Aquarius man driving me crazy - what to do?

Hi, I'm Maggie, I'm in my 30s and I'm in something weird with an Aquarius guy in his 20s. We are at the same dojo and we train together three times a week. At first, I thought he hated me - there was always a strange feeling coming from him, but he hardly ever spoke to me or looked at me. When I tried to make conversation, he would go blank or answer with one or two words. One day he started giving me kinda 'Help me' looks, so I persevered. Over time, we started to have nice little exchanges, then all of a sudden, we developed a MASSIVE crush on one another, to the point at which we both just ran away. I could not even bear to be in the same room as him! But all I could think about was him. This went on for months and then we gradually started to cool down and started to text. We went out several times then I got annoyed with him because he cancelled and started to ignore him. He had tears in his eyes and started to ignore me. So once again we started to run away from each other. Time passed and we gradually started to communicate again.

The other day we were due to go out for the first time in eight months and I got cold feet because another girl at our dojo has a huge crush on him and they make eye contact a lot. I then decided to play it cool and said, "I see you've made a connection with Mary, that's great, I'm so happy for you!" He immediately said it is not like that and he would not want to be friends with anyone at the dojo because he does not believe in mixing his training with his personal life. So I said, "But you hang out with me," and he said, "Yes, I broke a rule for you. I still don't know why. We can be friends, but we will likely not be close friends." We text maybe twice a week, for hours, discussing EVERYTHING - philosophy, his family problems, the traumas he's been through, his fear of failure, etc. - we ARE already close. So what's up with this guy? If I ignore him, he gets angry and upset. If another guy flirts with me, same story. But it's like he's just too scared to trust me - he's said before that he doesn't know how to trust or relax and he is not sure whether or not he can heal.

This has been going on for two years now. He doesn't have anyone in his life and said that thus far he has had to go it alone, as a warrior, and he would still need to attend 'boyfriend material school' because he is clueless.

What's so weird about it? You've got a friend in him. Friends could also get "jealous" (annoyed) when someone competes with them for your attention.

What are YOU getting out from it, though? Your conversations seems to revolve around him...?

"Hi, I'm Maggie..."

DXP Group in a circle: Hi Maggie.

Yeah, we are friends, but being a Scorpio, I would like more. 😉

I have been involved with Aquarians before, I know to give them a lot of space and time and to let them be. But this one is so complex. By the way, we also chat about me a lot, but I am pretty 'together' - he always says, "You know who you are and what you want and very few people have that." He always calls me wise.

why don't you just tell him exactly what you want and what you need?

sometimes that's all a man needs to hear from a woman, especially when she is his love.

Well, thanks, guys, that helps me...guess I will be slightly more upfront with him, but will still give him lots of space! I know that he in particular needs a LOT of time to think, mull, digest..he is super-cautious. Mars and Venus in Capricorn, Moon in Taurus.