Aqua man and Cancer lady - Relationship BROKE UP! (Page 2)

lunarlady...how many ex's does he have—

my aqua still talks to his 2 ex's, and hangs out with them when they are in town.

starfish...i am a little confused as well...

To be honest moonchild I can't tell now whether I'll call her again but if so it may be after I'm with someone new.

At the moment what makes me mad is due to my aloofness I didn't give us a chance to solve problems that if I was not aloof we would (not 'might') still be together.

And of same importance, I didn't even close our relationship in the way I wanted for this lady and the way she derves. Again because of my aloofness, but now it's too late to do it, there's no point.

I know I'm thinking in the same aloof way now, I dissapeared again after she denied my flight ticket but if I call her as a friend now she will understand I'm trying to get sthg out of it plus it will make me feel worse.

I know when it comes to love you shouldn't push things, let them flow but consider this persistance comes from an aqua who don't hesitate to let things go. She wouldn't talk over the phone for 2hrs, double read my emails etc as you remember moonchild if just a friend.

She clearly told me it's over but we can be friends so now I'm thinking what are the chances this may turn. It's the only way left, it may show to her how I've changed without her having to respond but it's sthg unusual to me (aqua) I'm lost.

explain your aloofness, Tas...give me an example of something you did to her that you felt shouldn't have been done. just curious...

Moonchild, he is 37 now and has been dating since he was in his mid teens so there are quite a few ex's. Not saying he is in touch with them all but don't think there is any bad feelings with any of them. The 2 ex's in particular that he is quite close to ( they are both married now with children) are friends of mine too. We all grew up in the same village in England and have moved in the same social circle for years. May seem weird to some but we are all cool with it and all have a blast when we get together.

tas...honestly, i think she was looking for more out of you in the end to redeem yourself in the relationship...that just what it seems like to me. maybe you didn't prove yourself enough to her, because maybe you didn't discover yourself first. i think you must first do this, and then if she truly loves you and it is meant to be...you two may be back together in the end.
i can completely understand where your cancer is coming from, because i felt the same way with my aqua. and if he decides to break up with me again for whatever reason, i will not be here when he decides to return. i have already told him that and i am sticking to it...
and, my aqua has grown a lot as a person, especially in the last 6 months...but there are still times when i wonder what i am doing and if i am wasting my time, and if he may leave me again b/c of his constant "aloofness"...but, i also have to remember that is part of who he is and i must accept it.

"YOu guys can be so slow at times you miss out on the best thing that happens to ya..You end up gtting it later, when its too late.."

-SO TRUE!!! starfish...very, very well said. and it is very sad but true for them.
my aqua has said to me "i always fuck up everything good in my life", when he alsmost lost me for good...hopefully he learned his lesson and won't mess up again!!!

An example: Although I care the most still I was emotionally detached on her concerns about us. I was more like of the general image and thinking "we will work sthg out" but she wanted at least an idea to work on NOW. I remember I was working part time before graduation but looking for sthg permanent too. She was looking for herself too but was difficult due to her visa etc so if I had sthg permanent this would make things easy.

She did make the compromising part on her side by believing me and staying with me still but I didn't do my best. She offered much more, even after she decided to breakup she was still giving. She's my type and although I lost people and things in a similar way due to aloofness, this is the real loss. As I told her in my email "I'm thinking of you now as a point of reference for my future choices". Sorry for my english, hope I expressed it well.

tas...i think the BIG problem with the aqua/cancer relationship is that the Cancer is forever the giver and the Aqua does not give as much...and after a while, it gets exhausting for us cancers...we feel like we are committing 110% of ourselves in the relationship and not getting much in return...and i know that's not the case. it's just that aquas seem to give in a different way then we do. But, as a cancer...i can tell you that it feels horrible sometimes b/c i feel like i commit a lot of myself and put in all of my time, energy, love etc. and i am only one little priority in my aquas life...if is definitely disheartening at times. and that is why the aqua/cancer relationship is really difficult...
so, once again...i understand where your cancer is coming from.

If this is the case then we aquas and me personally am cursed :\ Cause I have this weird nature to fight during my life plus it affects my love life with a cancer which I find the best (or at least one of the best) relationship. "Goodbye my lover" from James Blunt happens to be on the radio now, it describes me completely.

Well aqua IS odd so do you mean "that is...aqua" :\

If you only were inside my mind to see what I'm willing to do to win her back. But you see timing is everything for a cancer. And besides as moonchild said once a cancel feels "I was too good enough is enough" there's no way back.

I'm so dishearted I even fight with my dad from time to time and he's a gemini. We're supposed to match very well and he really knows how to cheer me up.

"Goodbye my lover" from James Blunt happens to be on the radio now, it describes me completely.

-TAS!!!...that is too weird that you said that because when my aqua broke up with me last May, i listened to that song over and over, and just cried. and i hadn't listened to it in a while, but i heard it a few weeks ago, and i still cried while listening to it...

"If you only were inside my mind to see what I'm willing to do to win her back. But you see timing is everything for a cancer"

-Tas...ok, my aqua told me that he would do anything to have me back when we first started hanging out after he broke up with me...and then 3 months later, he once again broke all the rules and went back to his normal self...so, it is hard to believe. actions speak louder than words, and my aqua did not necessarily deliver those actions well. and for the last 6 months, thing between us have benn really good...but recently he has been acting strange and distant once again. and i wonder if it because he is moving across country for his job soon...he will not talk about it with me at all. and it hurts me that he has not even asked me to go with him...
tas, what do you think of this—

and, yes timing is everything for me!!! unfortunately though, my life is all about bad timing...great opportunities, but not at the right time...

I cry when I listen to James Blunt cos he's a load of shite.
Sorry for being so blunt but if a guy starting wimpering at me the way he does in his songs, I'd tell him to pull himself together or show him the door.

Excusee but James Blunt is dreadful.

Thank You for your time.

James Blunt is also a pisces..........make what you will out of that snioppet!!!!;_0

A x

....I believe him and Haffo are the renegades of the piscean sign:-)...now there's a compliment for you Haffo:-)!!!


Alana x