PiscesGuy123
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Aquarius Female with Pisces guy
Sorry for the long post
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I agree with the post above. She has been very honest with you, there's nothing "between the lines" This sounds like a lot of work for someone who probably won't develope feelings for you. She knows she would have them by now so I would move on after you end things promptly.
Posted by Happy_AquaPosted by PiscesGuy123I think your answer is in this part of your text.
Meeting number 4 was only a month after our last, and just happened this week. Almost a week after she had come and seen me, she had asked me to fly out east and see her friends and meet her sister. Things going pretty well right? Wrong. My first night there, I started a topic about where we were going. In the past month since we decided to date, her behavior towards me was still more like a friend then a girlfriend. We hadn't spoken on the phone as much, though we were texting. At this point, she pretty much said that she had gone crazy this past month thinking about us and whether what she was doing was right. She said her heart hadn't caught up to her mind (even though things felt right, she just didn't have any real feelings for me). That she had "tried" to have feelings, but it wasn't happening. She compared it to her previous relationships, and how that after 10 months she should feel something.
She has been honest with you about her feelings and from my point of view it looks like she is NOT developing feelings for you beyond friendship. Inviting you to meet her family could have been a way to test their reactions and find out their opinions about you. So she can add that to her own impression of you and make up her mind.
You have been seeing each other 4 times. I'm not sure but from your story I get the impression that you have been asking her to get serious with you every time. You may have put a lot of pressure on her by doing so. It takes a long time for us to make up our mind about something as serious as a relationship. We have to do that by ourselves and pressure will only make her distance herself.
Also I would worry about her saying that she "tried" to have feelings but it wasn't happening. To me that sounds she is not developing romantic feelings for you and that she feels forced in a way too. You have to ask yourself if you want to continue giving time and attention to someone who is likely not going to give you back what you need, simply because she doesn't see you as more than a friend.click to expand
Thank you both for your responses. I did want to clarify something, though. There was never any pressure on my side towards her. We met thru a dating/matrimonial website and spoke for 6 months before I even asked her if she considers herself single. There was never a push for anything at the time, but I did need to know where we were and what we were and if this was meant my time, as well. I respect that aquarians take time to make a decision, but this was for me to make up my mind about her too.
Only during our 3rd meeting, 9 months into knowing each other, I asked are you ready to be serious and commit to getting to know each other better. At this point, we had talked for 9 months and not met enough to really develop strong feelings. We were dragging. She had the freedom to say no, but she didn't. She wanted to pursue things and see where this goes.
The problem seemed to happen after this, when HER parents may have put more pressure on her to see where she was going with this. I am not sure what exactly happened, but we stopped talking as much in the next month. She still asked me to fly out and see her, which again, seemed like she was into this. We could have ended things on the phone, but for some reason she told me she wanted me to come and meet her sister and hangout.
Anyways, I am not pursuing her anymore. We stopped talking a week ago when I refused to meet her after she told me she had not developed feelings for her. She wanted to meet regardless, to see how things would go with no pressure. At that point I had to put my foot down and make a decision for myself. The only reason I asked the question was, because until her parents intervened, she felt comfortable with where things were going between her and I. And maybe pressure from them caused her to have a mini-breakdown and lose sight of how we did have a good connection, even if we hadn't fallen in love yet. In our last meeting she said I felt like the perfect guy for her, but maybe she was wrong and didn't want the perfect guy (kinda made me more confused). But it is what it is.
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