An Aquarius Man Friendzoned Me. Do I still have a chance?

Hello, I'm a Sagittarius woman and met an Aquarius man online a year ago. Four months into dating, he told me I am not the right fit for him and hopes that we can still hang out as friends. I've been hanging out with him as friends since then.

I still have feelings for him and am having a difficult time deciding if I should continue this friendship or let him go.

Am I just wasting my time?

Thank you for reading.

Posted by exxtasyx
I wouldn't continue the friendship at all. Maybe if you're out of his life he will realize he misses you and tries to initiate something with you. But being there and him telling you you're not the one for him automatically puts you and keeps you in the friendzone. Ever been in a situation where someone liked you and you ignored them and thought "ugh?" But then when they disappeared you thought, "hm, maybe I should have given him a chance." You need to pull the disappearing act and see what happens.

Thank you, exxtasyx. I know I need to distance myself from him and I haven't contacted him for two weeks.

It's just hard because I still feel attracted to him and he also admitted he's attracted to me at the time when he friendzoned me.

Posted by Lifepath8Pisces

Posted by Ikuta07
Hello, I'm a Sagittarius woman and met an Aquarius man online a year ago. Four months into dating, he told me I am not the right fit for him and hopes that we can still hang out as friends. I've been hanging out with him as friends since then.

I still have feelings for him and am having a difficult time deciding if I should continue this friendship or let him go.

Am I just wasting my time?

Thank you for reading.

Yes you still have a chance to take a nice date with you when he invites you to hang out, and then a few minutes later you tell him that it was nice to see him and that you and your new handsome man have to hang out by themselves. lol

He just wants to use you as another friend to hang out with, when the others are not around to hang out with.

Use some logic sweetie.

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Thank you, for your response, Lifepath8Pisces. Initially, I did wonder if he was using me as another friend to hang out with. I do believe he enjoys my company as much as I enjoy his whenever we hang out.

One time, I have asked him to help me with something, and he didn't hesitate and immediately got the task done for me. There were two other occasions when I needed to order/sell something online, and he immediately offered to help. I do appreciate the friendship, but my darn feelings are making it difficult for me.

Posted by Ikuta07
Hello, I'm a Sagittarius woman and met an Aquarius man online a year ago. Four months into dating, he told me I am not the right fit for him and hopes that we can still hang out as friends. I've been hanging out with him as friends since then.

I still have feelings for him and am having a difficult time deciding if I should continue this friendship or let him go.

Am I just wasting my time?

Thank you for reading.

*some* and i emphasize SOME...of these aqua guys dont know how to cut it off...

i was reading on sasstrology that aquarius among 6 other sun signs can't cut it off.....


only Scorpio, Libra, Capricorn, Gemini, and Pisces can CUT things off COLD.


of course it depends on the other placements/aspects/houses.

but aqua is NOT one of them unless they have heavy other placements...

after learning alot about astrology i thought.. How come i cut off my ex's and i dont make this lame "friend" baloney thing—

then i realize OMG.... i've got the 8th house, and Capricorn, pisces and those are more dominant in me......

i dont have libra or gemini....

but they are some of the signs that DO cut off...

so i believe this makes SENSE..... that that aqua guy is gonna be friends with you cause he just can't bear NOT to.... ugh.

it's up to YOU to cut him off.

weirdly on my discovery to astrology i have cut them COLD....and i'm not all warm about it either...that is probably my 8th and capricorn because capricorn is NOT all sweet and lovable about it. O___O

so freaking TRUE!!!

and libra will NOT want to confront...so they RUN away. lol

so you NEED to cut him OFF.

because being all friendly and stuff is not helping you..

but hey if you can't..you can't..it is NOT in your nature.

Thank you, lisabethur8. Too bad, I don't know his chart and only know he's a 3rd Decan Aquarius.

We're weren't in a relationship so he probably thought it was good to remain as friends. I know he cares about me; otherwise, I would have cut him off early on. Also, he had invited me to his home and introduced me to his parents as a friend. Is that of any significance?

I have libra rising and I do cut people off completely and don't go back once I've moved on...haha.

Posted by Ikuta07
Thank you, lisabethur8. Too bad, I don't know his chart and only know he's a 3rd Decan Aquarius.

We're weren't in a relationship so he probably thought it was good to remain as friends. I know he cares about me; otherwise, I would have cut him off early on. Also, he had invited me to his home and introduced me to his parents as a friend. Is that of any significance?

I have libra rising and I do cut people off completely and don't go back once I've moved on...haha.

actions speak louder than words...

and your libra parts are not working because you want to HANG ON.....


you are ignoring your instincts/intution....when he clearly friend zoned you.

Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
Plus men respect women who cut them off completely after they end the relationship and offer friendship. They know they are messing up.
a woman who vanishes after being told she is not the one, will make the man question his decision for a very long time and will have respect for her always. But if she still keeps hanging on and available, he loses respect every day it passes.

His fear exactly... that I would cut him off completely. I gave it some thought and agreed to hang out as friends, since we were never in a relationship. I really should have cut him off at the time to maintain my sanity.

Posted by Arielle83
If you continue to be his friend with the hopes of him getting into a relationship with you, then you are a dishonest "friend".

Look up magic Mona's thread "pathetic" in scorp forum and you will see how it's not okay for men to fake friendships with women to get close to them. So it shouldn't be okay for women to do that to men.

Unless there's a double standard that I'm not aware of.

Thank you, Arielle. That is my dilemma because I've been trying to gather courage to tell him that I still have feelings for him and not sure if we can continue this friendship. I don't know if I should just distance myself and let it fizzle out or just talk to him to end this.

I'm with ari. Just tell him then move on lol

Update: I talked to him and told him how I felt. It sucks because the feelings are not reciprocated but at least I feel better now.

Thank you all for your advice. 🙂

forget!

Posted by Lifepath8Pisces
Plus men respect women who cut them off completely after they end the relationship and offer friendship. They know they are messing up.
a woman who vanishes after being told she is not the one, will make the man question his decision for a very long time and will have respect for her always. But if she still keeps hanging on and available, he loses respect every day it passes.

I completely agree with this ^^^^

If I were you, I would cut contact (including blocking him on FB, etc) until I've got over him, or even better, until I've got a new love interest.

Only then I may consider "cathing up" and see if we could be friends but nothing more.

*catching up*

I had the same exact thing happen to me recently! The mind fuck that I went through was excruciating. Since I made plans with his friends to have a BBQ at my house this Saturday, I have to wait till that's over , and then, it's cut off time....It's going to hurt, but I rather have dignity then pine for someone who thought it was cool to friendzone me after we shared intimacy and romance, and for no effing good reason was I put in that effing zone...so, once the BBQ is over, I will pull a disappearing act that will make him spin...I hope.

Posted by Ikuta07
Hello, I'm a Sagittarius woman and met an Aquarius man online a year ago. Four months into dating, he told me I am not the right fit for him and hopes that we can still hang out as friends. I've been hanging out with him as friends since then.

I still have feelings for him and am having a difficult time deciding if I should continue this friendship or let him go.

Am I just wasting my time?

Thank you for reading.

NO 🙂

I mean yes you are wasting your time...