Aquarians And... Casual Sex?

How do Aquarians view sex? How about sex outside of relationships, specifically...?
I waited a long while before taking things to the next level with my Aquarian. I told him in when I first met him how I hated relationships, didn't ever want a boyfriend again. I wasn't afraid to tell him how I felt back then, but then months later I started feeling different and I wanted to BE with him, but I never told him. He just begun acting weird and shy around me, then after weeks of this just completely started ignoring me!
Also, are Aquarians initiators...? If they want something more from someone and they believe the other person doesn't feel the same way, will they take a risk? Or do their hearts break silently?
Any advice on this would be much appreciated.
Haha, I'm ridiculous...I think about someone every SINGLE day who hasn't talked to me in like a month. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME(?!??!#@), AAHHHHAHHGHHGHH!

"I view sex as something saved for a serious relationship only."
This is exactly what I expressed to him when he initiated it, because these are my views as well. But...over time, he was too seductive for me to resist! 😢



"if I sensed that the other doesn't feel as strongly I do, then I would shift my attention elsewhere--not necessarily onto another person, but onto something else."

I think that's what might have happened, I'm pretty sure with all my flirting, and guys hitting on me during that period he might have just...I don't know.


"when you think about it, feelings are impossible to measure and compare, and I don't think that any two people can feel exactly the same way for each other at any given time. Things ebb and flow, so ...you sort of have to gauge it on the other's actions and then modify your actions to suit. it's a weird sort of dance."

You are right! 🙂 And that dance was quite fun, but so confusing...it's left me confused to this day where I stand with him, especially since he won't talk to me now. lol 🦇
Thank you for your perspective.
He told me he was telepathic as well...and that he could kind of influence people via his mind. I always got a strong sense of something he was trying to say without words, but I was too shy and struck by him to ask. Duuuuuuuummy over here, haha.
I suppose now I'm just going to try and somehow...um, take my chances and somehow track him down to tell him how I feel? Or that would probably scare him...Damn.

Casual sex is just that. Sex. Nothing more nothing less. I like sex. Where's my ducky?

What have I got to lose...hmmm, nothing I suppose, but my pride. and who needs that?! 🙂

DK, lol too true. Sexxxx! 😛
But I know for a fact he at least did like me. He told me, and I quote "I think you're amazing. We have so much in common. I REALLY like you." And Aquarians are honest now, aren't they?
I MESSED up in the beginning by telling him I wasn't interested in any relationship, that I hated having a boyfriend if I ever did. I'm sure he listened, because later when we both started feeling so strongly, neither of us expressed it. 😢
I'm so sad, he IS amazing and I'm an idiot.

c'mn, you are not an idiot
you did and said what you felt was right.
the question is- if he's not brave enough to take a risk.. do you still want him

"the question is- if he's not brave enough to take a risk.. do you still want him"


Yes, I'm absolutely certain I want him, as certain as I am that I have indeed been...A COMPLETE AND TOTAL IDIOT. The first night when we hung out one on one and got to know each other, he begun expressing his opinions and I was simply...astonished! His views, his morals and his absolute truth to himself, were SO similar to the way I am that I was completely blown away. Our first kiss was after a moonlit rowboat ride in a beautiful lake at his best friend's log cabin.
After this we begun to hang out consistently, almost every day? companioned by both of our best friends. : ) Mmmmm? massages, drinking, the log cabin, the moon-lit boating to the middle of the lake to view the beautiful castle-like homes. I was so scared that I was genuinely feeling?anything, for the first time in a long time that I was almost star-struck around him. That's what he is to me, a true star in the vast depths of all the dark matter floating around in this ugly world.

This scares the living hell out of me, still: That night everything he said rang so true, so different and beautiful in my soul that I felt completely changed afterwards. Actually, changed is the wrong word...Back to myself and who I truly am. Since then I have done a lot of serious evaluating of myself, who I chose to project to the world, and the people I surround myself with. But NOT because of him and how he made me feel, because of ME...I was so tired of being bored, lonely and boring because not one SINGLE person I socialized with at the time could I relate to, no matter how much I tried to pretend that the only things I cared about were parties, brand names, makeup...Needless to say, my "friends" think I'm somewhat odd now. I now express my opinions with no holding back; I now show my intelligence and am not afraid of being different. I'm so joyful and free now, that I don't feel sad about him no longer being in my life, or regret being on the lost path I was on before-hand. If all of that led me to meeting this beautiful being and thus beginning my revelations, then I don't regret ANYTHING one bit. God, it's almost as though I'm less lonely now than I was before, but at the same time...Not being afraid of being yourself, being different and showing everyone who you truly are is hard because, from my observations...few can, and feel good about it...at least at my age. This all probably sounds very silly to those

older than me, because I am nearly eighteen years old and just figuring these simple things out. I am failing to mention that I wasn't quite scared of ME, per say?I was absolutely terrified of what being ME, meant. It meant that I did care, I care about animal cruelty and the environment and peace and global warming and that I?I F*&*% ^ $ & ABHOR what is going on right before all of our very eyes, the destruction of the natural world! It's my home and I guarantee I love my puppy dog Moonshine more than I could EVER love % 99.9 of people. I detest people, prejudice, the money-grubbing GREEDY corporations and ?leaders?! This all no longer scares me, I LOVE IT and I think I could possibly be?in love?with the intelligent, kind, caring, humanitarian Aquarian that brought all of this about. Now, it is scary admitting that. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, and he thought of me as nothing more than a friend with benefits, or was even USING me?it doesn't damn matter, I just want to thank him and thank him with all my heart and soul. However?why would he have begun acting so strange and uncomfortable in my presence, almost as if he was uncomfortable with himself, if he thought of me as nothing special, just a friend? I may never know, but I do know that when the time is right I just may expand all of this writing and expressing myself, previously hidden, and give it to him. What he feels, I suppose, doesn't really matter unless he wishes to?be with me, of course. I just want him to know, through the short time I've known him, how great of an impact and positive change he has brought about. Haha?something quite funny to me right now, is that he went to high school with me. He was pierced, black mo-hawked and I thought at the time in my younger teen years?had the most stunning blue eyes. We were not friends as he was a senior when I was a freshman, and I could have sworn he NEVER noticed me or even knew who I was. This changed, that night when he remarked, quite nonchalantly??And I thought you were a good girl in high school.? I was almost shocked and I'm sure my jaw dropping was visible, even in the darkly lit wooden room. I played it off, however, by giggling ?Nope, not a good girl, never have been.? Now I sigh, discontented and morose, at the thought of how much I simply played. I was just SO ACCUSTOMED to not expressing what I really thought, really felt, really wanted that I didn't even realize at the time that he was?simply put, inviting me with open arms into

his world. His world to mine was so strangely alike that ours could be twins?I think his telepathy knew this as well. I'm happy being in my own, for now, but I long with strange intensity to travel over to this new and striking planet?His. Lol 😛
?Wow. Strange metaphors of a love-ailing child abound! HAHA

But enough of that. I almost now feel as though I am going through one of those Aquarian periods of?soul searching? I just want to be myself and by myself; no one in my previous world understands me, or ever has I'm beginning to realize. But it doesn't hurt, it's like letting go of something that I never wanted in the first place?What I did want, however, was to be accepted and popular, to fit in with a group, always be invited?. I got that readily. I feel as though that's all I've been focusing on for the past four years of my life and frankly, I don't give a crap if I have to be alone for eternity now, as I'm so happy just BEING ME that I'm all I need.

Why did I never tell him how I felt? I wish I would have at least done that, even if he had rejected me?it would be better than now, with me having gone through my pining, and whining and moping silly stage of pretending it's his fault that he doesn't seem to want to see me anymore. It isn't, haha, and if anything I adore him even more for it. ?Insert googly eyes here!- But sadly, that still leaves me with my predicament. Looking at it the correct way though, I truly feel deep down in my soul that he might know. Know that I'm not ready now, not nearly, and that before we are as one I need to get rid of all the BULL&*% $ I acquired by behaving so detrimental to myself these past few years. Even if it isn't destiny, us?I'm still working my hardest?for ME, because I feel so much better, so alive right now, here in this moment that I won't send another bad vibe his way. By ?bad vibe? is?well, I think I sent him the message that he was doing something wrong for a while? : ( Wow, I'm such an idiot! Only due to the fact that I was so confused and so overwhelmed by the vast home-coming I was going though.

?May I be so bold as to suggest that to an Aquarian (and to many peope, guys in particular), have sex does not necessarily take the relationship to the "next level". It may take it in another direction, but I would say that if there is no acknowledgement of an emotional development before the sex, then it's a lateral move, at best. Thus, he has disappeared as he figures you are not in the market for anything serious anyway and you've "done it" with him, so....what more is there? If the situation had remained platonic, he would still be coming around, most likely.?

I think you are absolutely correct?If it didn't feel so right, if I didn't feel so right because of him, I would have just assumed exactly that, I was being used and it was nothing more than what happens all the time to unsuspecting girls, and moved on, forgotten him as easy as it usually is for me to when things don't work out. I pray this isn't the case, that I'm not so utterly wrong in feeling so right in the way that I feel about him. I feel?he is a truly good person, true to himself and to those that matter, a kind heart and gentle warm spirit who would never intentionally hurt anyone. While I know without a doubt that all that is true, I have heard that he is a ?player.? I was visiting one of his best friend's out of town with his OTHER best friend quite recently, and the people I met there all knew him, but didn't know who I was or our? correspondence. I was hanging out, then out of NO WHERE when I'm considerably intoxicated? one of these dudes remarked with awe ?Haha, yeah, I remember before *&% $ #^(My beloved : ( ) and @&^% $ got together he would always be partying and putting his arms around both her and this other girl. They were fighting over him hahaha, to see who he would hook up with, but she won. ? At this, I practically?well, I don't quite know but it wasn't a nice feeling, at all. Said best friend was in the room, looked at me and my expression and remarked with fairly considerable anger towards the dude who was talking about it, ?Shut up, shut the &^% $ up, it's not pleasant to talk about those kinds of things. Stop it, not right now?I'll tell you later.? At this last I saw red but I couldn't express anything without looking silly and stupid, so I remained quiet and didn't ask. Until later, that is. Best friend remarked something about him being a really good guy, and that while he was ignoring me now, he was just ?being himself? and he did disappear frequently on everyone and

he did disappear frequently on everyone and that he knew he wasn't done talking to me. Okay, now I'm a little confused again. Wtf!