HoneyJ
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Aquarius Man!!! (SMH!!!!)
I'm guilty of spending a lot of time with someone new, I can't explain it but when it's new I just want to know more of it, maybe that is just our nature? My sis is a Cap as well and I always tell her she's way too hotheaded and demanding of her interests and I put it bluntly "Don't you think what you're doing is being obsessive and pushing them away? Give them some space".
To be honest I don't think he's doing this on purpose at all. Did anything happen before he went awol? You are right it is christmas time and things tend to happen around this time. Family stuff, new years resolution, reflection period of life so far so on and so forth. I really wouldn't think on it too much.
If it does however happen again just evaluate whether he's worth it because I can guarantee you and from the plethora of posts about our aloofness that this will happen again. It's not a trick or a test, it's just how we are. Can you be with someone like 'us' 🙂
To be honest I don't think he's doing this on purpose at all. Did anything happen before he went awol? You are right it is christmas time and things tend to happen around this time. Family stuff, new years resolution, reflection period of life so far so on and so forth. I really wouldn't think on it too much.
If it does however happen again just evaluate whether he's worth it because I can guarantee you and from the plethora of posts about our aloofness that this will happen again. It's not a trick or a test, it's just how we are. Can you be with someone like 'us' 🙂
When you guys did not talk for 6 days did you attempt to contact him with no response or did he just never contact you?
Hey there HoneyJ, I got the same placements as your guy.
As far as I can evaluate your situation it seems that you did something that upset him enough to distant himself from you. Think back a little, with our placements there's always a third party involved, maybe a guy friend who was in your past and he dislikes your contact with him or maybe you missed out on a promise that you made. It can be the silly(est) *pardon my grammar* of things that you can't even imagine. In "catch-back" conversations DON'T EVER MENTION ANOTHER GUY, even if its a tele-star. Rest of the times its alright but when its a get together catch up call, just be focused on him, how much you miss being with him, remind him of the days that you both enjoyed. Being a scorp Moon, *bed time events* are a nice way to flair things up.
Ask him as calmy as you can that if he has something in his mind, or is he stressed out because of a particular situation ?
With a venus in capricorn you can always expect a straight forward answer for relation queries.
If he's evasive just let him know in your own way that you are there for him in any situation and give it some time.
On another note, get prepared for a shower of gifts. This behavior of acting distant is what I ocassionally take up once in a while when I give out of the world presents to my sweetheart, because it makes the situation totally unexpected and aqua's love shocking people.
Hope for the best. Hang in there tight, because once you have an aqua/scorp moon/venus cap, you are there for a lifetime.
Cheers.
As far as I can evaluate your situation it seems that you did something that upset him enough to distant himself from you. Think back a little, with our placements there's always a third party involved, maybe a guy friend who was in your past and he dislikes your contact with him or maybe you missed out on a promise that you made. It can be the silly(est) *pardon my grammar* of things that you can't even imagine. In "catch-back" conversations DON'T EVER MENTION ANOTHER GUY, even if its a tele-star. Rest of the times its alright but when its a get together catch up call, just be focused on him, how much you miss being with him, remind him of the days that you both enjoyed. Being a scorp Moon, *bed time events* are a nice way to flair things up.
Ask him as calmy as you can that if he has something in his mind, or is he stressed out because of a particular situation ?
With a venus in capricorn you can always expect a straight forward answer for relation queries.
If he's evasive just let him know in your own way that you are there for him in any situation and give it some time.
On another note, get prepared for a shower of gifts. This behavior of acting distant is what I ocassionally take up once in a while when I give out of the world presents to my sweetheart, because it makes the situation totally unexpected and aqua's love shocking people.
Hope for the best. Hang in there tight, because once you have an aqua/scorp moon/venus cap, you are there for a lifetime.
Cheers.
Posted by hizob
When you guys did not talk for 6 days did you attempt to contact him with no response or did he just never contact you?
Hey Hizob! thank u for ur response. Yes. I tried to contact him like twice. One day after Christmas through txt. I told him, " Hey! I really do miss you". After I txt that he called me 45 min later. Lol!
That is what i forgot to mention in my earlier post. During the convo we talked a little about what we've been up to but it didn't last long.He had to go. He called me back like an hour later but i was busy.
Live your life and let it flow.
Posted by AquaScorp92
Hey there HoneyJ, I got the same placements as your guy.
As far as I can evaluate your situation it seems that you did something that upset him enough to distant himself from you. Think back a little, with our placements there's always a third party involved, maybe a guy friend who was in your past and he dislikes your contact with him or maybe you missed out on a promise that you made. It can be the silly(est) *pardon my grammar* of things that you can't even imagine. In "catch-back" conversations DON'T EVER MENTION ANOTHER GUY, even if its a tele-star. Rest of the times its alright but when its a get together catch up call, just be focused on him, how much you miss being with him, remind him of the days that you both enjoyed. Being a scorp Moon, *bed time events* are a nice way to flair things up.
Ask him as calmy as you can that if he has something in his mind, or is he stressed out because of a particular situation ?
With a venus in capricorn you can always expect a straight forward answer for relation queries.
If he's evasive just let him know in your own way that you are there for him in any situation and give it some time.
On another note, get prepared for a shower of gifts. This behavior of acting distant is what I ocassionally take up once in a while when I give out of the world presents to my sweetheart, because it makes the situation totally unexpected and aqua's love shocking people.
Hope for the best. Hang in there tight, because once you have an aqua/scorp moon/venus cap, you are there for a lifetime.
Cheers.
Hey AquaScorp92! I am soooooo glad u posted on my post because I wanted to know who had the same placements as him.
Come to think of it, I could of made him mad or made him distant from me. I remember when I was on the phone with him way last week and I was talking to him about some business endeavors, since he is in the same field as what I am trying to reach. I told him in the beginning of the phone call that I was going out to meet a friend. That was on Saturday night!!!! that weekend before Christmas!! He was like, okaaayy. Well, u deserve some fun right? I said yea. So the convo shifted into me talking to him about business. And he jumped in giving me his knowledge about what he knows. So then, I sit in my car for a while to talk more about it because at this point I am in front of the resturaunt. I get out the
I get out of the car and I walk slowly to the restuaraunt because the convo is so good. I finally go into the resturaunt and I see my friend Tiffany. I also see my mother and her friend sitting two tables down from us. I go over to say hi. I was a little loud in his ear, maybe. I go back to my table. I said hello, to him. It took him like 1 min. To come back to the phone. We start the convo back up. Then, I tell him I have to go. I am here with my friend. I am thinking that maybe I should have told him that I am here with my friend, Tiffany. so he could have known that it was a female.
In his voice it really did not sound too cool, but he said, "ok. Well, do your thing". I said ok. I will call you later. He said ok.
I called him, immediately Once I got back into the car. I tried calling 3 times in 10 minutes. No answer. So i left it alone. And that's when the no calling started.
Do you think that he felt "salty" because I was like choosing someone else over spending time on the phone with him? Do you think he really had an issue with me going out anyway? And he just isn't saying anything. If he does have possessiveness in him, WHY WON'T HE SHOW IT? Why won't he tell me how he feels about things that I do that may not sit well with him?
I would prefer for him to talk about how he feels rather than hold these little grudges and become MIA.
In his voice it really did not sound too cool, but he said, "ok. Well, do your thing". I said ok. I will call you later. He said ok.
I called him, immediately Once I got back into the car. I tried calling 3 times in 10 minutes. No answer. So i left it alone. And that's when the no calling started.
Do you think that he felt "salty" because I was like choosing someone else over spending time on the phone with him? Do you think he really had an issue with me going out anyway? And he just isn't saying anything. If he does have possessiveness in him, WHY WON'T HE SHOW IT? Why won't he tell me how he feels about things that I do that may not sit well with him?
I would prefer for him to talk about how he feels rather than hold these little grudges and become MIA.
I hink he might be a little upset. I am qn aqua with cap venus. I am very possesuve but I do not let it show because I do not want people to be turned off. Sounds like that may be the case. My best advice is to show him that heis important to you by contacting him and telling him that he is important to you.
If he ever stops talking to you again, dont take it personal. Chances are ita not. There are many reasons why he wont communicate. For me my biggest reason is that i hate communicating through phone. I hate texts and phone calls and only like talking in person. I dont know if this is the case with him though. Sounds like he was either busy or a little upset. Next time the best thing you can do is still attempt to contact him.even if he doesn't answer shoot him a text every couple of days telling him that you miss him and are thinking about him. He'll get over himself eventually and come around.
If he ever stops talking to you again, dont take it personal. Chances are ita not. There are many reasons why he wont communicate. For me my biggest reason is that i hate communicating through phone. I hate texts and phone calls and only like talking in person. I dont know if this is the case with him though. Sounds like he was either busy or a little upset. Next time the best thing you can do is still attempt to contact him.even if he doesn't answer shoot him a text every couple of days telling him that you miss him and are thinking about him. He'll get over himself eventually and come around.
In our recent convo, he would Ask things like, so what are your plans for this weekend? (Remember he called me on thatFriday) I said," I am not doing anything. I'll be in the house." his response was, "Goood!" he said "are u sure, what are ur plans for Saturday?" I said, nothing. I will probable be doing research this weekend. That's about it. His response was, "That's very good! Research is a good thing." i could tell he was smiling too. Lolol! the way he said these comments makes me think that he does not want me going out too much. And which I don't. But I feel like he may feel like he does not want me giving a man (even if it is a male friend) any attention. Maybe he is nervous about that. But he does not say anything. And once again, maybe I should make it clear on who I am going out with. When I go out, it's always out to eat with my female friends. Because of the type of career I have in even planning/business management, I may have to meet with some males. He knows about it. I talk about it. He does not go out. Hes not a party type of guy. He will chill with his guys, like going out, every now and then. Because honestly, he is a work a holic. And his friends are actually his business partners, so they are really always together.
In my previous post above this one, I noticed how he had such a relief or joy in his voice when he said, "You know you my girl". And he said this when I asked him am I on his mind. Like he was looking for me to say this out my mouth. I love him already. He does not know this. I don't plan on telling him this either.
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In my previous post above this one, I noticed how he had such a relief or joy in his voice when he said, "You know you my girl". And he said this when I asked him am I on his mind. Like he was looking for me to say this out my mouth. I love him already. He does not know this. I don't plan on telling him this either.
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Posted by hizob
I hink he might be a little upset. I am qn aqua with cap venus. I am very possesuve but I do not let it show because I do not want people to be turned off. Sounds like that may be the case. My best advice is to show him that heis important to you by contacting him and telling him that he is important to you.
If he ever stops talking to you again, dont take it personal. Chances are ita not. There are many reasons why he wont communicate. For me my biggest reason is that i hate communicating through phone. I hate texts and phone calls and only like talking in person. I dont know if this is the case with him though. Sounds like he was either busy or a little upset. Next time the best thing you can do is still attempt to contact him.even if he doesn't answer shoot him a text every couple of days telling him that you miss him and are thinking about him. He'll get over himself eventually and come around.
Hizob,
Ok. Thanks. I did not want to show him that he is important to me so much because I looked at that as being clingy. And I thought that would draw him away. My definition of showing him that he is important is calling him like 3 or 4 times a day. And texting nice, sexy things to him. I stopped that because he slowed down with his calling and texting. It's like, I am following his lead.
And u r so right, because when I text him the day after Christmas that, "I really do miss you". He called me immediately. I told him that I really miss you and he said, "Really? Well, I really miss u too!" with such sincerity and love in his voice.
He is a sweet guy. Very caring, but at times he can act so nonchalant. . . I remember when him and I were talking about his business. He is a business manager for a couple of gospel artist. And I asked him do he write something down to remember it. His response was, "No, my mind is like a computer. I put away what I've just done in the back of my mind for later and when I need it, I know how to move it up to the front." I guess that is what he does with me and what we have together. He moves me to the back of his mind when he is doing other things, like work! And that's what gives off that nonchalant, acting aloof vibe.
I think it depends on how you tel him. If you say something like i would be nothing without you that sounds clingy. Something like im really glad i met you gets the point across.
@op : See, there's your reason, with a capricorn venus you can bet that they are a bit insecure,add to the the scorp moon of investigation and you get a person who is capable of jealousy and possessiveness but down comes the aqua sun to the rescue. There are probably a million things racing through his mind, and more importantly we see another guy (not always but sometimes) as a threat and its like, Why you talking to my girl ?
In business and careers that totally understandable, but on weekends it puts us on high alert, and then you stopped sending the you are sexy texts, that put him on high alert.
Come clean with your innocence and let it be known to him that it was a girl and you were down for business.
I can assure you that he would be like - "That's no problem hon, you got your own job to do and I've no problem with that" to which you just say - "I know you would never doubt me but I thought being your partner I should just let you know, I don't want you to feel left out". It would be so relaxing to him, and believe me you will see the changes. 😉
That's the way a capricorn venus works, we are as secure as you make us.
In business and careers that totally understandable, but on weekends it puts us on high alert, and then you stopped sending the you are sexy texts, that put him on high alert.
Come clean with your innocence and let it be known to him that it was a girl and you were down for business.
I can assure you that he would be like - "That's no problem hon, you got your own job to do and I've no problem with that" to which you just say - "I know you would never doubt me but I thought being your partner I should just let you know, I don't want you to feel left out". It would be so relaxing to him, and believe me you will see the changes. 😉
That's the way a capricorn venus works, we are as secure as you make us.
Woooow!!!! Thanks AquaScorp94! I will do just that. I guess that the things that I read about Aquas and trying to keep them I their toes by not letting them know EVERYTHING is what works.
I guess I was wrong. Thanks again!
I guess I was wrong. Thanks again!
No problemo HoneyJ, glad I could be of help. 🙂
New Year wishes to you and your aqua guy, Hope your issues get sorted out.
New Year wishes to you and your aqua guy, Hope your issues get sorted out.
Posted by AquaScorp92
No problemo HoneyJ, glad I could be of help. 🙂
New Year wishes to you and your aqua guy, Hope your issues get sorted out.
Thanks AquaScorp92 and same to u!
The Aqua I'm with has cap in venus, too. I have noticed that when I go out on a limb and allow myself to be a little vulnerable (with cap instant regret lol!) that things get better. It's like he relaxes more and I can just tell he's more into the relationship. I notice a shift toward the better.
To ease his insecurity: If you're home alone on Saturday night and he's out of town, let him know you were home alone. It doesn't have to be obvious. Like when you're talking on Sunday, say so and so guest starred on Saturday Night Live last night and she was so funny on there. Seemingly innocent, but lets him know you were home watching TV on saturday night. Has to be real, though. He'll instinctly know if you're lying. Aquas can read people pretty well and especially with that Scorp placement, he'll see through anything that isn't true.
To ease his insecurity: If you're home alone on Saturday night and he's out of town, let him know you were home alone. It doesn't have to be obvious. Like when you're talking on Sunday, say so and so guest starred on Saturday Night Live last night and she was so funny on there. Seemingly innocent, but lets him know you were home watching TV on saturday night. Has to be real, though. He'll instinctly know if you're lying. Aquas can read people pretty well and especially with that Scorp placement, he'll see through anything that isn't true.
Posted by truecap
The Aqua I'm with has cap in venus, too. I have noticed that when I go out on a limb and allow myself to be a little vulnerable (with cap instant regret lol!) that things get better. It's like he relaxes more and I can just tell he's more into the relationship. I notice a shift toward the better.
To ease his insecurity: If you're home alone on Saturday night and he's out of town, let him know you were home alone. It doesn't have to be obvious. Like when you're talking on Sunday, say so and so guest starred on Saturday Night Live last night and she was so funny on there. Seemingly innocent, but lets him know you were home watching TV on saturday night. Has to be real, though. He'll instinctly know if you're lying. Aquas can read people pretty well and especially with that Scorp placement, he'll see through anything that isn't true.
Thanks TruCap!! I've missed ur wonderful advice!! What I realize is that I am not too vulnerable with him. I will tell him that I miss him from time to time but that's it.
I will try being vulnerable more often. And thanks for the example.
Being vulnerable is a fine line! It's hard to find the right balance. I'm sure you can do it!
Posted by truecap
Being vulnerable is a fine line! It's hard to find the right balance. I'm sure you can do it!
Yes ur right Trucap. Thanks!
Why do people worry about how quickly their texts are responded to?
I have several reasons for not answering back right away.
1) I may be playing hard to get.
2) I may be busy.
3) I may need space.
4) I may be considering what to say, in order to keep my foot out of my mouth! haha
So it's not always a bad thing when people are slow to respond.
I have several reasons for not answering back right away.
1) I may be playing hard to get.
2) I may be busy.
3) I may need space.
4) I may be considering what to say, in order to keep my foot out of my mouth! haha
So it's not always a bad thing when people are slow to respond.
Oh but I'm not a man and I just read the title to this post.
Posted by hollyEmber
Why do people worry about how quickly their texts are responded to?
I have several reasons for not answering back right away.
1) I may be playing hard to get.
2) I may be busy.
3) I may need space.
4) I may be considering what to say, in order to keep my foot out of my mouth! haha
So it's not always a bad thing when people are slow to respond.
So r u an Aquarius??
And if u r, why not txt that u r busy? Or that u need some space?
And if u are considering what to say, then why not just txt a smoky face, sad face, sum thin' ? Lol!
To all Aquarius, please read and respond to my WHY questions pleeeeaaassse! Like what is going through ur heads at this time??
Thanks!
Thanks!
Posted by HoneyJPosted by hollyEmber
Why do people worry about how quickly their texts are responded to?
I have several reasons for not answering back right away.
1) I may be playing hard to get.
2) I may be busy.
3) I may need space.
4) I may be considering what to say, in order to keep my foot out of my mouth! haha
So it's not always a bad thing when people are slow to respond.
So r u an Aquarius??
And if u r, why not txt that u r busy? Or that u need some space?
And if u are considering what to say, then why not just txt a smoky face, sad face, sum thin' ? Lol!click to expand
I am yes.. I don't mean this in any rude way at all but if your response is any indication to the way you handle the situation with him... you may run him off.
I fully understand the frustration we go through as women, when dealing with men. But over analyzing every little thing wont get us anywhere.
Posted by hollyEmberPosted by HoneyJPosted by hollyEmber
Why do people worry about how quickly their texts are responded to?
I have several reasons for not answering back right away.
1) I may be playing hard to get.
2) I may be busy.
3) I may need space.
4) I may be considering what to say, in order to keep my foot out of my mouth! haha
So it's not always a bad thing when people are slow to respond.
So r u an Aquarius??
And if u r, why not txt that u r busy? Or that u need some space?
And if u are considering what to say, then why not just txt a smoky face, sad face, sum thin' ? Lol!
I am yes.. I don't mean this in any rude way at all but if your response is any indication to the way you handle the situation with him... you may run him off.
I fully understand the frustration we go through as women, when dealing with men. But over analyzing every little thing wont get us anywhere.click to expand
I understand. I take caution on what and how I say things to him, but I just want to know.
And with my Aqua case, it's just busyness. But still WHY NOT TEXT THAT UR BUSY? Lol!
Because he's too busy to text? Isn't that the definition of being busy?
Maybe he doesn't like to text / be on the phone much. I know I leave my phone off for days, and I don't really care about being contacted. I can tell you one thing, if a person starts to flip out over not being contacted enough or complain that I'm not responding fast enough, I will drop them really fast. To me, that is a sure sign of neediness and a really big turn off.
The most long lasting, best relationships that I have are with people who will wait days for a reply and not have an issue with it. I just like it to be more care free.
Anyway our answers aren't going to amount to much. We're not him, and I don't know the guy so I can't tell you why he doesn't text you back.
Maybe he doesn't like to text / be on the phone much. I know I leave my phone off for days, and I don't really care about being contacted. I can tell you one thing, if a person starts to flip out over not being contacted enough or complain that I'm not responding fast enough, I will drop them really fast. To me, that is a sure sign of neediness and a really big turn off.
The most long lasting, best relationships that I have are with people who will wait days for a reply and not have an issue with it. I just like it to be more care free.
Anyway our answers aren't going to amount to much. We're not him, and I don't know the guy so I can't tell you why he doesn't text you back.
Lolol!! Too funny HollyEmber!
And thanks for ur advice!
And thanks for ur advice!
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