Aquarius male, reserved..awkward.. is this the norm—

In november 2015 i met this aquarius guy through a friend of mine (its my friends cousin), he is absolutely gorgeous, has a great personality, you know all those good qualities!! Well, when we are together alone he acts so reserved and quiet timid shy and he is most definitely holding back from me.... i dont understand the awkwardness.... im also an aquarius you know the typical oddball im not that reserved even in front of complete strangers i can be myself there is not a shy bone in my body!! But when were together its like i mirror his persona and thats just not the true me... I feel like my realself will be too much for him to handle because i dont know his true colors... so with that being said, in November we met he lives away 3 hrs away to be precise, and in the beginning after we initially met he was here in my town for a week, after he left went home he called me everyday and we talked like normal (so strange i know), but face to face its like he doesnt know what to do.... in addition to that a whole month and a half went by with out seeing him, he did wire me money for a xmas gift paid my phone bill (nice and sweet gestures of course) i saw him in January and we had sex, it was awesome i finally "felt"a connection (no pun intended) but immediately after the big bang it was back to awkwardness, i mean here and there he would ask questions about my kids n life in general but no real interest like hes holding back... its insanity... well come to find out, again I'm an aquarius so my feelings can also be reserved at times n emotions are hid quite well, and after doing some research of my own in the beginning of February i come to find out he has a "main" chic at home.... hahaha... and ok i mean wow, now what.... well heres where the plot thickens.... his cell phone is in her name apparently and she finds my number and of course is no dummie herself, but he denies any form of relationship with me but also denies relationship with other party... im no dummie either i can add... im not really looking to be in a tied down relationship ya know i like to go with the flow, but i for some reason like this guy and i dont know really why... after seeing him in January i went 4 long months without any face to face contact he also kinda put me on the back burner txt me every now and then (oh and by the way he also got another cell phone he now has 2 so i only can call the one tht his main chic doesn't have access too) so 4 mos pass and hes in town, my town, been here since Wednesday ive spent everyday with him and he leaves bk home tomorrow and I'm devastated, should i throw my feelings out there or not embarrass myslef and kinda get over it (which for me is pretty ez to do)... my damn feelings are in limbo... someone help me decipher my current situation!!!!

**** P.S......He will answer the phone right in front of me and talk to his s/o, and i mean it doesnt really bother me tht much, idk why... but then again i feel absolutely crushed!!! He's really not a jerk, i dont know if hes happy at home, idk the entirety of his situation, but i do know there is this sense this feeling i get when were together its something unexplainable i know he feels it too.... i can sense it my intuition is super strong and sensitive i can pick up on it... is it just the sex hes after?? Idk I've been with many guys who just want the "lay" and it doesnt exactly feel like that, i know its an obvious portion of it though im not oblivious to that... guess i really want to know is this normal attributes of an Aquarius male (2/18/85 birthday) also he was in a fed facility for 10 yrs.. so i know that will have something to do with not wanting to settle down or be contained... he'll be out for 1 yr in July... im not trying to tie him down, i just want him to open up geeez!!! Its hopeless isn't it?!!!

Not really impressed with this guy's overall behavior and what he's doing to you and this other woman. I completely feel you on 'energy' between two people and sometimes it feels so intense and natural, but I've found it isn't what healthy loving relationships are founded on...nor does it keep them together. After so many painful experiences where I felt 'energy' that left me empty-handed I am more quickly able to see through that fog and look at the person in front of me, their intentions, and actions. So guess part of this seems to come down to what are you hoping to get out of this 'relationship' with this guy?

As an Aqua female I could never truly be with and love someone I have no respect for and his actions demonstrate a lack of respect for you (and this other woman). From my experience guys who are genuinely interested in a girl will ask questions to get to really know you better......even the shy ones will find cute little ways of finding out more about you. The fact that he isn't doing that seems like a lack of interest in you and the fact that he takes calls with this other woman in front of you seems down-right disrespectful as well.

Again, completely up to you in terms of what you're looking for in a guy, but the current trend doesn't look to be in your favor. Personally I would walk, but that's primarily my typical Aqua self-preservation mode kicking in....I don't like feeling emotionally off-balance and this whole situation looks like it has a lot of potential for that.

You'll get all kinds of shade from being a side chick from other people *waits for the pitchforks*, so you don't need it from me. However, don't you think you are entitled at the very least to a guy who is yours and yours alone?

*mumbles 7 billion on the planet* you don't have to share, no one is that special.