keep buying it 😉

We don't fight for real often tho, mostly yell at each other in a healthy way.

We are in our 40's now, but I do know there is no way in hell we would have made if we were together when we were younger. And I attribute this to me being damn near close to 100% in being secure with who I am.

He can be so blunt and obstinate with his opinions, and sometimes they are personal towards me. But I don't take that shit personal anymore, because I don't own or take on his opinions. I just take it as some silly thing he said that day.

I will say my dude is one of the most humble people I know, and jokes really diffuse things for us. Doesn't sound like the case for yours.

We did get in a semi-serious fight 2 days ago, where we didn't talk to each other all day, having to actively ignore each other because we both work from home. But after like 7 hours I made him kiss me, and we were happy to talk to each other again.

That's a weird way of showing someone who's done something nice for you appreciation. 🥴

Posted by Happenstance
My husband is a Virgo Moon (Sag Sun, Cancer Rising, Aries Mars) and we get into these awful arguments sometimes when he is critical and negative. My Libra Moon (Aries Sun, Sag Rising, Cap Mars) feels his criticisms are unfair and unjustified most of the time, so I will attempt to stand up for myself.

For example, he asked me the day before yesterday to make schnitzel, cucumber salad, chicken soup, and a cheesecake made with cottage cheese via a TikTok recipe he found (it was pretty good considering cottage cheese but we think it’s more like a flan than a cheesecake). I had the day off yesterday so I spent half the day grocery shopping and making all the dishes (they turned out really damn well too, if I do say so myself) and he loved them all. In bed that night, he says he needs to start eating healthy to lose weight and made a comment that because of the environment, it’s difficult for him to lose weight. He has blamed me in the past for gaining weight (I have a higher metabolism and snack a lot. I’ve since been hiding my snacks). We argue about the fact that he asked me to make him that dinner and also on the healthiness of schnitzel (I used avocado oil and the schnitzel is really thin, idk I don’t think it’s as bad as all the carbs in a whole tarte d’alsace, which he had the other day). He ended up sleeping in his office and we both didn’t get good sleep but said sorry the next morning and carried on LOL.

How can I try to defuse situations like these where we both can get heated? We are both very stubborn with a need to be right. Although, my need to be right is based on fairness but maybe that’s a Libra thing to say lol!

🙂Ok this is right up my alley. I've delt with this as someone with virgo tendances with someone with strong libra characteristics. This is a communication problem.

Give me his full placements. Houses too.

Same with you. For more detailed understanding.

With just whst you said here,

I can tell you right now, there is a very high chance this was not a personal attack nor blaming you. Sags tend to shrug things off. He is just tactless in his delivery to you, which you found offensive. Hmm feeling a certain way about the past has no bearing on how he feels about it towards you. Sags w/virgo let things go, but the way they complain/vent/rant can be annoying as hell, because once again tactless/thoughtless.

I can not stress this enough with sensitive types with string libras.

"It's not what you say but how you say it that matters."

This was such a eye opener with my libra friend, I had no idea how I what I said was coming off to her until she blow up on me. Which hurt my feelings as well because she was aqusing me of something that just wasn’t true. That hurt because I had just assumed she knew and understood me. I took it personal in my own way, because i would never do that to her, it's against who I am and intentions. It was a eye opener how I saw coming off to her.

We both started saying " what do you mean?"

World of difference now.



Your married, Im suprised you guys haven't already figured this out together. When he says something that rubs you the wrong way, ask to clarify what he means. Also tell him how you took it the first time around. Ask questions.

Remember the issue isn't a personal on rather about communication. Both of you need to change how you communicate witj each other.

P.S Lol many married people develop thier own code so to speak. Ive even seen some litterally have silent communication wih just trading facial expressions 🤣

Pay more attention to each other, never stop learning and learning about each other and your relationship. We all change and shift over time as through life. Keep learning and trying with each other. Thats the key to success.

Ah Virgo moons! My daughter is one & my ex boyfriend too. They both really hide their feelings and tend to not deal with them unless forced. My daughter & I really clash sometimes. Her therapist when she was younger told us to walk away when heated and come back when you can talk about things calmly. It really does help! She has gotten so much better with communication after lots of trying. But if she’s feeling attacked and not safe she will go into that hide feelings thing. Yes she can be critical but also very loving. We do have arguments but we are very close too & call each other out lol I’m an air moon. Boyfriend was far more difficult but very sensitive and not dealing either, but he is a lot of earth. I think you too need to get better with the communication, it really makes a difference.

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Posted by Happenstance
My husband is a Virgo Moon (Sag Sun, Cancer Rising, Aries Mars) and we get into these awful arguments sometimes when he is critical and negative. My Libra Moon (Aries Sun, Sag Rising, Cap Mars) feels his criticisms are unfair and unjustified most of the time, so I will attempt to stand up for myself.
For example, he asked me the day before yesterday to make schnitzel, cucumber salad, chicken soup, and a cheesecake made with cottage cheese via a TikTok recipe he found (it was pretty good considering cottage cheese but we think it’s more like a flan than a cheesecake). I had the day off yesterday so I spent half the day grocery shopping and making all the dishes (they turned out really damn well too, if I do say so myself) and he loved them all. In bed that night, he says he needs to start eating healthy to lose weight and made a comment that because of the environment, it’s difficult for him to lose weight. He has blamed me in the past for gaining weight (I have a higher metabolism and snack a lot. I’ve since been hiding my snacks). We argue about the fact that he asked me to make him that dinner and also on the healthiness of schnitzel (I used avocado oil and the schnitzel is really thin, idk I don’t think it’s as bad as all the carbs in a whole tarte d’alsace, which he had the other day). He ended up sleeping in his office and we both didn’t get good sleep but said sorry the next morning and carried on LOL.
How can I try to defuse situations like these where we both can get heated? We are both very stubborn with a need to be right. Although, my need to be right is based on fairness but maybe that’s a Libra thing to say lol!

🙂Ok this is right up my alley. I've delt with this as someone with virgo tendances with someone with strong libra characteristics. This is a communication problem.

Give me his full placements. Houses too.

Same with you. For more detailed understanding.

With just whst you said here,

I can tell you right now, there is a very high chance this was not a personal attack nor blaming you. Sags tend to shrug things off. He is just tactless in his delivery to you, which you found offensive. Hmm feeling a certain way about the past has no bearing on how he feels about it towards you. Sags w/virgo let things go, but the way they complain/vent/rant can be annoying as hell, because once again tactless/thoughtless.

I can not stress this enough with sensitive types with string libras.

"It's not what you say but how you say it that matters."

This was such a eye opener with my libra friend, I had no idea how I what I said was coming off to her until she blow up on me. Which hurt my feelings as well because she was aqusing me of something that just wasn’t true. That hurt because I had just assumed she knew and understood me. I took it personal in my own way, because i would never do that to her, it's against who I am and intentions. It was a eye opener how I saw coming off to her.

We both started saying " what do you mean?"

World of difference now.


Your married, Im suprised you guys haven't already figured this out together. When he says something that rubs you the wrong way, ask to clarify what he means. Also tell him how you took it the first time around. Ask questions.

Remember the issue isn't a personal on rather about communication. Both of you need to change how you communicate witj each other.

P.S Lol many married people develop thier own code so to speak. Ive even seen some litterally have silent communication wih just trading facial expressions 🤣

Pay more attention to each other, never stop learning and learning about each other and your relationship. We all change and shift over time as through life. Keep learning and trying with each other. Thats the key to success.

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This is so helpful! Thank you so much.

Would it be easier if I gave you our birth details?

Me: April 2, 1988

Location: Fullerton, California

Time: 23:36

Husband: December 1, 1988

Location: Beverly Hills, California

Time: 18:15

Yeah we realized we have major communication issues and have our first couple’s therapy appointment next Monday yay! We have been married for six months now and were dating for three years before that. He is brash, domineering, direct and I am more gentle, sensitive, and considerate. Most of the time, we get on but usually around my period my tolerance goes way down so that’s when we bicker most lol!

Thank you for the suggestion to ask questions, I think that will help me a lot. Especially “what do you mean?”

Sagittarius and Virgo are the two most critical signs in the zodiac. Yes! be prepared to get your feeling hurt especially if you are a water sign.

Wow this is like deja vu for me. My ex has a Virgo Mercury, Venus and Mars and he exhibited a lot of these traits. So very critical, non emotional, always right, starting arguments for no reason etc. I remember him getting angry and saying some really hurtful things and then the next day he’d be fine and back to normal. I learned real quick when he got angry to just leave him be and make myself as invisible as possible…..let him stew on his own and then he would come back ready to talk. Trying to talk him down in the heat of the moment was like throwing gasoline on a fire. I remember one night right after we first got into a relationship….we were in bed and he said something that really hurt my feelings. After he fell asleep I left the room quietly, laid on the couch and just cried. He woke up and found me on the couch. He had no idea that what he said hurt my feelings and did apologize. I had to learn that’s just how he was. Took some getting used to. If anything good came out of that relationship I guess it was that it caused me to grow a thicker skin! lol

I have a Virgo moon, so I get the criticism thing. I wonder if other things come into play though. You’re both fire signs. I’m married to an Aries so I know they get heated but let it go soon after. Sagittarius is too stubborn for words, which is NOT a good thing. The only ones who have them beat are Taurus and Aquarius, two other signs known for being stubborn to the point of stupidity.

Virgo will rationalize anything so it’s in their favor. I see it in myself, then I tell myself to “shut up” and “grow up.” If he ever blames you for his weight, diet, anything, remind him he is a grown man and no one forces him to do anything he doesn’t want to. This may never work though. I knew a Virgo sun with a Sag moon and, even with that kind of logic, he’d still find a way to blame everyone else.

Nevertheless, Virgo can be fair and see where they’re wrong. The best thing to do is appeal to them with logic in a way that Virgo will understand. Like; “Hey man, you did it to yourself.” Or “if I make this meal for you, I don’t wanna hear you complaining about your weight or diet, or that you ate too much. If you’re that concerned I’ll fix you a glass of water instead!”

I wonder though, he has mars in Aries and you are an Aries sun. Are either of those conjunct one another?

My mom is a Virgo moon. Don't feed into their emotional tantrums. Have some thick skin and walk away.. Eventually they'll cave in and realize what they said was wrong.

Have you tried playing competitive sports together?

@hatemenowIloveit this girl's man has the same sun and moon as yours. Seems like a common theme with the criticism.

Probably the most annoying Moon sign out of all of the zodiac. I can't stand them.........criticize, yap, yap, yap, yap,yap, talks a big game but never backs it up. I know people try to get a Libras for being ''all talk'' but Sun and Moon in Virgos are the king of all talk. They are never truly asleep. They are 100% alert when asleep. It's the mecurial thing like Gemini. Probably the most annoying Moon sign especially when it is accompanied with a Sun in Sagittarius in their chart. That is a Sun square Moon. The pessimist.

I have Moon in Taurus with a Venus and Mars in Virgo and I can't stand Moon in Virgos. Pessimistic asf. They are the most annoying Moon sign.

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I have Moon in Taurus with a Venus and Mars in Virgo and I can't stand Moon in Virgos. Pessimistic asf. They are the most annoying Moon sign.

Actually no. The Gemini moon is the most annoying. Wish washy and flaky af. Worse than Gemini sun.

Virgo moon isn’t going to tell you anything you don’t deserve to hear. The delivery depends on the sun and the mercury placement, I think. We also don’t tell ourselves anything we don’t deserve. And when we’re wrong, we can take the “bollocking” on our own two feet. The only other moon that is more accurate, I think, is Aquarius moon. But they’re too busy going on about how their freedom and rights are being taken away because, God forbid, they have to go to work and earn a living like everyone else. Cry babies.

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Posted by VenusStellium7
I have Moon in Taurus with a Venus and Mars in Virgo and I can't stand Moon in Virgos. Pessimistic asf. They are the most annoying Moon sign.

Actually no. The Gemini moon is the most annoying. Wish washy and flaky af. Worse than Gemini sun.

Virgo moon isn’t going to tell you anything you don’t deserve to hear. The delivery depends on the sun and the mercury placement, I think. We also don’t tell ourselves anything we don’t deserve. And when we’re wrong, we can take the “bollocking” on our own two feet. The only other moon that is more accurate, I think, is Aquarius moon. But they’re too busy going on about how their freedom and rights are being taken away because, God forbid, they have to go to work and earn a living like everyone else. Cry babies.

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But dude right though. Under contrary, Virgo anything is bad. Actually no moon signs or just signs in general is all good and all bad. Unless you got a Taurus moon or Taurus anything then you can say you the greatest of them all.

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Posted by VenusStellium7
I have Moon in Taurus with a Venus and Mars in Virgo and I can't stand Moon in Virgos. Pessimistic asf. They are the most annoying Moon sign.

Actually no. The Gemini moon is the most annoying. Wish washy and flaky af. Worse than Gemini sun.

Virgo moon isn’t going to tell you anything you don’t deserve to hear. The delivery depends on the sun and the mercury placement, I think. We also don’t tell ourselves anything we don’t deserve. And when we’re wrong, we can take the “bollocking” on our own two feet. The only other moon that is more accurate, I think, is Aquarius moon. But they’re too busy going on about how their freedom and rights are being taken away because, God forbid, they have to go to work and earn a living like everyone else. Cry babies.

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Moon in Virgos are dreamkillers. They try to talk you into backing down on your goals and aspirations. This happened to me by 3 people I know who have Moon in Virgo. F*** people with Moon in Virgo. So then what happens? You're STUCK with these miserable people. You want a person who is a downer when they talk? Moon in Virgo. Being with these people is detrimental to your mental health and financial health. They prefer to be poor for the sake of ''being realistic''

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Posted by VenusStellium7
I have Moon in Taurus with a Venus and Mars in Virgo and I can't stand Moon in Virgos. Pessimistic asf. They are the most annoying Moon sign.

Actually no. The Gemini moon is the most annoying. Wish washy and flaky af. Worse than Gemini sun.
Virgo moon isn’t going to tell you anything you don’t deserve to hear. The delivery depends on the sun and the mercury placement, I think. We also don’t tell ourselves anything we don’t deserve. And when we’re wrong, we can take the “bollocking” on our own two feet. The only other moon that is more accurate, I think, is Aquarius moon. But they’re too busy going on about how their freedom and rights are being taken away because, God forbid, they have to go to work and earn a living like everyone else. Cry babies.

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Moon in Virgos are dreamkillers. They try to talk you into backing down on your goals and aspirations. This happened to me by 3 people I know who have Moon in Virgo. F*** people with Moon in Virgo. So then what happens? You're STUCK with these miserable people. You want a person who is a downer when they talk? Moon in Virgo.

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No one is stuck with ANYONE. Unless you’re a child, there’s always a way out.

Also, careful. You’ve got Venus in Virgo. Nothing to write home about. 👍

I’ve been surrounded by Virgo suns more than I’d like to count, which I think is worse than Virgo moons. They’re the biggest drama queens of the zodiac. Yes, even the men. And talk about someone trying to crush your dreams!

I learned a while ago to stand up to them and do what I need to do regardless. Knew a Taurus that was the same way. Two of them in fact. The first one was a pain in the ass. The second one was better. He cared, but eventually he was like, a problem solver. You wanted his help, no problem. You’d go to him, and he was all in. ALL.in. If you *JUST* wanted someone to commiserate with over how bad things were, not interested in bettering yourself, he’d politely tell you not to waste his time.

I loved it when he told one of our clients “you don’t need anyone’s permission to divorce your wife and break up your family. You don’t need hers. You certainly don’t need mine, and I wouldn’t give it to you anyway.

He had a Virgo moon. I loved that man.

I’m kinda the same way. I’m helpful if I know how to be. I’ve had colleagues and others come to me with problems needing guidance or help. After maybe two conversations, I can tell if the person is going to try and fix THEIR problem they came to ME with, or if they’re a hopeless case.

And when it’s the latter, I say “fuck this.” And I cease wasting my time with them.

Trust me, Gemini moon is a hopeless case. I’m dealing with two of these at work. One of them, the novelty of everything wears off after 5 minutes. I know they won’t follow through with anything. I highly recommended they go get another job. And then not long after, another one and another one. Till they figure out what tf they want to do with their life.

So, maybe that’s Virgo moons problem. We crush the dreams of those too immature to put the work in, too poor to fund it. Too impatient to put the work in necessary to grow something from the ground up. We use logic to try and help someone avoid disheartening circumstances and we come out like arrogant know it alls.

Or maybe that’s exactly what we are?

In any event, it’s your life dude. Learn to put the naysayers where they belong, and work hard for what you want. Or is it, “pray for what you want, but work for what you need…” ?

Well you get what I mean.

Posted by 81gems
I have a Virgo moon, so I get the criticism thing. I wonder if other things come into play though. You’re both fire signs. I’m married to an Aries so I know they get heated but let it go soon after. Sagittarius is too stubborn for words, which is NOT a good thing. The only ones who have them beat are Taurus and Aquarius, two other signs known for being stubborn to the point of stupidity.

Virgo will rationalize anything so it’s in their favor. I see it in myself, then I tell myself to “shut up” and “grow up.” If he ever blames you for his weight, diet, anything, remind him he is a grown man and no one forces him to do anything he doesn’t want to. This may never work though. I knew a Virgo sun with a Sag moon and, even with that kind of logic, he’d still find a way to blame everyone else.

Nevertheless, Virgo can be fair and see where they’re wrong. The best thing to do is appeal to them with logic in a way that Virgo will understand. Like; “Hey man, you did it to yourself.” Or “if I make this meal for you, I don’t wanna hear you complaining about your weight or diet, or that you ate too much. If you’re that concerned I’ll fix you a glass of water instead!”

I wonder though, he has mars in Aries and you are an Aries sun. Are either of those conjunct one another?

Oh I forgot about my post! I actually see that his Moon (Virgo) squares my Ascendant (Sagittarius) and his Mars squares my Saturn and Neptune but no aspects between our Mars/Sun.

I've noticed that the people I know who have Virgo Moons struggle with being overweight.

Having a Cap rising and Aries Moon ive attracted this moon throughout my life. Being a Cancer Sun it's been to my detriment as I am an emotional creature at my core.

The key with a Virgo Moon is you have to be their friend first. They are a lot more relaxed being themselves that way yet they are prone to jumping into relationships and changing their mind on you if you don't take your time with them. They will then surgically cut you off. This moon sign can handle being single and even raising a child alone so they are tough don't let it fool you.

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Having a Cap rising and Aries Moon ive attracted this moon throughout my life. Being a Cancer Sun it's been to my detriment as I am an emotional creature at my core.

The key with a Virgo Moon is you have to be their friend first. They are a lot more relaxed being themselves that way yet they are prone to jumping into relationships and changing their mind on you if you don't take your time with them. They will then surgically cut you off. This moon sign can handle being single and even raising a child alone so they are tough don't let it fool you.

I agree with the slow build in relationships, its because we care about depth. We are actually too emotional and allow every little feeling carry too much weight

Idk if its my Virgo Moon, but to me a Cancer’s emotions are too casual and not intentional