Aqua Initiators

MY SCORP SAYS I DO NOT INITIATE SEX WITH HIM ENOUGH. HE FEELS HE ALWAYS HAS TO INITIATE. SO BECAUSE HE FEELS THIS WAY..DOES THIS MEAN I DONT LOVE HIM OR WANT HIM? I DO...DONT GET ME WRONG .IVE GOT A FREAKY SIDE...I SAY LET'S JUST GO WITH THE FLOW OF THINGS....WHY DOES THIS MAN WANT ME TO INITIATE ALL THE TIME? I DO EVERYTHING I CAN TO MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE I WANT HIM. EVEN IF I DONT INITIATE HE KNOWS I'M OPEN FOR WHATEVER,(WELL ALMOST WHATEVER) AM I WRONG?

No your arent wrong...well yeah you are, you decided to date a scorpio.

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lol @ Lady M .. I dont see SP's message but thanks SP. Anotherscorp ur right, I'm okay with initiating sex,.I just dont want to feel consumed with initiating it. When I'm not consumed with it my Best comes to the forefront. I can see where this could cause some friction but because of the changes i've seen in him as far as our relationship goes,I can meet him more than halfway on this knowing now about Scorpio and sex. Seems though if we have an issue we somehow end up in that center circle together and things work out. Then scorp will say or do something crazy and it starts all over again...haha. UC, girl I wish it were as natural for me as it is for you 🙂 it's natural for me just has to be brought out in different ways...haha my Scorpio rising and Venus in Pisces helps me alot though😉

Your scorp is very sensitive and with scorps sex and love are a package deal cause they are not really good with verbalizing how they feel they do that with sex so if he feels you don't initiate it enough he probably thinks that you dont love him (scorps can be very paranoid) so just reassure him of your love and if it isn't a huge sacrifice initiate sex once in awhile and believe me you'll be glad you did cause that volcano of emotions will explode LOL

blueaqua,were you like really pissed when writing the OP?
all caps.

anyway,i think its just about balance,just try to be more natural this time,i feel that he can sense your reluctance in initiating,and that takes all the pleasure out of it.

I'd just stay away from that lot all together.

Thank god for aqua patience...and reservedness.

pffft if ppl are going to be with aquas they have to be prepared for them to be detached and reserved with emotions..

"No your arent wrong...well yeah you are, you decided to date a scorpio."

looool, no offense to scorps but I tried to date a scorp once and the way they initiate/expect sexual behaviour is too mysterious/seductive/dominative for me. I expect something more caring/sweet/sentimental like let's say a cancer :p

oh tas...too sweet 🙂 yes, we cancers are very caring and giving...probably to a fault! although i know many aquas on here would disagree with me... us cancers really are good people. we are definitely the opposite of aquas though in many regards, but that can be a good thing!

i believe aquas are very sensitive beings, and us cancers are good at feeding that sensitivity.

"we cancers are very caring and giving...probably to a fault"

that's within top 5 reasons I still suffer the pain, where were you before I breakup to show it to me in big CAPITAL letters :-\ seriously aquas should be allowed free consultancy from the state or they're doomed to always act late 😢

"they can be very responsive and change gears if you hold out a hand and take the lead in a nonthreatening way."

I find this is very much the case with my aqua... and it's working just fine...but for a little reluctance on my part, simply because I am unsure if I am making him do something that he doesn't want to...

Are aqua'a known for doing things simply to appease others...? So to avoid conflict, or hurt...? Even if they dont really want to do them?

"Like the situation with my mr. aqua friend where he was getting kind of careless about communicationg and committing to plans we made. I give him a fair amount of leeway, but there IS a limit to my easy-going nature and he cannot pass a certain line. You need boundaries, otherwise they will completely go hogwild and ironically, they will disrespect you for it. They want discipline every now and then, in fact they beg for it by starting to act out."

YOU really have a handle on your situation.... I respect the way you deal with your aqua very much. It's all about comprimising, and boundries... and you seem to excecute the balance perfectly! If I may, you don't seem to me like a typical Cancer at all......

Hence the name...."UnusualCancer" I suppose 🙂