Aqua headache Fishy heartache [advice]

i just want to say the msg did not seem so long when i was typing it =S

oops!

I would just wait a few weeks then tell him something subtle. Giving him some space is what I think you should do.

ok i'll wait it out a few more weeks.... thanks 🙂

No problem 🙂

Posted by capcsw
Hello,
First off sorry to hear it ended although I doubt it has. Saying NOTHING would be 100% to your advantage.
Also I wouldnt feel too bad for him. Yah, you sent a snarky text on his birthday but so what? Not thats its ok to hurt someone but you arent perfect. and if all it took to destroy things was a text and he got that bent out of shape, then really? What happens when you have a more serious argument? You will just have to bite your tongue I guess because he subtly taught you if you speak out of line, he will drop you?
Cause its my belief this is a control thing. He is "teaching" you how you can act with him. But humans arent perfect, emotions come out, we dont mean them, and we work things out with our partners, we dont bail right?
Lastly I would add, even if this didnt happen...HE would at some point pull the distance card, the I need space card, or the dissappearing act. Read some of the stories here. So before you feel too sorry for him, let it be. If he was right, he wouldnt have bailed over a silly text. You apologized he even held you after ward? Give me a break. HE should be so lucky to have you, your pretty and kind hearted. When he comes back, perhaps you shouldnt let him back, cause he is already showing a hurtful pattern, and this behavior continues on and on and on, I know first hand. 😢 Best wishes

You seem to talk about your situation, not hers. You need to let go of your past so it won't cloud your judgement so much. It's ok to learn from the past but not everything needs to be based on the same past.

Posted by capcsw
Thanks Exam, though I partially agree I think my "advice" toward her situation may be biased or slanted, still I know when I have posted for advice I have gotten responses all across the board and I take from the messages what I think applies, and disregard anything that might not apply to me. So I stand by what I said, and I think it applies though not fully. I will continually work on adjusting my attitude toward the past and appreciate your feedback. 🙂

Agreed and you're welcome. We all have at least one bad experience.