Aquarius Man caught my Attention.. Mixed Signals?

So this Aquarius has been "following" me for years.

After we first met four years ago at home @ a party, I was away in college he'd message me every so often and I wouldn't pay much attention to him. I also had a boyfriend so I didn't really care
We saw eachother again this year, in person, and he admitted to remember me.

But this year...
I was first drawn to him, because unlike all the other men who are attracted to me, doing things to get my attention... he was so laid back, in his own world... shutting everyone out. I like this quality because I felt like I had space around him and he didnt hound in on me. I thought he was cute because he was quiet, and he'd just smile. And not say anything. He has a very genuine smile.

We'd talk every so often as friends sometimes and try to meet up once in a while on the weekends.
He'd like some pics on my insta.

Then one day he randomly asked me to hangout with him. Totally caught off guard, we were going on a date in 4 hours!

I ended up having SO much fun with him when we went out. We played games socialized and drank in a social setting. I never thought I could have so much fun on a date. I got very, very drunk.

We get to outside my house, and he decides to kiss me, starting at my neck, then were making out for 15 min straight before I went in! FUN FUN!

I kinda forgot about the date until about 3 days passed and I realized he never got in touch with me. Since I had so much fun, I thought he'd call the next day or something. I didn't care... but then right as I thought of it, he texted me saying he had a lot of fun and we should definitely hangout next week.

So that next week we met up at a big concert. He was super nice about meeting up with me because we were both with a big group of friends. But this time, when we were around eachother, he wasn't as joke-y and flirty, and I'd want to dance, and hed pull me closer for like a second, but then I'd break away. He'd hold my hand but then like let it go, as if he werent sure this time. I thought it was strange but whatever. Everything was good! But this time, he didn't kiss me. I don't care but I thought that was kinda strange because we already kissed and he didn't even try.

I told him if he wants to meet up at the concert tomorrow let me know when and where... but then he never hit me up (I figure he wanted to just have fun with his friends, and I didn't really care either because I wanted to do my own thing).

We talked for a long

We talked for a long time a few days after and everything seemed good! And now its been over a week since I've seen him, he hasn't asked me to hang out with him again soon. So I feel as awkward as the situation. He hasn't tried to talk to me either in 5 days or so. I just finddd this sooo awkward and weird but I love it at the same time because I feel like a teenager again with a CRUSH!! Whats his deal?!?!?!lol.

Welcome to the world of the Aquarius. They come and go as they please...if you pressure them they'll go & not come back.

My suggestion, as suggested to others in your place, make him LOL. It will get his attention. What you do with his attention is in your court. Word to the wise...don't hop into the sack with him until you know your "it" for him. If you do it will be a monumental mistake. Majority of Aquarians will want friendship first before a relationship. How to make him LOL: a hilarious random (non sexual) picture/quote text & add to the text something like "humor to brighten your day". They love witty humor. Update us on how it goes. And google Aquarius so you know what your signing up for.

Posted by BeautifulVirgo
Welcome to the world of the Aquarius. They come and go as they please...if you pressure them they'll go & not come back.

My suggestion, as suggested to others in your place, make him LOL. It will get his attention. What you do with his attention is in your court. Word to the wise...don't hop into the sack with him until you know your "it" for him. If you do it will be a monumental mistake. Majority of Aquarians will want friendship first before a relationship. How to make him LOL: a hilarious random (non sexual) picture/quote text & add to the text something like "humor to brighten your day". They love witty humor. Update us on how it goes. And google Aquarius so you know what your signing up for.

let the games begin.... take the words of advice from what beautifulvirgo states... and be prepared to be thrown for a loop.... BEWARE

SO same day I posted this message he replied to one of my pic messages with another pic message but it was honestly the weirdest response I ever got! in the best way! kid is weird and i love it. the response made me say wtf is this? lol. hes strange. but im entertained.

we snapchat a lot and yeah, hes not flat out ignoring me at all. i think he might just not be rushing/taking his time gettin to know me. he's just puzzling and hard to read i guess.

i hope he makes moves though because he will miss out. my attitude is you SNOOZE you LOSE!! and hes just taking such a long time, and I want excitement. but still this slow & steady thing is cool too. im not used to guys being like that and its throwing me a curveball, i find it so unpredictable. LOL.

althought he hasnt made any advancements about hangin out again... and its whatever. if hes not gonna hang out with me someone else will! lol. but i do wonder... why not?! i always have so much fun with him. who knows whats goin thru his headdd

Posted by simplysaggitarius
SO same day I posted this message he replied to one of my pic messages with another pic message but it was honestly the weirdest response I ever got! in the best way! kid is weird and i love it. the response made me say wtf is this? lol. hes strange. but im entertained.

we snapchat a lot and yeah, hes not flat out ignoring me at all. i think he might just not be rushing/taking his time gettin to know me. he's just puzzling and hard to read i guess.

i hope he makes moves though because he will miss out. my attitude is you SNOOZE you LOSE!! and hes just taking such a long time, and I want excitement. but still this slow & steady thing is cool too. im not used to guys being like that and its throwing me a curveball, i find it so unpredictable. LOL.

althought he hasnt made any advancements about hangin out again... and its whatever. if hes not gonna hang out with me someone else will! lol. but i do wonder... why not?! i always have so much fun with him. who knows whats goin thru his headdd

I feel you I gave the same issue with my aqua .,. Hanging out is a big one

Posted by YellowSubmarine
same here!! why is the hang out such a big deal??

Hanging out IS a big deal & I don't know why either. But I guess it has something to do with the need for space. Plus another thing is that, some of us don't see relationships as that number 1 thing that should be given one's undivided attention, we see it as an added little something extra to join our long lists of other things to do. So don't expect to get all his/her time all the time because they have they have other things to do that are just as important as spending time with you. And they expect/believe that you have other business to attend to as well..not sitting waiting around. IDK about other aquas, but everything in my life is of EQUAL importance. Meaning, me spending my time colouring a book is just as important as sitting with a significant other, it's me time. Every activity, person in my life, etc, is on the same level, none is greater that the other, it's just that sometimes I'm in the mood for one & not the other. I personally can't juggle, if I'm doing one thing all my focus is on that one thing, then on to the next when I'm done or have had enough of whatever kept me focused.

Another example of what I'm talking about is, I have two things I entertain myself with on my spare time, my friends or the internet (lets say DXP). Sometimes I stay away from friends because I'm 'busy' on here or elsewhere on the net. When I'm MIA on here, I'm with my friends. People vs Technology, but none is more important than the other, each gets it time. Real life friends vs online "friends", all the same to me, my RL friends aren't that important just because they spend time with me in person over the ones I communicate with via the keyboard..I appreciate them all, equally.

well they're asking the aquarius man, not woman. Depends on the man, if he's a socialite you know?

K, socialite is for women, since they're about outside doing stuff, and being social butterflies with everyone. That's how they get popular.

Men, of all signs, they want you out of their hair! Do your womanly stuff and come back to them when they need you.

LOL

sorry that sounds so caveman...but gosh, how to put it so plainly. If you want a complicated man you can figure it out that he's complicated. Probably so complicated you want nothing to do with him because he's out doing scientific stuff in some laboratory or out doing marine life stuff and then you are lonely at home cause he's not calling you too busy to even entertain you. If you want a homebody man, well, you better make sure he is the homebody type then.

this guy, though.... sounds like a player. he caught you in his web and you are just putty in his hands.

Posted by YellowSubmarine
simplysaggitarius - how can you be so excited when he hasn't initiated another hang out? doesn't that bother you? I'm not trying to bring you down from your high or anything, I'm just curious how that doesn't phase you at all?

She's too excited for her own good. Can't see the forest for the trees, probably.

It's only been 5 days.

Just give it a while and see what happens or better yet why not make the contact? I don't see why people don't bother initiating as if it's expected of them and then going all crazy when they don't.

My exp with a sag girl like this was, and in all honesty, after some evaluation I just didn't think she's worth going after because if it's been green lit I often don't go cold like that but you know that took a bit longer for me to figure out.

Ask him to hang out, don't expect things to be set in stone. He's shown you a good time and you admitted to that now return the favour and take him out somewhere nice and have lots of fun. He might just make up his mind after that.

Posted by BeautifulVirgo
Welcome to the world of the Aquarius. They come and go as they please...if you pressure them they'll go & not come back.

My suggestion, as suggested to others in your place, make him LOL. It will get his attention. What you do with his attention is in your court. Word to the wise...don't hop into the sack with him until you know your "it" for him. If you do it will be a monumental mistake. Majority of Aquarians will want friendship first before a relationship. How to make him LOL: a hilarious random (non sexual) picture/quote text & add to the text something like "humor to brighten your day". They love witty humor. Update us on how it goes. And google Aquarius so you know what your signing up for.

Thank you for your advice 🙂🙂

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Posted by BeautifulVirgo
Welcome to the world of the Aquarius. They come and go as they please...if you pressure them they'll go & not come back.

My suggestion, as suggested to others in your place, make him LOL. It will get his attention. What you do with his attention is in your court. Word to the wise...don't hop into the sack with him until you know your "it" for him. If you do it will be a monumental mistake. Majority of Aquarians will want friendship first before a relationship. How to make him LOL: a hilarious random (non sexual) picture/quote text & add to the text something like "humor to brighten your day". They love witty humor. Update us on how it goes. And google Aquarius so you know what your signing up for.

let the games begin.... take the words of advice from what beautifulvirgo states... and be prepared to be thrown for a loop.... BEWARE

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im totally feeling the games... hahah

Posted by aquasnoz
It's only been 5 days.

Just give it a while and see what happens or better yet why not make the contact? I don't see why people don't bother initiating as if it's expected of them and then going all crazy when they don't.

My exp with a sag girl like this was, and in all honesty, after some evaluation I just didn't think she's worth going after because if it's been green lit I often don't go cold like that but you know that took a bit longer for me to figure out.

Ask him to hang out, don't expect things to be set in stone. He's shown you a good time and you admitted to that now return the favour and take him out somewhere nice and have lots of fun. He might just make up his mind after that.

it's probably your Asc weighing things too long. You need to summon your Aries lilith or something.

Posted by YellowSubmarine
simplysaggitarius - how can you be so excited when he hasn't initiated another hang out? doesn't that bother you? I'm not trying to bring you down from your high or anything, I'm just curious how that doesn't phase you at all?

well... i think im excited because he is so strange and interesting to me. I'm almost fascinated by the way he is hesitating. He's there but not. It's unpredictable and I hate boring. It's also making me fixate ( must be my scorpio moon haha).

It does bother me a little bit because I don't see why not. I wonder, is there something wrong with me? Did I do something that pressured him ? Freak him out? It crosses my mind because the thing is he initiated this whole thing. Maybe the kiss made him feel pressure. But whats done is done and I couldnt have done anything apart from be myself.

But the reason I don't really care if he hangs out with me is because I am not going to stop my life based on one guy, no matter how great I thought he was recently, if he takes too long to pursue me. The chance that he stopped, even briefly, let me notice the men who DO want to spend time with me, talk to me, entertain me... and leaves me available to grow closer to someone else. I guess I am being an optimist. I'm also a big believer in everything happens for a reason. If he wants to miss out he will... lol. And move on Honestly I have quite a few guys trying to talk to me, hang out, etc. And I've been hanging out and open to getting to know most of them, who knows? I love being busy. But with them, I don't fixate as much, they are a little easier to figure out, ya know? They are so available I don't even have that time to THINK and FAWN over them..... develop a crush, develop meaning... make me want it.... and this aquarius IS giving me time to do that, unlike the others. I have the opportunity to fixate and obsess and I feel good doing that, it makes me feel as if its actually substantial feelings ( LOL, I blame my scorpio moon again).

He TOTALLY stands out because he is half-interested, i can't figure him out, hes odd.... and I never know if he will talk to me, and then I'm mad and talk smack. But then 10 sec later, as if it were clockwork, right as i say eff him LOL--- he contacts me, im surpised and I get excited.

He's admitted to me he creates suspense. Lol.

Posted by lisabethur8
it's probably your Asc weighing things too long. You need to summon your Aries lilith or something.

haha I try to contain my beast of a Lilith.

@OP: That's probably the best way to go about it. I will say you probably wouldn't ever get an aqua to regret or think they've missed out. Also depending on his placements he could be just that aloof and I'm not sure if other Aqua guys out there will agree with me but I tire of the chasing game and when we've already had a taste of it too soon the fascination might die out.

Best of luck anyhow too soon to say anything really.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
same here!! why is the hang out such a big deal??

Hanging out IS a big deal & I don't know why either. But I guess it has something to do with the need for space. Plus another thing is that, some of us don't see relationships as that number 1 thing that should be given one's undivided attention, we see it as an added little something extra to join our long lists of other things to do. So don't expect to get all his/her time all the time because they have they have other things to do that are just as important as spending time with you. And they expect/believe that you have other business to attend to as well..not sitting waiting around. IDK about other aquas, but everything in my life is of EQUAL importance. Meaning, me spending my time colouring a book is just as important as sitting with a significant other, it's me time. Every activity, person in my life, etc, is on the same level, none is greater that the other, it's just that sometimes I'm in the mood for one & not the other. I personally can't juggle, if I'm doing one thing all my focus is on that one thing, then on to the next when I'm done or have had enough of whatever kept me focused.

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thanks for your input!! i totally get it. and i understand. i find you aquarians so interesting and different than all other signs. thats why i posted up about him. cant figure u out right away. its so different from me (as a sadge), someone who wears their heart on their sleeve.

like i feel like when he talks to me, he's reciprocating with his effort and responsiveness. he seems like he likes to keep himself busy by doing things and not obsess over a girl. but what do i know? i dont expect him to want to hang out with me at every moment and I never did. he's said to me before we should def hang out and whenever he feels in the mood to see me i think he'll contact me. now this is just what im assuming. idk anything. just saying. to be honest, i would be forward a long time ago and say, hey! lets hang out! (im honestly not afraid to do that) but, based on his behavior, im afraid of rejection because I can't predict how he will react. im not used to having an intense make-out session with someone and then they become awkward/make things feel awkward. also i think he assumes i'm good n busy doin my own t

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
simplysaggitarius - how can you be so excited when he hasn't initiated another hang out? doesn't that bother you? I'm not trying to bring you down from your high or anything, I'm just curious how that doesn't phase you at all?

She's too excited for her own good. Can't see the forest for the trees, probably.

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also, to clarify, im expressive, i seem excited. because i am not BORED. (its a sag thing)

we DID spend together we were doing EXTREMELY COOL things.... it was never average or boring or predictable. we were in environments having extreme fun together, I don't want to be too specific but if you catch my drift we had the most awesome adventurous type dates i could imagine when he did give me time. The things he planned for us was TOTALLY on my level... no dinner & movie bullshit. haha.

Posted by lisabethur8
well they're asking the aquarius man, not woman. Depends on the man, if he's a socialite you know?

K, socialite is for women, since they're about outside doing stuff, and being social butterflies with everyone. That's how they get popular.

Men, of all signs, they want you out of their hair! Do your womanly stuff and come back to them when they need you.

LOL

sorry that sounds so caveman...but gosh, how to put it so plainly. If you want a complicated man you can figure it out that he's complicated. Probably so complicated you want nothing to do with him because he's out doing scientific stuff in some laboratory or out doing marine life stuff and then you are lonely at home cause he's not calling you too busy to even entertain you. If you want a homebody man, well, you better make sure he is the homebody type then.

this guy, though.... sounds like a player. he caught you in his web and you are just putty in his hands.

I don't find him complicated. I find him interesting. And trust me he has no control over me but the fact that I think about him and wonder, spend time trying to figure him out. It does NOT stop me in any way from being with other guys lol. In fact I saw someone else the next day after that first day. Hes not my boyfriend, I'm not glued to him. Just fascinated.

Posted by aquasnoz
It's only been 5 days.

Just give it a while and see what happens or better yet why not make the contact? I don't see why people don't bother initiating as if it's expected of them and then going all crazy when they don't.

My exp with a sag girl like this was, and in all honesty, after some evaluation I just didn't think she's worth going after because if it's been green lit I often don't go cold like that but you know that took a bit longer for me to figure out.

Ask him to hang out, don't expect things to be set in stone. He's shown you a good time and you admitted to that now return the favour and take him out somewhere nice and have lots of fun. He might just make up his mind after that.

We do talk a decent bit. And I have made the contact before. We were talking yesterdayyyy... He hasn't gone completely cold or anything he just hasnt initiated "lets hang out"... i mean its been a lil over a week since i last seen him i dont think thats a big deal.

im afraid of initiating us hanging out ... idk why it just intimidates me.... but maybe thats what he's waiting for? hes been nothing but nice to me about the times we did... i have noooo clue im lost lol. i feel like i should just wait until he feels like asking me i dont wanna seem to intense like that lol i feel like thats super forward that he'll just assume i want him to make me his gf or something. which i totally dont want, i wanna get to know him thats all lol.

Posted by lisabethur8
well they're asking the aquarius man, not woman. Depends on the man, if he's a socialite you know?

K, socialite is for women, since they're about outside doing stuff, and being social butterflies with everyone. That's how they get popular.

Men, of all signs, they want you out of their hair! Do your womanly stuff and come back to them when they need you.

LOL

sorry that sounds so caveman...but gosh, how to put it so plainly. If you want a complicated man you can figure it out that he's complicated. Probably so complicated you want nothing to do with him because he's out doing scientific stuff in some laboratory or out doing marine life stuff and then you are lonely at home cause he's not calling you too busy to even entertain you. If you want a homebody man, well, you better make sure he is the homebody type then.

this guy, though.... sounds like a player. he caught you in his web and you are just putty in his hands.

also honestly, why so down on men lol. why jump to that he's a player? to me players try to get with every women and are huge man whores lol. this is like... the opposite. this is like, hesitation. He hasnt tried to use me for sh*t. Lol.

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Posted by lisabethur8
it's probably your Asc weighing things too long. You need to summon your Aries lilith or something.

haha I try to contain my beast of a Lilith.

@OP: That's probably the best way to go about it. I will say you probably wouldn't ever get an aqua to regret or think they've missed out. Also depending on his placements he could be just that aloof and I'm not sure if other Aqua guys out there will agree with me but I tire of the chasing game and when we've already had a taste of it too soon the fascination might die out.

Best of luck anyhow too soon to say anything really.

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thanks!! hey i KNOW he is aloof & in his own world! he has no idea im thinking of him so much, i promise! but ya his aloof-ness is what i like about him. i hate feeling suffocated, or forced, i like to feel freee... and like im doing things of my own will. hes so casual i just... LIKE him... i dont feel like he pressures me, corners me, traps me, at all. and i prefer he focus's on other things than me because i hate when ppl pay too much attention to me-- i always want the freedom to do my own thing. so yea im liking the space. usually i meet someone and they try to wife me day 3. it goes from 0 to 100 and before you know it i have a psedoboyfriend. then i start to get bored with them. seeee this between me & him i feel like we have time to actually build something. even just talking here and there, its not like so SERIOUS right away. you know?

anyway im really thankful for your response 🙂 its helping me understand everything a lil more.
i really like my friends and ppl i meet who are aquarius because theyre just simply doing their own thing all the time, so that means i have room to do the same 🙂
I gladly dont try to be possessive or overwhelming bc i get overwhelmed by too much attention.


i'm not like in love with this guy i just get very passionate about things until i get it, understand it, learn everything i can from it-- and then i move on to my next project & or the next thign that fascinates me, and drop the thing im over pretty quick.

Posted by lisabethur8
well they're asking the aquarius man, not woman. Depends on the man, if he's a socialite you know?

K, socialite is for women, since they're about outside doing stuff, and being social butterflies with everyone. That's how they get popular.

Men, of all signs, they want you out of their hair! Do your womanly stuff and come back to them when they need you.

LOL

sorry that sounds so caveman...but gosh, how to put it so plainly. If you want a complicated man you can figure it out that he's complicated. Probably so complicated you want nothing to do with him because he's out doing scientific stuff in some laboratory or out doing marine life stuff and then you are lonely at home cause he's not calling you too busy to even entertain you. If you want a homebody man, well, you better make sure he is the homebody type then.

this guy, though.... sounds like a player. he caught you in his web and you are just putty in his hands.

Who is the 1st part directed to? You're NOT the prefect of the aqua board, so you need to stop this annoying habit of always 'correcting' people. Nobody is stupid or blind here, we all give an answer where we see fit , no 'guidelines' to follow & it's up to the OP to take whatever she gets from all the responses given to her if she really needs understanding. All these threads are unisex as far as I'm concerned & I'll give a reply to every single one of them if I feel like it.

^^ I could say the same for YOU. Right? If i can write what I say too, i have the same right.

plus, I didnt attack you lady, you are the one getting your panties in a twist.

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Posted by YellowSubmarine
simplysaggitarius - how can you be so excited when he hasn't initiated another hang out? doesn't that bother you? I'm not trying to bring you down from your high or anything, I'm just curious how that doesn't phase you at all?

She's too excited for her own good. Can't see the forest for the trees, probably.

also, to clarify, im expressive, i seem excited. because i am not BORED. (its a sag thing)

we DID spend together we were doing EXTREMELY COOL things.... it was never average or boring or predictable. we were in environments having extreme fun together, I don't want to be too specific but if you catch my drift we had the most awesome adventurous type dates i could imagine when he did give me time. The things he planned for us was TOTALLY on my level... no dinner & movie bullshit. haha.

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"It's a sag thing" ...what are you? A walking astrology sun sign?

well.....as for the rest, that's nice.

Posted by lisabethur8
^^ I could say the same for YOU. Right? If i can write what I say too, i have the same right.

plus, I didnt attack you lady, you are the one getting your panties in a twist.

You're the one making correcting people a habit, not I. You do it with almost everyone who posts at the aqua board as if you're some kind of an 'overlooker'. Besides, I asked you a question since your post came right after mine stating, the question was directed to aqua men, not the women. I was the only aqua that posted at the time & a woman, so..

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Posted by lisabethur8
^^ I could say the same for YOU. Right? If i can write what I say too, i have the same right.

plus, I didnt attack you lady, you are the one getting your panties in a twist.

You're the one making correcting people a habit, not I. You do it with almost everyone who posts at the aqua board as if you're some kind of an 'overlooker'. Besides, I asked you a question since your post came right after mine stating, the question was directed to aqua men, not the women. I was the only aqua that posted at the time & a woman, so..

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well dont you worry, it's not an attack. You got extremely sensitive to it though.

you and i rub eachother the WRONG way.

so next time, i'll make sure to manuveaur my opinions away from you.

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Posted by lisabethur8
^^ I could say the same for YOU. Right? If i can write what I say too, i have the same right.

plus, I didnt attack you lady, you are the one getting your panties in a twist.

You're the one making correcting people a habit, not I. You do it with almost everyone who posts at the aqua board as if you're some kind of an 'overlooker'. Besides, I asked you a question since your post came right after mine stating, the question was directed to aqua men, not the women. I was the only aqua that posted at the time & a woman, so..

well dont you worry, it's not an attack. You got extremely sensitive to it though.

you and i rub eachother the WRONG way.

so next time, i'll make sure to manuveaur my opinions away from you.

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Do that because I honestly can't stand you.

The feeling is MUTUAL.

You and I even choose different types of men and our philosphy does NOT even jive well.

Ah well. Just remember that when you read my stuff and I'll make sure to remember that when I read yours.

I don't know what men got to do with this, but whatever *moving on*