Aquarius and Aries?

I'm an Aquarius and I've been talking to an Aries guy on the phone and online everyday for the past couple of months. Both of us are pretty laid back and enjoy each others company and we have admitted to feeling some sort of a strong bond/chemistry.

I'm not one to fall for someone easily, and he isn't the type of guy I'd think I'd be attracted to. He is a smoker. Alcoholism runs in his family, and his current habits are going in that direction. He is very intelligent, but he lacks motivation.

Yet, there is something about how honest, bold, and intelligent he is that has caught my eye. His thoughts and ideas are very different, and he has a passionate and sweet side to him that occasionally comes out. I love how he is very spontaneous and open to new things. Yet, at the same time, I find that a bit unstable.

The crazy thing part of the story is we both say, "I love you" and we haven't even met each other in person. It just comes out naturally and then when I get off the phone I think to myself, "what in the hell am I doing?" Maybe, as an Aquarian, I'm falling for all of this mental stimulation. Maybe, I enjoy this because it is a weird situation. I've never told someone I've loved them that I haven't even met before. And at the same time.. this bond feels stronger than most of my previous relationships. Talk about Aquarians loving their distance, eh?

Well, I think we Aquarians find it so RARE that the opposite sex actually stimulates us mentally, so the minute we find someone who actually does, we almost end up becoming puppets or "suckers for love" for that person. Is this guy worthy of friendship b/c he stimilates you mentally? Yes. But seeing him in terms of relationship material has wayyyyy more factors that are involved. Sure, the guy is a great conversation starter & sustainer, but then again that's probably b/c the relationship/friendship that you 2 have is NOT in person & is all about communication. Yes, we Aquas love the direct & straight-forward approach Aries have, but how honest he is during those long conversations is NOT going to make a relationship last when you 2 finally meet up & try to start a real relationship.

One, I'm very skeptical about the whole "we love eachother but yet haven't met" thing b/c love is multi-leveled & you two have only explored the first level, which is communication. And b/c you haven't been around him enough to know or really trust this guy, then what you guys have can't be classified as love. Like? Definetely. Liking what you've seen so far? Of course, that's ok. But the key words are "so far" which means you've still got a lot more "getting to know" to do. There should be no rush. Should you run just b/c you have a connection with him? No. See where that goes, b/c it'll be very important later that you 2 maintain that good communication. But should you jump in, head first JUST b/c he's good to talk to? No. Think about all of the things about you (the good, bad & the ugly) that hasn't been exposed yet; he's probably got a long list too & I'm sure half of the things on that list aren't being exposed or talked about for a REASON. When you haven't met someone yet, the basis of the friendship/relationship is only on what that person WANTS you to know.

Bottom line is this: You know what you want & you know what you DON'T want. We have standards for a reason. They're not made just to be broken or slightly altered just for someone else to feel loved. If you don't like smoking or if you don't want to wait around & take the risk that this guy may not be headed down the right path, listen to your intuition & don't settle for anything just to be happy in the moment. What's going to happen if you two meet & months later all this smoking or lack of motivation actually starts to hurt the relationship? You'll look back & that "I told you so" logo will be pinned to your forehead & you'll end up resenting yourself for settling.

Every guy that stimulates you mentally doesn't have to end up being only good for boyfriend material. B/c of the fact that you guys haven't met yet, it's very important that you two don't move too fast or let that "wow, I like/love him alot" stuff cloud your judgement. It is possible that this guy might be right for you (atleast for right now), but if you really look at your own self-esteem & why you TRULY like this guy so much (what does he do for you emotionally), then you might be suprised at how different you might feel if emotions weren't clouded. There should be no rush. Continue to get to know him. There's no crime done if you 2 just like eachother, but don't get your feelings all in a bunch over an "on the phone" or "over the internet" relationship b/c we all know that it's hard enough to trust & love the person that we see every single day, let alone the person we just "hope" we really know who we can't even touch or see. Keep him at arms distance (in terms of falling in love or giving too much or expecting too much unrealisticially) until you've met him & actually SEE what he's all about, versus just saying you know what he's all about just b/c of what he told you over the phone or over an email. Be careful & good luck

A great combination.

Posted by lammal23
I'm an Aquarius and I've been talking to an Aries guy on the phone and online everyday for the past couple of months. Both of us are pretty laid back and enjoy each others company and we have admitted to feeling some sort of a strong bond/chemistry.

The crazy thing part of the story is we both say, "I love you" and we haven't even met each other in person. It just comes out naturally and then when I get off the phone I think to myself, "what in the hell am I doing?" Maybe, as an Aquarian, I'm falling for all of this mental stimulation. Maybe, I enjoy this because it is a weird situation. I've never told someone I've loved them that I haven't even met before. And at the same time.. this bond feels stronger than most of my previous relationships. Talk about Aquarians loving their distance, eh?

LOL!
Met an aqua briefly, exchanged details and proceeded to do the above you just described and we never met again... (we never did say 'i love you' but we would drop everything in a heartbeat to return a call or email, etc), in fact when push came to shove to arrange a meet, we both kinda liked the mystery attached to not meeting 🙂 Carried on for nearly 9months... Was fun at the time cos my life was stuck in a routine --- meh.
I liked Aqua we both kinda catch the mischief in each other and hope on it... aqua's slightly more cautious and thinks of dependable stability (aries thinks of adventurous stability) but curiousity for something 'different' gets aqua coming along... even if it doesn't last... it's F U N 😛

OFA, smoking's a big deal? he's just smoking cigarrettes, right? not that I smoke 😛

aries is a great match for aries....i know a aquarius woman in her 70's...shes been single for at least 20 years...she met her soulmate...he is aries...a little younger but he is great for her....great great match